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Question About Personal Info

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When does the practice of discretion suddenly turn into a lie?

 

Seriously - does anyone expect the lady to use her real name... tell you if she is married or not...  how many children she has... where she lives..  what her other job is (if she has another one).. if she pays tax..  if she uses persil or daz...........

 

When I see people more than once or twice, I usually tell them my real name, and I might mention one or two other things in general conversation, but that is down to choice.  I do not see why I should have to tell you anything about my real life.  That is my business.

 

I have had the 'do you pay tax' question asked several times, and I have also been asked  (in the past) if my children are in care.  One wonders where to draw the line.

 

Do punters really want to know what day of the week I change my knickers, or is it just a small minority who are pathologically nosy and therefore tag us all with the label 'liar' when we don't give them the answer they want?

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I just simply go with the flow and takes the lady's lead in this respect. If she seems like she wants to chat about things vaguely personal then ok but I would never initiate this and tbh reveal little of my personal circumstances other than my first name and I wear a wedding ring anyway. If the convo got really detailed I'd probably try to leave it there

I sympathise, nosy punters must be a real pain in the butt. Very bad form

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I would guess small minority.  I think most people realise that discretion is very important in this business and you obviously have to be careful to protect yourself as a WG as well because there are some real psychos out there from what I have read so far (and people can switch even after you met them once or twice).  Obviously it is fun to chat a bit about what's going on in each other's lives but I typically like to stick to the less mundane topics.  There are a lot more interesting things going on and to talk about than day-to-day life (or work) which could give away more than you want each other to know.

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Punters must be stupid if they think a girl is going to give out private info. Would they be willing to do the same.

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I think it is correct etiquette to punctuate a sentence beginning "Are your children in care" with a slap to the face. As for the rest, invent and lie to your heart's desire, no one really gives a stuff. And the ones that do should not be given the truth anyway.

When asked why I am visiting London, I say I have taken the day off work and am visiting a museum. When asked my work, I say I work in an office! Am I married? Yes! Do my kids know I punt, slap in the face! Simples. 

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I go with the flow and deliberately avoid asking personal questions.

However as I mostly make return visits to good wg's I find, the amount of personal information they give out can be quite scary. More than enough to cause them serious problems in the wrong hands.

I'd rather not know personal info at all.

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A huge part of the enjoyment of a good punt for me is the conversation with the girl I'm with. Beforehand it tends to be a little getting to know you routine, hopefully moving quickly towards some naughty talk about what we're about to do, building the anticipation. Afterwards it's nice to spend a few minutes lying there and seeing where the conversation goes.

 

I'm happy to talk about my life in general terms and the girl's, but would never press her for personal information.

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@ Sarah Summers This works both ways.  Punters shouldn't be asking the girls personal questions.  Also the girls shouldn't be asking the punters personal questions!

 

Topics like what you like to do for fun or your favourite food etc. are safer topics and don't have anything linked to specifically 'identify' you. 

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I have a separate punting persona who had a real job, which was what I did in real life, since I know a bit about it. I talk about some of my hobbies but am deliberately vague about my location.

 

I try to ask open ended questions which can be answered in as much or little detail as the lady wishes

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When does the practice of discretion suddenly turn into a lie? Seriously - does anyone expect the lady to use her real name... tell you if she is married or not...  how many children she has... where she lives..  what her other job is (if she has another one).. if she pays tax..  if she uses persil or daz........... When I see people more than once or twice, I usually tell them my real name, and I might mention one or two other things in general conversation, but that is down to choice.  I do not see why I should have to tell you anything about my real life.  That is my business. I have had the 'do you pay tax' question asked several times, and I have also been asked  (in the past) if my children are in care.  One wonders where to draw the line. Do punters really want to know what day of the week I change my knickers, or is it just a small minority who are pathologically nosy and therefore tag us all with the label 'liar' when we don't give them the answer they want?

You are damned if you do and damned if you don't here Sarah. Tell the punters the whole truth and in 5 mins you would have stalkers or outers up the yinyang. Tell them a cover story and you are a "lying WG". Best not to worry about it. You will have worked out what modus operandi suits you best and I would advise you to stick to it. Any punter who gets a bit shirty about a few white lies to protect the innocent has issues imho. Everyone lies in this game, it's only the extent that varies. It's half the fun.

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When you have been seeing a reg lady for a number of years its hard not to want to know her name and a bit more about her.  I can understand security is the main issue and having met a few ladies that have confessed to having the odd stalker or two  this must be unsettling. Look when I first saw an escort I thought she was an alien.  Surely she must have 3 or 4 body guards, etc. and wanted to know more because I couldn't believe a lady that looked so natural and pleasant would be doing this job.  I think if I was doing the job I would be very guarded so can totally understand.  I would never divulge personal details with another if they have been provided in confidence but that's me and I trust me.

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"Are your kids in care?"

Yessss all 23 of them ☺️

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"Are your kids in care?"

