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Relationships & Punting.

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I have not long come out of a year long relationship.Prior to the relationship i had regular punts with ladies that took my fancy although i had no system as such in terms of frequency.The funny thing is that since the relationship has stopped i have found myself punting sometimes 3 times a week which by my standards is quite indulgent. I have justified it by looking at is post relationship therapy! My finances are taking a little dent and i must say on the whole i have had some great encounters.I just wondered if any other guys out there have had a similar experience? I'm thinking that i will exhaust my lusts soon and revert back to something more reasonable. It's almost like i'm making up for lost time and sticking two fingers up to assert my independence.There were ladies that i had observed during my relationship that i had designs on.Any thoughts?

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Hi I've just come a 18 year marriage,and I've been seeing WGs for about 18 months now quite enjoying the freedom,and seeing women I wouldn't have a hope in hell of spending time with unless I'm paying for the pleasure I normally see a lady every 2-3 weeks,so not prolific,but to spend a hour or two with a beautiful escort is very fulfilling , just make sure not to get to close to the girl or girls,as you could set yourself up for a fall

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I can't seem able to find lasting relationships and I'm not far off 40!!

 

I've never been married, lived with anyone or had kids.

 

It appears that relationships these days are more do to with finance than anything else.

 

People have needs and I would find it hard to be in a sexless relationship.

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I can't seem able to find lasting relationships and I'm not far off 40!!

 

I've never been married, lived with anyone or had kids.

 

It appears that relationships these days are more do to with finance than anything else.

 

People have needs and I would find it hard to be in a sexless relationship.

Count your blessings mate. You will find paid sex" is usually far better (and cheaper) than the sex you get from being married or in a relationship. I speak from bitter experience on this subject.

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Count your blessings mate. You will find paid sex" is usually far better (and cheaper) than the sex you get from being married or in a relationship. I speak from bitter experience on this subject.

 

While I wouldn't be so cynical towards relationships - despite having my share of ones that went in that direction - I'd say that in a relationship it's easy for either party to let things slide to the point where you don't get much sex at all, it takes two very rare individuals to stay engaged and interested in each other, and relatively few people luck out in this way.

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I can't seem able to find lasting relationships and I'm not far off 40!!

 

I've never been married, lived with anyone or had kids.

 

It appears that relationships these days are more do to with finance than anything else.

 

People have needs and I would find it hard to be in a sexless relationship.

 

Same here, and I turned 40 a couple of months ago!. I've never given up hope though :)  Punting for me allows relief and the freedom to meet ladies I'd never have a chance of 'pulling' under normal circumstance.

However, I genuinely believe that you have to be mindful of the fact that punting can make blokes lazy! I mean why try and talk to ladies when you can make an easy phone call and get the sex you desire?.

 

When I came out of my recent relationship, I also found that I was punting more. I now have a regular, but really try to limit myself to the number of visits I pay her (not just finance reasons) - just so I dont get to lazy with the normal ladies.

 

(I am also on a dating site........... my god, normal women are mental - and should calm down on the cake front :D !)

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However, I genuinely believe that you have to be mindful of the fact that punting can make blokes lazy! I mean why try and talk to ladies when you can make an easy phone call and get the sex you desire?.

 

I think you can get different things from sex vs. a 'proper' relationship with a woman.  A relationship also has a lot of other emotional elements which you miss if you just have sex.  You can get close to meeting those needs by having a strong friend group but it's just not the same...

 

I often wonder if a relationship with someone who enjoys swinging would be one of the ways to address a typical punter's need for the physical sex / variety but also ongoing emotional / relationship connection.  Anyone been in a swinging relationship?  Good / bad experience?  Did you still punt (perhaps together with your partner)?

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away from escorting some years back I entered into a relationship I actually met the person via swinging..took me to realize he was only in it for the swinging little did I know he had a hidden wife...then towards the end when SHTF it came out he was married and also on top of duping me into a relationship he was seeing working girls as well..I would personally avoid that type of relationship again and there are very few females that would engage in swinging single fems are like gold many do it to avoid relationships...met dozens of couples who have done it quite a few of the  relationships have not survived...

