marcodr

Is It Normal To Feel Uncomfortable With Younger Women?

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Hello,

 

I've googled a bit before posting. There are a couple of similar threads from the past, but they deal with the sense of shame or intimidation.

 

In my case, dangerously approaching the 50 mark, and noticing how my body has changed (not much, it's always been rubbish), I now feel uncomfortable and in way also put off by having a physical contact with younger women, and that goes also outside the punting context.

 

I just don't feel comfortable with taking my clothes off in front of a young woman. Not that I fear rejection or embarrassment, I just don't like to show my body.

 

I used to go to orgies/gangbang and I stopped when I started to feel the age gap.

 

Where I live my language skills are not good enough to date a local woman and frankly I don't find them attractive. Mature escorts exist but either in the very top range or unreliable semi-amateurs. 

 

I see these adverts with these toned, fit, young girls, but that doesn't turn me on.

 

What's wrong with me? 

 

Or is there somebody who can relate?

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Nothing's wrong with you lol!

Maybe you're just not attracted to "fit young women" as you put it.

Do you have a celebrity crush or someone you've always fancied since young? Maybe that's your type and look into finding someone like that and you'll feel comfortable.

I'm 20 myself so considered "young" and trust me it's not new for older men to feel a little nervous with younger women.

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Nothing is wrong with you.Not all punters want the young glamourpusses,some find older or the more lady next door types more appealing.

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Hi mate.l too feel uncomfortable with the ladies if there early twenties,I'm over 50 and I seek out the 30plus ladies ,some very nice ones there are too.The age gap doesn't seem to matter to me when they're 30+,so l feel comfortable in their company,which is the point,because if your not comfortable with the lady,your not going to have a good time

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When I was a young man (a long time ago!) I was always attracted to ladies older than me.

As I've got older myself I now seem to automatically opt for younger girls.

Not sure if it's because I'm so old now it's harder to find girls older than me or whether I'm just turning into a perv ?

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When I first started punting I'd just turned 50 and I did feel uncomfortable seeing 20 something girls particularly after an early unsuccessful punt. After the failed punt, I already had another booking arranged with a 23 year old which I very nearly cancelled, but which turned out to be one of my best punting experiences and really restored my confidence.

Now I'll see a wg I like the look of as regards profile etc., irrespective of age. If they are under 30 I do make a point of mentioning my age so that gives them a get out if they're not keen.

At 52 I could be better but am not in bad shape and don't have any issues being naked in front of younger wg's, yet in some ways you seem more comfortable with yourself than me as I'd never get involved in any kind of group scenario, nor would I have when younger.

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Give me a 22/23 year old any day!

 

That's just my preference though and I have had great times with older girls! ;)

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It might have something to do with attitude and level of maturity rather than age necessarily.

Maybe look into late 20s, early 30s girls with more approachable profiles and not overly sexualised. I think that can be a bit intimidating and even off putting for some people. It is more likely you will feel more at ease with someone quite relaxed.

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Thats why  I always stick to outcalls to my home or hotel, you have a shower and slip on a dressing-gown. Admittedly, much easier if you are a single guy.

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Take a look at the competition. The twenty something men seem to me to be fat and out of shape, incoherant and incredibly rude.

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I think you are analysing it to much.  Just enjoy it.  I am 44 and have seen some fit young girls, some not so fit young girls and some lovely fit and not so fit lovely milfs.  Don't young girls like older men anyway.  I feel much better now I am middle age as I am a normal 11-12 stone weight and do more exercise.  When I was 20/30 I was very conscious since I was a 9 stone wimp, has a mostache and looked a complete idiot.  I think us 40 plus guys should be more happier in our skins.  

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I think you are analysing it to much. Just enjoy it. I am 44 and have seen some fit young girls, some not so fit young girls and some lovely fit and not so fit lovely milfs. Don't young girls like older men anyway. I feel much better now I am middle age as I am a normal 11-12 stone weight and do more exercise. When I was 20/30 I was very conscious since I was a 9 stone wimp, has a mostache and looked a complete idiot. I think us 40 plus guys should be more happier in our skins.

Not all young girls like older men.

I myself do, but I know alot of my friends don't all depends on the individual eh! X

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Some younger girls love older men other girls are repulsed by older men. Just focus on the girls that like older men.

 

If she really likes you she won't give a toss about how old you are. There are another category of girls who like older men but are afraid of what their friends or family might think too much western society programming.

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Not all young girls like older men.

I myself do, but I know alot of my friends don't all depends on the individual eh! X

 

What a pity you're in the West Midlands.  I would enjoy meeting you.

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In my early forties and early twenties - certainly late teens - is a turn off for me as I could conceivably have a daughter that age. Give me a dirty thirty-something with a bit of confidence and experience any day.

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What a pity you're in the West Midlands. I would enjoy meeting you.

I agree you would enjoy! Ha x

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I'm 47 and in pretty decent shape.

 

I personally have no problem at all with anyone based solely on their age. In fact some of my best punts have been with 18, 19 year old (in Thailand) but that said my greatest ever punt was with a 40 year old (when I was mid 30's) and one I have repeated a couple of times - and I rarely go back to the same lady again! 

