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I have seen a few threads on how (un)hygienic ect "fingering" is, but I for one really enjoy it as I see it as part of foreplay.

However it seems more and more ladies don't seem to offer the service.

(I have very well maintained hands btw)

Although this seems to be a niche - I never see it listed as a service, and it's hit and miss as to whether the lady will let you.

Am I missing a secret code word in their likes list or is it SO dependant on the chaps hand hygiene ladies don't want to risk the "it says on your profile" arguments?

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I have a feeling its also to do with feeling uncomfortable. A penis is well shaped to slide into the pussy without poking into the walls at an angle. Also unless very well lubed they can drag the outer lips inwards. And then trying to insert more fingers could hurt especially if the pussy is not feeling aroused. Then there is the thrusting which could be done at a much faster rate than fucking with a penis. Also the attempt to rub the G spot for causing a squirting orgasm could feel unconfortable if you are not up for it.

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I have a feeling its also to do with feeling uncomfortable. A penis is well shaped to slide into the pussy without poking into the walls at an angle. Also unless very well lubed they can drag the outer lips inwards. And then trying to insert more fingers could hurt especially if the pussy is not feeling aroused. Then there is the thrusting which could be done at a much faster rate than fucking with a penis. Also the attempt to rub the G spot for causing a squirting orgasm could feel unconfortable if you are not up for it.

I can completely understand the reasons why not too, even without them it's entirely up to the lady at the time anyway, but I was also interested in finding out if there was a 'service ' listing I'm missing like DATY or CIM so I can look out for ladies who are more open to it.

Or Is it a cross contamination thing, I once had a lady who would insisted changing the condom if I touched it with my hand incase I had precum on my fingers (this was after giving me anti-bac gel for my hands)

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I think fingering isn't as fashionable, you hardly see it (as often) in porn anymore I think. 

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I allow it as I love it so long as it's smooth nails and clean fingers but honestly it never occurred to me that it should be advertised as a service x

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I thought this was about webcams and suchlike...;-)

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I allow it as I love it so long as it's smooth nails and clean fingers but honestly it never occurred to me that it should be advertised as a service x

As far as I can tell there's a lot of reports saying "no fingers :-("

So there must be more than just me who find it a big part of a punt.

I only know of one parlour that actually has it as a service on their profiles, and it was what made me try the ladies there from my normal punting haunts.

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How odd. Is one of my favourite things!

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I love to finger a lady however I am an office boy so my hands are nice and clean and nails are cut well.  Small hands I'm afraid but a big  heart!!!  I guess if I had a dirty mechanics sausage fingers I wouldn't be too keen if I were a wg!!

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i think you have to have nice clean hands, no rough nails or rough bits.  I always keep my nails well short, but its a bugger cos they grow so fast.

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I think it is just part of the GFE - it comes at a late stage in the foreplay well after kissing and caressing. It should be external until the girl is wet and then one digit first. But I don't really have to tell you all this do I? You should have been doing this when making love to your wife! 

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I think it is just part of the GFE - it comes at a late stage in the foreplay well after kissing and caressing. It should be external until the girl is wet and then one digit first. But I don't really have to tell you all this do I? You should have been doing this when making love to your wife!

I tried for 25 years to insert a digit into my beloved wife, simply did not want anything apart from my penis inserted there.

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How odd. Is one of my favourite things!

ooer lyds, maybe we should update profiles lol x

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I like it too.There isn't an option for it on A.W which is strange but there is an option for it on P.N directory adverts and of course us ladies can put it on our own websites.I wouldn't say its unfashionable most guys seem to like to do it...some are hesitant though and I did wonder why.Maybe its a rarer service than I thought?

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I like it too.There isn't an option for it on A.W which is strange but there is an option for it on P.N directory adverts and of course us ladies can put it on our own websites.I wouldn't say its unfashionable most guys seem to like to do it...some are hesitant though and I did wonder why.Maybe its a rarer service than I thought?