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Interesting.  I guess we're all doomed when it comes to relationships, lol.  I increasingly think marriage is just a bad idea in general.  This thread also makes me think of Brave New World for some reason where family relationships do not exist in their utopia and people just have sex with whoever they fancy (and it's the most normal thing in the world).  Why can't we go back to the cave(wo)man days where it was our job to hunt / protect and try to have children with as many women as possible, lol.

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I can't seem able to find lasting relationships and I'm not far off 40!!

 

I've never been married, lived with anyone or had kids.

 

It appears that relationships these days are more do to with finance than anything else.

 

People have needs and I would find it hard to be in a sexless relationship.

 

Don't worry about it. There is far too much social conditioning to make us think that we must be in a relationship.  Partners / wives are an expensive commodity both financialy and emotionally.

 

 

 

Count your blessings mate. You will find paid sex" is usually far better (and cheaper) than the sex you get from being married or in a relationship. I speak from bitter experience on this subject.

 

I'll second and third that !

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Don't worry about it. There is far too much social conditioning to make us think that we must be in a relationship.  Partners / wives are an expensive commodity both financialy and emotionally.

This.

 

As for the original poster: yes, your thirst will subside.

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There's a worryingly large amount of (in my opinion) misplaced cynicism evident in this thread.  Freedom to have sex with a wide variety of partners without emotional commitment holds a huge attraction for many men.  And sure it can fulfil a need.  But don't ever mistake it as a substitute for a deeper relationship with a woman.  You might kid yourself you're getting all the fun without unnecessary baggage and for a while at least that may be true.

 

But at the end of a punt you walk away physically satisfied.  A steady relationship with a woman fulfils so many more needs surely?

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A steady relationship with a woman fulfils so many more needs surely?

Maybe, but many men -- like me -- consider relationships to be a liability because of their past experiences, and they wisely make decisions according to their experiences.

 

I'm sure there are men and women who are in happy relationships and I don't envy them and I wish them the best of everything, but it's also a matter of luck and as such it's not something that will be in the cards for everybody. The most important way to be happy in this life is to make the most of what you can control and to avoid chasing the wind.

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But at the end of a punt you walk away physically satisfied.  A steady relationship with a woman fulfils so many more needs surely?

 

You have to keep it in perspective really don't you and use it for what it is.

 

I couldn't be at it every week, sustaining myself on a shallow diet of cheap pleasures would get a bit soulless after a while. I just like to see a sexpert once a month or couple of months.

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(I am also on a dating site........... my god, normal women are mental - and should calm down on the cake front :D !)

Nowt wrong with cake. :angry: 

On the relationship side.One day i hope to settle down and marry a nice lady...........................Who owns a bakery

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after a relationship ends my punting normally goes up, help to get the ex out of the system :)

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But at the end of a punt you walk away physically satisfied.  A steady relationship with a woman fulfils so many more needs surely?

 

It can be. On the other hand it can also be much more lonely in a bad relationship than you'd ever be when actually single.

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It can be. On the other hand it can also be much more lonely in a bad relationship than you'd ever be when actually single.

 

Many on this board would probably agree with Shelley's definition of marriage as "the longest journey":

 

it is the code

Of modern morals, and the beaten road

Which those poor slaves with weary footsteps tread,

By the broad highway of the world, and so

With one chained friend, perhaps a jealous foe,

The dreariest and the longest journey go.

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Many on this board would probably agree with Shelley's definition of marriage as "the longest journey":

 

it is the code

Of modern morals, and the beaten road

Which those poor slaves with weary footsteps tread,

By the broad highway of the world, and so

With one chained friend, perhaps a jealous foe,

The dreariest and the longest journey go.

 

Classic quote Mr Bloom... !!!

 

Indeed, how depressing is that :eek: 

Luckily I've managed to dodge that fate [worse than death], and I'm too set in my ways to change now ..... thankfully :lol: :lol: :lol:

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A steady relationship with a woman fulfils so many more needs surely?

I would agree that a good steady relationship does that. Trouble is, how many relationships turn into something that is both steady and good? And how many sustain that for years and years? For some guys, its not that they can't find a relationship, its just that they can't be arsed with plowing through all the bad ones to find someone good. Nowt wrong with that imho.

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Surely nobody can answer your question except you? People can give their own opinions but doesn't mean correct thing to do... 

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