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To the ladies: A question of handjob technique

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I'll readily confess to enjoying the art of the hand job, it's a particularly favourite fetish of mine. However, I've been all too frequently disappointed by the technique employed by the lady in question, particularly at the "happy ending" bit. Okay, I'll be more specific, as I reach the eagerly anticipated orgasm (giving lot's of obvious clues along the way), the lady decides to suddenly stop stroking, or suddenly strokes like there's no tomorrow, violently and too fast, or "strangles" the ejaculating member, by squeezing too hard and threatening to cut off my circulation at the same time. If it sounds painful, it is, your body wants to ejaculate this stuff out badly, but it's not being allowed to!

Take today: I decided to check out one of the highly rated massage and hr services, in Osterley to be specific. The massage was awesome, teasing, sensual. But come the ending, she just stopped stroking, and throttled me half to death. It was so disappointing, and painful too.

Tonight I watched a porn clip, where the "handjob giver" talked dirty the whole time, and was very aggressive. I hated this too.

Personally I think that what is needed is just to continue stroking and slowly diminish speed and slowly soften your grip.

I'd be happy to hear any contributions from punters as to their preferences as well.

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I'll readily confess to enjoying the art of the hand job, it's a particularly favourite fetish of mine. However, I've been all too frequently disappointed by the technique employed by the lady in question, particularly at the "happy ending" bit. Okay, I'll be more specific, as I reach the eagerly anticipated orgasm (giving lot's of obvious clues along the way), the lady decides to suddenly stop stroking, or suddenly strokes like there's no tomorrow, violently and too fast, or "strangles" the ejaculating member, by squeezing too hard and threatening to cut off my circulation at the same time. If it sounds painful, it is, your body wants to ejaculate this stuff out badly, but it's not being allowed to!

Take today: I decided to check out one of the highly rated massage and hr services, in Osterley to be specific. The massage was awesome, teasing, sensual. But come the ending, she just stopped stroking, and throttled me half to death. It was so disappointing, and painful too.

Tonight I watched a porn clip, where the "handjob giver" talked dirty the whole time, and was very aggressive. I hated this too.

Personally I think that what is needed is just to continue stroking and slowly diminish speed and slowly soften your grip.

I'd be happy to hear any contributions from punters as to their preferences as well.

She sounds a right wanker. ;)

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I've been lucky, I've never had my Johnson "strangled" as I came

Has anyone here ever had an oily handjob?

Their the best ;)

Last time I had one it was so sensitive it went through my whole body and I had to cling to the bed for fear of taking off!!!!!!!

Simply the best

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I've been lucky, I've never had my Johnson "strangled" as I came

Has anyone here ever had an oily handjob?

Their the best :D

Last time I had one it was so sensitive it went through my whole body and I had to cling to the bed for fear of taking off!!!!!!!

Simply the best

yep. I was strangled recently. genuinely thought the lady had decided to allow CIM ----- was wrong and paid the penalty. ;) quite embarrassing really.

as regards technique of the hj giver ---- unlike the mystery created by many ladies on the other side of the coin, just help her by advising her what you like to achieve success, as it differs from person to person. no big deal or mystic.

funny--- dont like oily jobs-- for me it kills the sensitivity. each to his own.

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Different strokes for different folks.

Some girls wank me so proficiently I could imagine I was doing it, others use slightly less orthodox methods and lots of lube to have my leg twitching like a dog being tickled.

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as regards technique of the hj giver ---- unlike the mystery created by many ladies on the other side of the coin, just help her by advising her what you like to achieve success, as it differs from person to person. no big deal or mystic

Yes please - one only has to watch a man wank himself to know that there's a myriad of range out there as regards the touch that's needed. That's why I always (well usually) say "it's OK to say harder/faster/softer/slower". We don't know unless you give at least half a clue. Though, having said that, most women with experience should know to ease off slowly and gently...

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I'll readily confess to enjoying the art of the hand job, it's a particularly favourite fetish of mine. However, I've been all too frequently disappointed by the technique employed by the lady in question, particularly at the "happy ending" bit. Okay, I'll be more specific, as I reach the eagerly anticipated orgasm (giving lot's of obvious clues along the way), the lady decides to suddenly stop stroking, or suddenly strokes like there's no tomorrow, violently and too fast, or "strangles" the ejaculating member, by squeezing too hard and threatening to cut off my circulation at the same time. If it sounds painful, it is, your body wants to ejaculate this stuff out badly, but it's not being allowed to!

