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After reading one or two threads of late it's got me wondering about the effects of escorts on relationships. Along with the obvious porn, the internet has made accessing escort services and massage parlours considerably easier than say twenty years ago.

 

My last serious, long-term relationship was a decade ago. I don't do one-night stands (or rather, women don't do them with me!) but when I meet a new lady I find myself thinking about how I could be doing naughty things with a hot escort. Ever since I saw my first CIM it's something I've had a thing for, and only a few ladies I've met in normal life have been happy to accommodate.

 

Point is, if porn and escorts were not readily available, would I have, uncorrupted, settled down quite happily with one of these ladies? Sure, in my own personal circumstances the fact that I want kids is a factor and most women my age have had theirs already, yet has the internet and my experiences with escorts had a detrimental effect on my ability to find women in normal life attractive and form long-lasting healthy relationships?

 

Will I have to wait until I'm in my 60's with no sex drive before I can find a companion?

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I'm not going to say an awful lot here and not going to sprout off loads of meaningless advice because I think you know the answers to your own question but I will say one thing.....     What on earth gives you the idea that people in their 60's don't have a sex drive?   Some of the 60+ guys I've been with have had far higher sex drives than their younger counterparts.

 

Your as old as you feel sweets and that's a fact. :)

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I'm not going to say an awful lot here and not going to sprout off loads of meaningless advice because I think you know the answers to your own question but I will say one thing.....     What on earth gives you the idea that people in their 60's don't have a sex drive?   Some of the 60+ guys I've been with have had far higher sex drives than their younger counterparts.

 

Your as old as you feel sweets and that's a fact. :)

 

I'm not going to say an awful lot here and not going to sprout off loads of meaningless advice because I think you know the answers to your own question but I will say one thing.....     What on earth gives you the idea that people in their 60's don't have a sex drive?   Some of the 60+ guys I've been with have had far higher sex drives than their younger counterparts.

 

Your as old as you feel sweets and that's a fact. :)

I'll second that emotion :)

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Disappointment with relationships drove me to seeking the services of escorts. Now I have escorts for sex and friends for companionship, and I couldn't ask for more. There is no going back.  What would a relationship with a woman add?  At best, drama. At worst... please don't make me think about it. No thanks.

 

I would have liked kids, too, but seeing how fathers get treated in court -- some friends of mine went through such ordeal -- I had a selfish thought for myself.  Survival instinct.  Better to die alone than to die alone and broke.

 

Love has different forms. I feel that I have plenty to give, and I won't keep it for myself, that is sure.

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Holly, it's just that I think I'm losing interest now! After being with a lady for a few weeks the intimacy already feels monotonous and, for me, sometimes lacking. I know being down (I've had some work issues) can depress and have an adverse effect on sex drive, but whilst I love the company and meals out etc that a lady can offer but I just don't fancy those I've met. My mind is on two-girl bookings or watching a beauty play with my cum rather than the lady at the time.

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Disappointment with relationships drove me to seeking the services of escorts. Now I have escorts for sex and friends for companionship, and I couldn't ask for more. There is no going back.  What would a relationship with a woman add?  At best, drama. At worst... please don't make me think about it. No thanks.

 

I would have liked kids, too, but seeing how fathers get treated in court -- some friends of mine went through such ordeal -- I had a selfish thought for myself.  Survival instinct.  Better to die alone than to die alone and broke.

 

Love has different forms. I feel that I have plenty to give, and I won't keep it for myself, that is sure.

Now imagine what would you do if you were an escort and disappointed with relationships lol…its even trickier. Luckily though hope lives on. I dont think you can really control it when you do actually fall in love wether you want to be in love or not. It just happens, the only choice  you have is wether to go with it or to ignore it.

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Holly, it's just that I think I'm losing interest now! After being with a lady for a few weeks the intimacy already feels monotonous and, for me, sometimes lacking. I know being down (I've had some work issues) can depress and have an adverse effect on sex drive, but whilst I love the company and meals out etc that a lady can offer but I just don't fancy those I've met. My mind is on two-girl bookings or watching a beauty play with my cum rather than the lady at the time.

