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Is It A Challenge For The Ladies?

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Is it a challenge for the ladies to make a guy orgasm or is it just to get rid of him to give them more time to get ready for the next guy? Do the ladies feel a failure if the guy doesnt come?

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I think the final question is the most interesting

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I seem to spend most of the time holding them back to make it last for them

it would be a failure if the guy cum really quickly like before he had at least had a dip

its up to him once hes up 

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Is it a challenge for the ladies to make a guy orgasm or is it just to get rid of him to give them more time to get ready for the next guy? Do the ladies feel a failure if the guy doesnt come?

I don't have a 'one cum and you're out policy' most decent lasses would have the attitude that if you pay for say an hour you get your hour and if the guy can go again great,if he can't he can certainly stay and play or have a massage or cuddle and chat.I would think most guys see an escort for sexy fun and gratification so it's my job to try and do that for/with him.

I do feel abit sad if for whatever a client doesn't have an orgasm.Its rare and not for lack of trying on my part,I don't feel a failure but certainly feel happier if I know the guy has had a good time and a cum or two.

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I seem to spend most of the time holding them back to make it last for them

it would be a failure if the guy cum really quickly like before he had at least had a dip

its up to him once hes up  

 

............ so eloquently put....................   :D

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Is it a challenge for the ladies to make a guy orgasm or is it just to get rid of him to give them more time to get ready for the next guy? Do the ladies feel a failure if the guy doesnt come?

Not so in my case..............  if I conducted myself as you described then I would not have a single repeat client.  The next guy could be the next day or in a couple of hours......... why do so many people assume we are all taking clients on a one in -one out- one in basis........ 

 

Have I ever felt a failure when a guy does not cum?   Not at all..... why should I when it is not my fault?  It very rarely happens anyway.

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I have a situation in the declining years of my biological let alone punting life where if I am with an SP I really don't find attractive visually or personally or both, I am likely to come in a normal sort of time.

 

if I am with someone I like a lot, especially but not only if I have got to know them a bit over time, I am unlikely to come.

 

Some of these latter accept it and others make it their ambition to get me to come.

 

I just enjoy the lovely one's company and everything we do other and am not bothered if I don't come but very happy if she comes.

 

I have to say that when I need to explain the situation to the lovely ones (when they say they won't end the session till I've come and I have no wish to take advantage of them/wear them out), it earns me quite a few brownie points every time.

 

But it is all true.

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Some men have a little difficulty reaching that moment of bliss....... and I do my best ......

 

the naughty gravy being slightly reluctant to appear....... I make it clear that it now belongs to me.... and they are not allowed to take it home with them.

 

Usually does the trick.

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Is it a challenge for the ladies to make a guy orgasm or is it just to get rid of him to give them more time to get ready for the next guy? Do the ladies feel a failure if the guy doesnt come?

After seeing a guy, I have several weeks or months to prepare myself for the next one........ we are not all the same.  For me is enjoying that moment just as much as he enjoys it too.  If he does not come it is not my fault, although I hardly remember to have come across such a guy.

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I don't have a 'one cum and you're out policy' most decent lasses would have the attitude that if you pay for say an hour you get your hour and if the guy can go again great,if he can't he can certainly stay and play or have a massage or cuddle and chat.I would think most guys see an escort for sexy fun and gratification so it's my job to try and do that for/with him.

I do feel abit sad if for whatever a client doesn't have an orgasm.Its rare and not for lack of trying on my part,I don't feel a failure but certainly feel happier if I know the guy has had a good time and a cum or two.

 

On the other hand, he might not have an orgasm as his No 1 priority, but he could be feeling he ought to do it or you might feel bad about it. It's a government-economic-policy approach to sex: the idea that there have to be concrete, visible results. We all need to get away from that idea.

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On the other hand, he might not have an orgasm as his No 1 priority, but he could be feeling he ought to do it or you might feel bad about it. It's a government-economic-policy approach to sex: the idea that there have to be concrete, visible results. We all need to get away from that idea.

