PapaSmurf

Gfe And Dates. No Sex, Am I An Idiot?

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Ok I'm new to this, and I'll be honest, I'm feeling a bit nervous and unsure about punting. I've had a few alcohol fueled experience's in Amsterdam’s Red light district but that’s it.

 

I thought about developing a working relationship between myself and WG before sex. Date's, drinks etc so we both feel comfortable.

I have no problem paying as the average hourly rate for a punt, is the same amount I would normally pay for a night out clubbing. Which often ends with me hungover, an empty wallet and nothing to show for it, not even a phone number.

 

Curious to hear your thoughts. I'm sure I'm coming off as a simping fool, but I'm pretty sure I'm going to stick to this plan, if I follow through at all.

 

Btw I'm into big booty curvy to bbw ladies. Any recommendations that fit that description would be great.

 

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Probably not everyones cup of tea Papa - but if this is what makes you feel comfortable then there is no problem. Go for it,

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hi i have a booking tomorrow and half of it is afternoon tea as the gent wants to get to know me before hand

 

trust me its very normal i get quite a few gents who want to have a drink or meal before fun!

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hi i have a booking tomorrow and half of it is afternoon tea as the gent wants to get to know me before hand

 

trust me its very normal i get quite a few gents who want to have a drink or meal before fun!

First punt would most likely just be a dinner date and drinks. As long as we have some kind of chemistry I'll feel comfortable enough to make another booking, and the WG gets her hourly rate.

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My opinion: You might surprise yourself.  One choice is to book 2 hours and spend the first hour socialising to be sure you get on and so on.  But if this doesn't go well it is a long time to spend. But another choice is to book for half an hour of sex and see how it goes.  You can try this a few times.  Whoever you like the best, go back and book for 2 hours.

 

You managed RLD on alcohol.  Sex wise alcohol is bad, so this will be better.  Tell her you are nervous and so on, but why not go for it?  Once you phone her and book, you probably will follow through.  And don't worry about her feeling comfortable - she does this for a living, she is fine with it.  This is paid sex not a relationship.

 

For a reco, post on local board and look at reviews or have an idea like "I am thinking of these 3 any comments?  Open comments get fewer response.

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My opinion: You might surprise yourself.  One choice is to book 2 hours and spend the first hour socialising to be sure you get on and so on.  But if this doesn't go well it is a long time to spend. But another choice is to book for half an hour of sex and see how it goes.  You can try this a few times.  Whoever you like the best, go back and book for 2 hours.

 

You managed RLD on alcohol.  Sex wise alcohol is bad, so this will be better.  Tell her you are nervous and so on, but why not go for it?  Once you phone her and book, you probably will follow through.  And don't worry about her feeling comfortable - she does this for a living, she is fine with it.  This is paid sex not a relationship.

 

For a reco, post on local board and look at reviews or have an idea like "I am thinking of these 3 any comments?  Open comments get fewer response.

 

Thanks Griff. I like the 2 hour idea.

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Nothing wrong with GFE and dates, you are the paying customer so you should choose whatever you're comfortable with!

I think it's nice to have dinner and drinks sometimes with punters to actually get to know the person can be a good experience.

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Dinner dates are quite popular.I think it better to go see the lady at her incall place first and perhaps ask if you could chat over a cuppa or glass of wine first as the social aspect to see how you get along with some private time after obviously if you wish.Then maybe do the whole dinner and drinks with private time type booking another time if you get along alright.

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Barking mad in my opinion - but up to you i suppose 

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You're the one paying, and you're paying for your enjoyment so no you're not an idiot...

If you and the wg you choose are happy with the arrangement then that's all that matters. You might find that some wg profiles mention a lower hourly rate for social time ie going out for dinner / drinks first.

I quite like the odd booking involving a bit of social time as I enjoy the build up to the main event but my preference is to only do that with a wg I already know I get along ok with. I wouldn't want to be booking social time only to find you and the wg don't interact too well for whatever reason and you both end up sitting there in silence!

Just be aware if you do go down the GFE / date route remember it is a paid for experience not the real thing - don't start getting emotionally attached, which can and does happen.

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I suggest you start with lunch, not dinner. Lunch seems a bit  more businesslike. You can get things started, and make any arrangements, usually with a clear head. With lunch there is an ending at which point the meeting can be curtailed. Also lunchtime menus are usually a better price, and you have more quality venues to choose from, and they are quieter and service is better.

 

But with dinner, the 'romance' factor might kick in and you may be fighting against that to talk over basic details and arrangements. Costs are on the increase, more eating, possibly more drinking, you are that much nearer to be enveigled into a stayover, so booking a hotel room means premium costs and so on.

