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Has anyone else ever been concerned that they might be addicted this hobby?

I've always been fairly regular but this month i've seen someone most days.

Im not really limited by opportunity or money at the minute, but somewhere in the back of my mind I know this frequency cant be healthy!

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Yes. This hobby can be addictive. I had a great punt yesterday with my regular and I'm feeling a bit low today after the high of yesterday,so maybe need another punt with someone else to help the situation Or maybe it could be that I'm getting feelings that are not appropriate when seeing a working girl

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I wouldn't say I was addicted, but admit I am punting more than I thought I would. I intended it to be once every couple of months but it has turned out over twice that.

Probably just trying to cram as many in as possible as my intention is to quit punting by the end of the year / early next year at the latest.

If I don't achieve quitting by then I'll know for sure I'm addicted!

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Yes I am addicted and thats the problem, it affects normal relationships but oh well could think of worse addictions

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Define addicted.

 

We all have things we like doing a lot.  Though if it affects work or other responsibilities, then this is bad obviously.

 

I punt dependent on funds, and I usually have enough for once per month, maybe twice at a stretch (if two 200 pound sessions).  I have no children and live alone, so it's not an issue in that regard.

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I'm addicted. I wish I wasn't - and for many years I suffered from punters remorse. It can fuck up your life if you cannot mentally deal with it or you do not have the funds to support it. It wrecked my first marriage. I'm married again but I still carry on - more than I did before. I don't fell any guilt anymore because I have accepted this is how I am - so I always run the risk of fucking up my marriage. I love doing it, I love the excitement, the buzz, the knowledge that over the years I have fucked some stunning girls. But at the end of the day I've spunked £25,000 up the wall for this hobby. Was it worth it ? Well - I have great wank material I guess.

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I feel like it i have been paying up to six hundered a month on punting but had to cut down on it but i do think about it every day and think about fucking all the fucking time

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My guess is that the main, if not the only, reason that punters get concerned about punting being an addiction is simply because of the cost of this hobby. 

 

If a punt was £15 per hour, rather than £150, we would be no more concerned about it than if we were discussing having a cup of tea.  After all, I don't see that it damages your health does it?  Rather than the reverse, I feel.

 

I tend to think that other than for a very limited few, most of us balance our desire for the pleasure and experience of punting against what our money and time could bring in other ways.  Of course we could all have more money to spend on improving our house, holidays, etc if we didn't indulge ourselves, but is the money we spend on this hobby disproportionate to the benefit we experience?  Ultimately, I value my experiences with girls far too much to want to give up this hobby and I cannot bring myself to regret the significant sums I have spent.

 

If your own answer is yes, I could have spent the money better elsewhere, then you have a problem.  If no, enjoy!

 

However, Clarion, if you have been enjoying quite so many punts recently, I do hope that you may share some of your experiences by spending more time in the RFI section, or writing the occasional review.  Nothing is quite so appreciated as up to date field experience. :)

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My guess is that the main, if not the only, reason that punters get concerned about punting being an addiction is simply because of the cost of this hobby. 

 

If a punt was £15 per hour, rather than £150, we would be no more concerned about it than if we were discussing having a cup of tea.  After all, I don't see that it damages your health does it?  Rather than the reverse, I feel.

 

I tend to think that other than for a very limited few, most of us balance our desire for the pleasure and experience of punting against what our money and time could bring in other ways.  Of course we could all have more money to spend on improving our house, holidays, etc if we didn't indulge ourselves, but is the money we spend on this hobby disproportionate to the benefit we experience?  Ultimately, I value my experiences with girls far too much to want to give up this hobby and I cannot bring myself to regret the significant sums I have spent.

 

If your own answer is yes, I could have spent the money better elsewhere, then you have a problem.  If no, enjoy!

 

However, Clarion, if you have been enjoying quite so many punts recently, I do hope that you may share some of your experiences by spending more time in the RFI section, or writing the occasional review.  Nothing is quite so appreciated as up to date field experience. :)

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Good post

Why not give him a rep point, rather than quoting the whole post just to say that ?

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I go through phases of increased punting followed by fallow periods. I am in one of the latter at the moment, through choice and content with it. As long as you are not spending money you can't afford, then why worry?

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Has anyone else ever been concerned that they might be addicted this hobby?

I've always been fairly regular but this month i've seen someone most days.

Im not really limited by opportunity or money at the minute, but somewhere in the back of my mind I know this frequency cant be healthy!

I am happily addicted to punting but did need and took a 6 month break in late 2010 as i was becoming jaded where a naked WG wasnt of that much interest anymore. That was my sign i needed a break. If you can afford it and it doesnt impact the rest of your life it doesnt have to be unhealthy, but only you can decide this though obviously.

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Define addicted.

