Mr Discerning

How Important Is 'connection' For You With A Service Provider?

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Hi all,

 

So I'm still thinking about which service provider to go to next. Being directly honest, I'm a bit annoyed that I can't get enough 'free sex' from regular girls.... but that's life. I have a lot to be thankful for otherwise.

 

Anyway, as you may know I've done a lot of 'research' into this area. I have around 3 candidates at the moment, two highly rated girls on Adultwork and seeing Abbie of Sandy's Superstars again. One of the girls in Adultwork has been responsive to my messages, one has not (though in fairness I only sent her a tentative message saying she was on my candidate list and that I would contact her again if I definitely wanted to see her.)

 

It's a big balancing act for me now. I would slightly prefer the experience on an indy, and they would cost me slightly less time and petrol to get to. One is also at least £20 cheaper than Abbie would be. However, it's still a bit of a hassle going to a new girl... aka drive to a certain postcode then go to another one. I'm pretty sure that the room overall would be good with one of the indies, and probably quite good with the other one. I'd prefer the indy atmosphere slightly overall too.

 

However with Abbie I know what I'm going to get more- and she was very good last time. I would prepare better this time, and sort things out over the phone better too, only going if I got the right room. So my question to you, both punters and service providers is, how much do you value the connection you have with someone you have seen before? Would you say it was worth it in my situation to go to someone I've seen before or try something new? Do service providers like seeing the same client again, presuming you got on at least pretty well last time? In what ways is it different for you the second time?

 

Thanks for your replies :)

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I'd say toss a coin.

 

There are lots of pros and cons to both. You really won't be able to tell if one or the other was worth it until you actually do it. Abbie may not be or form or she could blow you away and be amazing, but you won't know until you are there. Same goes for your other candidate, she could be awful or awesome or she may be just OK or you might not click which is noones fault! 

 

If you toss a coin then your decision is made. Is you toss it and your immediate reaction is disappointment then you know that deep down the other was what you wanted to do!

 

I make lots of decisions based on coin tossing! :) 

 

Good luck either way! 

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I'd say toss a coin.

 

There are lots of pros and cons to both. You really won't be able to tell if one or the other was worth it until you actually do it. Abbie may not be or form or she could blow you away and be amazing, but you won't know until you are there. Same goes for your other candidate, she could be awful or awesome or she may be just OK or you might not click which is noones fault! 

 

If you toss a coin then your decision is made. Is you toss it and your immediate reaction is disappointment then you know that deep down the other was what you wanted to do!

 

I make lots of decisions based on coin tossing! :)

 

Good luck either way! 

 

 

or see both.

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What works for one doesn't for another. There are plenty of punters who hardly ever return to the same wg

I nearly always find I enjoy a repeat visit more than the first. That's not to say I don't enjoy a first meeting with a wg, but I find myself more relaxed and able to enjoy the experience more during a repeat visit.

I like the fact that the more you see a wg, the more you find out what the other likes, what works and what doesn't. Also you tend to find more common interests to chat about during any periods of down time.

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Better the devil you know than the one you don't. You know your going to get a good experience with Abbie so stick with her.

To be honest I think your over thinking things, the guys here aren't going to know whether the nearer girl is going to be better value unless they road test the girls themselves.

Lydia has the right idea, tossing is the answer...

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Having had a couple of punts where we have not connected, or clicked, I would say its incredibly important.

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Lol yeah I COULD toss a coin... I'd rather weigh up the pros and cons more though :) Also I am v careful with money usually so won't be rushing to make a decision. I think it would feel better personally with Abbie the second time, hopefully she may do as well. Although I know she's doing it for the money, hopefully there will be mutual enjoyment!

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That OP seemed a bit over-complicating what in the end is an unpredictable science (?) as it involves a person who can be in different modes and bodily condition than they were last time x 2.

 

As long as the lady is able to show herself capable of being friendly, I like to think my dazzling personality and envious physical attributes and skills will make the punt go with a bang.

