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Am I Just Not Taking The Hint?

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Before Xmas, I twice saw a WG who really floated my boat, and I was hoping to spend more time with her this year.

 

Made an appt to see her on NYE, texted on the day to confirm, heard nothing from her but went to her place anyway as I had fulfilled my part of the procedure and she hadn't said she'd confirm my confirmation... She wasn't there, and when I got to talk to her she said she'd heard nothing from me, so presumed I wasn't going to turn up.  A couple of days later, I got a text saying  my confirmation had just appeared on her phone.

 

So, arranged to meet up a week later, I texted her on the morning confirming, heard nothing till a few hours before appointment time when she texted me saying she had a domestic appliance emergency and couldn't make it.

 

Another appointment made for this weekend, got a nice 'looking forward to seeing you' reply, but once again it got close to time and I got yet another cancellation, this time due to a family illness.

 

Each reason is quite believable, and her messages have all been more than a few word minimum, but being knocked back three times in a row just seems to be stretching probability.

 

So, ladies and gents of Punternet, is it time to give up on her, as she really doesn't want to see me but is too polite to tell me?

 

I have a feeling if I was reading this post, I'd be certain the answer is Yes, of course move on, but she was so warm and friendly when I did get to see her (and yes, I've punted long enough to know a lot of it is an act) that I don't want to believe that I and,of course, my money are that unwelcome.

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BA, I may be wrong, but it seems like that you are not taking the hint. Maybe the lady is ignoring you, but so what? its the lady's loss and not yours. She is the one losing out on a wonderful person like you.

 

I have been through a similar situation, only for the escort to eventually block my messages. She never had the nerve to tell me that she wasn't interested, and being the naive dumb ass that I am, I couldn't figure out that she wasn't interested but at least wasn't rude to tell me directly. I felt miserable, but moved on.

 

If the lady would have told me to my face that she does not see fat ugly people like me, then I would have been devastated, so at least she was polite in that way. BTW, please don't think I am implying that you are a fat ugly guy.

 

In the end, its only an hour or two of fun and not a marriage proposal which has been rejected, if at all. If you cannot connect with this lady, then there are several others out there, as you obviously know.

 

Be happy and stay happy!

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Walk away and find a new favourite lady.

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BA, I may be wrong, but it seems like that you are not taking the hint. Maybe the lady is ignoring you, but so what? its the lady's loss and not yours. She is the one losing out on a wonderful person like you.

 

I have been through a similar situation, only for the escort to eventually block my messages. She never had the nerve to tell me that she wasn't interested, and being the naive dumb ass that I am, I couldn't figure out that she wasn't interested but at least wasn't rude to tell me directly. I felt miserable, but moved on.

 

If the lady would have told me to my face that she does not see fat ugly people like me, then I would have been devastated, so at least she was polite in that way. BTW, please don't think I am implying that you are a fat ugly guy.

 

In the end, its only an hour or two of fun and not a marriage proposal which has been rejected, if at all. If you cannot connect with this lady, then there are several others out there, as you obviously know.

 

Be happy and stay happy!

You know me so well!

 

 

Thank you for your input, which you know isn't what I want to hear - sometimes a reality check is needed and can only come from someone else who understands the dynamics.

 

Thanks also Porker Paul, seems to be a consensus growing here...

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I would say just wait and see. There have been gentlemen that I have met in the past then for some reason it just never seems to go the right way for us to meet again, I have to cancel a booking, they have to cancel a booking, he gets held up in traffic making him too late to see me, me not being able to start as early as anticipated till in the end we are sending each other "wtf are we cursed?" texts. We usually manage it in the end though.

 

Sometimes life just conspires against us.

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Several things to bear in mind...

One: She is human, like the rest of us and may have other priorities/emergencies that clash with your meetings. 
Two: Texting and/or phone messaging are neither instant (texts can take a couple of hours to turn up) nor infallible (sometimes they get lost in the ether, or the message is missed).

Three: She is a WG - you are as welcome/attractive as the rest of us - unless you have demonstrated otherwise...

Why not ask her directly if you are someone she doesn't want to meet up with?  If you get an answer your problem is solved. No answer, ditto.

