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Is This Just Bloody Rude?

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Is it just me or is this damn rude?

 

On Saturday I was browsing the purple site, and saw a lady that I thought looked really nice, so I sent her a polite, literate (ie not textspeak) email asking if she was going to be free on Monday at 1:00.

 

I checked back on Sunday, to see that she had read the email - I assumed that I would get a reply once she'd checked her arrangements or whatever. No reply, however, was forthcoming, but Monday morning her green "Available Today" light was on, so she was working. She's English, so this is not a language thing, or a girl who can't/doesn't do her own email etc.

 

I can't help regarding this as really rude - a quick reply wouldn't have taken any time or money - but what does anyone else think, and is this a common occurrence?

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Perhaps she has read your email when she was in a hurry intending to reply later but then forgot. Not everything is down to rudeness. Have you tried actually emailing again or perhaps just phoning her. I have had guys phone me mentioning an email that they have sent or a pm and sometimes I had not read it or thought I had replied but hadn't as it was marked as read x

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I'm afraid that could just as easily have been me - sometimes one gets overtaken by events, and I often don't notice until too much time has elapsed that I failed to respond to a contact. If I wasn't a bit flaky, I might have survived in a proper career. This is one of the few jobs that allows us girlies to be a bit lacksadaisical, and still make a very good living. I'm sure it's nothing personal - if she has good reviews, do try again. I'm sure she'll kiss it better.....   ;)

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Is it just me or is this damn rude?

 

 

Does she have positive escort [not cam/phone] feedback from gents who also have numerous feedback from established escorts?

 

If not, could it be someone who's just on there to make money via other means i.e. private gallery?

 

Yes it is rude not to reply, but as Uschi said, sometimes it's unintentional.

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 I like to book by emails and a few weeks in advance, a peculiar notion. I find that lots of women do not reply to emails. It seems that the phone is king. But I agree with Southern Man, if the woman has an email on her site then that means she should manage her emails.  I remember a film years ago with the line "the pro in prostitute stands for professional!"

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Is it just me or is this damn rude?

 

. and is this a common occurrence?

 

It may have been an accidental oversight as explained above but in my experience it is a very common event.  

 

Don't take it personally.  Persistence is key.  

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Is it me or is this really not worth starting this thread?

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A man 's allowed to vent his spleen on Punternet I would have thought

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Basically the OP is asking should she have responded to his email on Sunday, assuming she wasn't reading from the AW App on her phone - which can be a nightmare to respond with, and wasn't fully booked, yes it's not unreasonable to expect a response. If she was busy then a response when she became free to say she'd been busy, sorry to have missed you would have been the polite thing to do.

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 I like to book by emails and a few weeks in advance, a peculiar notion. I find that lots of women do not reply to emails. It seems that the phone is king. But I agree with Southern Man, if the woman has an email on her site then that means she should manage her emails.  I remember a film years ago with the line "the pro in prostitute stands for professional!"

 

Of course we must assume that you have never once in your career ever set a foot wrong x

Is it me or is this really not worth starting this thread?

No its not. He should have re e-mailed or tried to contact her by phone if her number is available before coming on here to vent. One email..whats that…of course there may be a good reason she didn't reply. He may be showing alias next to his username, a note, she may have checked his profile and feedback and found something she didn't like to ignored him. Not professional to deliberately ignore but there are few of us who have not ignored something during their lives x

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As had been said she probably forgot to reply and didn't do it on purpose.  Give her the benefit of the doubt and try again by email or text.  If she stills doesn't reply it's her loss and your gain and you will be richer for not going to see her!     

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As others have said, it could be completely unintentional and don't take it personally.  We all get caught up in day to day things, and many of us aren't able to reply to emails asap, sometimes it's due to people being next to us who don't know what work we do so have to be discrete.  Then when we do have a spare minute we've forgotten that there are emails to be answered.

I don't have an email address on my website as I am not always near a computer and don't have a smart phone.  The way AW is set up you cannot disable the email response, so I have an automatic email response politely asking people to ring me   If you can't get hold of me by phoning then the likelyhood is I'm in a booking and that you call back later.  I find this usually helps, unless of course the chap hasn't read my profile or auto response.  

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I'm afraid that could just as easily have been me - sometimes one gets overtaken by events, and I often don't notice until too much time has elapsed that I failed to respond to a contact. If I wasn't a bit flaky, I might have survived in a proper career. This is one of the few jobs that allows us girlies to be a bit lacksadaisical, and still make a very good living. I'm sure it's nothing personal - if she has good reviews, do try again. I'm sure she'll kiss it better.....   ;)

 

This happened to me this week: I texted a lady to confirm an arrangement and had no reply. I know her well so felt comfortable enough to prompt her. Exactly this had happened: she had been overtaken by events, noted my text then forgot to respond. Cue profuse apologies and cast iron reassurance of our arrangements...and I'm sure it will be kissed better!

 

Sometimes we can get anxious about hassling ladies, because there is so much on here about 'text table tennis'. A quick, polite reminder is never likely to offend

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Is it me or is this really not worth starting this thread?

 

Is "what does anyone else think, and is this a common occurrence?" not a legitimate question then?

