MrChopsy

Won't Cum, Can't Cum !

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Does anyone have the same problem as me or is it because I am special ?

 

I hold off from cumming in the first 10 minutes or so, and then spend the next 50 mins furiously trying to cum to no avail !

 

It must really piss off the ladies, certainly pisses me off.

 

Anyone else have this problem or have any suggestions ?

 

Chops

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Are you taking Viagra? that can delay the pop

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Are you taking Viagra? that can delay the pop

Absolutely not !  Au Naturel...... ;)

 

Maybe I drink too much water during the day ?

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I find 4 pints of stella has the same effect!

 

Remember back in my single days pulling this cracking nurse, went back to her place and spent the night with her, was banging away for hours and just couldn't cum. Saying that, she didn't seem to mind too much...

 

I miss those days *sigh*

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its a common problem so I hear from guys, guys can actually come but have nophysical release so to speak maybe that has happened to you before? xxx kate lll

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 I find  the same problem and end up bringing myself off. (to be honest I find most working girls are far too vigorous at hand jobs).  I suspect it is the condom  that causes the lack of orgasm. 

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It happens.  Don't worry too much about it.  Try and enjoy the ride rather than the destination.  I think it is probably more common than you might imagine and most ladies don't seem too worried about it as long as you still have a good time overall.  The only time I find it a problem is with the Thai girls who tend to look utterly devestated if they fail to make you cum.

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What about spending more time on foreplay and kissing etc and then going for the main event and not holding off?Or perhaps going for shorter bookings?Its quite common for guys to hold off as they either think they won't be allowed a second pop or they don't think they can manage a second time,the holding off then has a the opposite effect and can sometimes make actually coming a problem.

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Absolutely not !  Au Naturel...... ;)

 

Maybe I drink too much water during the day ?

Shouldn't cause a problem.Dehydration however can cause problems

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Does anyone have the same problem as me or is it because I am special ?

 

I hold off from cumming in the first 10 minutes or so, and then spend the next 50 mins furiously trying to cum to no avail !

 

It must really piss off the ladies, certainly pisses me off.

 

Anyone else have this problem or have any suggestions ?

 

Chops

Yes I had that problem initially, and considered it purely psychological. In fact I didn't orgasm at all on my first 3 punts!

The more it doesn't happen for you, the more you think about it and so the cycle continues. Even on punt 4 it didn't look like it was going to happen even though I was having a really great time with a girl I really clicked with. I'd got to the point that I mentioned it to the wg so she didn't think it was her fault. It was a longer punt (2 hrs) so I didn't put myself under even more pressure due to worrying about running out of time. So after while when there was still plenty of time left we were lying there having a chat and a kiss and a cuddle and then the wg just set about me in such a way that I couldn't have held on if I'd tried!! :)

That seemed to do the trick, after that and 3 more punts with her I was off and running, lol.

I've found that for me, longer punts seem to work better, as I'm under no pressure time wise - although I'm ok with hour punts now.

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How about 90 minutes? Get the first one out of the way, spend some time chatting, drinking and getting a massage, then round Two.

Over-thinking and over-controlling are probably putting him off his stride... It's meant to be a joyful release, not an exercise in perfect timing.

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Over-thinking and over-controlling are probably putting him off his stride... It's meant to be a joyful release, not an exercise in perfect timing.

Indeed. I don't think or worry about it any more, I enjoy the time, and whatever happens, happens.

It's very easy to put more pressure on yourself to perform a certain way. It's easy to read reports of guys who cum x number of times and think you have to do the same. For me, the best way is to just go with the flow - which is what I've learned to do the more punts I've had.

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Just relax, dude! A lot of this can be in the head. On the purely mechanical front, I have found that applying chilli gel to head of penis before putting on condom to counteract desensitising effect of condom can help. Keep hydrated, avoid or minimise alcohol (obviously) and caffeine which puts the body into stress response mode - not the best place to be.

However, a lot of the time we put ourselves under unnecessary pressure to perform. I have learned that when things don 't quite go to plan, just change the plan. If you are on a long booking (90 minutes plus), presumably it is because you like the lady, so take so time to build a rapport with her, talking, kissing, get to feel at ease can all help. If that doesn't do it, on the basis that as you are there you might as well make yourself useful, you could consider turning her on, which assuming that events then take their natural course in turn may do the trick for you.

