HotwifeBBWminx

Male Maid

29 posts in this topic

Hey gentlemen.

 

Just wondering what peoples views are on me having a male maid. Not in uniform lol.

 

He is discreet, very good at making the guys I have seen so far feel really relaxed and the fact they know he is there has seemed to make them feel a bit more secure in my incalls. Obviously for outcalls he is my security which has so far meant the chaps I have seen have been very respectful.

 

However a couple of chaps have been very put off by it, saying its wrong and they dont feel comfortable knowing a guy is looking after me?!?!?! Even after letting them know he was my partner (which most guys have liked the idea of lol! you naughty boys!) I have put that down to them wanting to be a bit odd but would be grateful for opinions.

 

Thanks Scarlett x

 

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

For an outcall I presume the punter doesn't see the guy so no issue really. I just once had occasion where the 'maid' was a man (in one of those central MK terraces with car parking all round, as it happens) and I found it off putting BIG TIME. Is that rational? Don't know but there's your answer from my perspective

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hi Scarlett

 

I would feel uneasy if I had not been forewarned that a bloke would open the door. Even with advance warning I might feel a bit odd. Much would depend on the attitude of the guy and his welcome.  I hope things go well for you and that your guy gives out the right vibes

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thanks guys thats really helpful. I wondered only because we have a real open honest relationship and he is behind me 100% in doing this (no pun intended). We have done it together and seperately as we both just love sex and also knowing the other is really enjoying sex. 

 

Guess we will have to have a real idea of peoples feelings and make sure it is known before anyone arrives, which we have done so far.

 

Thanks again Scarlett x

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I don't really understand why you need him answering the door.When a bloke goes to see an indy most expect you to answer the door.A maid does not have to be seen male or female.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hey Bibi, Thanks for that, and agree about the maid thing. I wasnt saying he answered the door but from time to time when busy does answer the phone. Having said that, the question was why it would matter. If I answered the door looking fantastic, and sat the punter in the lounge next to the maid as we chatted is that better? Or should it be out of sight completely?

 

I just find it really interesting that whilst we can all discuss OH's on here in secret, I can discuss with mine everything about what I do and get encouragement to fulfill my own wants and needs, yet nobody would ever want him to be known to be involved.

 

Thought inspiring for me anyways xx

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I guess a male maid would deter anyone who was arriving to do anything untoward but I think if the clients didn't know otherwise they might be a bit freaked out, but if you explain in advance they know what to expect and will make a decision on whether to visit.  I think most decent men are understanding that we have security (in varying forms) so will accept it in a rational sense but if they find it does put them off their stride then they won't return. 

 

I wonder if it would be better not to say he is your partner though- for those who get off on the notion there will be plenty freaked out! However if you're advertising as a hotwife then they might even expect a 'husband' presence? 

 

Interesting thought though. You could give the while hotwife/cuckold thing a whirl as a USP/niche? Certainly in the swinging world it is hugely popular, not so sure about the pay for sex world though. If clients want to see you but aren't interested in the fella being about you could say he won't be there so as to ensure they feel comfortable. 

 

If you're new to escorting then it does take some time fiddling about with your advertising/branding/services/prices etc to see what works. Also, what works for some women just doesn't work for others so you really have to try a few things and see how it pans out. 

1 person likes this

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

If a man answered the door to me at a WG's workplace, I would scarper at a million miles an hour. There have been rare occasions when a man has answered a phone call to a WG, and I have always discontinued the call. Somehow, a male involvement in that area seems wrong to me, and certainly makes me feel uncomfortable enough not to want to have anything to do with it.

2 people like this

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Again seeing a man at the door / venue or especially hearing a male voice would make me stop and think is this man a pimp / controlling the WG - I may have jumped to wrong conclusion but from my  view point I would play it safe and hang up / not turn up.

If I saw a guy at the flat and was not expecting it it would be downer and it would put thoughts it my mind..i.e is he a pimp, a bouncer - has their been trouble here so would distract from punt.

 

However if you advertise you have aa male maid it may put the punter at ease when ringing - or when arranging appt let punter know a guy will be there rather than surprise them again it might make things easier

1 person likes this

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Again seeing a man at the door / venue or especially hearing a male voice would make me stop and think is this man a pimp / controlling the WG - I may have jumped to wrong conclusion but from my  view point I would play it safe and hang up / not turn up.

If I saw a guy at the flat and was not expecting it it would be downer and it would put thoughts it my mind..i.e is he a pimp, a bouncer - has their been trouble here so would distract from punt.

 

However if you advertise you have aa male maid it may put the punter at ease when ringing - or when arranging appt let punter know a guy will be there rather than surprise them again it might make things easier

 

How true is that.  I know so many girls who just arrived here and say 'hey, this is my boyfriend', yet he is the guy who makes her bed while she is freshening up for her next client, buys her condoms and even keeps her money saying is for the girl's security.  You would like to help her but you know she is under his influence and she might even be in love with him, so whatever you say will be equal to zero.  One day she will wake up though.