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I've not a clue, it could be simply a run of bad luck. I prefer to just tell a client if I cannot see him, but not everyone operates like that and for many reasons.

 

Text messages are not to be relied on, and can be delivered up to 72 hours later.

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If her life is a string of ongoing crises and misfortune, I would not want to be part of that. Its not part of either good foreplay or satisfying sex.

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Frankly, I would quit in this instance - it's not sounding good. Just an opinion, of course, but I think she's waiting for you to give up calling.   :(  It does happen that an escort has an emergency, but she will usually then suggest an alternative time i.e. "my boiler has blown up, but it should be repaired by 15.30 - are you able to make it then?" If she hasn't encouraged you to book an alternative time/date, you need to move on.

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Over a three week period I had to make an emergency dash from London to the Midlands because my son was in hospital with burst appendix, my flat got a burst pipe and ended up flooded, my phone was stolen and my best friend hit her head and died.  During those three weeks I had to let a regular down several times and I'm sure he was starting to think along the same lines as the OP so I offered free time to compensate.  He wouldn't take me up on that offer but I did see him again lots of times when things settled down.

 

Some people do get a run of bad luck from time to time so I'm with Chloe and would say wait and see.

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Before Xmas, I twice saw a WG who really floated my boat, and I was hoping to spend more time with her this year.

 

Made an appt to see her on NYE, texted on the day to confirm, heard nothing from her but went to her place anyway as I had fulfilled my part of the procedure and she hadn't said she'd confirm my confirmation... She wasn't there, and when I got to talk to her she said she'd heard nothing from me, so presumed I wasn't going to turn up.  A couple of days later, I got a text saying  my confirmation had just appeared on her phone.

 

So, arranged to meet up a week later, I texted her on the morning confirming, heard nothing till a few hours before appointment time when she texted me saying she had a domestic appliance emergency and couldn't make it.

 

Another appointment made for this weekend, got a nice 'looking forward to seeing you' reply, but once again it got close to time and I got yet another cancellation, this time due to a family illness.

 

Each reason is quite believable, and her messages have all been more than a few word minimum, but being knocked back three times in a row just seems to be stretching probability.

 

So, ladies and gents of Punternet, is it time to give up on her, as she really doesn't want to see me but is too polite to tell me?

 

I have a feeling if I was reading this post, I'd be certain the answer is Yes, of course move on, but she was so warm and friendly when I did get to see her (and yes, I've punted long enough to know a lot of it is an act) that I don't want to believe that I and,of course, my money are that unwelcome.

I would be looking elsewhere but if i rated her enough i might try her again in a few weeks time. If i still got the same problems that would be it though.

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Frankly, I would quit in this instance - it's not sounding good. Just an opinion, of course, but I think she's waiting for you to give up calling.   :(  It does happen that an escort has an emergency, but she will usually then suggest an alternative time i.e. "my boiler has blown up, but it should be repaired by 15.30 - are you able to make it then?" If she hasn't encouraged you to book an alternative time/date, you need to move on.

Some situations sometimes dont have a timescale. For example if you child is ill so you have to take time off you cannot give an exact time. You can give a long time estimate such as I will definatley be available next week but then if its a bug and you have more than one child then another gets sick. Im not saying this is the case but this has happened to me with my own children when they were younger. One sick for a week, then the other gets it the following week then the other gets it the following week then number one got it on week for all over again. A whole month of young sick children..was such fun at the time. You gotta love those "go round like wildfire bugs". Anyway, I digress. Everyones situation is different.

 

Re the boiler repair I wouldnt take rebookings till it was already finished, what with plumbers being what they are and boilers etc

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Yes sometimes things do conspire against us and I myself have been in a position where I have thought Oh no, he's going to think I'm flakey, but as Holly said if it were genuine she'd be offering alternatives or a discount. 

 

If I don't want to see someone again (could be for any number of reasons) I tend to just ignore their calls or texts- which might seem like the easy coward way out, but when a guy knows your home address I wouldn't risk telling him the truth in case he got all weird  and showed up or turned a bit nutty.  It's about safety rather than rudeness. But then I wouldn't accept a booking then cancel like her so who knows- maybe she is genuine. 

