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Bareback Dilemma

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I've seen this lady several times and we really hit it off together, except that I've never managed to achieve an orgasm through vaginal sex as I can't get on with condoms. Last time we met she said that if I got tested we could do bareback; this is not a service she normally offers. We're planning our next liaison and she has already made reference to her offer. Although I really want to see her again I don't want to take the risk. My problem is how do I reject her offer, which I'm sure was kindly made, without causing offence?

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i wouldn't if i were you. just say you like to keep things safe for both your sakes. i wouldn't mind betting you're not the first guy she's made this offer to.

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I've seen this lady several times and we really hit it off together, except that I've never managed to achieve an orgasm through vaginal sex as I can't get on with condoms. Last time we met she said that if I got tested we could do bareback; this is not a service she normally offers. We're planning our next liaison and she has already made reference to her offer. Although I really want to see her again I don't want to take the risk. My problem is how do I reject her offer, which I'm sure was kindly made, without causing offence?

 

Tell her you're not an idiot and a test means jack shit.

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tell her she may have been tested but you haven't and would hate to pass anything on. 

Or less subtle, tell her you're riddled with syphilis. 

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I've seen this lady several times and we really hit it off together, except that I've never managed to achieve an orgasm through vaginal sex as I can't get on with condoms. Last time we met she said that if I got tested we could do bareback; this is not a service she normally offers. We're planning our next liaison and she has already made reference to her offer. Although I really want to see her again I don't want to take the risk. My problem is how do I reject her offer, which I'm sure was kindly made, without causing offence?

She is rather ignorant of the facts.  As the person above said..... a clear certificate means nothing unless there is a 100% surety that you have not had sex with anyone else since getting tested.  

 

That goes for both parties..... but the lady in particular should:

 

a. know better than to even suggest it

 

b. is a pro and therefore could easily have taken risks prior to your next meeting  (if she is willing with you then may have done so with others).

 

:rolleyes:

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dont the results for these tests take an age to come through anyway effectively rendering them useless? if you or her have had sex just once since the test then you might as well disguard the results.


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Although I really want to see her again I don't want to take the risk. My problem is how do I reject her offer, which I'm sure was kindly made, without causing offence?

How about "Thank you for your kind and considerate offer, but I'd rather not"? No need to elaborate or justify your position.

 

Not difficult, not likely to cause offense, but acknowledging her offer. You don't have to add that you think she's barking mad if she thinks you're going to risk your marriage for a few minutes of bareback whoopee. My guess is she simply doesn't want to lose you as a regular, but will be relieved she doesn't have to risk her own health to hang on to your custom.

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I have a regular that is 72 and says hes only ever been with is wife  he still as to put one on you can not take chance's

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From every angle it's a big NO.

 

But:

 

You have to get tested??????

 

What about her?  You will know your history but do you know hers?

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What makes you assume you are the only "regular" that this offer has been made to? Im sure there are plenty of women who offer this to "regulars" and they think they are the only one. 

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I think you have your answer OP!

I sometimes have problems due to condoms, and I see a couple of wg's fairly regularly. NOTHING would make me want to BB them, no way on earth would I suggest it and no way on earth would I expect them to.

Testing means nothing unless you both abstain from having sex from when you take the test to when you both get the all clear to when you have sex. She's a wg - it ain't going to happen...

Have you tried the thinner more sensitive condoms? I've had success with Mates Skyn and also the Pasante ones I can't remember the name of...

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You've also got to weigh up, how many other 'Regulars' are being offered unprotected sex as well. It's certainly Russian roulette, not just in terms of getting an STI or worse, but also pregnancy. Just because a young lady says she's always had it protected and on the pill and you're special, doesn't mean she's not clean or that the pill will work. Supposing she's missed a day or two of her pill, had bb sex a day or two before you?

 

As Burty suggests, I've found Mates Skyn's to be the next best thing to bb sex - you can still feel the warmth, wetness and velvety texture very well ;) I know during, it's not necessarily the condom that puts you off, but the act of putting it on that sometimes ruins the moment, cos it's faffing around.

 

*devil on one's shoulder*

 

All boils down to risk taking and that wonderful addictive gamble of life, fun, lust, love and marriage that we all seem to love to play, over again.....

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Why would you offend where health is concerned.  Health comes first and if it means offending someone then so be it but I dealt if you will anyway.  As  mentioned try thinner condoms or try to get worked up before penetration.  Hand relief, toys, porn etc!

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. She's a wg - it ain't going to happen...

 

right because we have more diseases yes! No! The correct answer is "you are not in an exclusive relationship - it aint going to happen" as you shouldnt even be fucking civvie women without a condom unless you are sure each other is only fucking each other as lets face it even if she isnt a working girl if she offers to fuck you without a condom she will be fucking everyone else without one too

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Just tell her straight up you don't want to take the risk, if it was you asking her for bareback I'm sure she wouldnt hesitate to tell you no.

