cadeau

An Education, Please...inexperienced Guy Here.

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Good evening all.

 

I'm a long time lurker so please let me first say thank you for everyone who puts effort into this site, much appreciated. Also, I appreciate that you must see a few posts like this and probably view them with a healthy dose of scepticism, hopefully you will feel my sincerity.

 

I am an early 30s guy who is looking to undertake what I might term 'sex lessons'. I am a fairly regular, sane, kind chap with a job, friends etc but would really like to stop holding myself back when it comes to having a sex life. A combination of lack of body confidence, working too hard and a couple of relationships with women who would not have sex before marriage have lead to me having a rather limited amount of sexual experience. I am not a virgin and I have seen a few escorts before but I always restricted these appointments to hand relief/oral, or with the lady on top in order to try and hide my inexperience.

 

I realise that encounters with an escort are a different circumstance to making love with a partner but it's a close enough approximation; I'd rather feel a bit of a fool with one escort who knows the situation than with a partner or series of escorts whose expectations might be different.

Fully appreciate that any advice offered might be 'pick your lady and email her' but I thought I would throw this post up here to see if anyone has any recommendations. I am based in the west midlands but would travel for the right lady, places such as Manchester and London wouldn't be a problem. Would be looking for a lady who provides incalls and whilst visiting a parlour would not a huge issue, I would probably prefer not to. I think the lady would be 18-35, preference for slimmer ladies and as I stopped growing at 5'6" would probably be better not meeting a tall lady, budget up to £150 an hour.

 

Happy to add any more information you require and may I say thanks in advance for any advice offered.

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Welcome to the boards cadeau.

I wouldn't assume that all the other punters in the uk are sex gods who wow the girls with their prowess and expertise :D.

That said, using this hobby to pick up some skills and confidence is no bad thing and I wish you luck (and much fun) in your quest.

Most ladies I see these days are over 35, so I shall refrain from recommendations but I am sure the stalwarts of this board will come up with an idea or two.

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Sent you a pm about a couple of ladies I've seen recently.

Good luck with your search

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if it were me I would probably stay more local until more experienced as you don't want to travel far and it be a let down.   There must be some nice sexy girls in the Midlands.  I know there is a nice girl in Warwickshire next week.  I have seen her friend but would see her if I had the time next week which I haven't.  Reviews are very good.  I think she tours and will be staying in a hotel.  Send me a PM and I can give you her name if interested.   

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A very good and honest first post, if I may say so. I would have no hesitation in recommending Sam, who has some reviews here. Based in a lovely place near Sutton Coldfield. She has an AW (Adult work) presence so you could look there too.

 

Good luck with your search.

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Thank you everyone for the comments, suggestions and PMs so far. It is much appreciated.

 

if it were me I would probably stay more local until more experienced as you don't want to travel far and it be a let down.   There must be some nice sexy girls in the Midlands.  I know there is a nice girl in Warwickshire next week.  I have seen her friend but would see her if I had the time next week which I haven't.  Reviews are very good.  I think she tours and will be staying in a hotel.  Send me a PM and I can give you her name if interested.   

 

Yes, you do have a point about travelling and it not working out as well as I would hope.

 

I suspect that this can happen for even the most experienced of punters so I probably won't narrow down the search area just yet, so as not to deter anyone from making a suggestion of a girl to me. I do appreciate your advice though, thank you.

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I've had some good, personal experiences at my local parlour.More mature girls and all English so conversation isn't limited. These ladies have seen and heard it all and I can think of 2 who would support you with advice. I'm in Leicester, not sure if I can mention the parlour though.

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I'm too old and fat :( 

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I've had some good, personal experiences at my local parlour.More mature girls and all English so conversation isn't limited. These ladies have seen and heard it all and I can think of 2 who would support you with advice. I'm in Leicester, not sure if I can mention the parlour though.

 

Please do, that's what this forum is all about.

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@the OP--- I have booked hundreds of ladies and still dont have a clue what I am doing. A few 'lessons' wouldnt go amiss here either.

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I'm too old and fat :(

 

I am going to assume you have a devilish sense of humour. If not, then please accept my apologies as no offence was meant to anyone in my initial post.

 

@the OP--- I have booked hundreds of ladies and still dont have a clue what I am doing. A few 'lessons' wouldnt go amiss here either.

 

Haha, not sure if that fills me with confidence or not :D

 

Although to clarify, should anyone be wondering, I'm not expecting to know it all in a few short hours with a lady.

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I am going to assume you have a devilish sense of humour. If not, then please accept my apologies as no offence was meant to anyone in my initial post.

