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First Time To Independent Girl

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I've done quite a lot of 'research' over past few days and there is a reasonable chance my next visit to a working girl will be to an 'indy'. I've found some good priced ones with lots of decent reviews. Thinking about it, I reckon I would prefer the atmosphere of just meeting a girl at her place and getting down to it rather than the 10-15 min wait in a parlour like at Sandy's before. And it seems that there is a bit more 'flexibility' in time if you get on with the right girl too. There aren't other punters or working girls in close proximity either.

 

So like I've said, I've done quite a lot of research. Any tips for a 'first time' to an independent girl? :)

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Yes. Be clean, polite, friendly and turn up on time with your "gift" in an unsealed envelope.  Act naturally and enjoy yourself. Make the appointment, phone to confirm (if required) and get there on time.

 

Otherwise have fun! 

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Yes. Be clean, polite, friendly and turn up on time with your "gift" in an unsealed envelope.  Act naturally and enjoy yourself. Make the appointment, phone to confirm (if required) and get there on time.

 

Otherwise have fun!

Do wg's actually like the "gift" in an envelope ,I've always just handed it over less the envelope.

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Yes. Make sure you are absolutely certain you wont chicken out once there. Nothing as annoying as getting all dressed up for someone only for them to break out in a sudden sweat then make a break for the front door throwing apologies over their shoulder especially when a girl has turned another guy away for your booking.

 

The envelope is a nice touch but not essential, although other girls may disagree, its not like the envelope adds value to the notes within, its just a pleasantry  x

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You've done the research, good feedback, so just enjoy

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Yes. Make sure you are absolutely certain you wont chicken out once there. Nothing as annoying as getting all dressed up for someone only for them to break out in a sudden sweat then make a break for the front door throwing apologies over their shoulder especially when a girl has turned another guy away for your booking.

The envelope is a nice touch but not essential, although other girls may disagree, its not like the envelope adds value to the notes within, its just a pleasantry x

I've never contemplated an envelope?

If anything I would think it raises the awkwardness of the Lady having to check it. Fold 6 loose 20's and the can be checked with the briefest of shuffles.

Re: the envelope - any particular kind - I'm thinking the Manilla A4 (with window) from the office might look out of place?

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Some WGs specify on their site that they want in an envelope. Otherwise, I don't bother, mainly out of absent-mindedness. I tend to leave it clearly on display and they can then do what they like with it.

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Thanks for replies :) I guess it's all 'common sense' really. None of the ones I've researched have wanted an envelope so I'd just hand them the cash. I'd never 'chicken out' once I'd decided to do it- ideally I want to have a 'service provider' I can see again so will be nice :)

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Takes a while for my replies to get verified... have had another thought.

 

I like the idea more of an 'independent' girl than one in the parlour really. I mean the parlour takes quite a bit cut of the money. If I just had to pay what I paid to my last girl (and a bit more for the 'room') I would definitely do it with no more research needed. And with the indepedent girl she's more in control, and it's a bit more 'natural' setting. Before I go I will do thorough preperation and another review after it's done- have done a review for my last provider which should be up soon.

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There is a certain type of girl that likes the envelopes. Then there are others who find it amusing or a nuisance.

 

There are indys who are so relaxed that they take the money afterwards and at least one who forgot all about it until reminded.

 

Generally the whole indy experience is more relaxed and free from hidden pressures.

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Takes a while for my replies to get verified... have had another thought.

 

I like the idea more of an 'independent' girl than one in the parlour really. I mean the parlour takes quite a bit cut of the money. If I just had to pay what I paid to my last girl (and a bit more for the 'room') I would definitely do it with no more research needed. And with the indepedent girl she's more in control, and it's a bit more 'natural' setting. Before I go I will do thorough preperation and another review after it's done- have done a review for my last provider which should be up soon.

 

Yes, parlours do take a cut, but then again they also offer something: premises, advertizing and protection, to go no further than that. I'd have thought it was quite a good deal really.