You are so right. In my early days I did feel like I'd failed if he couldn't get there, but that was soon corrected after an afternoon with a guy that I had to throw out of the door still with his cock in hand wanking like hell. He'd gone well over his time trying to get his 'fourth' pop.

As you get older and wiser you start to realise that often the need for him to get there or her to get him there can actually become a barrier and often sex is more than just an orgasm.

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You are so right. In my early days I did feel like I'd failed if he couldn't get there, but that was soon corrected after an afternoon with a guy that I had to throw out of the door still with his cock in hand wanking like hell. He'd gone well over his time trying to get his 'fourth' pop.

As you get older and wiser you start to realise that often the need for him to get there or her to get him there can actually become a barrier and often sex is more than just an orgasm.

How absolutely true!!

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the naughty gravy being slightly reluctant to appear....... I make it clear that it now belongs to me.... and they are not allowed to take it home with them.

 

And you could always pointedly get a turkey baster out of the bedside cabinet. That should be an encouragement... ;)

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I find that as I've got older it's become harder for me to achieve a repeat orgasm, or even to orgasm at all

Ten years ago in a two hour punt I would cum five or six times; now in a two hour punt if l orgasm it will be after 10 minutes or so (and not a lot of cum will come out) and after I'll be very lucky to cum again. Getting erect again and staying hard is easy though.

 

Last year I was with a very attractive Hungarian MILF who spoke very little English, but she was surprised that despite sex in various positions I couldn't cum again in the final hour and a half of our meeting - "no cum?" was probably her most used English phrase.

Last month I saw a favourite girl in Brum and I didn't manage one orgasm in the 90 minute meeting. She didn't seem upset, more apologetic that she didn't make me cum.

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Harry is it just penetration that your finding it hard to cum from? What about oral or hand relief?

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No girl has ever got me to cum through a BJ. For some reason it's never done anything for me.

Hand relief; years ago I'd cum if a girl wanked me off.

I'm not complaining, not cumming means not having to faff about waiting to get hard again... :)

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Harry why not try hand relief at the end of a session? then you get the best of both worlds long lasting sex and a orgasm at the end.

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Of course it is important for the man to cum.  It's important for me to make sure he gets full satisfaction which means everything we do leading up to - and then the end bit.  It might not be the b all and end all for some men but it certainly is for others.  If you think why men see working girls it is crucial since they don't come along here for a game of whist do they :)

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Sometimes it's just the intimacy I want rather than the cumming part.  It's easy enough and £100 cheaper to stay at home and use my hand if that's all I'm after at the end of the day.

 

I've always seen sex as a two way street, no about one person receiving all the pleasure.  I like the woman to be getting pleasure from a session and seeing her doing so is the biggest turn on for me.

 

I've had a few occasions where I haven't finished; other times where I've finished off using my hand; other times where I've cum inside her fairly quickly as I've hit the right spot for me / taken quite a while as I don't ever complete in all but one position etc.

I don't feel bad, let down or disappointed if I don't complete.  As long as I enjoyed myself and feel the woman did, I'm happy.

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I find if you make the client feel relaxed and not pressured with time then they have no problem cumming :-)

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I find if you make the client feel relaxed and not pressured with time then they have no problem cumming :-)

Yes, I  think some men do clock watch more than we do x

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Not so in my case.............. if I conducted myself as you described then I would not have a single repeat client. The next guy could be the next day or in a couple of hours......... why do so many people assume we are all taking clients on a one in -one out- one in basis........

Have I ever felt a failure when a guy does not cum? Not at all..... why should I when it is not my fault? It very rarely happens anyway.

How can you be so it's not your fault?

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How can you be so it's not your fault?

 

...........because although I do my best.... I am not a miracle worker.

 

:)

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...........because although I do my best.... I am not a miracle worker.

 

:)

That will be the next new skill taking over from squirting. PMSL

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