 

We all have things we like doing a lot.  Though if it affects work or other responsibilities, then this is bad obviously.

 

I punt dependent on funds, and I usually have enough for once per month, maybe twice at a stretch (if two 200 pound sessions).  I have no children and live alone, so it's not an issue in that regard.

 

 

Defining 'addicted' (in a non-clinical sense anyway) is tricky as many will define it in a way that suits themselves. I dont think it necessarily can be judged purely in how it affects people financially that would imply that, say, a millionaire could not become addicted. 

 

I would say that any/all of the following should ring alarm bells;

 

1) if someone is running into problems paying bills on time at least in part because of cash spent on punting,

 

2) if someone is tempted to punt every time they have genuine spare time,

 

3) if you are regularly on the net checking out escorts even when not in a position to punt at that time,

 

4) if punts are arranged quickly/suddenly and often in a way that messes up other plans i.e. being late meeting/picking someone up, just because the chance is presented

 

5) if you still continue to punt even when not enjoying it a huge lot 

 

6) despite long punting constantly try different girls looking for the 'perfect' punt,

 

7) if you sometimes find yourself hassled 'chasing' a punt - maybe at a hard-to-find apartment at a late hour - with part of you wondering why you just did not go/stay at home but you go anyway,

 

8) if you find yourself returning to the scene of previous bad punts 

 

9) if you find yourself tempted to indulge in behavior/practices that you would rationally not endorse normally i.e. bareback, just to get an extra kick.

 

I think that it is, like most behaviours, potentially addictive - highly so in my view. And would have little doubt that some of my own patterns in punting are redolent of addictive behaviour.  

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Mucker, I can honestly say that 2), 3) and 6) definitely click with me. Although I shall re-read Thurson's post and make myself feel better about it ;)

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Yes I am now addicted and spending too much money and it's getting to be a financial problem.  I'm using it as an escape, once every week or two.  If it's not a good time with the it doesn't help at all and I'll pick a different girl later in the week.

 

I refuse to use drugs or booze to numb my feelings (tried it once for a couple of weeks), but I'm in roughly the same place emotionally as those who do and it's shit not having something to turn to most days.  Some people who are in about this place emotionally are there for more intensely traumatic reasons which is probably the difference why I can hold it together for short periods and they panic and use.  I know 90% of the population can't understand and haven't read this thread yet but predict about 1/3 of the posts are uncompassionate dismissive comments without empathy for any kind of addiction.  That's how it is and those people won't ever understand.

 

I've started seeing a therapist but it's clear there's no easy fix that way, and I'm either going to have work very hard on it and related issues (much like addicts have to, to quit), or face ruin and suicide to be honest.

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Mucker, I can honestly say that 2), 3) and 6) definitely click with me. Although I shall re-read Thurson's post and make myself feel better about it ;)

 

I have 1-7 going on for me, as for the reaosons going on, they're hard to even describe in plain English, let alone change...

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Why not give him a rep point, rather than quoting the whole post just to say that ?

Get back in your pram youth

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I haven't punted since April. I tried to last night but that went all pear shaped. Will probably try to arrange something else in the next couple of weeks.

 

I can go through stages, long times between punts and then a couple in a relatively short period of time. If I had more money, I probably would do it more but it would still hardly be essential.

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Yes I am now addicted and spending too much money and it's getting to be a financial problem. I'm using it as an escape, once every week or two. If it's not a good time with the it doesn't help at all and I'll pick a different girl later in the week.

I refuse to use drugs or booze to numb my feelings (tried it once for a couple of weeks), but I'm in roughly the same place emotionally as those who do and it's shit not having something to turn to most days. Some people who are in about this place emotionally are there for more intensely traumatic reasons which is probably the difference why I can hold it together for short periods and they panic and use. I know 90% of the population can't understand and haven't read this thread yet but predict about 1/3 of the posts are uncompassionate dismissive comments without empathy for any kind of addiction. That's how it is and those people won't ever understand.

I've started seeing a therapist but it's clear there's no easy fix that way, and I'm either going to have work very hard on it and related issues (much like addicts have to, to quit), or face ruin and suicide to be honest.

Glad to hear you are seeking help for this. Just a thought, but if you are trying to tackle the addiction, is hanging around on this forum really likely to help ?

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I wouldn't say I'm addicted to punting as I've only had a couple of punts in the last three years, but I am a bit obsessed by the scene. When I'm on the laptop I always seem to wonder on to AW and Escort-Scotland to see which girls are coming into my area.  I don' have much in the way of disposable income to spent, so that probably keeps my punting down to fantasising instead of actually visiting WGs.    