Agencies can offer less protection, of course, but they also take the brunt of the time-wasting telephone calls etc. And many girls will want to have all the organizational side taken out of their hands. I was very struck by our old friend Belle de Jour's escorting career. As has become clear since she came out, she's about as bright and well-organized a person as you could imagine, computer-savvy and all the rest of it. But she took the agency route. She must have decided that it was the best solution for her.

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I can see why some girls would want to go the 'agency route'... all depends what's easier for them and what makes them more money I guess. But my two prime candidates so far are fully independent- that's the route I would choose if I was a hot girl to keep more of my money and have more control. And crucially I'm pretty sure so far that most of them do like sex- lots of good feedback etc... will be a great job to have if you do like it! Consequently they feel comfortable charging fair bit less than market rate...

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You can, of course, ask one of your favourite parlour girsl if she would like to meet you outside her parlour.  It's a nice feeling that all your money is going to her rather than the parlour taking a cut.  Also, you and the girl already get on well.

l've met 2 parlour girls in hotels and another at her house.  It's not just the sex that's enjoyable.  It's the planning of it, the exchange of texts and calls, the anticipation, having a relaxed drink & chat at the bar even involving other customers, the risk of being spotted, a game of pool (happened more than once), things going wrong and having to sort the problems out, and so on.

This way you really get to know the girl's personality and she yours.  Then, in the case of my girls, the time (usually an hour) starts when you're in the bedroom.  The whole thing feels as if you really are on a date even though you're paying.

I know that some parlours don't allow this and I believe Sandys is one.    

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Thanks for replies all... read them and it's interesting.

 

As well as all the research, I'm going to make sure I go out to clubs etc as well. I think just relying on punting for a 'sex life' could be too expensive and unhealthy but I'm sure from time to time it's fun :)

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Any tips for a 'first time' to an independent girl? :)

 

Just remember that she is running her own business.  Like any self-employed people, you can get true professionals who are very organised while you also get amateurs who will be all over the place - lots of research which you have already done is very important to sort out the ones you like and are good service providers. 

 

So just be organised yourself to help her out and make sure you are clear what you want up front, confirm the booking, don't keep texting her unnecessarily just because you can, be on time, etc. etc.  There are a lot of nice things about booking indies for the reasons people have mentioned so enjoy! 

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Do wg's actually like the "gift" in an envelope ,I've always just handed it over less the envelope.

Some do and some don't. I just feel it is a bit more discreet. Handing over the cash in an envelope makes it seem a bit less of a "commercial" transaction in my view.

 

I generally head for the loo at that point so she can count it if she feels it necessary. I am surprised how many don't bother to count it. I must have an honest face!!

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Seems more natural just to give them the cash I'd say :) And TBH I wouldn't really mind either way but I'd prefer doing it at the end of the session- that's how most services are paid for, when you've recieved them. Actually that is another thing for me to research :) I reckon a girl wanting it at the end of the interaction would be more focused on sex than money.

 

On reflection, wouldn't mind that much first time I saw an independent girl if I gave her the money first but certainly would expect second time to do it after the interaction.

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Seems more natural just to give them the cash I'd say :) And TBH I wouldn't really mind either way but I'd prefer doing it at the end of the session- that's how most services are paid for, when you've recieved them. Actually that is another thing for me to research :)I reckon a girl wanting it at the end of the interaction would be more focused on sex than money.

 

On reflection, wouldn't mind that much first time I saw an independent girl if I gave her the money first but certainly would expect second time to do it after the interaction.

 

I really don't think this makes much sense. This is their job and so they are naturally focused on getting paid for it. So am I when I do my job. Most take it straightaway. Those that don't will have their reasons, no doubt, but I don't think it's because they're more focused on sex.

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Some do and some don't. I just feel it is a bit more discreet. Handing over the cash in an envelope makes it seem a bit less of a "commercial" transaction in my view.

