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45% Of Men Come Within 2 Minutes...

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http://www.newstatesman.com/sci-tech/2014/04/men-don-t-last-very-long-bed-and-it-bothers-them-more-it-bothers-women

 

An interesting article, backed by seemingly credible research. I'm no expert, but think it's worth discussing. A couple of observations to set the ball rolling:

 

1. I've always thought PN was a bit of a freak-show in light of the number of blokes who report taking 20-30 minutes to come and/or being able to go 3+ times in an hour. It would seem I was right. I accept some may be able to do this but they would appear to be a vanishingly small minority and, co-incidentally, the entire British population of these "stayers" would appear to be active on Punternet.

 

2. Most of the girls to whom I've spoken over time (and that equals quite a few) have concurred with point 1 (above); that their clients neither last nor repeat anything like what you read on here. But question for the ladies: based on both your professional and civilian experience what, really, is the truth of this? How do do men last (on average) after actual penetration starts?

 

3. Another one for the ladies (civilian or professional-experience based answer would be fine): If you have an orgasm(s) during foreplay (say, RO), does this render vaginal orgasm during sex any less important? In other words, is penetrative orgasm somehow more desirable than simply "an orgasm" or is sex during which you come good sex regardless of how you come?

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Does the 2 mins include the shower before hand :'(

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With a condom, I can go up to 45 min but it depends on how much sex ive had the days before.

i have to wait 30 min to 3 hours to get hard again.

If i didnt wear a condom i would prob come within 5 min but take 20 min to be able take 20 min to be able to get hard again....all depending on how sexually active ive been

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I think punting actually gives you a bit more experience so you can last longer than average.  Certainly at the 2 LMPs I have been to - the guys seemed to be able to last quite long with some of them only going for one orgasm towards the end of the 2 hours.  Not that difficult to pace yourself a bit and if you get too close, switch it around or give her some RO to calmn down if you don't want to finish yet.  I find I can quite easily pace myself now to last 30min or longer.  However, those statistics do tell me that sex has become a rather routine and therefore short (i.e. finish ASAP) event in a lot of relationships instead of enjoying a longer experience with lots of foreplay.  I didn't even think of trying 2 rounds before I started this hobby last year.  Now it seems very normal to have 2 rounds and my recent civie experiences last a lot longer too!  I think the longest sex session I had before starting to punt was 30min - pretty crazy to think what I have been missing all those years now that I think about it, lol.

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Among lions it's between 5 and 20 seconds, so we're not doing too badly.

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Mr Bloom....

 

There are men and there are men, there are lions and there are gods!!! :blink:

 

Anyway, how many of that 45% come within the first minute... :ph34r:  

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I would think that pausing doesn't count - it is of course very valuable for a sex session, but not for these data.  These data in fact say WHY it is so important.

 

if a man has intercourse with no condom and just "goes for it" he will cum faster than most women appreciate.  Thus it is important to pause (move to RO as Geronimo suggests etc). And another reason (as if we need more) why a condom is good. And I also agree that frequent punters probably last longer than average. 

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I think foreplay has been consigned to the problem pages in family/consumer magazines ie for women who don't want sex.

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I think there is a vast difference in the time it usually takes a guy to cum and the time it takes a guy to come when he is deliberatley making sure he doesn't cum yet. Guys who have paid for their time are not going to want to cum in two minutes even if that's how long it would usually take them to cum when not stopping themselves from cumming too soon

Saying that the vast majority of guys don't usually take more than ten minutes from time if insertion x

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What about a man who reaches his crescendo without even unbuttoning his flies or having any physical contact with the lady?

 

One of my most memorable appointments...........................  :blink:

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If it is negatively affecting your sex life, ejaculating within two minutes of beginning intercourse is conisdered permature ejaculation - which make that statistic quite surprising.

 

It's a real challenge the know what is considered "normal" as lots of men seem to like to exaggerate their performance, and porngraphy has certainly skewed expectations.  There's also a sense of bias based on the fact men who take longer to ejaculate are more likely to boast about it than someone who comes in just a few minutes.

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What about a man who reaches his crescendo without even unbuttoning his flies or having any physical contact with the lady?

 

One of my most memorable appointments...........................  :blink:

 

did you charge him?

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did you charge him?

He had already given me my fee.   He was obviously more excited than I realised and it was all over in under 5 mins as we had only chatted with no contact.

 

He was full of apologies...... I offered him a refund but he was insistent and despite saying he was a once only guy he asked to stay and just kiss and cuddle and talk.

 

I was happy to say yes and he was quite content.  A strange one nonetheless.

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It varies so greatly in my experience from those who come (and not wanting to!) really quickly with minimal input from me (other than being stood in front of him!) to those that can bang on for ages and those who can't come at all (damn Viagra usually the reason!).

 

Most men only seem to manage one pop in a session, some 2 and much less more than that. I had one guy come 5 times in an hour once though! 

 

Those who know their own bodies and can communicate are the ones who have the best experiences. So if a guy knows he will take ages to come and lets me know I can be pretty full on and those who come fast but want to leave it til the end and tell me this means I make sure I don't make them pop too fast! 