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I doubt I'd be likely to try again after 3 failures, but I suppose it depended on whether I really wanted to see the lady.

I'd have thought if she was trying to avoid you she'd just ignore you and not take the booking in the first place? If it was me and I wanted to see her again, I'd ask when I made contact! It gives the opportunity to decline if she doesn't really want your booking.

It all depends how much you want to see her. I'd be more than likely to try after 2 feasible excuses but 3 is making a habit of it!

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I think 3 fails is quite enough. I've had exactly the same problem last year with a fabulous girl who was set to become my favourite and was as friendly and flirty with me as could be over a few terrific bookings. But then she just kept letting me down, not responding or responding with profuse apologies and 'please book again's but I think her life had become a bit of a mess and it just wasn't worth the grief. I moved on

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Thanks all for your advice... Interesting to see that there is a clear demarcation between the sexes here, the guys saying give up, the girls mostly giving good reasons not to.

Latest update is I got a text this morning saying sorry and please rebook, which I have now done, tho even that involved a little more hassle than I expected.

Hmm, just read that last phrase back and once again I know what I'd be thinking as an observer...

However, nothing ventured, nothing gained, so please keep your fingers crossed for me on Friday evening.

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Thanks all for your advice... Interesting to see that there is a clear demarcation between the sexes here, the guys saying give up, the girls mostly giving good reasons not to.Latest update is I got a text this morning saying sorry and please rebook, which I have now done, tho even that involved a little more hassle than I expected.Hmm, just read that last phrase back and once again I know what I'd be thinking as an observer...However, nothing ventured, nothing gained, so please keep your fingers crossed for me on Friday evening.

Good luck, hope it works out for you, It'd be good to hear how you get on.

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Good luck, hope it works out for you, It'd be good to hear how you get on.

Thank you, will let you all know.

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That's the beauty of this forum You get both points of view Us punters probably thinking that she not interested in seeing you again ,whereas the girls giving the SP side of the story .Maybe give it a few weeks and try again,and in the meantime don't stew on the matter,and get your self out there

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Another beauty of the forum is that as I read down through the thread, I start thinking stuff it...walk away BA, by the time I get to this point, my hard-bitten edge has melted and thinks, yeh, go on give her another chance.

 

Please do let us know how you get on after all this- good luck.

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Another beauty of the forum is that as I read down through the thread, I start thinking stuff it...walk away BA, by the time I get to this point, my hard-bitten edge has melted and thinks, yeh, go on give her another chance.

 

Please do let us know how you get on after all this- good luck.

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Thanks all for your advice... Interesting to see that there is a clear demarcation between the sexes here, the guys saying give up, the girls mostly giving good reasons not to.

Latest update is I got a text this morning saying sorry and please rebook, which I have now done, tho even that involved a little more hassle than I expected.

Hmm, just read that last phrase back and once again I know what I'd be thinking as an observer...

However, nothing ventured, nothing gained, so please keep your fingers crossed for me on Friday evening.

I'll buck the female/male trend thing then and suggest that if she really was trying to drop a hint that she didn't want to see you, why would she even take the booking in the first place?

Personally, if she really does push all my right buttons I'd give it a few more goes.

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Around NYE i wouldnt have trusted a text as the networks go mental so the delay is more than likely so i wouldnt count that as a knockback.The other two.Child being ill can't be helped.
In your case,as someone previously said,if she didn't want to see you again she wouldnt take your booking.Probably just block your number,way easier.Although in some cases i think ladies may be hesitant to refuse bookings in case they end up plastered on some message boards in retalliation.
You've really only had two actual letdowns so if its someone you really enjoyed meeting then another try won't hurt.They do say third time lucky afterall :)

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Thanks to everyone for their advice and wisdom.

Sadly, for reasons I can't disclose without being indiscreet, my Friday meet with the lady in question can't go ahead, my choice as much as hers.

I'm now firmly of the opinion it was just a run of bad timings and that 'it wasn't meant to be'.

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