1 person likes this

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I don't think its about him being your OH or anything like that, I just think blokes want to deal with you and you only if they go to see an indy. They want to talk to you on the phone and be with you on the punt. Alot of guys might assume he is a pimp or something of that nature or due to bad experiences think they might be due to get robbed.

Hmm strange I could have sworn something on the original post made me think your clients saw him when they sometimes arrive. For an appointment you should be ready and the gent should just deal with you from the start there isn't really a need for him to go and sit with the maid in the lounge again whether the maid is male or female.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

it depends how he comes across and how much contact he has i think... a lot of the london agencies phones are answered by men which doesnt bother me but it might if a guy answered the door when i arrived...

 

there used to be a gay maid in soho LOL a big black guy all limp wristed and camp... very likable guy... he didnt bother me at all...

 

then at shepherd market once there was a pimp in this brothel who i caught spying on me banging an oriental chick... LOL that was a bit off putting...

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hey gentlemen.

 

Just wondering what peoples views are on me having a male maid. Not in uniform lol.

 

He is discreet, very good at making the guys I have seen so far feel really relaxed and the fact they know he is there has seemed to make them feel a bit more secure in my incalls. Obviously for outcalls he is my security which has so far meant the chaps I have seen have been very respectful.

 

However a couple of chaps have been very put off by it, saying its wrong and they dont feel comfortable knowing a guy is looking after me?!?!?! Even after letting them know he was my partner (which most guys have liked the idea of lol! you naughty boys!) I have put that down to them wanting to be a bit odd but would be grateful for opinions.

 

Thanks Scarlett x

When I worked for an agency we sometimes used a guy to answer the phones when the lady was not able to do so and some of  the clients did not like dealing with a man at all.  Some of them did not mind, and some of them liked to have a chat with him. It's horses for courses innit

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It's happened to me before and I've walked away feeling uncomfortable. While punters understand the need for security many of us do get unnerved when a man answers the door.  For lots of reasons.  

 

Keep him hidden is my advice. We don't want to see him, hear his booming voice through the walls, or the sound of his size tens patrolling the hallway.  Security should only ever become visible when they're needed.  So hopefully never.  

Edited by WhilstNeroplays
2 people like this

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Scarlet a friend of mine works in exactly the same way you do. If you PM me I'll give you her details and I'm sure she'd be happy to chat to you about how it works for them (and it does). Her husband is always around, all punters know he's there and she is extremely busy so guess lots are not bothered by it as long as they know and you make it plain in your advertising that he is about.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It is a strange feeling to have a guy about and what are you supposed to do if he fancies a wrestling match mid punt....

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

May be ok but can the punter ask for his money back if he can't get an erection due to the male being close to the action!  I'm sure it would affect performance so perhaps not a good idea. 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Are we talking in uniform,frilly apron etc? :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

There is a well reported WG in Sheffield who, on ones first visit, has her husband meet you in a particular pub car park and then leads your car in a convoy of two to their house.  He then points out the door, you go in to find the WG (his wife) inside - dressed as requested - and things move on from there.

I assume that whilst we are upstairs, he quietly comes in the house - but I never heard or saw him.

Personally I had no problem with this and the thought of me being upstairs with his wife was an added impetus!

So, for me, a male "maid" is OK.   

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Probably not a deal breaker, but on balance, I'd rather not see (or hear) the maid, male or female. Or flatmates etc.  Visiting an indy should not feel like visiting a parlour.  Would likely not bother with a complicated thing like Shropshire Bloke describes.  Plenty of Fish.

1 person likes this

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Are we talking in uniform,frilly apron etc? :)

 

That would be nice: frilly apron, white socks with lace and nice tanned pecks preferably.  Ah, and a bum on display  :)

1 person likes this

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Yeah the other ppl on the premises is a strange one too. Not too bothered personally if it's another WG and punter but I've had a couple of incalls when there's obviously been ppl watching tv etc in the lounge. Didn't walk but wasn't too pleased

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I should expand on my earlier comments.  It's about getting the right balance because punters' safety and peace of mind is of equal importance, and it all depends upon the fellow answering the door.  

 

If he's professional, well groomed and opens the door with a disarming smile saying. "Good afternoon sir, you must be Nero, we're expecting you.  Please have a seat in here, so-and-so will be with you in a minute."  Then great, I wouldn't have a problem.

 

If, OTOH (and this has happened to me more than once) it's a young black guy, dressed like a thugged-out, blinged-up gangsta with his jeans around his arse who opens the door with a scowl and a confrontational"Yeah", then I wouldn't enter.  It's intimidating. Several times I've had cross words with 'security' and left before the situation escalated into something more serious.  

 

Security has to be professional; not everyone is suited to the role.  Someone with a services background will likely prove the better choice, not some street thug trying to look hard - it invites trouble.  Charm works much better than the implied threat of violence.

2 people like this

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

have met this twice, once as an indie and once also in a parlour (he was the owner)  a bit off putting as an indie to be honest, knowing you were in the room and a man is outside (who was her husband of the indie) but no trouble at the parlour to be honest .

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

If I detect a male presence of any sort that's a deal breaker for me straight away. I would consider a husband provided that was all part of the deal. Lucy7  springs to mind.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!


Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.


Sign In Now