 

Why was I wrong to start the thread when quite a few people have answered quickly to give me an answer - to wit, "yes it does happen, but it is often due to circumstances, rather than rudeness". Which is what I was wondering.

 

Threads which are not worth starting generally receive no answers or hostile ones, which is not the case here.

Not that I have to justify myself to you anyway, of course.

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Basically the OP is asking should she have responded to his email on Sunday, assuming she wasn't reading from the AW App on her phone - which can be a nightmare to respond with, and wasn't fully booked, yes it's not unreasonable to expect a response. If she was busy then a response when she became free to say she'd been busy, sorry to have missed you would have been the polite thing to do.

 

Thank you - I wasn't actually saying she should have answered on Sunday (although she did read the email on Sunday, so was accessing her email) - Monday mid-morning (after she'd put her "Available Today" sign on) would have been fine.

 

If she couldn't access her email it would have been a completely different thing, but reading an email and not answering, even next day when she was definitely working did seem rude, which is why I asked the question.

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Thank you - I wasn't actually saying she should have answered on Sunday (although she did read the email on Sunday, so was accessing her email) - Monday mid-morning (after she'd put her "Available Today" sign on) would have been fine.

 

If she couldn't access her email it would have been a completely different thing, but reading an email and not answering, even next day when she was definitely working did seem rude, which is why I asked the question.

Of course I am presuming that she doesn't have "phone me no emails" on her profile, which would kind of negate all of this.

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Chloe, I am as hopeless as the next man and put many a foot wrong.

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This subject has been flogged to death in several different threads but, for what its worth, the answer is yes and yes - it's both very common and, in my book, bloody rude

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Is it just me or is this damn rude?

 

On Saturday I was browsing the purple site, and saw a lady that I thought looked really nice, so I sent her a polite, literate (ie not textspeak) email asking if she was going to be free on Monday at 1:00.

 

I checked back on Sunday, to see that she had read the email - I assumed that I would get a reply once she'd checked her arrangements or whatever. No reply, however, was forthcoming, but Monday morning her green "Available Today" light was on, so she was working. She's English, so this is not a language thing, or a girl who can't/doesn't do her own email etc.

 

I can't help regarding this as really rude - a quick reply wouldn't have taken any time or money - but what does anyone else think, and is this a common occurrence?

I dont send WGs emails but i would be looking elsewhere if this occured to me unless she was to reply and have a good explanation you thought was true or possibly true. From posts i have read over the years this happens a lot.

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Chloe, I am as hopeless as the next man and put many a foot wrong.

Exactly me too and i have been known to have to slam my pappy shut when something occurs at home then 3 days later get an email saying "chloe? Is 1pm tomorrow okay then? which causes me to look back over a few days till i find the original x

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I dont send WGs emails but i would be looking elsewhere if this occured to me unless she was to reply and have a good explanation you thought was true or possibly true. From posts i have read over the years this happens a lot.

It does happen a lot but I think their are serial email ignorers, most real escorts won't deliberately ignore an email and how much does it hurt to send a chaser text x

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Of course we must assume that you have never once in your career ever set a foot wrong x

No its not. He should have re e-mailed or tried to contact her by phone if her number is available before coming on here to vent. One email..whats that…of course there may be a good reason she didn't reply. He may be showing alias next to his username, a note, she may have checked his profile and feedback and found something she didn't like to ignored him. Not professional to deliberately ignore but there are few of us who have not ignored something during their lives x

I agree with what you say the OP should of done assuming she had a number he was aware of but i dont agree this wasnt worth posting up by the OP as a thread, as thats up to him and the fact its not been deleted by admin, or yet anyway means they havent a problem with the thread. Its a forum for posters to vent as they so wish, the OP didnt name the WG so no harm done even if its a simple mix up of some sort and the thread and subsequent posts might just help some others, who knows.

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It does happen a lot but I think their are serial email ignorers, most real escorts won't deliberately ignore an email and how much does it hurt to send a chaser text x

Obviously this will depend on the individual WG. The way i punt nowadays not knowing until i walke up whether i fancy a punt or not means i am looking for a quick phone reply so i can make an immediate booking ideally.

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Is "what does anyone else think, and is this a common occurrence?" not a legitimate question then?

 

Why was I wrong to start the thread when quite a few people have answered quickly to give me an answer - to wit, "yes it does happen, but it is often due to circumstances, rather than rudeness". Which is what I was wondering.

 

Threads which are not worth starting generally receive no answers or hostile ones, which is not the case here.

Not that I have to justify myself to you anyway, of course.

You had every right to start this thread just as any other poster has a right to start a relevant thread on here. Last time i looked it wasnt against the rules to start a thread and only admin have the power to lock or delete threads. If others dont think a thread is worthwhile or worse they always have the option of not posting on it of course.

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No its not against the rules to start the thread and of course it is a worthwhile subject matter should it have been established that the escort was actually ignoring the email after the OP did a follow up but he didn't . Would you wish us all to start threads every time we have an email ignored, a client not turn up as lets face it..thats rude. I have received emails from guys only to try to reply and find the profile is inactive half an hour after the email was sent to me…if I started a thread every time it happened and all the rest of us  did too then what a forum it would be for us to have to scroll through

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