 

But then different folk operate at different times, and you may find that the overall costs of punting may equate to or exceed conventional dating patterns, and that is not good economic sense.

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and then there's always breakfast, in bed!

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My suggestion would be to combine it all together...ie dinner/drinks and let the evening follow a natural cause...you never know you maybe there until breakfast as per above post!!!! :-P

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I dunno - I'm experiencing a little bit of discomfort reading your post. If you're not comfortable walking into an escorts work place, handing over money, and having sex, then don't. If you're having to construct a fake relationship in order to justify punting, you're probably not in the right head space right now. The whole beauty of commercial sex is that the boundaries are very defined - your approach seems a recipe for confusion (and the confusion will be yours, since the lady in question knows exactly why she's there....).

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Ushi...good post!!! Some people like to "relax" beforehad but may not be the case here...i'm sure the OP has his own thoughts...anyway have a thumps up on me...

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Everyone is different. Just check first if she has a different rate for social time as sometimes girls do and dont allow yourself to be dragged along and stuck in a rut of social dates as sometimes girls do take advantage of the fact that a guy is new to this and scared of being impolite or "pushing boundaries". Don't let yourself fall for her though, Ushi made a good post, think on it x

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Everyone is different. Don't let yourself fall for her though

Precisely. Sounds as though the OP is possibly a bit vulnerable to reading too much into an encounter if he likes a lady, and in search of something more meaningful than "just a shag".

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...anyway have a thumps up on me...

Oooh, you know how to treat a girl, Hero!

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I dunno - I'm experiencing a little bit of discomfort reading your post. If you're not comfortable walking into an escorts work place, handing over money, and having sex, then don't. If you're having to construct a fake relationship in order to justify punting, you're probably not in the right head space right now. The whole beauty of commercial sex is that the boundaries are very defined - your approach seems a recipe for confusion (and the confusion will be yours, since the lady in question knows exactly why she's there....).

You might be your right, but Isn't the whole point of GFE to form a fake relationship anyway? Confusion or getting attached is not a problem for me as I've always had issue's with commitment and the thought of anything long term is off putting.

Based on what I learn here, I might scrap the idea or just never punt at all. Thanks for the input guys, I appreciate the advice.

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Ok I'm new to this, and I'll be honest, I'm feeling a bit nervous and unsure about punting. I've had a few alcohol fueled experience's in Amsterdam’s Red light district but that’s it.

 

I thought about developing a working relationship between myself and WG before sex. Date's, drinks etc so we both feel comfortable.

I have no problem paying as the average hourly rate for a punt, is the same amount I would normally pay for a night out clubbing. Which often ends with me hungover, an empty wallet and nothing to show for it, not even a phone number.

 

Curious to hear your thoughts. I'm sure I'm coming off as a simping fool, but I'm pretty sure I'm going to stick to this plan, if I follow through at all.

 

Btw I'm into big booty curvy to bbw ladies. Any recommendations that fit that description would be great.

 

I know lots of guys like you who tried meeting girls in clubs but ended, as you said, with the hungover, empty wallet and not even a phone number. 

 

Indeed meeting a wg is much better, especially if you do your research and not 'fall' for a girl no one heard about on a 'strange' website: lots of girls like partying and ultimately you will not be conned but left with a smile on your face.  It is all about research and planning.

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Oooh, you know how to treat a girl, Hero!

I spoil you ladies, LOL

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I buy lot's of Civvie women expensive Perfumes. It's weird cos I get a kick out of the whole purchase experience. First offs I have my eye on a beautiful desirable woman who I will think about for ages then I will go into a department store and go to the Channel counter make a selection and receive advice from the pretty lady who works the counter make my purchase, she will wrap it all up all nice and dandy with a bow. Then I will go up to the woman in question and say excuse me madam but I have to say that you are one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen give her the perfume and then get the fuck out of there sharpish.

 

Guess you could say I'm a bit of a twat. :blink:

 

It's an Existential thing I guess. 

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  @  HC     not a twat .   But that's what I call a pervert .   You can get arrested for that kind of actions .

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  @  HC     not a twat .   But that's what I call a pervert .   You can get arrested for that kind of actions .

Do you think so ? lol

 

By the time I have given the perfume I'm spent and just dont have the energy for wooing. I am definitely not a pervert though because I don't get an sexual gratification.

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Do you think so ? lol

 

By the time I have given the perfume I'm spent and just dont have the energy for wooing. I am definitely not a pervert though because I don't get an sexual gratification.

 

   Why not just go up to a pretty lady in the street and press an envelope with £100 in it into her hand  ?  And then run . Saves on the shopping around .

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