There are quite a lot of ladies that don't allow it at all,so maybe the guys dont want to be seen as pushing things.Others could just be worried about hurting the lady or causing damage

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I wish there was an option on AW for it. Quite a few ladies do not allow it mostly because they had bad experiences in the past with some clients (imo). Exactly like you said - it's a bit awkward to just ask during the session because you don't want to seem pushy and spoil the mood so I'm also hesitant if I don't know although I generally ask beforehand these days. Agree it's a nice progression during RO once warmed up assuming you have clean hands and cut nails of course.

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Thought this was about playing games on my phone.... ;-)

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I've found it quite common for this not to be allowed. Shame as it really adds to the experience for me. On my last punt the girl was really going for it on my fingers. I usually let a finger wander there gently without inserting and ask if she's ok with fingers and then act accordingly. I'd say probably 60/40 no vs yes. I can understand it really, the lady isn't to know what you're going to be like finger wise

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Yes, it's very unpredictable. Obviously, the state of your nails will count for something, and if you already seem a rough lover the girl will probably pre-emptively block your fingers going inside. But some just don't want it. Equally, others very much do.

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I allow it as I love it so long as it's smooth nails and clean fingers but honestly it never occurred to me that it should be advertised as a service x

 

 

I Love it too, but like Chloe it never occurred to me to advertise it as a service.  I just thought most ladies allow it to be honest.

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One wg I saw specifically mentioned that she didn't like it in her profile, which was fair enough.

My favourite punt to date involved fingering while giving her oral. I came up for air for a kiss after which my head was immediately pushed back between her legs. While giving her oral I inserted one finger gently, just in time to feel the contractions as she came - doesn't happen very often with me! Her face and neck was all flushed and she actually apologised for laying their doing nothing while I had been pleasuring her - which was not at all necessary! Oh my word was I well rewarded after that :)

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One wg I saw specifically mentioned that she didn't like it in her profile, which was fair enough.

My favourite punt to date involved fingering while giving her oral. I came up for air for a kiss after which my head was immediately pushed back between her legs. While giving her oral I inserted one finger gently, just in time to feel the contractions as she came - doesn't happen very often with me! Her face and neck was all flushed and she actually apologised for laying their doing nothing while I had been pleasuring her - which was not at all necessary! Oh my word was I well rewarded after that :)

 

Yes, I've had that sort of thing too. And one, I remember, got so carried away as she was frigging herself she begged me to put a finger in as well. Happy days!

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ooer lyds, maybe we should update profiles lol x

 

I like it too.There isn't an option for it on A.W which is strange but there is an option for it on P.N directory adverts and of course us ladies can put it on our own websites.I wouldn't say its unfashionable most guys seem to like to do it...some are hesitant though and I did wonder why.Maybe its a rarer service than I thought?

 

I Love it too, but like Chloe it never occurred to me to advertise it as a service.  I just thought most ladies allow it to be honest.

 

Hmmm, so the chaps seem to think it's rare to be allowed and us women enjoy it and assume it's something everyone does! I'd say that we should push this service!

*goes to write a blog* 

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A few years ago someone on Punternet kindly posted a link to an "instructional" video. 2 American lady porn stars showing us guys how to finger a lady while giving oral! It was very erotic and very informative. Exact location of G-spot and  the fact that digital down pressure  opposite the G-spot does the trick also. I have put this info to good use. In particular with 2 massage only ladies. They do not do Full Service but they do do massage and happy ending. They give me massage and I return the favour with oral + fingers. This normally turns into several back arching! orgasms for them which they rate higher in quality than penetrative sex with boyfriend. Short finger nails and very clean hands scrubbed in the shower beforehand are essential.

Unfortunately none of my FS ladies are interested but I can fully understand why.

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There are quite a lot of ladies that don't allow it at all,so maybe the guys dont want to be seen as pushing things.Others could just be worried about hurting the lady or causing damage

I never knew alot of girls didn't offer it as a service most of the ladies I know do it.You learn something new everyday!

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