Take today: I decided to check out one of the highly rated massage and hr services, in Osterley to be specific. The massage was awesome, teasing, sensual. But come the ending, she just stopped stroking, and throttled me half to death. It was so disappointing, and painful too.

Tonight I watched a porn clip, where the "handjob giver" talked dirty the whole time, and was very aggressive. I hated this too.

Personally I think that what is needed is just to continue stroking and slowly diminish speed and slowly soften your grip.

I'd be happy to hear any contributions from punters as to their preferences as well.

Err, why don't you tell the ladies how you like it?

I always adapt my technique to the guy in question, by asking how he likes it to be done. Some men like it hard and fast, others softer and slow. Some like you to continue, while they are ejaculating, others get so sensitive they can't stand any more contact.

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Spot on. It's amazing how even some very experienced girls can get this part completely wrong. Not to mention those who have no idea how to handle a cut one, and end up trying to yank it off altogether ;)

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Err, why don't you tell the ladies how you like it?

I always adapt my technique to the guy in question, by asking how he likes it to be done. Some men like it hard and fast, others softer and slow. Some like you to continue, while they are ejaculating, others get so sensitive they can't stand any more contact.

EXACTLY! If youve a tonque in your mouth it's quite easy to say "not so fast" ,or "not so hard" or "faster, faster", or "harder, harder".

Christ almighty, I couldnt be a WG!

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I always adapt my technique to the guy in question, by asking how he likes it to be done.

Ask by all means, however take no notice whatsoever, absolutely fatal, follow these guidelines :-

1. Always wear a watch on your wanking arm (more of that later)

2. Always wear several slightly loose fitting rings on at least two fingers and thumb of your wanking hand, this ensures that loose skin and hairs are trapped and will provide random extra stimulation for the client, he will be impatiently waiting for the next erotic tug

3. A slightly more advanced technique on 2 above is to make sure that any ring (like a diamond engagement ring for example) that has protrusions is turned inwards facing the palm so that constant stimulation is ensured

4. Always ask the client how he would like you to perform the handjob, fast, slow, firm grip, loose grip, dry, with lube etc. then totally disregard any request, this is because your questioning has raised his sexual expectations to such a height that it has reduced him to a gibbering wreck and any reply is totally superfluous, you just do it as you fancy.

5. Once you have got started make sure that you do not fall into the trap of providing a steady rhythm or consistent grip, this is not what handjobs are about, a telltale sign that you have lapsed in this area is the seemingly satisfied sigh/groan from the client and possibly combined with slight hip thrusting, do not take this as a sign of pleasure because it is the male way of showing extreme boredom, quickly alter your grip and make your hand movements more random, in severe cases just stop altogether.

6. Just take a moment to think about the service you are providing, this activity is usually done by the male himself in isolation so logically he is not going to want you to see what is going on, make sure that your gaze is averted at all times, busy yourself by perhaps examining the nails on your other hand, looking out of the window or watching the porno DVD, if you can combine this with humming (slightly off key) your favourite tune then you will have provided the perfect environment

7. Well so far so good, your client is really getting into it now, time to maximise his pleasure by you producing a couple of exasperated sighs, now this might sound a bit strange, almost as though you are bored by the whole procedure, perish the thought, these sighs will be interpreted by the client as a sign of sexual arousal on your part.

8. The most important part, the money shot, now what is not widely known is that the male requires no manual stimulation whatsoever once he has reached a certain point, known in the trade as "the point of no return" ejaculation is automatic and provided that he is left entirely alone and his penis is untouched then it will be an immensely satisfying experience for him. There is one slight complication though and here is a trade secret and also the reason for 1 above, on no account leave it too late because you will cause the client acute embarrassment if he has to tell you to stop, at the "point of no return" (loud groans, shouts of "I'm coming/here it is" etc.) take a look at your watch by pulling your hand off his penis and say "bloody hell, is that the time?, I must ring my mum", quickly run away and leave the client to luxuriate in private, that should do the trick nicely.

