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Helping Inexperienced Middle-Aged Gents To Expand Their Sexual Horizons

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I'm a middle-aged gent and I started punting late last year. I've had a few tantric massages and I've seen four working girls so far.

 

My prior sexual experience is very limited as I had very few partners in my youth and I've had only one partner - my wife - for about  30 years. Unfortunately but as I am sure not uncommonly, our sex life has faded over the years, and in fact we've not had sex for almost two years due to her poor health.

 

I've realised when arranging and during a punt that I'm rather stuck for words when asked what I'd like to do. In fact I'm a bit embarrassed. I have little idea beyond the 2-3 most common positions. I've been depending on the working girl taking a lead and that has felt rather awkward. So far each session has been enjoyable but has also been very vanilla, more like reliving my early years of marriage rather than a whole new ballpark with new experiences added. I'm sure I am only scratching the surface of what is possible in a great punt.

 

I'm wondering if any other gents have a story a bit like this? And if so, how they expanded their sexual horizons into new exciting and enjoyable activities?

 

For example, would it be acceptable to explain this 'dilemma' to a working girl and ask them to take an even stronger led and suggest more novel activities that they know are popular with othe gents?

 

Or would it be better to do more 'research' myself? I'm not sure how best to do that as I've not watched a great deal of porn and I don't want to plough through a load more random stuff hoping that something particularly appealing emerges. I realise that so much of it is acted and quite artificial and may often be unpleasant or even degrading for the lady, which is certainly not my scene.

 

Or perhaps there are working girls in London who are familiar with inexperienced older clients like me and would be happy to help out?

 

Your thoughts would be appreciated thanks.

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Sounds to me like you need to find a lady who is more willing to take the lead.  I don't know what sort of women you have been going for up to now but, in my experience, it is the more mature (30+) women who seem more comfortable doing that.  Also, I find it is often easier to communicate what you want with a British WG.  Someone like Poshenglishtart, Angie George or perhaps Amica Bentley (I have seen the first two but not the last) would be more than willing to teach an old dog a new trick or two.

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I'm a middle-aged gent and I started punting late last year. I've had a few tantric massages and I've seen four working girls so far.

 

My prior sexual experience is very limited as I had very few partners in my youth and I've had only one partner - my wife - for about  30 years. Unfortunately but as I am sure not uncommonly, our sex life has faded over the years, and in fact we've not had sex for almost two years due to her poor health.

 

I've realised when arranging and during a punt that I'm rather stuck for words when asked what I'd like to do. In fact I'm a bit embarrassed. I have little idea beyond the 2-3 most common positions. I've been depending on the working girl taking a lead and that has felt rather awkward. So far each session has been enjoyable but has also been very vanilla, more like reliving my early years of marriage rather than a whole new ballpark with new experiences added. I'm sure I am only scratching the surface of what is possible in a great punt.

 

I'm wondering if any other gents have a story a bit like this? And if so, how they expanded their sexual horizons into new exciting and enjoyable activities?

 

For example, would it be acceptable to explain this 'dilemma' to a working girl and ask them to take an even stronger led and suggest more novel activities that they know are popular with othe gents?

 

Or would it be better to do more 'research' myself? I'm not sure how best to do that as I've not watched a great deal of porn and I don't want to plough through a load more random stuff hoping that something particularly appealing emerges. I realise that so much of it is acted and quite artificial and may often be unpleasant or even degrading for the lady, which is certainly not my scene.

 

Or perhaps there are working girls in London who are familiar with inexperienced older clients like me and would be happy to help out?

 

Your thoughts would be appreciated thanks.

I am sure that there are and I hope that they will come forward on this thread, or maybe PM you with their details. I seem to remember that Dolly Mopp has a good reputation with less experienced guys. She has a profile on here

 

Good luck in finding the right lady for your needs.

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I find that most of the girls I see are very willing to take the lead.

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I would just tell her up front (in your booking call / email / text) that you'd like her to take the lead and try some new positions as well.  I think most WG's would appreciate what you're after and try to make sure you have a good time and try a few new things at the same time. 

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Lots of good advice on this thread, Happyflier. The only thing I'd take you up on is when you say "I'm not sure how best to do that as I've not watched a great deal of porn and I don't want to plough through a load more random stuff hoping that something particularly appealing emerges." Are you sure you'd necessarily find what you're looking for there? Or are you perhaps imagining a sexual wonderland you've never been introduced to, the details of which have been kept from you? Most of us, really, go through the same old motions - though some working girls go through those motions one hell of a lot better than others (and than other women we may have had congress with), and then it really does seem "new heaven, new earth".

I'm pretty vanilla myself, but have occasionally branched out - but simply out of a specific curiosity of my own. Tie and tease, for example, is great fun - even for those of us who are repelled by the bondage scene. And once I drank a wg's pee as she weed all over me. In this case, though, it was a girl I'd already seen several times, and with whom I wanted to go what was for me that extra step further. You might want to try anal - but for that you need a genuinely willing participant. And then there's a two-girl, of course - definitely worth trying once, to see if it's for you, and it's a fantasy probably all of us have had.

