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Who`s in charge ?

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Here`s one for HH.

Who do you think is in charge during a punt ? The WG or the punter ?

(Please note I am not talking about bdsm situations here).

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The person who has employed security for her protection is in charge ;)

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If either feel the need to take charge of a punt then something is going wrong.

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If either feel the need to take charge of a punt then something is going wrong.

I do not agree.

There has to be a dominant party.

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If either feel the need to take charge of a punt then something is going wrong.

So if the WG didn`t like you doing something you`d carry on ?;)

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Any punter who does not understand that the WG is ultimately in charge is a potential menace.

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So if the WG didn`t like you doing something you`d carry on ?;)

I dont think that is what was meant.

My understanding was no one in charge go with the flow sort of experience.

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I dont think that is what was meant.

My understanding was no one in charge go with the flow sort of experience.

Thanks Lou, I could have worded that more clearly. I was not referring to 'guiding' the course of the punt but more if one party feels the need to take charge to stop the other party doing something off limits or unwanted as it were depsite gentle hints? Hope that makes sense.

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Thanks Lou, I could have worded that more clearly. I was not referring to 'guiding' the course of the punt but more if one party feels the need to take charge to stop the other party doing something off limits or unwanted as it were depsite gentle hints? Hope that makes sense.

An encounter/appointment is as individual as a fingerprint.

What you or I may take as the rules of engagement another may not.

It is easy to give the impression that the other is leading but either way there has to be a leader. (ME)

I understand what you were saying even though it was crap example:D

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When I punt it is most definitely the WG in charge.

I may suggest the way that I would like the encounter to go, and she may agree, but she is undoubtedly the one who draws the lines over what happens.

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Depends what is implied by "in charge".

If in charge implies the power to alter/stop the proceedings, then personally I would say neither is in charge, as a punt is meant to be a civil business transaction between 2 consenting adults.

Both WG and punter have the power to call off the arrangement, the punter can demand money back if she is out of line and the WG can demand the punter leave if he's out of line.

If in charge implies a dominant party, then I would say it depends on the characteristics of the WG and the punter. Everyone is different, some are more easily coerced than others, be they male or female.

Also, is the old saying "the customer is always right" adhered to in the escorting world?

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I should have entitled my "he who pays" thread...

Who's in charge?

same subject really isn't it?

;)

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I do not agree.

There has to be a dominant party.

You may want to rethink your closing motto at the end of your posts. If you bury your incalls, do you cremate your outcalls?;)

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I paid a barber to give me a wet-shave, he was in charge. I paid an electrician to fit some spotlights, I was in charge. WGs??? somewhere between a barber and an electrician ;)

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I think it's Mutual Charge really.

We present, and They choose...We have to have a mutual intimate trust of sorts?

I don't like the thought of 'anyone is in charge', because, what we are doing is so, or should be, so equal.

Two way street, and we meet as equals.

Best way to be, in my book.

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You may want to rethink your closing motto at the end of your posts. If you bury your incalls, do you cremate your outcalls?;)

Very good Tiggy:D

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I think it's Mutual Charge really.

We present, and They choose...We have to have a mutual intimate trust of sorts?

I don't like the thought of 'anyone is in charge', because, what we are doing is so, or should be, so equal.

Two way street, and we meet as equals.

Best way to be, in my book.

I don't think we are equals at all. I think you are confusing 'mutual' with 'equal'. We can have mutual fun but it won't be equal; I have chosen the girl. She hasn't chosen me and there the inequality starts.

The punter is in charge when choosing.

The girl is in charge during a meet; a guy who doesn't realise that is, like Foresight says, a potential menace and will lose the opportunity to go back if he pushes his dominance too far.

The girl is in charge of most of the boundaries; she has to be.

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the WG unless she has a pimp. thats why trafficed girls are in such a bad way.

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I would never see a girl a second time who came across as being "in charge".

Obviously I would respect her boundaries, that is not the same as her being "in charge". :D

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Here`s one for HH.

Who do you think is in charge during a punt ? The WG or the punter ?

(Please note I am not talking about bdsm situations here).

I don't think anyone is 'in charge' so to speak :D

I agree with Dolly- it's a mutual thing.

Everyone is different and has different tastes/requirements etc,. what I would say, is that I just can't stand to see a guy that lays on the bed, trying to hibernate or camoflage as part of the bedding. Participate is the word- :):P xxx

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I don't know how things in the UK run, but here we have a menu and reviews. I list what I offer. If you see what you like then you come to me knowing what is and isn't on the menu that date. My room, my body, my rules.... if you wanted what I'm not offering oops sorry you didn't read very well.

Although there is some compliance with what the men want.

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I think it's Mutual Charge really.

We present, and They choose...We have to have a mutual intimate trust of sorts?

I don't like the thought of 'anyone is in charge', because, what we are doing is so, or should be, so equal.

Two way street, and we meet as equals.

Best way to be, in my book.

I agree with that entirely. I've often been in situations when either of us have said "do this" in the heat of the moment but it's not like the whole thing is mapped out and structured. Like you say it's surely a mutual thing where each person's pleasure heightens that of the other and contributes to the whole...(if that makes any sense).

Maybe a more pertinent question than "Who's in charge?" would be "

" :D:):D

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It's a mutual thing once you've picked the girl and began the punt.

Both sides have expectations, limits, preferences. IME the better you can communicate these, the more enjoyable it is.

I've had several girls say that they prefer it when a punter is up front and clear about what he wants, as it makes it easier to satisfy him !:D

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I' agree with foresight and Mr XL. We're in charge of the selection process but during the meet then the girl is - it has to be on her terms. She retains control, not in a pushy domineering way but ultimately she's in charge and has the right of veto. It leaves with the girl feeling more comfortable once her superiority in the pecking order has been established.

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I don't think we are equals at all. I think you are confusing 'mutual' with 'equal'. We can have mutual fun but it won't be equal; I have chosen the girl. She hasn't chosen me and there the inequality starts.

The punter is in charge when choosing.

Yes, I did say 'we present' and 'they choose'. But I don't have to accept being chosen? I can withdraw if I think things aren't acceptable.

But when we are both equally and mutually happy with the arrangement, then anything that happens thereafter, is equal.

A man who called me a few months ago...he sounded very nice on email, and fone.

It was a hot summers day, and I made a big jug of fruit juice, chopped up fruit and put lots of ice in. Got the nibbles arranged just so, nuts, crisps etc.

He arrived and turned up his nose at my offerings, 'I wanted wine' he announced.

Oh did you, I thought...hmph, maybe you should have brought a bottle then..

So I brought out a bottle... tut tut.

Then he says 'Can I have a sandwich?'

(I offer lunch at lunchtimes, small sort of dinner at dinnertime, snacks at other times)

So I made him a sandwich...tut tut.

Little did he know, but I already had made up my mind that this man would not be staying.

I know, I know, he shouldn't have gotten any wine or sandwich! Tut tut!

He chose me, but I didn't think that this person thought the meeting was now of equal agreement, and that he thought that he had bought some sort of servant?

He wasn't dangerous, but he was of the wrong mindset for me. It wasn't a bad exp, just a wrong reasons meeting.

So when the food and drink was done with, I told him that the meeting wasn't flowing as smoothly as I am used to, and that I wasn't content or relaxed enough to continue. I don't like being ordered around in my own house.

He humphed, 'This has never happened to me before.' (I wonder why not though?)

I said, 'Me neither...'

So choosing does not guarantee, especially if one comes along with such an attitude of superiority, an attitude of equality is much nicer.

And gets the goods!

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