Xamanus

Losing Virginity To An Escort?

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Hi, im new here. 

 

I 23 years old and extremely shy with girls, I have never supported the idea of doing it with he an escort for the first time . I guess its time to change my perception. im 23 and still a virgin. Im planning to lose it with an escort but im kind of nervous about it, it s there any agencies out there that have an option for virgins/shy guys. 

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Hi Xamanus. I 'lost' my virginity to an escort in my early 20's (many moons ago). It had become a huge mental block to me, and visiting an escort was a godsend. You could say it changed my life overnight.

I'd suggested doing a little research, using the reviews and service provider list on here, to find an independent escort who offers a service to shy or inexperienced men. There are some wonderful ladies out there who can help you.

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I sense that you feel it's important to lose your virginity as if it's a rite of passage.  It's no big deal honestly.

I must have been in my early thirties when I first had penetrative sex and that was paid for.  I was visiting parlours etc. at that time.  But I do know it was so unmemorable in terms of duration and pleasure that I can't remember exactly when it happened.  But I do remember one visit to a prostitute when the sex was more enjoyable and I was saying to her while we were fucking: "I could keep this up all night!"  

I'd had girlfriends but never gone beyond 'heavy petting' and yet these times were so enjoyable and fulfilling. 

The only free sex I've had is with my wife.

I don't think losing your virginity to a prostitute will solve your shyness with women. In fact it may be detrimental to way you view women generally.  Why not try to chat casually with women in all sorts of situations without feeling that there have to be sexual undertones? 

But, heh, what do I know?

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Hi I was 19 when I lost my virginity to a WG. I did not have the advantage of being able to plan the event. At the time we did not have the advantage of the internet, the girl I met imagined me to be older than I was and wrongly assumed I was experienced. I was a street pick up in London, and I took her back to my hotel room. The meeting started badly, I was nervous, I did not mention I was a virgin,but we clicked once she realised. Being a street girl without warning her in advance she had to run back to her minder,  otherwise my  time would have been longer. She did give me her home phone number but I had just blown more than a months wages so I never did get to meet her again. I am always grateful for that introduction to the wonders of being inside a woman. It is a magical experience, when you finally come together.

 

You will get lots of advice and again you will have to decide what is right for you. I would suggest a lady slightly older than yourself, some mature ladies do not see younger men, so read the profiles. Give yourself plenty of time, to enjoy not just the sex but the foreplay too. Do not under any circumstances, take any form of dutch courage in the shape of alcohol or drugs. You will need to be in full control of your senses, and you will ultimately enjoy everything far more. Try to find yourself an independent lady, the 'traffic noise' from a parlour can be distracting as you overhear other ladies with their gentlemen in adjoining rooms. You need to relax on this first meeting do not go with a list of things you would like to achieve, settle for the one thing, to have gentle sex with a woman. Once you have your confidence, you will soon be able to experiment and try different things, but on this first meeting keep it simple, unhurried and be prepared to relax and talk afterwards. This is a meeting between two human beings, so whilst you have a particular goal in sight, remember this is a partnership, a temporary relationship and do not ever give the impression this lady is anything less than your social equal. Your meeting should be fun, relaxed, with a lot of mutual respect, now enjoy.

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Understandably, many virgins build their virginity up to be a "big deal" in their own minds. If it really is a "big deal" to you that you are a virgin (and more than you might think still are by their early-mid twenties), then don't feel concerned about losing it to an escort. My advice would be to steer clear of agencies and go with a slightly older independent lady (there will be options amongst the WGs who post here but also many others). Contact your chosen WG by email, explain your circumstances and see if she is up for it. The vast majority will be understanding and accomodating. It can still be a memorable experience and will probably be a lot more satisfying than my own first time, at 17 years old, drunk and on a golf course at 4am. Very romantic eh ?

If you let us know your approximate location and preference for type of girl, you may get some good recommendations here.

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Losing your virginity is a special thing but will depend on the individual.

 

It's something that you will remember for many years so you should plan carefully if your intention is to lose it to an escort but you must tell her so that she will be extra caring of your emotions and maybe that you will be a bit shy. You should also decide what services you are looking for but keep it simple and not too long, maybe 30 mins or 1 hour max - you can always go back for more! ;)

 

I've enjoyed helping a number of guys in this way and am sure that I speak for many working girls too in saying that it's special for us too. :)

 

Feel free to PM me if you need any additional advice.

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Of course losing your virginity is an important even if you think it is and most men I think would think that way.

 

You could do worse than take up Paris on her offer of messaging help  - that is an offer that would never have been available in years past.

 

From what I know of her, I suspect I would also sound out whether she would let you be another of her initiations.

 

How many of us could say to ourselves "I 'seduced' a Soho legend on a message board..."

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Assume that your first sexual experience will be rubbish (it is for most people, paid for or not), so if it isn't that will be a lovely bonus.

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I think that this is an interesting conundrum and something that the sex industry really can help with. If you are a mature virgin it plays on your mind. You feel that you are expected to have a certain amount of sexual experience and the chance are that it is not something that you can hide if you do find yourself in an intimate situation (unless of course you are supremely self confident, but I'd argue you wouldn't still be a virgin if that were the case).

 

Visiting a well-chosen escort can help, but

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Xamanus, this is actually not an uncommon situation.  Over the years we've had a few instances where we've been contacted by individuals in similar circumstances, and also once by a guy who made a booking on behalf of his friend.

 

There'll be lots of differing opinions, but if you do go ahead the key thing will be to pick the right escort.  You're 23, but if you think you'll feel nervous you might benefit from choosing an escort the same age or older.

 

Absolutely do not go for a short booking with an escort younger than you who can't speak English.