 

I trust my commonsense and hard-earned sensitivity to reading between the lines, words and letters of an AW profile, for example (I recall when at first it was a closed book to me).

 

No one in the end can really usefully tell me whether to drop my knickers for this lady as opposed to that one.

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That OP seemed a bit over-complicating what in the end is an unpredictable science (?) as it involves a person who can be in different modes and bodily condition than they were last time x 2.

 

As long as the lady is able to show herself capable of being friendly, I like to think my dazzling personality and envious physical attributes and skills will make the punt go with a bang.

 

I trust my commonsense and hard-earned sensitivity to reading between the lines, words and letters of an AW profile, for example (I recall when at first it was a closed book to me).

 

No one in the end can really usefully tell me whether to drop my knickers for this lady as opposed to that one.

 

I think he also should remember this is punting.  Now before I started this lark a punt was a bet.  I think that's where punter comes from, as its is always uncertain whether you will have a good time.  You take the rough with the smooth.

You go by your instincts and hope for the best.

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Hi all,

 

So I'm still thinking about which service provider to go to next. Being directly honest, I'm a bit annoyed that I can't get enough 'free sex' from regular girls.... but that's life. I have a lot to be thankful for otherwise.

 

Anyway, as you may know I've done a lot of 'research' into this area. I have around 3 candidates at the moment, two highly rated girls on Adultwork and seeing Abbie of Sandy's Superstars again. One of the girls in Adultwork has been responsive to my messages, one has not (though in fairness I only sent her a tentative message saying she was on my candidate list and that I would contact her again if I definitely wanted to see her.)

 

It's a big balancing act for me now. I would slightly prefer the experience on an indy, and they would cost me slightly less time and petrol to get to. One is also at least £20 cheaper than Abbie would be. However, it's still a bit of a hassle going to a new girl... aka drive to a certain postcode then go to another one. I'm pretty sure that the room overall would be good with one of the indies, and probably quite good with the other one. I'd prefer the indy atmosphere slightly overall too.

 

However with Abbie I know what I'm going to get more- and she was very good last time. I would prepare better this time, and sort things out over the phone better too, only going if I got the right room. So my question to you, both punters and service providers is, how much do you value the connection you have with someone you have seen before? Would you say it was worth it in my situation to go to someone I've seen before or try something new? Do service providers like seeing the same client again, presuming you got on at least pretty well last time? In what ways is it different for you the second time?

 

Thanks for your replies :)

I would imagine that any escort, on receipt of such a message (i e you are my fall back lady), would think you are a TW!!

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Better the devil you know than the one you don't. You know your going to get a good experience with Abbie so stick with her.

To be honest I think your over thinking things, the guys here aren't going to know whether the nearer girl is going to be better value unless they road test the girls themselves.

Lydia has the right idea, tossing is the answer...

If tossing is the answer i don't think we'd have anyone posting here :)

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I would imagine that any escort, on receipt of such a message (i e you are my fall back lady), would think you are a TW!!

Nope it wasn't like that at all, I'll paste the message.

 

"Hey xxx,

Just a quick email to say I've checked out all your reviews and pics and you're one of my top candidates for people I am going to see next :)

I'll let you know if/when I'm coming."

 

I think a polite response showing customer service would be "Oh thanks, I'll be happy to see you if you do come." But this wg has plenty of punters wanting to see her anyway so she doesn't need to do that. Fair enough.

 

I think it's good to send a message like this to a potential working girl to see what they're like more. The other girl and I messaged about 5 or 6 times quickly.

 

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Nope it wasn't like that at all, I'll paste the message. "Hey xxx,Just a quick email to say I've checked out all your reviews and pics and you're one of my top candidates for people I am going to see next :)I'll let you know if/when I'm coming." I think a polite response showing customer service would be "Oh thanks, I'll be happy to see you if you do come." But this wg has plenty of punters wanting to see her anyway so she doesn't need to do that. Fair enough. I think it's good to send a message like this to a potential working girl to see what they're like more. The other girl and I messaged about 5 or 6 times quickly.