 

 

Haha, not sure if that fills me with confidence or not :D

 

Although to clarify, should anyone be wondering, I'm not expecting to know it all in a few short hours with a lady.

 

Perhaps I'm the one who doesn't understand anything, because the world is full of guides and aids telling you all you need to know, but I'm not sure there's a great deal you need to know - apart from what you find out doing it. Don't we just discover what we enjoy by trial and error with a willing partner? It ma not be "all", but it will do for us.

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Perhaps I'm the one who doesn't understand anything, because the world is full of guides and aids telling you all you need to know, but I'm not sure there's a great deal you need to know - apart from what you find out doing it. Don't we just discover what we enjoy by trial and error with a willing partner? It ma not be "all", but it will do for us.

I agree but if I had been able to simply get on and try things then I would have. Yes, I know that sounds silly but I cannot change the past; I feel the only way to remove the mental stubling block I have put in place is to preface an appointment/series of appointments with a 'I'm going to make a bit of a twit of myself, perhaps feel a little awkward and I wanted you to know this' message.

 

Then hopefully I can go on a lifelong journey of discovery.

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'I'm going to make a bit of a twit of myself, perhaps feel a little awkward and I wanted you to know this' message.

 

Then hopefully I can go on a lifelong journey of discovery.

Welcome to my world... I nearly always feel a little awkward and constantly make a bit of a twit of myself. I've given up worrying about it now - none of the wg's seem to care too much ;)

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The other advice I would offer would be to tell the lady of your choice that you have had limited experience and wish hr to take things fast/slow,  GFE/PSE, lots of/few toys,  all the positions in the Kama Sutra/missionary only etc etc.

 

Tell her what you are hoping to achieve and, if she is any good, she will go along with you.

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The other advice I would offer would be to tell the lady of your choice that you have had limited experience and wish hr to take things fast/slow,  GFE/PSE, lots of/few toys,  all the positions in the Kama Sutra/missionary only etc etc.

 

Tell her what you are hoping to achieve and, if she is any good, she will go along with you.

 

Thank you. This is exactly what I am planning on doing.

 

Have a few ladies suggested to me now and a couple I have identified so hopefully I can progress matters fairly soon.

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*skulks into the witty fat old women corner and strangles a cream slice*

 

No point trying to paper over the cracks now, young man.

You're just denying us the pleasure of your cock because we've enjoyed a pie or two in our youth, its damn outrageous :P :P

 

I do hope you find someone worthwhile to give you your lessons, though.

Mine are usually of an entirely different sort of lesson xx

 

Still: anyone who still uses the word "twit" to describe themselves can't be all bad :cool:

I thought only Hugh Grant was allowed to use that word these days.

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Welcome to my world... I nearly always feel a little awkward and constantly make a bit of a twit of myself. I've given up worrying about it now - none of the wg's seem to care too much ;)

 

None of the ones I've seen seem to care at all. They'll have seen much worse before.

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I feel the only way to remove the mental stubling block I have put in place is to preface an appointment/series of appointments with a 'I'm going to make a bit of a twit of myself, perhaps feel a little awkward and I wanted you to know this' message.

Better to be a twit than a twat cadeau :D.

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Better to be a twit than a twat cadeau :D.

Very true. Reminds me of the old limerick -

There was a young fellow named Shit,

A name he disliked quite a bit,

So he changed it to Shite -

A step in the right

Direction, one has to admit.

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I am going to assume you have a devilish sense of humour. If not, then please accept my apologies as no offence was meant to anyone in my initial post.

 

 

 

Yes my sense of humour! Not offended at all! I am well aware we all have preferences! :) 

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Still: anyone who still uses the word "twit" to describe themselves can't be all bad :cool:

I thought only Hugh Grant was allowed to use that word these days.

 

I taught him all he knows about using less offensive curse words. In exchange, he told me where to seek out ladies of the night :D

 

Better to be a twit than a twat cadeau :D.

 

You make a very good point :)

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Dear OP,

Might I make a recommendation for you?

Her name is Adele and she can be found on Adultwork as xxAdelexx.

She travels around quite a lot and is sometimes in your region.

Her profile pictures and description are accurate and I have yet to read a single negative comment from anyone who has met her. I have seen her twice when she was working once a week in London and she has a gentle sort of confidence which inspires trust and relaxation.

C

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I just checked.

Adele is in Birmingham on May 2nd and 3rd.

She has a couple of friends around, as well: Carmella and Honey.

I've not met the others, though, but they are well-respected escorts.

C

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