You just need an activity friend of the opposite sex…thats what you really need. Its a shame there are not "activity friends" sites similar to dating sites. I have a feeling they would be popular. You know, go out, do things together, bessy mates etc but none of the tangles or stresses that come when you are expected to have sex together. x

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Chloe do you Think that  it is possible for a Wg to fall in love with a customer?

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Chloe do you Think that  it is possible for a Wg to fall in love with a customer?

Yes…we are all just people after all

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You just need an activity friend of the opposite sex…thats what you really need. Its a shame there are not "activity friends" sites similar to dating sites. I have a feeling they would be popular. You know, go out, do things together, bessy mates etc but none of the tangles or stresses that come when you are expected to have sex together. x

I think Plenty of Fish caters for 'activity friends'.

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I think Plenty of Fish caters for 'activity friends'.

Nooooo that site is horrific

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Nooooo that site is horrific

Funny you should say that; I got my account closed just when I was getting close to meeting a woman.  We were both married and looking for something a bit more exciting than mere friendship and I can only assume that was the problem.  I'm curious to know your experience of it, Chloe, and why you say it's horrific.

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Funny you should say that; I got my account closed just when I was getting close to meeting a woman. We were both married and looking for something a bit more exciting than mere friendship and I can only assume that was the problem. I'm curious to know your experience of it, Chloe, and why you say it's horrific.


People put pictures if themselves on their profiles that are 15 years old,,, they lie and say they are single when really married, it's bullshit capital. Sorry, I thought everyone knew. There was even a site dedicated to making fun if it at one point. You can't believe a word anyone says on there lol...several dates showed me the error of pof x
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Now imagine what would you do if you were an escort and disappointed with relationships lol…its even trickier. Luckily though hope lives on. I dont think you can really control it when you do actually fall in love wether you want to be in love or not. It just happens, the only choice  you have is wether to go with it or to ignore it.

 

Never say "never again"? I would love to talk like James Bond but I lack his style, I am afraid. Anyway, I know that. But I know as well that things are much less likely to happen if you take lots of measures against them happening.

 

Nooooo that site is horrific

 

It is.  And crude, too. Yet it is where the plenty of fish is.  Some websites thrive because of the community beyond them, not because they offer outstanding value by themselves.

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Isn't it funny how people have different experiences in life?  I met my current partner through POF.  He never lied, neither did I and he's bloody lovely, in fact I met a few nice guys off there and know loads of SP's are on there (oops should I have said that :unsure:).!!! :)

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You just need an activity friend of the opposite sex…thats what you really need. Its a shame there are not "activity friends" sites similar to dating sites. I have a feeling they would be popular. You know, go out, do things together, bessy mates etc but none of the tangles or stresses that come when you are expected to have sex together. x

 

Plentyoffish has a variety of options you can tick, including those who are merely seeking casual fun.

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Still an old romantic at heart...love on the Orient Express and all that...ohhhhh, our eyes met across the carraige, she smiled and i could sense that she was thinking what i had been thinking myself a few brief seconds ago...

A little Mills and Boon perhaps...

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Holly, it's just that I think I'm losing interest now! After being with a lady for a few weeks the intimacy already feels monotonous and, for me, sometimes lacking. I know being down (I've had some work issues) can depress and have an adverse effect on sex drive, but whilst I love the company and meals out etc that a lady can offer but I just don't fancy those I've met. My mind is on two-girl bookings or watching a beauty play with my cum rather than the lady at the time.

This is a real side effect of the ready access we have to porn and actual sex through the internet. 20 years ago a picture of a naked woman would excite me greatly. These days, such images are used to promote toilet rolls !!! Many male minds get immunized to stimulation through steady exposure and need to seek out stronger stuff and as they do, more immunization occurs.