I'd be surprised if many wg's respond to a message like that, especially busy ones. Not that there's anything wrong with it but really I can see why a wg may not even think a response is required. What do you do if you don't get a reply - do you then cross her off your list?

Personally I don't contact a wg at all until I'm ready to make a booking & generally suggest times/dates I know I can make in the email (as I need to plan ahead). That almost always gets a reply, then I can make further contact to confirm what I'm after before arranging the booking.

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I see what you're saying...

 

However most wgs aren't really THAT busy. Even a good one would see say 3 clients in a day (that would be one in the top 20%) so would have time to take 2 minutes to make a reply. The one I did send it to was one of the most 'up and coming' ones on AW and does a few other things but has had rave reviews about how nice she is *shrugs*. It's interesting to send that kind of message anyway- you know a bit more about them from the response or lack of it.

 

Next time I'll send a message like that a bit earlier without spending so much time reading up on her!

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Ok, I'd be annoyed if I got a message like that! 

 

You do realise for many escorts it's them choosing who they want to see as much as the man wanting to see her? Your words read as a presumption she will want to see you.  As in independent escort who works alone or in a flat where she needs to be discreet it's really important you see clients who make you feel comfortable. The conversation between escort and client before a booking is when we suss a guy out, it isn't all about you, it's a two way thing. Most of don't see everyone who contacts us at all. 

 

It also smacks of 'Go on, impress me so I pick you' which is thoroughly irritating. I know you probably aren't like this, but there are plenty of men out there who seem to think we should be grateful they want to see us and this often includes hinting for discounts or additional services etc.

 

We also like to feel a bit special. We know that most clients see more than one woman and will look at more than one woman whilst making a decision, we're not stupid but there is part of most women who want to be first choice.

 

Also, you've been so vague in terms of when it's a bit pointless.

 

I hope you don't think I am picking on you, just some advice from someone who has been in this game a few years!

 

However, she should have replied, even if it was making her terms clear! You don't actually ask her any questions to respond to, so why should she?

 

Next time all you need to say is:

 

Hi, I have been looking at your profile and you look great and would love to meet you. I am thinking of visiting next week some time, I'm not sure on the dates yet, but will be in touch shortly.

 

Or something like that. If you do have a date or time in mind say so or if you have any particular services or requests then you could mention them too. Even if she says she does them it's worth clarifying both for your benefit and to give her an idea what you want and to give her something to reply to! 

 

Hope this helps! 

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Mr Discerning, to me, your message seems a wee bit condescending, almost as if you are doing the girl a favour, just by sending her a message that you may, only may, give her the honour of seeing you.

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Hi all,

 

So I'm still thinking about which service provider to go to next. Being directly honest, I'm a bit annoyed that I can't get enough 'free sex' from regular girls.... but that's life. I have a lot to be thankful for otherwise.

 

Anyway, as you may know I've done a lot of 'research' into this area. I have around 3 candidates at the moment, two highly rated girls on Adultwork and seeing Abbie of Sandy's Superstars again. One of the girls in Adultwork has been responsive to my messages, one has not (though in fairness I only sent her a tentative message saying she was on my candidate list and that I would contact her again if I definitely wanted to see her.)

 

It's a big balancing act for me now. I would slightly prefer the experience on an indy, and they would cost me slightly less time and petrol to get to. One is also at least £20 cheaper than Abbie would be. However, it's still a bit of a hassle going to a new girl... aka drive to a certain postcode then go to another one. I'm pretty sure that the room overall would be good with one of the indies, and probably quite good with the other one. I'd prefer the indy atmosphere slightly overall too.

