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How many of you feel depressed after a punt?

 

I find the better the punt the more depressed I am after.

 

I recently had 2 hours with a woman i have wanted to see for ages. She provided a service I have wanted to try for years and it was the most amazing sexual experience of my life. She was an amzing woman sweet and dirty at the same time. kissed me more passionatly than my partner ever has.

 

But after I feel empty and lonelyy and depressed. During it is such a high but the comedown after is bad. If I was rich and could punt everyday with any woman i wanted I would be happy. but my circumstances dont allow that and I am not single. 

 

 

Is anyone like me and wish that the cycle of sexual desire and release could just be eliminated so they could enjoy their lives and follow other passions?

 

 

 

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Tbh its totally the opposite for me!!! But then again i have been told that i radiant positivity in everything i do...

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I think if makes perfect sense.  I feel the same when a guy asks me for a drink as in a date and then I discover that actually he wants to get me drunk and shag me: and I just wanted to have a conversation.

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Are you in a relationship? If you aren't maybe it's time you are.

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Isnt it obvious that a guy who invites you for a drink wants to shag you ? you use the word date which implies something romantic.

 

 

I think if makes perfect sense.  I feel the same when a guy asks me for a drink as in a date and then I discover that actually he wants to get me drunk and shag me: and I just wanted to have a conversation.

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Find yourself a woman who will  offer you the same but without having to charge you.

 

Hi

 

How many of you feel depressed after a punt?

 

I find the better the punt the more depressed I am after.

 

I recently had 2 hours with a woman i have wanted to see for ages. She provided a service I have wanted to try for years and it was the most amazing sexual experience of my life. She was an amzing woman sweet and dirty at the same time. kissed me more passionatly than my partner ever has.

 

But after I feel empty and lonelyy and depressed. During it is such a high but the comedown after is bad. If I was rich and could punt everyday with any woman i wanted I would be happy. but my circumstances dont allow that and I am not single. 

 

 

Is anyone like me and wish that the cycle of sexual desire and release could just be eliminated so they could enjoy their lives and follow other passions?

 

 

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Hi

 

How many of you feel depressed after a punt?

 

I find the better the punt the more depressed I am after.

 

I recently had 2 hours with a woman i have wanted to see for ages. She provided a service I have wanted to try for years and it was the most amazing sexual experience of my life. She was an amzing woman sweet and dirty at the same time. kissed me more passionatly than my partner ever has.

 

But after I feel empty and lonelyy and depressed. During it is such a high but the comedown after is bad. If I was rich and could punt everyday with any woman i wanted I would be happy. but my circumstances dont allow that and I am not single. 

 

 

Is anyone like me and wish that the cycle of sexual desire and release could just be eliminated so they could enjoy their lives and follow other passions?

 

 

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I've read about this before, and experienced it myself to some extent.

I'd arranged my first overnight booking with a wg I really got along well with and we'd had a few great meetings of 1 or 2 hours. The overnight was planned weeks in advance, we kept in regular contact during the lead - up and I think I'd built it up so much and had such a great time on the night that there was just a huge adrenalin crash when it was all over! I felt really down for a day or two afterwards, which is very unlike me.

I've not seen that girl again, as she went on holiday and is yet to return, but have had a few overnights since which I've enjoyed, and not had the same feelings as that first time. I've never felt down after a 1 or 2 hour punt though - I just start planning the next one, however far down the line that may be!

You mention enjoying your life and having other passions - I think as with anything the key is to have balance - still have other interests, don't let punting rule or take your life at the expense of anything else. I punt for the thing lacking in my life - a bit of intimate female contact, but don't let it take over.

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It may not be just punting. There's a famous Latin tag which is often quoted in truncated form "Post coitum omne animal triste est" - all creatures are sad after coitus - which actually concludes with the words "praeter mulier" (except for women). It's the coming back to earth after the excitement of orgasm that can be a downer for men, while women seem to behave more like nuclear reactors once they get going.

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I'm the opposite, tend to float home after a good punt, and I don't often have bad ones :)

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I empathise and agree with this completely, I know exactly the feeling you are describing. In my experience, a bad punt I just feel a bit pissed off and shrug it off, a good point I have fond memories of and that's fine, but then there is a 'too good' category of punt where the WG is absolutely amazing in every regard and that's the depressing one for me.

 

 It may seem a paradox but it's the amazing punts that leave me feeling genuinely shit afterwards and I still don't really understand why as it's not about me running off with them and living happily ever after as I'm in a long term relationship already and am sure the WG wouldn't want that either - I guess the best punts are like being on a drug for a couple of hours, with all the requisite problems on the down side that go along with that!

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Yes I know how you feel.  I felt like it on Friday and quite a lot actually.  One lady I do see and love but its just not the same as it was with her two years ago but seeing her or another there is a big come down afterwards. I'm in a relationship where my partner knows and perhaps still knows what I do but I am not sexually fulfilled.  I am a firm believer in not shirking away from responsibilities so for a while as well as supporting 2 kids I intend to support my partner even if I leave home!!  Considering it!

 

The answer is try to get a partner that has the same sexual drive as yourself,  I wished I had of done.  But first the intention for me is to clear my head and not punt for a clear two months since I haven't had a good break in two years and mentally you need to re evaluate who you are, what you want etc.  It will be hard for me but I need to do it.  It would be good to meet someone that is going through the same thing.