 

A WG is there to do a job, I have never felt that a WG was put off me due to my age, yeah of course sometimes you don't click or the WG is just not cut out for the job, but as far as I can tell a WG doesn't give a shit about the age of her punter as long as there is respect and cleanliness. In the same way they cannot really care too much about how good looking their punt is.

 

(but I fully understand some ladies wont see men younger than themselves)

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Hello,

 

I've googled a bit before posting. There are a couple of similar threads from the past, but they deal with the sense of shame or intimidation.

 

In my case, dangerously approaching the 50 mark, and noticing how my body has changed (not much, it's always been rubbish), I now feel uncomfortable and in way also put off by having a physical contact with younger women, and that goes also outside the punting context.

 

I just don't feel comfortable with taking my clothes off in front of a young woman. Not that I fear rejection or embarrassment, I just don't like to show my body.

 

I used to go to orgies/gangbang and I stopped when I started to feel the age gap.

 

Where I live my language skills are not good enough to date a local woman and frankly I don't find them attractive. Mature escorts exist but either in the very top range or unreliable semi-amateurs. 

 

I see these adverts with these toned, fit, young girls, but that doesn't turn me on.

 

What's wrong with me? 

 

Or is there somebody who can relate?

 

It makes perfect sense and I think: they wish they looked like this in real life.  I don't think I spend even a split of a second looking at these kind of pictures anyway.

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  Of course it's not normal to feel uncomfortable with younger girls . It's natural for a man to seek out girls ripe , at child bearing age and try to impregnate them .   Same in punting but minus the impregnation .

 

 An older guy who feels timid to show his body to a young girl  [ who couldn't care less anyway ]  needs a boost of self confidence . You have the money in your pocket that younger guys don't have . This is not dating  , this is a punting website . Isn't it ? 

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There are shed loads of mature escorts who are great looking and professional! In fact, many do well because they are mature. It's a bit of a myth men only fancy young women, many of my clients have told me they don't feel comfortable with young women who intimidate them and feel they have nothing in common with to chat about. 

 

It's not about not having confidence in your looks or body, it's about accepting who you feel comfortable with and who you fancy and ignoring the fact 'society' expects you to want some pretty young thing! 

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  Of course it's not normal to feel uncomfortable with younger girls . It's natural for a man to seek out girls ripe , at child bearing age and try to impregnate them .   Same in punting but minus the impregnation .

 

 An older guy who feels timid to show his body to a young girl  [ who couldn't care less anyway ]  needs a boost of self confidence . You have the money in your pocket that younger guys don't have . This is not dating  , this is a punting website . Isn't it ? 

 

Good worldly punting advice, WP.  As you say, punting and dating are quite different - dating is more expensive, and bears a greater risk of disappointment. 

 

As a MUCH older guy, I am always up-front about my age and civil status, and any WG who then accepts my money gets my aging body as her reward, in addition to my many years of experience at mutual-pleasuring.  Any doubts or reservations over age/performance issues normally disappear within the first 5 minutes, if they even appear at all. 

 

If one is looking for a 'soulmate' or 'relationship', the punting world should be avoided.  If a punter worries about age differences when it comes to seeking carnal knowledge, it is time to look for another hobby.

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Perhaps the being uncomfortable with young women is a red herring.  Perhaps he is uncomfortable with women with good bodies whether they be young or not! 

 

I saw a young lady recently and she is about 25 and I said I guess you have to close your eyes when you see very old guys.  She said not at all. I see guys in their 80's and they still feel the same when they were  in their 30's/40's for sex.  She just gets on with it but I said  I would find it difficult to bonk a 70/80 year old granny but no reason why some guys can not and really like much older ladies!  

 

 I really don't want to be seeing a 25 year old wg if I get to 70/80.  Each to their own!  I may act differently if  I am lucky enough to get their!

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I'm not aware of the difference at all - partly, perhaps, because, like most men, I never really look in the mirror at myself. When I'm shaving I look at my chin, and when I'm combing my hair I look at my hair, but I never really look at my face. Sometimes, when I see a recent photo of myself it's a shock, and I know I've got a paunch, but I just shrug my shoulders. It's not me that's selling my wares.

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I have a feeling that some wgs would feel it a bit weird to have a punter vastly older than them. Saw a guy hobbling out of Sandy's... he must have been 70. I guess a few will not want to see some with that big an age difference... most will though.

 

My punts have been with girls roughly the same age as me. I don't know if or when I'll punt again, but have a feeling as I get older I'll still want girls ideally mid twenties or younger. But I doubt I'll go for that when I'm 70!

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Agree our DNA seeks out young fertile women to impregnate to ensure the survival of our offspring.

 

Theres a great book called the Selfish Gene which everyone should read

  Of course it's not normal to feel uncomfortable with younger girls . It's natural for a man to seek out girls ripe , at child bearing age and try to impregnate them .   Same in punting but minus the impregnation .

 

 An older guy who feels timid to show his body to a young girl  [ who couldn't care less anyway ]  needs a boost of self confidence . You have the money in your pocket that younger guys don't have . This is not dating  , this is a punting website . Isn't it ? 

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