I don't know how any punter would want to see a WG who freely does BB (let's face it if she offering it up you she's obviously offering it to others)

I would tell her no thank you as you don't want to take the risk and want to play safe, simple as that

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right because we have more diseases yes! No! The correct answer is "you are not in an exclusive relationship - it aint going to happen" as you shouldnt even be fucking civvie women without a condom unless you are sure each other is only fucking each other as lets face it even if she isnt a working girl if she offers to fuck you without a condom she will be fucking everyone else without one too

You took my comment the wrong way Chloe. It was referenced with you would both have to abstain from having any kind of sex all the way through from testing for an STI, waiting for the results, and eventually having sex together, in other words both parties being completely celibate. "She's a wg - it ain't going to happen" meant she isn't going to go that length of time without some kind of sexual activity - Nothing else :)

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all sex carries a risk -pregnancy and diseases.

you have to weigh up the risk against the benefits

 

now snogging a wg carries a small risk - notably getting a coldsore

as you do more intimate stuff the risk gets bigger

to me unprotected oral with a wg is an acceptable risk

unprotected vaginal intercourse is not.  thats my red line

the big risk one is unprotected anal sex.

 

where your red line is is up to you.  But intercourse is where, as far as i understand it, the risk of AIDS starts to seriously kick in.

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Being relatively new to the scene I've had two recent experiences where the girls have taken my 'member' and gone beyond a bareback striper-pole routine to holding my member, uncovered and commencing an insertion!

First time I thought we had just got a little carried away but after the second time I think I'm experiencing "I won't tell you I'm ok with BB I'll just see how far you are willing to go".

Both girls were in the high ticket (500 plus) price bracket if that has any relevance. In case you ask, I did not oblige.

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Being relatively new to the scene I've had two recent experiences where the girls have taken my 'member' and gone beyond a bareback striper-pole routine to holding my member, uncovered and commencing an insertion!

First time I thought we had just got a little carried away but after the second time I think I'm experiencing "I won't tell you I'm ok with BB I'll just see how far you are willing to go".

Both girls were in the high ticket (500 plus) price bracket if that has any relevance. In case you ask, I did not oblige.

Why are you even letting them get that far? You must be happy with it or you'd mention it or jump up as soon as you realise what they're doing.

Just imagine how many clients they must do that to daily, it's just not worth it.

I would never risk my health for a bit of unprotected fun, thankfully ive only had two clients who tried initiating it and they got a big fat no.

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Although not an issue for the punter, I've never understood ladies who offer a "cum on pussy" ending.

For a lady's sexual health, unless she rushes to the bathroom or has a very quick spruce up with wet wipes, surely jizz on her pussy is a bad idea for potentially catching nasties?

I avoid ladies who offer this just in case BB might be offered during a punt. I'm not saying it's anywhere near as bad as BB but it slightly edges towards a riskier lady.

I only ever seek the company of ladies who categorically stipulate "no BB" but like many other others here find OWO an acceptable risk and always include it in my searches preferably with a CIM finish. I also love giving RO.

DG

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Why are you even letting them get that far? You must be happy with it or you'd mention it or jump up as soon as you realise what they're doing.

Just imagine how many clients they must do that to daily, it's just not worth it.

I would never risk my health for a bit of unprotected fun, thankfully ive only had two clients who tried initiating it and they got a big fat no.

 

It can get that far before you fully realise.

It's happened to me just twice in forty years of punting, and in both cases they gave me a couple of uncovered thrusts inside out of a misplaced sense of gratitude - one was a wonderful Thai lady who may have wanted to reward me for my regular visits, the other a Romanian lap-dancer abroad for whom I had just done a small favour. In both cases I was so nonplussed I could hardly stutter out a "What are you doing?" before my prick was removed. In both cases I stopped seeing them.

 

It might be worth adding that some ladies are so skilled at putting the condom on you that you don't even notice. I remember another terrible moment with a Thai lady when I suddenly found myself inside her, and could hardly believe it when I looked and checked, and found that I was indeed properly covered. Still don't know how she did it.

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It might be worth adding that some ladies are so skilled at putting the condom on you that you don't even notice. I remember another terrible moment with a Thai lady when I suddenly found myself inside her, and could hardly believe it when I looked and checked, and found that I was indeed properly covered. Still don't know how she did it.

That's happened to me as well.... We were in 69 position when suddenly the wg moved and lowered herself onto me before I knew what had happened. I think I jumped so much I nearly threw her to the floor - talk about bucking bronco! :)

She just looked over her shoulder grinning at me - she had applied the condom without me noticing....

She used to have this great knack of hiding condoms and producing them out of thin air as if by magic! I tried several times to catch her doing it but never managed. Quite a neat trick as all our meetings were outcalls to my hotel...

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That's happened to me as well.... We were in 69 position when suddenly the wg moved and lowered herself onto me before I knew what had happened. I think I jumped so much I nearly threw her to the floor - talk about bucking bronco! :)

She just looked over her shoulder grinning at me - she had applied the condom without me noticing....

She used to have this great knack of hiding condoms and producing them out of thin air as if by magic! I tried several times to catch her doing it but never managed. Quite a neat trick as all our meetings were outcalls to my hotel...

 

Perhaps all the sterling work our schools are doing with bananas in sex education lessions is starting to pay dividends.

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Perhaps all the sterling work our schools are doing with bananas in sex education lessions is starting to pay dividends.

Good one - I'll ask her on Thursday! :D

Her 18 months away clearly did her no good as she's lost the knack of playing hide the condom but I think I can forgive the slight slippage in service levels. Not sure I'll be able to recommend her when I get round to doing a report though...

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