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ask by all means, however take no notice whatsoever, absolutely fatal, follow these guidelines :-

1. Always wear a watch on your wanking arm (more of that later)

2. Always wear several slightly loose fitting rings on at least two fingers and thumb of your wanking hand, this ensures that loose skin and hairs are trapped and will provide random extra stimulation for the client, he will be impatiently waiting for the next erotic tug

3. A slightly more advanced technique on 2 above is to make sure that any ring (like a diamond engagement ring for example) that has protrusions is turned inwards facing the palm so that constant stimulation is ensured

4. Always ask the client how he would like you to perform the handjob, fast, slow, firm grip, loose grip, dry, with lube etc. Then totally disregard any request, this is because your questioning has raised his sexual expectations to such a height that it has reduced him to a gibbering wreck and any reply is totally superfluous, you just do it as you fancy.

5. Once you have got started make sure that you do not fall into the trap of providing a steady rhythm or consistent grip, this is not what handjobs are about, a telltale sign that you have lapsed in this area is the seemingly satisfied sigh/groan from the client and possibly combined with slight hip thrusting, do not take this as a sign of pleasure because it is the male way of showing extreme boredom, quickly alter your grip and make your hand movements more random, in severe cases just stop altogether.

6. Just take a moment to think about the service you are providing, this activity is usually done by the male himself in isolation so logically he is not going to want you to see what is going on, make sure that your gaze is averted at all times, busy yourself by perhaps examining the nails on your other hand, looking out of the window or watching the porno dvd, if you can combine this with humming (slightly off key) your favourite tune then you will have provided the perfect environment

7. Well so far so good, your client is really getting into it now, time to maximise his pleasure by you producing a couple of exasperated sighs, now this might sound a bit strange, almost as though you are bored by the whole procedure, perish the thought, these sighs will be interpreted by the client as a sign of sexual arousal on your part.

8. The most important part, the money shot, now what is not widely known is that the male requires no manual stimulation whatsoever once he has reached a certain point, known in the trade as "the point of no return" ejaculation is automatic and provided that he is left entirely alone and his penis is untouched then it will be an immensely satisfying experience for him. There is one slight complication though and here is a trade secret and also the reason for 1 above, on no account leave it too late because you will cause the client acute embarrassment if he has to tell you to stop, at the "point of no return" (loud groans, shouts of "i'm coming/here it is" etc.) take a look at your watch by pulling your hand off his penis and say "bloody hell, is that the time?, i must ring my mum", quickly run away and leave the client to luxuriate in private, that should do the trick nicely.

excellent! ;)

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Its different for every guy. Thats the problem. The only way to sort it is to explain exactly how you like it and then see her once a week until she gets it right (for you). Same problem when a women cums. And it can vary with the same women depending if its clit, g-spot or vag/anal/tits/back of knee stimulated orgasm.

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Its different for every guy. Thats the problem. The only way to sort it is to explain exactly how you like it and then see her once a week until she gets it right (for you). Same problem when a women cums. And it can vary with the same women depending if its clit, g-spot or vag/anal/tits/back of knee stimulated orgasm.

i found one way is to apply a technique i call 'cock control' over the head and shaft. I wont give away my secrets :D lol but i can understand why sometimes you men can find it painful/feel nothing, if not done the way you like it. it's simply as said, all about technique. You have a certain way of playing to get you there, as do us girls, and no matter of rubbing and grinding will achieve anything but over sensitivity or soreness due to imflammation. All i guess i can ask is if you men can, if give us a bit more body language to work on or at least speak up if it's not going the way you like it. We dont want you to suffer. That way we can quickly establish what you desire and hopefully make it enjoyable for you xxxxx

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I like the skin pulled down really hard with the base of the shaft being sqeezed and massaged. Lots of slow hard pulling back of the skin which speeds up to a frantic wank at near the end then reverts back to the slow hard technique as I cum is just perfect :D

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Ditto Lady Victoria..

Some guys love it when we go really fast and hard at the end some don't it's all about the sensitivity & the person. I try and go with what the guy enjoys & I love being told what to do.. faster..slower if you want the best from us you will have to tell us how you like it first :D

xx

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Different strokes for different folks. Literally.

