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Greedy Girl Parties - Advice For A Female

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Good afternoon, I realise that this board is predominately Male, but my husband has sent me here to do a little research as he wants me to come along to a Greedy Girl Party. Specifically one of the Sub nights run by Debbie in Sutton.

I would be there as a sub female and it would in this way meet my needs to be submissive to a group of men, and my husbands to see me well used (I hope you don't mind me being fairly factual in my language).

What I'm specifically looking for is to get some information from someone who's attended in either a submissive or dominant capacity this type of party, ideal if it was one of Debbie's, but not critical. I'll freely admit that I was 75% committed to attending the party that is happening tomorrow, but is was just too fast and I didn't have enough time to let it all sink in and get used to the idea.

I could do with knowing from experienced people on either side what I should expect from arrival to departure.

Thanks in advance!

M x

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I don't know anything but I would like to watch and join in lol.

I would rather regret doing it than regret not doing it.

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100% it'll be something we regret if we don't, but building up as much knowledge beforehand should mean we don't regret it when we do :)

Thanks for the reply anyway.

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Fred Higgins, are you looking in? You're the man for the job  ;)

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From my personal experience you will only regret not communicating to your men what your boundaries entail?

 

I was invited personally by one of this forum members to use his sub slut slave whilst himself as her master.

There was a few newbies like myself although have had sex in groups, gb and swinger parties.

 

The master was the person to show us what his slave is willing to do sexually, verbally, pain thresholds and so on.

We took his lead and continued, again communicating making sure she was getting all that she was comfortable doing.

It progressed smoothly and we all were enjoying the occasion.

 

If you were to consider going to a swinging session then make sure that the organiser is around to give you a tour of the place.

Maybe to break yourself in gently just attend to watch?

 

Best of luck and keep us posted afterwards.

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I agree. It seems to me that it is the role and responsibility of the dom to sort this out. He knows his sub's limits and he sets the pre agreed boundaries as well as policing them.

Maybe I know too much theory and not enough practice about the BDSM world but there does seem to be a lot of people diving in with little or no knowledge

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I'm here to get knowledge, but as a sub it's also part of the process of being dominated (being here asking), there is no diving in happening here :)

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this looks amazing! am sure you will have loads of fun! I think its very wise to get a sense of what you are in for- even if its your husband/dom who will be "policing" boundaries. Its a cliche but communication is always key. Just make sure you know going in what you are comfortable with, but I guess your partner will know anyway. 

 

do keep us posted!!! xx

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Thanks Nawaab, an interesting insight.

I'll be sure to update you on my progress and my thoughts on the party when I attend.

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Hello M,

It's good to do your research and ask questions beforehands :) You sound like an intelligent woman and your husband must be very lucky !

YOU have the power. Obedience doesn't mean you have to accept anything and everything.

Have fun !

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Hi Belle, and thanks, many people mistake submissive sexual desires with weakness, that couldn't be further from the truth (as you clearly understand)

I'd be interested in hearing views from any couples who've attended GG parties, submissive themed or not, I'd love to chat with one of the ladies who takes part regularly.

M x

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I do not regard submission as weakness. I have a couple friend who are heavily into BDSM. She is a trained psychologist and out of role is the more assertive and powerful one. Butvin role she is sub to her core. But I do believe that when planning a scene the dom takes responsibility for the emotional and physical safety of the sub.

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There is a big difference even between subs so it would depend on how sub you actually are would be my first point. I to was at the party with Nawaab and it was my sub that was being used. A good master will always know his subs limits and with our meet last year it was as much about the guys limits as hers. I chatted in depth with most people attending as there are play subs and real subs and the 2 are totally different. The sub then delivered what was required but if say i had more extreme people who wanted far more then, as long as the services were with in the subs limits , it would be a more extreme encounter. I would say work out your limits and get your master to make sure they are understood by everyone involved and it will be a lot of fun :)

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I do not regard submission as weakness. I have a couple friend who are heavily into BDSM. She is a trained psychologist and out of role is the more assertive and powerful one. Butvin role she is sub to her core. But I do believe that when planning a scene the dom takes responsibility for the emotional and physical safety of the sub.

This is totally correct and a lot of people dont understand the concept and just how close the relationship between master/ sub is and the amount of understanding you must have or else its a disaster lol

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Great stuff, my limits are well known and managed by my husband in our relationship, that's a given in any mutually acceptable relationship, sub/Dom or not.