 

That's my only advice be honest with your partner (WG or otherwise) and let us know what works for you! 

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I think there is a vast difference in the time it usually takes a guy to cum and the time it takes a guy to come when he is deliberatley making sure he doesn't cum yet. Guys who have paid for their time are not going to want to cum in two minutes even if that's how long it would usually take them to cum when not stopping themselves from cumming too soon

Saying that the vast majority of guys don't usually take more than ten minutes from time if insertion x

 

 

 

I think it takes a real skill and control for a man not to cum too quickly. For me, I'm more into being gently teased with lots of kissing and sex games/role playing rather than full on sex. So I last longer that way. However I certainly don't last long once the lady decides she wants me to cum. Even a minute is a luxury in that instance! :)

Interestingly enough I was actually thinking about cum times while I was out walking a little earlier, with specific regard to oral sex and guys who tend to cum quickly. Couldn't help wondering how common it is and if women are willing to continue teasing and sucking a guy repeatedly to orgasm until he's empty and reaches a dry orgasm?

 

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Those who know their own bodies and can communicate are the ones who have the best experiences. So if a guy knows he will take ages to come and lets me know I can be pretty full on and those who come fast but want to leave it til the end and tell me this means I make sure I don't make them pop too fast! 

 

That's my only advice be honest with your partner (WG or otherwise) and let us know what works for you! 

That's good advice. Totally agree. However from past experiences, I know that I've had that honesty used against me to get me out of the door fast, e.g. in the cum and go type places. :(

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Being circumcised and wearing a condom, its a race to ejaculate before I lose my hard-on, so I last less than 4 minutes, without a condom, a bit more lee-way, I reckon we are only meant to last 4 minutes, most women cant be arsed with blokes who take ages to come, and that's true in civvy st too.

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"was all over in under 5 mins as we had only chatted with no contact." LOL i wonder why he bothers paying for it

 

"he was a once only guy" fucking hell what a sex life he must have...

 

i find personally that if i'm not getting regular sex then i cant control when im going to come and it will be around 10 to 15 minutes of full contact action (fuck / blow)

 

if im getting daily, more than daily, or every other day / few days then i can control and go on for 30 min plus if i want

 

if i havent had sex for a while then have sex more than once in a day those sessions will still be shorter... i need to be regular to maintain the performance

 

all round physical health and fitness is important i think as is the right frame of mind and general attitude towards sex...

 

i wouldnt be happy with 2 minutes

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In  my two years of escorting i can count on one hand the amount of men who last over 10 minutes

 

its normally all over in under 5 minutes :(:unsure: xx

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In  my two years of escorting i can count on one hand the amount of men who last over 10 minutes

 

its normally all over in under 5 minutes :(:unsure: xx

 

Thanks for that (answer). Can I ask, though, for your answer to question 3 in my original post which, in case you can't be bothered to go back, was "does that matter if you'd had good foreplay (say, an orgasm through RO)?" In other words, is great foreplay followed by, say, 5-7 minutes of penetrative sex unsatisfying. Answer can be "civvy" or professional experience-based. I'm just interested in understanding what does and doesn't work.

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Usually I don't shoot within 2 minutes, but have been known to last for 2 and 3 quarter...minutes.

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In  my two years of escorting i can count on one hand the amount of men who last over 10 minutes

 

its normally all over in under 5 minutes :(:unsure: xx

wow I think I will come and see you!

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I think there is a vast difference in the time it usually takes a guy to cum and the time it takes a guy to come when he is deliberatley making sure he doesn't cum yet. Guys who have paid for their time are not going to want to cum in two minutes even if that's how long it would usually take them to cum when not stopping themselves from cumming too soon

Saying that the vast majority of guys don't usually take more than ten minutes from time if insertion x

Holding back too much can have a disastrous negative effect, I've done that and ended up not cumming at all regardless of the lady trying her utmost to relieve me.

Rather than hold back it's best to call a time out (pardon the pun) and have a breather or enjoy some RO as suggested by others. Leaving a lady whilst still carrying your load is mighty frustrating.

DG

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Thanks for that (answer). Can I ask, though, for your answer to question 3 in my original post which, in case you can't be bothered to go back, was "does that matter if you'd had good foreplay (say, an orgasm through RO)?" In other words, is great foreplay followed by, say, 5-7 minutes of penetrative sex unsatisfying. Answer can be "civvy" or professional experience-based. I'm just interested in understanding what does and doesn't work.

FOREPLAY is a must in my eyes both ways i enjoy the giving and recieving foreplay more than the main event

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Holding back too much can have a disastrous negative effect, I've done that and ended up not cumming at all regardless of the lady trying her utmost to relieve me.

Rather than hold back it's best to call a time out (pardon the pun) and have a breather or enjoy some RO as suggested by others. Leaving a lady whilst still carrying your load is mighty frustrating.

DG

Yes I have met this issue personally too. It usually ends up with me having very sore arms and jaw. Its not amusing, its also not fair because you often get the "well I can usually cum fine" as if its an accusation levelled at you. Its hard not to say "well then you should have let yourself cum the first 5 times you almost did then" . My god I must have the patience of a saint  ^_^

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