I think done well it is the most intense orgasm you can have.

I just get peeved when a lady doesn't know how to handle a circumcised male. And if they got no oil. They always have KY though and that works a treat.

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Different strokes for different folks. Literally.

I think done well it is the most intense orgasm you can have.

I just get peeved when a lady doesn't know how to handle a circumcised male. And if they got no oil. They always have KY though and that works a treat.

yes i can understand that, it's a whole new kettle of fish when the man is circumcised. You have to make your hand work like the foreskin would, assisting with extra lubrication through a oily like substance as precum would do. Am i right in assuming that certain lubes ie jelly, can actually not be of benefit as the texture change can be possibly off-putting/not feel natural? just something that has bugged me as like to have a variety in stock lol

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yes i can understand that, it's a whole new kettle of fish when the man is circumcised. You have to make your hand work like the foreskin would, assisting with extra lubrication through a oily like substance as precum would do. Am i right in assuming that certain lubes ie jelly, can actually not be of benefit as the texture change can be possibly off-putting/not feel natural? just something that has bugged me as like to have a variety in stock lol

God no! I'm circumsized and I hate all this fiddling about with the bell end and getting oiled up!

Hard slow pulling down of the shaft is what I want.... dry to get better grip!

Not a fan of bellend fiddling at all, just too sensitive and doesn't give as deep a sensation unless it's done in sync with some hard shaft pushing. :)

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I've been lucky, I've never had my Johnson "strangled" as I came

Has anyone here ever had an oily handjob?

Their the best :)

Last time I had one it was so sensitive it went through my whole body and I had to cling to the bed for fear of taking off!!!!!!!

Simply the best

Plenty of Johnsons Baby Oil dribbled on your tip and allowed to run down the shaft and onto your sack ... then one hand around your shaft the other cupping your sack and wow!

Always give instructions ... faster-slower-harder-lighter ... make it last ... it's magic :)

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Chantilly Lace

"But when you break it all down you know what I like"

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I like a surprise.

If you are going to give detailed instructions you dont need a WG's help, its easier and cheaper to do it yourself, surely ?

Sasfan forgot the smug look on the ladies face as she leans over and wipes her hand on your shirt tail.

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I like a surprise.

If you are going to give detailed instructions you dont need a WG's help, its easier and cheaper to do it yourself, surely ?

Sasfan forgot the smug look on the ladies face as she leans over and wipes her hand on your shirt tail.

That's just what I was thinking. The best two HJs I've experienced were administered by two totally contrasting ladies who simply seemed to posess an instinctive knowledge of how to pleasure a man. One was a 19 year old student whose magic touch belied her years and the other was a mature lady who had a unique technique where she concentrated a slow and sensual teasing, tickling action with her fingers that would gradually increase in intensity for 20 minutes or so and always result in an explosive finish.

Apart from those two I've had HJs of varying quality over the years but I've had disappointing experiences when I've had to prompt a girl to slow things down after starting off at a rate of knots because even at a slower pace they still seem to be going through the motions. It's a built in desire and ability to pamper and tease the old boy that is essential for a quality HJ.

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God no! I'm circumsized and I hate all this fiddling about with the bell end and getting oiled up!

Hard slow pulling down of the shaft is what I want.... dry to get better grip!

Not a fan of bellend fiddling at all, just too sensitive and doesn't give as deep a sensation unless it's done in sync with some hard shaft pushing. :)

yet i have a few clients who likes it that way, who is circumcised. this is why, and i return to my original post, that we need to shown through body language or told if doing it wrong quickly as it makes it a better experience for all and people as yourself regent, wont get oiled up lol.

thanks for the tip regent xxx

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If you are going to give detailed instructions you dont need a WG's help, its easier and cheaper to do it yourself, surely ?

Especially when you consider the much-vaunted professionalism of the service-provider..

Sasfan forgot the smug look on the ladies face as she leans over and wipes her hand on your shirt tail

ROTFLMAO

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Has anyone here ever had an oily handjob

Yes - about an hour and a half ago! :) Wonderful proper massage followed by a slow, unhurried and sensitive stroking to finish - my favourite! :D

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