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There is no such thing as being addicted to punting per se. We are addicted to sex, but then most healthy men are. Where punting causes had wringing is as an earlier poster stated, it is finances. Punting becomes a problem if it impacts your normal life, so the day you start arranging your time around punting, it is a problem. Im at that stage now, suddenely due to increased income i find myself constantly thinking about punting. Ive no interest in 'pulling' as punting is so much qucker and more fulfilling as i get what i want without the small talk. What makes it more difficult is that now punting/escorting is alot more 'normal' and socially acceptable, many women from mddle class backgrounds know friends who escort or escort themselves and i find my self actively seeking escorts who have successful careers. But, the root problem is an addiction to sex, not an addiction to punting.Everyone is different, but the root of my addiction is the fact im approaching 40 and it scares me and im trying to re-live university. Lots of sex makes me feel young, but it is an illusion of course. In many ways having too much money is a curse, it is easy to succumb to addictive tendencies, be it gambling, sex, drugs etc. 

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There is no such thing as being addicted to punting per se. We are addicted to sex, but then most healthy men are. Where punting causes had wringing is as an earlier poster stated, it is finances. Punting becomes a problem if it impacts your normal life, so the day you start arranging your time around punting, it is a problem. Im at that stage now, suddenely due to increased income i find myself constantly thinking about punting. Ive no interest in 'pulling' as punting is so much qucker and more fulfilling as i get what i want without the small talk. What makes it more difficult is that now punting/escorting is alot more 'normal' and socially acceptable, many women from mddle class backgrounds know friends who escort or escort themselves and i find my self actively seeking escorts who have successful careers. But, the root problem is an addiction to sex, not an addiction to punting.Everyone is different, but the root of my addiction is the fact im approaching 40 and it scares me and im trying to re-live university. Lots of sex makes me feel young, but it is an illusion of course. In many ways having too much money is a curse, it is easy to succumb to addictive tendencies, be it gambling, sex, drugs etc. 

 

I'm not sure if the distinction between 'addiction to sex' and 'addiction to punting' is worth making to be honest. It's like an alcoholic arguing that he's not addicted to drink but instead addicted to going to the pub.

 

But you are contradicting yourself when you say 'where punting causes had wringing is as an earlier poster stated, it is finances' while a couple of sentences later acknowledging that 'punting becomes a problem if it impacts your normal life, so the day you start arranging your time around punting, it is a problem'.

 

You are correct in the second comment but not the first. As I wrote in an earlier post, if compulsive behaviour is judged purely in terms of one's ability to ship the financial hit it can be misleading. Ability to absorb the financial hit from regular punting is a function of income, pure and simple. You could have a millionaire who punts to outrageous levels but can take the financial impact easily. 

 

There is no doubt that the impact on someone's financial situation is a good sign  ofcompulsive behaviour as punting, like most activities is about choice, and if there are negatively financial consequences to doing it then it is higher up the priority list than any leisure-time activity should be. But it is far from being the only sign. It is indeed when normal arrangements/thought processes start to revolve around the activity that there should be concerns.

 

Just to refer back to the first point - incidentally I would think that there is a subtle distinction between being addicted to punting and regular sex. I had one relationship in the past where the sex was great and often but I still punted (albeit less frequently because I was often spent!) because I think I like that adrenaline rush involved, and find the whole atmosphere around the business a turn-on. But like I said it's probably a distinction not worth making in practice.

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What makes it more difficult is that now punting/escorting is alot more 'normal' and socially acceptable, many women from mddle class backgrounds know friends who escort or escort themselves and i find my self actively seeking escorts who have successful careers.

 

I'm just curious on this one. How do you know which escorts have successful careers or not? I've been with hundreds and never knew or asked what other line of business, if any, they were in or whether they were successful or not. And I have very rarely seen any mention of alternative careers in any escort advertising. Just wondering how you work it out.

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Mucker makes some interesting points. I for one had always concluded that I was addicted to sex and reading a well thought out argument has made me reassess my conclusion!

 

Whilst I do not need to justify myself to anyone on here, I will reconsider my position (and acknowledge a different opinion as soon as I see fit, such is my stubbornness!).

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I'm just curious on this one. How do you know which escorts have successful careers or not? I've been with hundreds and never knew or asked what other line of business, if any, they were in or whether they were successful or not. And I have very rarely seen any mention of alternative careers in any escort advertising. Just wondering how you work it out.

I always like to have a break the ice conversation before a booking, not too long, just a couple of minutes to get to know each other and any interesting comments i elaborate on when we meet. Ive found girls who have other careers are quite proud to admit to it, i never pry too much, so dont ask where they work etc, im just interested in what they do. A surprising number have been accountants and lawyers. Most of PA's. They could be BSing me, but there isnt any point, it doesnt affect whether i see them again. I just like to have an appointment that has a bit more in it than just sex.

 

Quite alot of escorts on purple site make mention they have a succesful career. Not a majority but there are alot.

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