Great insight into the scene from the attendees at the party, thanks very much for the Dom giving some insight into how he managed the outcome. Very helpful.

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If I can tell this again, your partner/Dom is really lucky, and you must love him so much... My romantic side rising ;)

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We are both very lucky to have found each other and lucky our wants and needs fit together enough to mean we both have our thirsts quenched.

15 years married this year :)

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Oh, and just to keep it in track for this site, we are also interested in funding a Dom female escort who does hotel out calls to tick another box on my submissive journey.

This doesn't need to be in the London area as we travel the UK.

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Oh, and just to keep it in track for this site, we are also interested in funding a Dom female escort who does hotel out calls to tick another box on my submissive journey.

This doesn't need to be in the London area as we travel the UK.

Hi Maz,

 

As this is the start of the school hols, I hope you and Baz are a genuine couple and not some teenagers having a laugh as it is too hot to go outside!

 

Giving you the benefit of the doubt, then firstly this is my FR of one of Debbie’s parties I have been to;-

http://www.punternet.com/index.php/reviews/112749?sa=2

 

I went to a Sutton party a couple of months ago but my report on that is on another national punting site, so can’t link.

 

I have not had the oppo to go to one of Debbie’s specialist sub parties yet, but from the wording of her invites I have a good idea of what is expected of both the guys and girls.

 

Unless I have mis- read some of your posts I get the impression you have not been to any parties before and you believe that your husband will be able to set limits and supervise what you do.

 

If that is the case then I do not think you should be starting off at a full on sub party, which someone like Debbie herself says are not for the fainted hearted.

 

If you want to get into this scene then I suggest that the first step would be to go to one of the parties around London which welcome couples and ideally have several bedrooms.

 

There you can start off by having sex with guys you are comfortable with in front of hubby if you want to and watched by others.

 

Once you have some party experience then I would suggest going along to one of Debbie’s more mainstream parties and discuss  with her just exactly what you want to experience and take it from there.  

 

As regards a dom lady who will meet you and Baz, I have some ideas but I will give it bit more thought and come back to you.

 

In the meantime happy to answer any questions either on here or by PM.

 

Regards,

 

davidgood

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Thanks David, and thanks for the benefit of the doubt, that had me giggling like a schoolgirl even though I'm a long way from being one, I'm 40 (you know as the song goes, the age when girls get very naughty).

Hopefully my writing doesn't come over as adolescent? Re-reading my posts I'd like to think not.

Your thoughts on the parties are interesting, I agree that dipping a toe in the water with the more basic GG party on the face of it seems reasonable, but sexually it just wouldn't satisfy me, I think I'd rather just carry on as a kinky twosome.

I've had great contact and input from a Dom over the last few days, and it seems likely that will be out first step into someone joining in our fun, a more relaxed way to drop some inhibitions and nervousness over someone else being involved, and seeing me at my most basic.

I've also come up with an idea from the point of view if a party that is a comprmise, it's just down to whether the service provider (got that term from my introduction thread!) will go with my ideas.

As for being genuine? This is probably the wrong type of forum to worry about that isn't it? God only knows who is on here posting genuine reviews and asking genuine questions as opposed to getting their jollies on-line, it's not something I'm too worried about, I just enjoy reading the threads for what they are.

I'm appreciative of the offer of PM's, and if you do come up with any ideas for Dommes then great! Although I think I've found my first.......

M x

Edited by Vin DaLoo
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Hi Maz,

 

You come over as fairly mature and I am sure now you are genuine, but there are a lot of pseudo people and piss takers on some sites.

 

Sorry I forgot to welcome you to The Forum, I hope you will continue to contribute to it.

 

Unfortunately a lady called Holly Maddison who could give you a lot of info and advice on the BDSM scene does not seem to be active at the moment. I hope she is OK.

 

As regards the dom who has been in touch, I suspect that he is male, but I may be wrong. I hope all goes well with him and that you progess to one of Debbies parties eventually, let me know when you are going as I would love to meet you.  But if you want to try some tamer parties in London first to get comfortable with group sex let me know.

 

Also I will drop you a line when I have checked the dom lady I had in mind is still active.

 

Regards to both of you,

 

davidgood

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That's interesting, I'll PM you (not sure if can actually could you PM me?).

Thanks

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Hello M,

I have been to the GG Sub party that you were considering attending. Please wave if you are still interested in a full review.

Best,

P

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