Hope that helps.

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Does anyone have the same problem as me or is it because I am special ?

 

I hold off from cumming in the first 10 minutes or so, and then spend the next 50 mins furiously trying to cum to no avail !

 

It must really piss off the ladies, certainly pisses me off.

 

Anyone else have this problem or have any suggestions ?

 

Chops

My advice is to try to relax and not worry about it, otherwise it could become a self fullfilling prophecy ensuring you cant cum. Take the other good advice on here as well but if nothing improves a visit to a Doctor might be wise in my view. I hope it works itself out.

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I usually cum only once in a meeting, holding off towards the end. There have been a few times I've managed a second pop but its tough.

I would love to have an early pop and then replenish but I'm always afraid of that not happening so I usually last out for a grand finale.

This is almost always via me wanking at the end- condoms just desensitise and its been a long time since I came during a BJ.

I took Viagra for a short while but it makes cumming really difficult.

Try to stay away from it for a few days, drink lots of water and save it until the finale. I'm quite a heavy cummer so really enjoy emptying the tanks at the end

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I hold off from cumming in the first 10 minutes or so, and then spend the next 50 mins furiously trying to cum to no avail !

 

I experienced the same situation  As soon as I started to let it go, the problem disappeared.  If you want to delay orgasm, try techniques that do not involve holding off.  Recently, I have heard that alternating shallow thrusts and deep ones works, but I have yet to try it.  Deep thrusts stimulate you more.

 

For me, quick orgasms are not  a problem, because I can have multiple ones, thus I have not investigated the issue further.

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Yep, I have this problem. For me, I suspect it's partly psychological (finding it extremely difficult to fully relax and turn my brain off, so to speak) and partly the result of far too many years' masturbation in one position with a very vigorous technique... apparently that can 'train' your body to only orgasm one way. Not sure what to do, but have read that holding off from orgasming (word) for around 2 weeks to a month (MUCH easier said than done, of course!) or hypnotherapy can help. For the record, I don't drink or smoke and do plenty of exercise, so it's almost certainly not a health thing.

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have had the problem when not totally relaxed

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Hold on. Rewind. " rubbing chilli gel to the head of the penis"!!!!!!!!!

Better have A@E on speed dial I would think

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Shouldn't cause a problem.Dehydration however can cause problems

It does if all you want to do is piss.....

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What about spending more time on foreplay and kissing etc and then going for the main event and not holding off?Or perhaps going for shorter bookings?Its quite common for guys to hold off as they either think they won't be allowed a second pop or they don't think they can manage a second time,the holding off then has a the opposite effect and can sometimes make actually coming a problem.

Foreplay ? you mean passing over the envelope ?? ;)

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Thanks for the replies guys, I dont want to be a Stud and go for hours as I get really bored !! oh well I think 30 minute appts are best for me.

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Foreplay ? you mean passing over the envelope ?? ;)

Yep and saying 'brace yourself'.

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Yep, I have this problem. For me, I suspect it's partly psychological (finding it extremely difficult to fully relax and turn my brain off, so to speak) and partly the result of far too many years' masturbation in one position with a very vigorous technique... apparently that can 'train' your body to only orgasm one way. Not sure what to do, but have read that holding off from orgasming (word) for around 2 weeks to a month (MUCH easier said than done, of course!) or hypnotherapy can help. For the record, I don't drink or smoke and do plenty of exercise, so it's almost certainly not a health thing.

 

Wankers death grip! I suffer from this too. I usually find the more sex I have, the less of a problem this becomes. Great when I'm in a relationship, not so great when I'm paying for it as I can't afford it very often. But it's not prevented me from having a good time yet.

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This has been my problem for some time now, but I have put it down to my advanced age (they don't call me the oldest swinger in town for nothing.) :D . I am quite pleased to read that others have a similar problem as I thought I was the only one. I find it a bit embarrassing for the Ladies in case they think that it is down to them that I can't cum. I always do my best to assure them that the problem is mine not theirs. I was quite surprised to learn from the correspondence on this subject that viagra can be a problem - I thought it would have helped but, apparently not. Anyway there has been some very interesting posts on this topic which I for one have found very helpful. Any more for any more.!!

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