Unfortunately for us, there is really only one cure. Abstention from porn and a hard decision about the frequency we see escorts. I am currently seeing a lovely lady my own age (early 50s) who is into all sorts of exciting sexual practices and I am therefore taking a break from porn and WGs to enjoy the relationship. Like minded partners can be found (even on PoF lol, although it is bloody hard work) but for many of us, the ease of a mouse click and cashpoint withdrawal are preferable. Nothing wrong with that, but it can mean missing out out on some other aspects of relationships.

Life is a bloody compromise. Perfection is unattainable. What is certain is that it's too fucking short for regrets. If you want a regular RL partner, then go balls out to do so and best of luck. But if the women you meet aren't floating your boat, then don't agonise over the odd punt. Very few people lie on their deathbed and think "I wish I had had less sex".

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Plentyoffish has a variety of options you can tick, including those who are merely seeking casual fun.

 

But you can't look for people of both sexes, thus it is skewed towards relationships (but not if you are  bisexual).  OKCupid is better, in this regard.

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You're spot on Kantos, and thanks for bringing things back on topic btw...hope you and your lady friend work out. You're lucky to find a lady who's open to - and even enjoys - exciting sex.

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. Very few people lie on their deathbed and think "I wish I had had less sex".

You're right Ken ,going by this, it's not of so much much importance either way at the end:

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/01/top-five-regrets-of-the-dying

It's good to experience during your life though, it gets rid of a lot of angst. It takes you clean out if yourself, sometimes.

OP your thread has now been recommended on the last post of the top thread of another well known punting website. It just goes to show how influential this forum is !

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Disappointment with relationships drove me to seeking the services of escorts. Now I have escorts for sex and friends for companionship, and I couldn't ask for more. There is no going back.  What would a relationship with a woman add?  At best, drama. At worst... please don't make me think about it. No thanks.

 

I would have liked kids, too, but seeing how fathers get treated in court -- some friends of mine went through such ordeal -- I had a selfish thought for myself.  Survival instinct.  Better to die alone than to die alone and broke.

 

Love has different forms. I feel that I have plenty to give, and I won't keep it for myself, that is sure.

 

I share the same ethos about escorts and friends. After getting divorced I started to slide into the trap of seeking out a new partner but unfortunately most ladies I met were either looking for a new father for their kids,  a breadwinner or had 'desperate' stamped on their forehead.

 

Looking back I'm glad I chose the route I did.  I have some nice friends for companionship but  I'm sure some of them think I'm either impotent or closet gay.

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Plentyoffish has a variety of options you can tick, including those who are merely seeking casual fun.

Plenty of the fishes dont stick to that though. Everyone of the ones supposedly looking for serious long term were married and after a bit of away from home sex. It becomes apparent when they do anything to avoid going back to their place. I got caught out once, with the first bloke…after that I never heard from him again. I decided that I wasnt going to put out till it was in their bedroom instead of mine…needless to say I never got past the second date…once they realised my bedroom was not an option they were alway for some reason reluctant to take me back to their place….married!!!

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the social site www.meetup.com might be better for pure friend finding - many are just looking for people to hang out with at the pub...

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After reading one or two threads of late it's got me wondering about the effects of escorts on relationships. Along with the obvious porn, the internet has made accessing escort services and massage parlours considerably easier than say twenty years ago.

 

My last serious, long-term relationship was a decade ago. I don't do one-night stands (or rather, women don't do them with me!) but when I meet a new lady I find myself thinking about how I could be doing naughty things with a hot escort. Ever since I saw my first CIM it's something I've had a thing for, and only a few ladies I've met in normal life have been happy to accommodate.

 

Point is, if porn and escorts were not readily available, would I have, uncorrupted, settled down quite happily with one of these ladies? Sure, in my own personal circumstances the fact that I want kids is a factor and most women my age have had theirs already, yet has the internet and my experiences with escorts had a detrimental effect on my ability to find women in normal life attractive and form long-lasting healthy relationships?

 

Will I have to wait until I'm in my 60's with no sex drive before I can find a companion?

 

You've touched on something that I think will prove to be one of the major trends of the 21st century. Put simply, people will evolve not to have relationships. It is already happening in Japan where a third of everyone under 30 have never dated anyone.

There are many factors and porn and escorts are two of them.

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