French Belle

Has A Lady Already Been Stalked By A Client ?

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I have actually a concern at the moment and wonder how to react.

 

I mean, did a punter already sent you loads of messages, chat with you for hours and followed you everywhere online and eventually in real life ? Regarless of your time and fancy obviously.

 

Pretending to be 'friends', as he does, is not enough to me. They pay for time and services, there is no way it could work. Being over friendly or pretending being in love is despicable when they want to get more of us, i.e. freebies.

 

Threaten us of bad reviews is obnoxious, it's blackmail, and has to be denounced.

 

Why stalking a lady and even threaten her, I don't see the point ? Get a shrink !

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Are you being stalked French Belle ? You would be better joining that message board that's set up by and for working women who know how to deal with crap like this. 

 

If you are being stalked I wouldn't post about it on here as maybe your stalker is a member.

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UNfortunatly i bet every single escort is/ has been through this!

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UNfortunatly i bet every single escort is/ has been through this!

 

And what did they do then ? Ignore ? Report ? Change of career ?

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Are you being stalked French Belle ? You would be better joining that message board that's set up by and for working women who know how to deal with crap like this. 

 

If you are being stalked I wouldn't post about it on here as maybe your stalker is a member.

 

I'm neither a whimp, nor a victim. If he can read this then, perhaps he can understand what he's done is wrong ?

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I'm neither a whimp, nor a victim. If he can read this then, perhaps he can understand what he's done is wrong ?

 

Yes but then you are making an assumption that he cares. A lot of nut job's out there so keep it safe.

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No one is calling you a wimp? just giving you advice

just ignore it x

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I see... Shut up and suffer in silence then. I will.

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WHAT THE HELL i am trying to help you i was going to pm you and offer some advice but your attitude stinks

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If you are feeling physically threatened (rather than just your working reputation), I'd suggest a visit to your local police station to report it. There are anti-stalking laws in place to try to protect people, and no one should suffer it.

Or, if you don't feel able to visit the police, have a couple of large male friends visit the person in question to have a quiet chat with him.

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French Belle

 

The answer is that you have to report this to the police.

 

They will take you seriously but you have to act.

 

No good arguing with each other on here because he is the enemy and not the other members. 

 

The last thing this man has is respect for you, so all on here should hold respect for each other especially the WG's. 

 

Make an appointment and report him.

 

Be a strong woman and be prepared to see it through!

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Or, if you don't feel able to visit the police, have a couple of large male friends visit the person in question to have a quiet chat with him.

 

That could back fire on you. 

 

The police will be on your side but won't be if your men friends are having quiet chats. Its a euphenism not to be considered.

 

Report him.

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It's not uncommon and not only in this job/role/profession or whatever you wish to call it. This job does make you more of a target, seem more vulnerable.

 

Best way to deal is keep a record of every thing, then speak to the police.

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If its a member of this forum then you can block individuals who's posts you dont want to read. I think that blocks their emails also but you would need to check with the mods for that. If it still doesnt stop then you can report them to the moderators.

 

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Strawberry is completely correct, you need to record everything that happens so if events continue you have the necessary evidence to present if ever required to the authorities.

Even people in dare I say ordinary jobs who suffer harressment in any shape or form are advised to keep a detailed record of events, dates, times etc. I should know as I've helped some people (male and female) in my Company who have suffered different forms of harressment, verbal abuse etc.

It's unfortunate in this world there are people of both sexes although mainly men who for whatever reason become either unhinged or fail to accept that there behaviour is unacceptable in society.

It's very easy to say try not to let it affect you otherwise he has partly won whatever his motives are however if it continues or becomes worse you really need to consider contacting the police with preferably a diary of the events.

If he is aware that you are prepared to take it further it could scare him into giving up although this obviously depends on what kind of malious idiot you're dealing with.

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And what did they do then ? Ignore ? Report ? Change of career ?

In my case retired.

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It's not uncommon and not only in this job/role/profession or whatever you wish to call it. This job does make you more of a target, seem more vulnerable.

 

Best way to deal is keep a record of every thing, then speak to the police.

 

Yes I have. About 215 pages of messages and conversations, proof of the booking, travel tickets, name, address and phone. And I am prepared to take this further, believe me.

 

I thank you all for your advice of course, sorry if I've sounded 'stinking' to english rebecca69, but the situation is scary. I've never had to face this in several years working as a WG in France. There is a first time for everything...

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sorry hun im having a bad week maybe was bad comms on my part

i have had my stalker for 18 months i almost feel sorry for him i just ignore and hope he will eventually get bored

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sorry hun im having a bad week maybe was bad comms on my part

i have had my stalker for 18 months i almost feel sorry for him i just ignore and hope he will eventually get bored

 

No worries :) Sorry you had to face this too... Your advice would be welcome !

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I was stalked by an ex-gf for 5 yrs. It can be emotionally draining and hugely annoying when a person's unwanted, persistent, and intrusive behaviour becomes part of your life. It is very difficult to ignore, and the police seem powerless to do anything until it becomes physical. I have kept every single message as evidence.

As a guy I never felt threatened, but I never knew how far she would take it, and that in itself was worrying. If the person cannot see they are behaving totally inappropriately, then what are they capable of. I had to tell a few close friends, as I needed to talk about it, but I also wanted a few people to know in case it resulted in anything more serious.

So for a girl, I can only imagine the situation is far worse.

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Go to the police. Trust me, it;s best you get it reported sooner rather than later. 

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I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. Report it to Ugly Mugs (if you're not a member google it and join). Also, as others have suggested, join SAAFE too. They're very supportive x

 ...Why stalking a lady and even threaten her, I don't see the point ? Get a shrink !

Stalking is not an indication of requiring psychiatric input. He's obviously a nasty piece of work, agreed, but the two don't come hand in hand.

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Not entirely clear from your post what has has happened Belle?

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I have been stalked by clients in the past, purely because I made the mistake of allowing them in my home and then decided to ring my bell whenever suited them.  But most annoying is that even now, I am stalked and harassed by several guys who do not even know that I 'misbehave' like this sometimes: and one I have not even met although is more than a year since I had a telephone conversation with him.  He chooses to text, taunting me with invitations to different functions or places.  I never respond, although I wish I told him: 'go away' or anything similar.  

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I see... Shut up and suffer in silence then. I will.

No she is not saying shut up and suffer in silence. The best way to actually deal with these types of clients is to starve them of the oxygen of attention.Block them on your phone on any social media he has managed to get to and do not have any contact. Most get bored and move on if he does not then report him to the police. Most wgs have had this at some point and what Rebecca is saying essentially is correct. It is not about suffering it is about not playing the game. Tell him once that his behaviour is not acceptable and then IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE.

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