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Asking For What You Want During A Booking

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I just started a thread on spanking.

Im 200 punts in but ive always had some frustration that ive never been able to openly ask for what I want in a punt.

For instance, I have a mild foot fetish but never spend any time on that. Next time I want a good spanking but ill probably bottle out of asking. Not sure if its embarrasment or what.

How are you guys with regards to this? Do you open up with your fantasies or still hold back?

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I just started a thread on spanking.

Im 200 punts in but ive always had some frustration that ive never been able to openly ask for what I want in a punt.

For instance, I have a mild foot fetish but never spend any time on that. Next time I want a good spanking but ill probably bottle out of asking. Not sure if its embarrasment or what.

How are you guys with regards to this? Do you open up with your fantasies or still hold back?

Just be open - it's extremely unlikely that you will be the first to ask for it'

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Just make sure that these are services the lady offers first.Perhaps when you are wanting to book her say in the email that you see she caters for foot fetish and this is something you would like.That way both are prepared and you don't have to announce it during the booking.

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I've surprised myself at how open I've been since I started punting. It took me nearly 6 months to pluck up the courage from when I decided I was going to visit wg's to when I actually took the plunge but once I started I just went for it, although my preferences are fairly vanilla anyway.

I did mention to a girl I'd seen twice before that I'd love to do a photo shoot - as in taking photos of a girl, not pics of us having sex - heaven forbid, lol. Now that is something I wouldn't ask as it may seem weird, unless I knew the girl really well. I've seen the girl I mentioned it to a couple of times since and have just arranged to see her again next week. After I'd set the booking up she sent me a message suggesting I bring my camera along...I'm intrigued and a little excited... :)

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I find I rarely ask for something during a punt, preferring the lady to take the lead in the main. I know, I'm a lazy git ! I find it exciting to discover just how inventive the lady is . . . .

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I'm naturally shy, I prefer to ask what's available/not available, what I would like etc via email beforehand.

 

when the girl  remembers that's perfect but when  I turn up & the girl asks what I would like when I have already emailed her about this before I do tend to clam up & esp in the early days would leave disappointed with myself for not asking about particular services, less so these days though.

 

Like most things you tend to relax & enjoy yourself with experience.

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Do your research about the WG first, as Bibi says, and then ask for what you want, making sure she is agreeable..  These lovely women have heard it all before and are virtually unshockable.

 

I have found it a great freedom - you can be totally uninhibited and be true to your sexual self with a WG in a way that you cannot in most marriages.

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Just make sure that these are services the lady offers first.Perhaps when you are wanting to book her say in the email that you see she caters for foot fetish and this is something you would like.That way both are prepared and you don't have to announce it during the booking.

No, ask first. Worst that will happen is that she'll say no.

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Sorry but as an s.p,if its something slightly outside the 'normal'gfe I prefer a guy to mention this via email or for the less shy the phone before booking me.This can be confirmed on arrival but at least the initial broaching is out the way and I know what to prepare for.

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Bibi, I said no but meant yes. Mistyped. Was trying to agree with you.

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Lol abit like that bloke from vicar of dibley nonononono yes!

No probs flower x

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I still have problems being assertive during meetings sometimes, even when it's not anything out of the ordinary. Generally I prefer the girl to take the lead, but I'd still like to be more confident about asking for something. Seems to get a bit better the more I punt, but I guess it just sort of mirrors my personality. 

 

I agree it's a good idea to mention it to the girl before the meeting if you want to try something specific/out of the ordinary. A good escort will probably then take a mental note of it and initiate whatever it is herself at some point if you haven't asked. I experienced this with a couple of ladies when I was trying anal and watersports for the first time. 

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I'm trying to arrange a tie and tease session with lots of elements and the lady in question wants me to be explicit about what I want. Being shy and unassertive, I have decided to write a brief script which I can then read over the phone in a businesslike way, thus avoiding any embarrassment. Daft but worth a try.

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I had this problem early on in punting, then one day, I realised I was only going to get one go at this life and if I wanted to experience different things, I only had to ask. Never looked back. Take it from me, most girls appreciate a guy who knows what he wants, and asks for it!

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I just started a thread on spanking.

Im 200 punts in but ive always had some frustration that ive never been able to openly ask for what I want in a punt.

For instance, I have a mild foot fetish but never spend any time on that. Next time I want a good spanking but ill probably bottle out of asking. Not sure if its embarrasment or what.