 

Annabelle I think there are a lot of guys that wouldn't want to shag you straight away at least!!  We are not all so shallow and I wouldn't want to ruin the date and friendship.  As I have been punting if I were to go out on a date I don't want to have sex on the first date.  I would be more than happy to have dinner, have a nice chat and take my time.  I'm in my 40's now so I can be friends with a woman not just lovers.  You can be friends with attractive women and we don't have to take out clothes off to have a good time.

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Hi

 

How many of you feel depressed after a punt?

 

I find the better the punt the more depressed I am after.

 

But after I feel empty and lonelyy and depressed. During it is such a high but the comedown after is bad. If I was rich and could punt everyday with any woman i wanted I would be happy. but my circumstances dont allow that and I am not single. 

 

 

Is anyone like me and wish that the cycle of sexual desire and release could just be eliminated so they could enjoy their lives and follow other passions?

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I remember feeling a bit like this after my first ever punt. I enjoyed the experience at the time, but was left feeling a bit sad with that sinking feeling of emptyness. I remember getting back to my car and just sitting in it thinking what have I done? and having done it, I told myself I never wanted to do it again. I wasn't expecting that, and my emotions caught me a little off guard. I felt very alone at that moment.

Fast forward to today and now my post-punt feeling is very different. If it's been an enjoyable time (which they mostly are), then I leave feeling very happy and content. Part of this might be in me knowing that my next punt is usually a few days, or worst case a week, away. This is a lifestyle choice for me. I choose to pay for sex and I'm also fortunate enough to have quite a few female friends who I socialise with. So my choice gives me the best parts of what I would get from a relationship, without actually being in one. It works for me.

It sounds like the root cause of you feeling this way may be your relationship. If you are not totally happy and fulfilled, then the paid time with a WG may be emphasising this, or the parts where you feel you are missing out. Paying to have sex/companionship is obviously not a realistic way to benchmark a relationship, given the excitement of seeing someone new and exciting, and the fact you are paying a girl to provide a good service. The euphoria of seeing her (including the build up and anticipation), followed by the crash back down to reality when you leave and realisation of resuming your normal life. You enjoy 2 hours of intimacy where the girl is giving you her undivided attention, so it's no wonder you can feel a bit down when that attention suddenly ends and isn't replaced, creating a bit of a vacuum. Just like the comedown you would get from any high.

If you do know that you are left feeling this way after each visit, then why not make sure you have something exciting planned later that day, or the next, to make sure you manage your comedown better.

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I think if makes perfect sense.  I feel the same when a guy asks me for a drink as in a date and then I discover that actually he wants to get me drunk and shag me: and I just wanted to have a conversation.

Despite the irony of me posting on a site where 'shagging' (that word reminds me of being a teenager) is central to us all being here, you seriously are attracting some douchebags if that's your experience. My girl friends' tell me you can spot these guys a mile off.

Many guys are perfectly capable of having female friends because we enjoy their company, without there being an ulterior agenda.

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I never used to experience this, but have been having trouble with it in the last few months. My punts have ranged from good to excellent in that time, but the feeling afterwards is generally the same. I'm trying to work on it and having a little break at the moment, so hopefully things improve in the future  :)

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Becoming a monk for a year may be the answer!  :)

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You'll get lots of dirty habits doing that !

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Like shaving the top of you head and wearing no pants...

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I get depressed the day before. I feel guilty and wonder what the fee would buy in the real world. I keep hoping I am going to get an email cancelling the appointment. But the day dawns brightly and the punt goes well.

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I'm the opposite, tend to float home after a good punt, and I don't often have bad ones :)

Me too.

 

Not much help to the OP I'm afraid.

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Mmmm I agree with alot of the posts on here, I find sex with gorgeous young women a very powerful drug.That is all consuming,and I suppose that, that high has to come with a low eventually.I find that I feel sad after a punt if I connect with the lady's personality as well as her looks, body and brilliant service! ie we get on very well together...

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Mmmm I agree with alot of the posts on here, I find sex with gorgeous young women a very powerful drug.That is all consuming,and I suppose that, that high has to come with a low eventually.I find that I feel sad after a punt if I connect with the lady's personality as well as her looks, body and brilliant service! ie we get on very well together...

Do you ever think it could be feelings?

I've had punters talk about the same depressive feeling after a really good punt and they can't put their finger on why it is.

Maybe it's temporary feelings towards the girl, getting caught up in the moment thinking it's amazing etc then when it's all over coming back to reality. X

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Sometimes.  But then I often take a break.

 

depends on how well i enjoy the punt.

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Do you ever think it could be feelings?

I've had punters talk about the same depressive feeling after a really good punt and they can't put their finger on why it is.

Maybe it's temporary feelings towards the girl, getting caught up in the moment thinking it's amazing etc then when it's all over coming back to reality. X

it could well be TYT.We are all human after all.

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Do you ever think it could be feelings?

I've had punters talk about the same depressive feeling after a really good punt and they can't put their finger on why it is.

Maybe it's temporary feelings towards the girl, getting caught up in the moment thinking it's amazing etc then when it's all over coming back to reality. X

 

I think you might have something there.

 

The guy buys a fab experience but then realises this afterwards and knows he thinks he cant achieve this in civvy street.

 

For me, the better the punt , the happier I will be afterwards. 

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Isnt it obvious that a guy who invites you for a drink wants to shag you ? you use the word date which implies something romantic.

 

Not necessarily.  Do you have sex with friends of friends you met for the first time?  Cannot you have a normal conversation with them without thinking of having sex with them?

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