Yessss all 23 of them ☺️

"Are your kids in care?"

Are your balls hurting you? No? They soon will if your not out that door as soon as!!!!

Why would anybody ask a question like that?

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The way i've seen it put on the sites etc.If youre a punter and you give out false details you are being sensible and careful.If you're femail and do the same its proof that all "WGs" and in some cases women in general are liars and not to be trusted at all.
For me personally,if someone asks me a question,ie what i do for a living etc i give an honest answer as im definately not worth stalking :) If someone wants to blackmail me they'd have to lend me the money first.Seriously though,i personally prefer to trust until someone gives me a reason not to,and being single,and this not being illegal and me having a terrible short term emeory,a backstory is too much like hard work

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I have seen a couple of wg's that have told me things, about their personal life which is surprisingly similar.One lady said something to me after I had seen her 3 times and the other one after sex on the first meeting.I thought after those meetings that "are they telling the truth"? Or are they attention seeking? I suppose I will have to get them on Jeremy Kyle and give them a lie detector test.Haha.I was not expecting anyone to give me any information, whatsoever on my punts, so it was a bit of a shock to me.

I personally think it's best to keep things light and happy...oh and talking about sp's being married, I recently punted with a lady who had a massive engagement diamond and wedding ring on her finger.That felt a bit weird.

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Maybe they are a little short on social skills, so struggle to remember to talk about topics that people would find safe.  Unless the punter was a complete weirdo I imagine in his head he was thinking "Why the fuck did I ask that?".  Asking if you pay tax, or if your kids are in care just seem so out there and bizarre that it sounds like they are so nervous that they find themselves unable to think straight and just blurt out anything for the sake of saying something.

 

I have nothing to hide, and am quite an open and honest person so would find it difficult to lie, but, I think knowing too much about each other would cause me concern.  It's not a "date", so I feel there should be boundaries in place to protect both parties.  I always use my own name, but then I'd find it a little weird if someone was to call me by a different name, but as the woman takes on her adopted persona, it's up to her if she wants to use a different name to separate her work and personal life.

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"Are your kids in care?"

Are your balls hurting you? No? They soon will if your not out that door as soon as!!!!

Why would anybody ask a question like that?

"are your kids in care?"

 

"no are yours? ahhh bless, are you married to one of those  crackhead people?"

 

shame, ill have to use a condom for oral 

 

:cool:

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"are your kids in care ?"

 

"yeah but I have a new one in my belly now thanks to you (let out evil cackle whilst patting tummy)"

 

 

:D

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I know one girl who didnt give out personal information but didnt lie either. When a client asked her a personal question she just looked them dead in the eye, stopped smiling and said "sorry thats personal I dont discuss that with strangers" haha no lies, no subterfuge I can only assume that some guys would prefer that. 

 

Me I just yap away, no details I give could trace or identify me or my family so it doesnt matter. If someone wants to tell me lies about their life then its their loss really not mine, they are wrapping themselves in falsehoods so cannot then complain later if they feel their experiences feel somewhat fake or unreal as they are the ones who are making it that way not me x

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I think people take this lark to seriously...yes you have to be a little careful and yes there are wierdo's out there but.............

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I think people take this lark to seriously...yes you have to be a little careful and yes there are wierdo's out there but.............

but…99.99% of punters and escorts are not going to run off and google each other after the booking. Unfortunatley its the 1% who give us all suspicions and bad names…as usual x

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but…99.99% of punters and escorts are not going to run off and google each other after the booking. Unfortunatley its the 1% who give us all suspicions and bad names…as usual x

By my arithmetic I think you mean 0.01%

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@ Sarah Summers This works both ways.  Punters shouldn't be asking the girls personal questions.  Also the girls shouldn't be asking the punters personal questions!

 

Topics like what you like to do for fun or your favourite food etc. are safer topics and don't have anything linked to specifically 'identify' you. 

Agree.,  It's an equal playing field.  Not very often that you hear statements like 'lying punters' though is it?

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You are damned if you do and damned if you don't here Sarah. Tell the punters the whole truth and in 5 mins you would have stalkers or outers up the yinyang. Tell them a cover story and you are a "lying WG". Best not to worry about it. You will have worked out what modus operandi suits you best and I would advise you to stick to it. Any punter who gets a bit shirty about a few white lies to protect the innocent has issues imho. Everyone lies in this game, it's only the extent that varies. It's half the fun.

Exactly, so why should the humble prostitute get the slagging off for simply covering her own arse so to speak.

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"Are your kids in care?"

Are your balls hurting you? No? They soon will if your not out that door as soon as!!!!

Why would anybody ask a question like that?

I was with a guy in an hotel when he asked this question.  I was wearing smart clothes and lovely undies.  My hair was impeccable, and I speak nicely.  It would not have mattered if he had brought me in out of the street - he had an ingrained opinion that I was a dirty prostitute.  How do you remove those taboos when there are people constantly bashing  the' dirty lying prozzie' drum taking what we do back by centuries.

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