 

However with Abbie I know what I'm going to get more- and she was very good last time. I would prepare better this time, and sort things out over the phone better too, only going if I got the right room. So my question to you, both punters and service providers is, how much do you value the connection you have with someone you have seen before? Would you say it was worth it in my situation to go to someone I've seen before or try something new? Do service providers like seeing the same client again, presuming you got on at least pretty well last time? In what ways is it different for you the second time?

 

Thanks for your replies :)

 

 

The highlighted above would not put you on my to do list as an indy. I would have blanked and ignored any further comunication.

 

It's a bit self serving and to much dangling.

 

Ok here's a bit of carrot, now lip it, but wait I may not let you have it right now... Really?

 

What response were you expecting other than "Oh it would be so nice to see you", before engaging in several e-mails to entice you to see her?

 

If my profile hasn't done the job it's paid to do then it would be pointless.

 

Maybe that's why she hasn't responded.

 

Connecting with a client is great, because it makes for a more relaxed atmosphere, but not every client will connect with you, and not every girl will either.

 

I have some amazing clients, who've written reviews, that say as much. I'm great at what I do but they won't come back because the "Spark" wasn't there.

 

If you've found a girl who ticks your boxes, go with it.

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The highlighted above would not put you on my to do list as an indy. I would have blanked and ignored any further comunication.

 

It's a bit self serving and to much dangling.

 

Ok here's a bit of carrot, now lip it, but wait I may not let you have it right now... Really?

 

What response were you expecting other than "Oh it would be so nice to see you", before engaging in several e-mails to entice you to see her?

 

If my profile hasn't done the job it's paid to do then it would be pointless.

 

Maybe that's why she hasn't responded.

 

Connecting with a client is great, because it makes for a more relaxed atmosphere, but not every client will connect with you, and not every girl will either.

 

I have some amazing clients, who've written reviews, that say as much. I'm great at what I do but they won't come back because the "Spark" wasn't there.

 

If you've found a girl who ticks your boxes, go with it.

 

I could not agree more. If you connect with a girl, it's the Holy Grail. Punts with girls you genuinely like are off-the-charts compared to any other punting experience. Of course, connecting can't really ever be forced to the extent that you can't pay to like someone (or pay for someone to like you) but when it clicks, it's brilliant. You just have to be yourself and hope it happens.  I have a regular now and, to use Autumn's words, it's totally relaxing...like going to see a friend.  But I have to say, I would simply never send an e-mail like the one you did telling a girl she was on my "list of candidates". You're talking about a human being here...not a piece of meat. With that sort of approach, I would expect "connecting" with a girl to be rare. To be honest, in the past I've had what you'd classify as good punts that once out of the room life has just gone on. But punts with the regular with whom there's a connection actually leave me feeling a bit like a giddy teenager, improbably stupid as that sounds.

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I could not agree more. If you connect with a girl, it's the Holy Grail. Punts with girls you genuinely like are off-the-charts compared to any other punting experience. Of course, connecting can't really ever be forced to the extent that you can't pay to like someone (or pay for someone to like you) but when it clicks, it's brilliant. You just have to be yourself and hope it happens.  I have a regular now and, to use Autumn's words, it's totally relaxing...like going to see a friend.  But I have to say, I would simply never send an e-mail like the one you did telling a girl she was on my "list of candidates". You're talking about a human being here...not a piece of meat. With that sort of approach, I would expect "connecting" with a girl to be rare. To be honest, in the past I've had what you'd classify as good punts that once out of the room life has just gone on. But punts with the regular with whom there's a connection actually leave me feeling a bit like a giddy teenager, improbably stupid as that sounds.

 

Know what you mean, but it's never quite like that, is it? The giddy teenager is also the tongue-twisted teenager, who finds himself blushing for no reason just because he's close to this girl he fancies. And that can happen even when you're sixty - but not with a working girl.

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Know what you mean, but it's never quite like that, is it? The giddy teenager is also the tongue-twisted teenager, who finds himself blushing for no reason just because he's close to this girl he fancies. And that can happen even when you're sixty - but not with a working girl.