 

If you feel comfortable saying it upfront, tell the escort that it is your first time.

 

You've done the right thing by posting on the forum.  Don't rush to make a decision, take the advice from regular contributors to this board and you'll have a really wonderful experience.

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I think this is an interesting conundrum. If you are still a virgin when most of your peers are not it is possible to hide it from your friends but not when you find yourself in an intimate situation. There is no doubt that the older you get before losing your virginity, the harder it is to lose it, mainly because of a mental block. Unless you are supremely self confident or just selfish you will struggle to know what to do if you do find yourself with a woman. And she will think you have some experience.

 

Visiting an escort can help, provided that she is well chosen. It can get the monkey of your back. It doesn't suddenly make up for years of lack of experience, but it is a start.

 

The other point I would make is that, rightly or wrongly (most on here would say wrongly) there is a stigma to paying for sex. Whilst you need not ever tell anyone it does become part of who you are. The poster states that he has never supported the idea of doing it with an escort for the first time. So I would say he has to be sure that he has changed his mind on this before he does.

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It's quite common for young men to have their first time with an escort. I always feel very flattered when somebody who clearly have been building up to the moment and has thought about it for a long time, chooses me to share the experience with. I would recommend booking enough time, so you can really relax with eachother, and to let the lady know in advance that it is your first time. She will be able to take it slow, and teach you some things at the same time.

 

However, if you're worried about sharing your first time with a sex worker, then of course I wouldn't recommend it. A first time you are not looking forward to is a shame, and waiting till the right moment for this experience might be a good idea. There is absolutely no shame in not having had sex yet!

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The other point I would make is that, rightly or wrongly (most on here would say wrongly) there is a stigma to paying for sex. Whilst you need not ever tell anyone it does become part of who you are. The poster states that he has never supported the idea of doing it with an escort for the first time. So I would say he has to be sure that he has changed his mind on this before he does.

I viewed it as paying for tuition in a life skill I was unfamiliar with, rather than paying for sex. I guess it's all down to viewpoint.

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Yes, exactly, like paying for a driving lesson.

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Losing your virginity is a special thing but will depend on the individual.

 

It's something that you will remember for many years so you should plan carefully if your intention is to lose it to an escort but you must tell her so that she will be extra caring of your emotions and maybe that you will be a bit shy. You should also decide what services you are looking for but keep it simple and not too long, maybe 30 mins or 1 hour max - you can always go back for more! ;)

 

I've enjoyed helping a number of guys in this way and am sure that I speak for many working girls too in saying that it's special for us too. :)

 

Feel free to PM me if you need any additional advice.

 

This sounds to me more how a woman might see it. I think Grateful Gentleman got it right: what a male virgin wants to know is what it feels like to be inside a woman. 

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A punter like me never stops wanting to feel the joy of .....

 

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Oh my darling I may get slated for this but please on this occasion stay away from agencies unless you know exactly what you are looking for.

You must have some idea as to the ideal woman that gets you going. Share this ideal woman with the guys here and I'm sure they will come up with the right one.

IMHO most, if not all first timers/virgins should go for an indie rather than agency.

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Agree with Holly. Pick an indie with her own website so you can get a better idea of her personality and services as she usually would write this herself. Also, you are less likely to be able to speak to an agency girl in advance and with an indie you can email to start with if its easier that way and then call her to get a feel for her nature and if she sounds nice and kind as well as ask her any questions you may have and explain you are a virgin. 

 

Good luck! 

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Xamanus, it looks like you have got off to a good start and you will notice there are many ladies willing to help with advice. So relax, enjoy, and if it has been fun, return the compliment to the lady by writing a favourable reference.

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Lost mine to a street girl in Amsterdam while on work exchange in 1965 at the age of 17.

Her name was Rikje, she was lovely and cost the princely sum of 100 guilders ( 10 quid at the exchange rate of the time ) Still have no regrets, nearly 50 years ( and many hundreds of assignations ) later.

My first blow-job - wasn't quite sure what she was doing at the time (naive or what ?) but definitely the best 10 quid I've ever invested.

Back to my Grouse and water with a nostalgic smile on my face....

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i would advise against  having paid sex for the first time it could damage your self esteem.

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I lost mine at 23 21 years ago!  Good on ya for saving yourself for someone special.  Have you tried a dating website?  Agree with Mike if your self esteem is low already you may find that you will feel no better after going with an escort and wished you had saved yourself for a special lady in your life.  Depends if you feel is it a big deal.  You would need to pick a very understanding wg if you def have to go down that route.  I'd suggest a mature independent wg that will take things slowly.  Perhaps have a drink and a meal with the lady in question and make a night of it to take the focus off the reason for seeing her! 

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i would advise against  having paid sex for the first time it could damage your self esteem.

Unless self-esteem or self-confidence is already low, in which case it could definitely help. There's nothing wrong in paying to be taught a skill. ;)

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There's nothing wrong in paying to be taught a skill. ;)

 

So true!

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I lost mine at 23 21 years ago!  Good on ya for saving yourself for someone special.  Have you tried a dating website?  Agree with Mike if your self esteem is low already you may find that you will feel no better after going with an escort and wished you had saved yourself for a special lady in your life.  Depends if you feel is it a big deal.  You would need to pick a very understanding wg if you def have to go down that route.  I'd suggest a mature independent wg that will take things slowly.  Perhaps have a drink and a meal with the lady in question and make a night of it to take the focus off the reason for seeing her! 

 

Ha ha, I lost mine at the age of 22 to a guy who was persuading me for quite some time and then we were together for one year.  I was so naive, I thought we will be together forever and I gave in after so many guys tried it before him......... Even molested since the age of 7,8 

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