How are you guys with regards to this? Do you open up with your fantasies or still hold back?ice like

I just ask when enquiring if what i require is on offer in conjunction with reading the WGs site/profile. Sometimes a service like Rimming for example isnt mentioned but has been on offer after i have asked. I certainly dont hold back but ask politely and to the point. By the time i get to the punt i want to know exactly what is on offer rather than asking at the punt.

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awww honey! you should just say do you offer... are you willing to...... :)

 

afterall, you are paying for a service so why not get what you really want!! (plus it saves you being disappointed if you get there and say for example, want anal but she doesn't do it!)

 

I get a few shy men, but I also like to have a rough idea of what is in store... that way I can make sure I am fully prepared for the booking! so when we are first discussing the booking I always make a point of asking... do you have anything in particular that you would like to do, as well as my usual what colour/type of underwear and straight or curly hair choices :) xx

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I just started a thread on spanking.

Im 200 punts in but ive always had some frustration that ive never been able to openly ask for what I want in a punt.

For instance, I have a mild foot fetish but never spend any time on that. Next time I want a good spanking but ill probably bottle out of asking. Not sure if its embarrasment or what.

How are you guys with regards to this? Do you open up with your fantasies or still hold back?

Perhaps you could enquire about he services you require via email before speaking to the girl. You may find that a little less embarrassing. Just don't start with a long list of must-haves otherwise the WG might think you are a timewaster.

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I have largely "vanilla" tastes, so it's never been a problem.

 

But simply ask what you want.

 

If she laughs, then she's judgmental and you should leave there and then.  It's best to check out prior, either by e-mail or calling, to see if she'd allowed what you like.

 

Then I think a sex worker should be open-minded about sex and sexual tastes, but there you go.. ;)

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I'm a bit like that when asked what I want.

I like to lay back and let her take the wheel

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I think a lot of clients find it difficult to discuss their fantasies once the booking has already started.

Try bringing it up in an email - I like to plan fetishes or role plays out before hand and I find clients are most comfortable and more descriptive when they have the written barrier so to speak. Even just mentioning it's something you'd like to explore in an email means I can then bring it up in the booking and lead the conversation about it if you're a bit shy. :)

Foot fetish and spanking are unlikely to get you a rejection from many (or any) SPs, but even if you have a more specific fetish that may not be to every lady's taste, the worst that will happen is they will decline and you can find someone else! When I get fetish requests that are outside my services I refer them to ladies I know who can cater to them.

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your buying your spending your money, just ask dont worry about it

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Like many guys I shied away from asking for what I really wanted. Oddly enough it's not too extreme - or at least I don't think it is!

 

As I've grown older I've come to realise that a "no" doesn't really matter. Some SP's happily agree to my requests, others do but it is clear that their heart is not in it. Others point blank refuse to accommodate my requests. C'est la vie!

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I just started a thread on spanking.

Im 200 punts in but ive always had some frustration that ive never been able to openly ask for what I want in a punt.

For instance, I have a mild foot fetish but never spend any time on that. Next time I want a good spanking but ill probably bottle out of asking. Not sure if its embarrasment or what.

How are you guys with regards to this? Do you open up with your fantasies or still hold back?

 

May I recommend Megan from Maxes Angels?

 

I used to be a bit like you and "go with the flow."

 

Now, I write role-play scripts for certain of my ladies, especially -Bombshell- and Platinum Cindy, and they both love that.

 

Megan is extremely good at breaking the ice. The first time I met her, I went to kiss her hand and she thought that I was going to shake it, so she took my hand, placed it on her bum and said "There, now we are introduced!" She likes spanking, being spanked and foot-play, so is just up your street there. She can do fluffy or domme you, so you might go for some of that too, should it suit you.

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I guess I would find it tricky asking for Anal. I would just feel a bit awkward to ask. Guess I'm a tad shy as it is naughty. I would like Anal where she asks you for it (I must stipulate this lol) and then puts you inside her and does all the work. Like Rachel Ryan.

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I find communicating my preferences prior to the booking via email to be the easiest way to let her know what I'd like to do, her to wear, etc.  Most ask anyway if you have any requests.  I find going through preferences during the booking (i.e. "so what would you like to do today") is just a bit awkward and makes it feel more like a transaction instead of an experience (in my opinion). 

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