 

That would depend on the parties involved.

 

I know I've had my faves over the years, and I've been the fave of a few who have done all you've described, and I even dated one.

 

Just because I'm a WG, doesn't mean I am a different breed of human, I can affect and be effected by those whom I choose to encounter.

 

Being a WG doesn't make that less so. in fact it could be argued that there is more chance of that spark being ignited, as you take away all the impress me/impress you date, and get straight to the goodies, so you would know sexual compatibility from the outset.

 

You never know when a spark will hit, and when it does, you both have a choice.

 

In my case, I really liked him, so I gave up the Punter/WG dynamic, for the BF/GF dynamic. 

 

No cash exchanged just hot sex and snuggles after.

 

 

But I can understand your logic on putting up that barrier, and thinking in that context as it's a good safety net for yourself.

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I see what you're saying...

 

However most wgs aren't really THAT busy. Even a good one would see say 3 clients in a day (that would be one in the top 20%) so would have time to take 2 minutes to make a reply. The one I did send it to was one of the most 'up and coming' ones on AW and does a few other things but has had rave reviews about how nice she is *shrugs*. It's interesting to send that kind of message anyway- you know a bit more about them from the response or lack of it.

 

Next time I'll send a message like that a bit earlier without spending so much time reading up on her!

If you don't mind me asking,but where do you get these figures from? I see you using figures and various stats so i'm just intrigued.

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Did the candidates give you their CV'S!  Said tongue in cheek!  What do you fancy?  Do you fancy something different or the lady you have seen before.  If you click with a girl then the experience can be very fulfilling so perhaps go for the one you know as you had a good time.  I see a reg and it can be good but fancied a change and I clicked nicely with the young lady I visited.  I certainly think that saying things the right way does help and viewing wg as candidates isn't going to get them to warm to you! Just my opinion.

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Connection is VERY important to me.

I try my best to make the girl feel comfortable in my presence and confine myself fairly precisely to their "likes list."

The most vanilla of the group girls was quite surprised when she learned what I get up to with the others. "REALLY?" she asked.

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Next time I'll send a message like that a bit earlier without spending so much time reading up on her!

Better yet, send it a bit later when you are actually ready to book. I would imagine most WGs neither want nor need a fan club. They do however want your money and will prioritise their time towards those who look like spending it. WGs get loads of timewasting messages all day long. Responding to them just feeds the trolls. You probably aren't a troll, but how are they to know that?

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That would depend on the parties involved.

 

I know I've had my faves over the years, and I've been the fave of a few who have done all you've described, and I even dated one.

 

Just because I'm a WG, doesn't mean I am a different breed of human, I can affect and be effected by those whom I choose to encounter.

 

Being a WG doesn't make that less so. in fact it could be argued that there is more chance of that spark being ignited, as you take away all the impress me/impress you date, and get straight to the goodies, so you would know sexual compatibility from the outset.

 

You never know when a spark will hit, and when it does, you both have a choice.

 

In my case, I really liked him, so I gave up the Punter/WG dynamic, for the BF/GF dynamic. 

 

No cash exchanged just hot sex and snuggles after.

 

 

But I can understand your logic on putting up that barrier, and thinking in that context as it's a good safety net for yourself.

 

The scenario I was imagining doesn't apply to a wg encounter, because there it's all clear from the outset that you're both there to fuck.

This other scenario...the last time it happened to me was about four or five years ago, so I suppose I was around 58. She was around 22. Work had brought both of us into constant all-day contact for a period of nearly four weeks. I started fancying her like mad for reasons I couldn't easily understand. There were too many other people in our working group constantly present for anything to come of it, and it was inadvisable anyway. But at times I found myself sitting opposite her at mealtimes without a clue in my head what I could possibly say to her.  I came clean about it to a female colleague of my own age who was also involved in this event and who was also a pal. She at once nodded her head: "Oh yes, one goes straight back to being a teenager - blushing, stammering..."

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