I generally head for the loo at that point so she can count it if she feels it necessary. I am surprised how many don't bother to count it. I must have an honest face!!

I've actually forgotten to pay once -

As i use parlours predominately, once left in the room by the maid, I normally leave the cash on the night stand. That way there isn't the "can we sort the ppw" type thing.

On this occasion the lady came in 10 seconds after me and snogged my face off before getting straight down to business.

At the end of the punt, When I jumped in the shower that was in the room, the girl asked if I minded if she checked her phone as her sister was having a tantrum,

"no problem Hun - knock yourself out"

When I got dressed she was still texting and telling me about what's going and keenly bounced out the room to show me to the door.

All the way chatting along, gave me a kiss on the cheek and pat on the arse - I happily jumped in the car and shot off on the motor way.

Because I never leave it till the end to pay it didn't dawn on me that I still had £80 in my pocket until I was an hour down the road buying coffee.

I felt really shit, as she was amazing and would love to revisit her.

So what to do,

I didn't want to drop it into the parlour incase she wouldn't get it, and she was never on shift when I was back in the city (Rotas work against me I swear)

She stopped working there after about 9 months so I never did pay for that punt?

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I've actually forgotten to pay once -

As i use parlours predominately, once left in the room by the maid, I normally leave the cash on the night stand. That way there isn't the "can we sort the ppw" type thing.

On this occasion the lady came in 10 seconds after me and snogged my face off before getting straight down to business.

At the end of the punt, When I jumped in the shower that was in the room, the girl asked if I minded if she checked her phone as her sister was having a tantrum,

"no problem Hun - knock yourself out"

When I got dressed she was still texting and telling me about what's going and keenly bounced out the room to show me to the door.

All the way chatting along, gave me a kiss on the cheek and pat on the arse - I happily jumped in the car and shot off on the motor way.

Because I never leave it till the end to pay it didn't dawn on me that I still had £80 in my pocket until I was an hour down the road buying coffee.

I felt really shit, as she was amazing and would love to revisit her.

So what to do,

I didn't want to drop it into the parlour incase she wouldn't get it, and she was never on shift when I was back in the city (Rotas work against me I swear)

She stopped working there after about 9 months so I never did pay for that punt?

Me too! Thankfully, I remembered half way down the staircase from the third floor. I trotted back up and rang the bell again. She was surprised since she didn't realise that I hadn't paid. I got a very friendly good bye kiss & cuddle!

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The envelope thing I think stems from the way girls have to work in America. There its left in an open envelope and the guy disappears into the bathroom so that she can count it (money can't change hands). Here most women I know prefer it slapped into their hand, quick count, then on to the fun.

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The advantage of an envelope is that you have the right money all together in one place.  You don't want to pull out your wallet and count the money into her hand as if you had just negotiated a deal on a secondhand wardrobe.  While if you have the correct money loose in a pocket there is always a chance that one of the notes might stay behind when you pull out the roll and you will then have the two-way embarrassment of the lady having to point out that the money is short

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The advantage of an envelope is that you have the right money all together in one place.  You don't want to pull out your wallet and count the money into her hand as if you had just negotiated a deal on a secondhand wardrobe.  While if you have the correct money loose in a pocket there is always a chance that one of the notes might stay behind when you pull out the roll and you will then have the two-way embarrassment of the lady having to point out that the money is short

 

just fan it. you can both see at a glance how much there is.  Unless you are paying for a 2 hour punt in fivers.

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You lot are making me feel guilty now. I've never paid with an envelope. Should it matter if the envelope is brown or white? :)

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just fan it. you can both see at a glance how much there is.  Unless you are paying for a 2 hour punt in fivers.

 

I prefer to pay in real pound coins!! It takes us half the punt to count them.

You lot are making me feel guilty now. I've never paid with an envelope. Should it matter if the envelope is brown or white? :)

You should pay with money!!

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