After which...well, I dunno, perhaps I'm missing out too, but is there an awful lot I've missed out? We bring our pricks, our tongues and our fingers with us. They bring three orifices and some nice squeezy bits. There's only a certain number of variations in all that.

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I suppose it depends what you like but yes do the research and communication is a huge thing.  Ask her what you want.  She will only say yes or no.  Its your money so make sure you get the best experience you can.  There are plenty of experienced ladies out there that will take  the lead.  As perhaps suggested go for 30 plus although some twenty something girls aren't lacking in the experience category.  I find the younger generation more happy to talk about sex than when I was a late teen/ twenty year old. 

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Well, sir,

Almost every WG I have met would probably be entirely comfortable with what you want.

I started at 63 years of age and am about to reach 66.

I have swapped messages with the famous DollyMopp but have a cat allergy, so have not met her.

Angie George and Amica Bentley I have met and both are great. Angie is cheapest through Adultwork and Amica through Maxes Angels.

While on the former porn start front: Misty McCaine (another one best booked through AW) is very understanding.

Younger ladies such as -Bombshell- (also on AW) and

Valery http://www.cherrygirls.co.uk/london-escort/valery-1840 are very comfortable with older gentlemen.

If you want to try a little more spice in your experience, then Sadie-Strumpet (also AW) would just love to take the lead. Massaging your prostate is a speciality of hers.

Russian ladies who speak great English include:

http://roxxy.co.uk/pages/

http://www.cherrygirls.co.uk/london-escort/ilona-835

Put the two together for a duo if you wish go that way, or combine Roxxy with Angie George, like I have, twice.

You could also, on selected dates, combine Misty McCaine with Foxy Love for £400 per hour, if you book through Misty.

http://www.sugarbabesinternational.com/female-escorts/foxy.

Just some ideas..

C

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I think not watching too much porn could possibly be an advantage to the OP because he won't have unrealistic expectations of any meets with his chosen ladies like those that have been watching some of the more extreme stuff tend to. I'd be tempted to say find an experienced regular that you can get to know and push those boundaries together with, but word of warning. Remember the lady your having fun with is doing a job nothing more so be careful that you don't get attached or read too much into it if she is good at that job and taking you places you have never been before or even knew existed.

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You may think it is too big a jump at this stage, but going to a party such as LMP could open your eyes to a few realistic and consensual possibilities.

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It's actually a very common request, I find.

 

It's good if you can do a little bit of research and have some suggestions, but provided a lady is forewarned, many will be able to propose new activities and adventures. The key is to find someone you're comfortable with -- it simply won't work if you can't be open and forthright. 

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Thank you all for your kind and helpful advice.

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It's certainly worth "investing" the time with one particular girl, if you find someone you feel you click with. Even this very afternoon I had what sounds like a very nice chap ask me about (what he felt might be) his shortcomings , pardon pun ... but I hopefully reassured him with some gentle encouragement ;-)

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OP my advice would be to let the lady know  you want to experiment a little but nothing painful or humiliating, I wouldnt let her know though that you are fairly new to punting as there are some out there who will take advantage of that and give you a pity poor service thinking you dont know there is better out there. Just say you want to try a tie n tease, a bit of role play (secretary, nurse, estate agent etc) or a shared bath or shower, different positions etc. Let her take the lead but give her a vague idea of in which direction you wish to be lead x

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I think not watching too much porn could possibly be an advantage to the OP because he won't have unrealistic expectations of any meets with his chosen ladies like those that have been watching some of the more extreme stuff tend to. I'd be tempted to say find an experienced regular that you can get to know and push those boundaries together with, but word of warning. Remember the lady your having fun with is doing a job nothing more so be careful that you don't get attached or read too much into it if she is good at that job and taking you places you have never been before or even knew existed.

Have to agree with pretty much all of this.I may add to the unrealistic expectations part,it'll put less pressure on yourself as well.You see those scenes,or read that feedback about swinging by your toes from the rafters whilst the lady entangles herself on you and decide,its not punting unless you do that.You'll just end up putting yourself under so much stress and pressure because you just have to do that or you're being "boring" that it'll end up ruining any enjoyment you could be having.

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Important tip…dont cock slap a girl on the face unless she asks you too or cockslaps herself with yours  ;)

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Important tip…dont cock slap a girl on the face unless she asks you too or cockslaps herself with yours  ;)

Or, heaven forbid, "she" whips her own member out and starts slapping you round the cheeks with it :D.

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Or, heaven forbid, "she" whips her own member out and starts slapping you round the cheeks with it :D.

Oh my I would love to bd the lucky fly on the wall if that happened :-o xx

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Oh my I would love to bd the lucky fly on the wall if that happened :-o xx

Ha Chloe come round here hun....lol You'd see that most nights of the week.

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Ha Chloe come round here hun....lol You'd see that most nights of the week.

Is this a spectator sport?or can we all join in? :o

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My main problem is ensuring I avoid slapping myself on the face with it

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Is this a spectator sport?or can we all join in? :o

And i was certain that cock fighting was banned

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Doing it in the dark with bright coloured condoms...seen that in a comedy somewhere lol

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My main problem is ensuring I avoid slapping myself on the face with it

:D :D :D :D

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