flowerseller

Vanilla Sex. Am I Dull Or What?

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Am I part of the mainstream by being a Vanilla sex man or a bit of a bore?

 

I have been lucky enough to have known my fair share of women during my life and thought of myself as being pretty 'experienced' when it came to sex. My partners have seemed to pretty much enjoy things but reading stories on the forum I'm thinking I'm more vicar material than 'punter'. :(

 

I realise many of the escorts cater for extremes but wouldn't they prefer something less demanding given the choice? Are the girls genuinely more 'kinky' or simply earning their wages to please client?

 

Vanilla question in itself really. :D

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If you're happy with it then why change (if the kinkier side does not appeal)...nothing wrong with being vanilla...

Personally, i love kinky (a lot).

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If you are happy the way you are why change?  Just make sure you pass your requests onto the person you are going to meet.  Some guys like spice, some cannot stand it - is a matter of pure preference.  Sometimes I am asked by some gorgeous guys for pure kink, would I do it with somebody I do not fancy?  No way and I do not care if he goes to somebody else....... I am the first to recommend it to him.

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If you are happy the way you are why change?  Just make sure you pass your requests onto the person you are going to meet.  Some guys like spice, some cannot stand it - is a matter of pure preference.  Sometimes I am asked by some gorgeous guys for pure kink, would I do it with somebody I do not fancy?  No way and I do not care if he goes to somebody else....... I am the first to recommend it to him.

 

 

I don't feel the need to change because vanilla is very versatile flavour and just a little drizzle of topping can work wonders. ;)

 

Maybe I could be a bit kinky myself but just haven't found out yet.

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I am vanilla

I love snog suck and shag punts

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Another Mr Vanilla here...

Perfectly happy with what I'm doing. I was with my favourite wg last week and she asked me what else I liked, more or less hinting that if there was something else I wanted, she'd do it.

I just told her I was perfectly happy being my usual vanilla self while she untied me and unbuckled the 18" strap on she'd been wearing... ;)

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If I may say so - I think this naughty hobby of ours is rather like visiting a restaurant - there are things on the menu we like and enjoy and we know what we like - from time to time might be bold and try something new to stimulate and titillate our taste buds and because we feel being adventurous or something just takes our fancy - but hey to me vanilla sex in all its rich array is a staple surely of most menu's and no shame enjoying - actually it is by far my favourite ice cream and my favourite sex. 

 

I was on a punt recently and was offered a tie and tease option ending in CIM but I just so love ending, how can I say, well yes fucking in my favourite position, that I declined the very kind offer - as I just wasn't in the mood to depart from what I enjoy so much!!

 

So for me and of course I can only speak for myself - vanilla rocks but then again from time to time does coming off the main menu - they say variety is the spice of life don't they but sometimes simply what you like and enjoy is also.

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Another Mr Vanilla here...

Perfectly happy with what I'm doing. I was with my favourite wg last week and she asked me what else I liked, more or less hinting that if there was something else I wanted, she'd do it.

I just told her I was perfectly happy being my usual vanilla self while she untied me and unbuckled the 18" strap on she'd been wearing... ;)

 

 

:D Now that was funny Burty!

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Not dull at all. Good sexy time doesn't need to mean an extensive repetoire of activities. Vanilla is great ;)

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Actually Flowerseller you are one of the great silent majority. You will find that those who come on here and praise the pleasures of anal or whatever their pleasure is look to encourage others in their minority sport. It is human nature that not many people want to find themselves  in a minority and so they seek others. Inevitably those for whom it does nothing don't contribute to the particular thread but because all those who do are devotees it looks as though you are a minority.  

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I'm fairly vanilla myself. A problem some people have with kink is that they need to go to further and further extremes to get off - and I can't see that having a very positive ending. If you enjoy the straightforward stuff, I wouldn't be bothered about what anyone else is doing!

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Most blokes I see are vanilla and that's fine by me! 

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Thanks for the comments folks. :)

 

What it actually shows it that we're (by and large) just ordinary people doing things a bit differently. My biggest impression since deciding to take this alternative sexual route is the honesty involved. The women I have encountered haven't batted an eyelid when I tentatively asked if they minded a 50 something man (ok I'm gorgeous ;) ) and now being being condidered 'vanilla' seems to be the norm out there.

 

Maybe it's just the politicians and high court judges who want the serious fringe stuff then!

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You like what you like. There's little point in branching out if you're perfectly happy with what you currently get up to. 

 

As for what providers offer, well - that's up to them. I wouldn't assume that any given provider is 'into' a service she offers, but I wouldn't presume that she isn't either! It's too hard to generalise, apart from anything else. A lady might love doing domination, but that doesn't mean she'll get off on dominating everyone, or that the degree to which she's aroused by it remains the same every day, no matter what. Kinky appetites fluctuate, like anything else. 

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Just reading a book on BDSM, as you do, and the author says " you do your own kink" ie stop watching the other guys and stop worrying you are too kinky or not kinky enough.

So it is the same with vanilla, you do your own thing and as long as it does for you that is the right thing.

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Another Mr Vanilla here...

Perfectly happy with what I'm doing. I was with my favourite wg last week and she asked me what else I liked, more or less hinting that if there was something else I wanted, she'd do it.

I just told her I was perfectly happy being my usual vanilla self while she untied me and unbuckled the 18" strap on she'd been wearing... ;)

 

I keep hearing here guys talking about the girls they meet regularly and I always wondered if these girls are in the over £300 bracket or around £150?    If the girls charge around £150, is this the incentive they meet them regularly?  And if the girls charged £300 would these guys stop seeing the £300/h girl and find another £150/h girl to meet regularly?

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Probably like the old maths questions. If a man spends 2800 a year on escorts how many regular meetings could he have at 150 pounds? If he paid 300 a year how many visits could he have and would he still call her a regular? If the man spent the same amount on Airfix models would he have half as much fun?

"Regular" is one of those weird words. It could mean once a week or once a year.

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I guess a lot depends on the level of service sought?

 

If you're a quick in and out or a simple bj fan then one is as good as the other, but if you enjoy the who experience of being with a beautiful woman then I would accept I'd have to pay more.

 

Not having vast amounts of spare cash I have to cut my cloth to suit. Personally I can't get into 'quickies' so little and good is my preference but the time in between meetings can get a bit twitchy.

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This thread got me thinking about the definition of vanilla - there is an undercurrent as the OP suggests that vanilla is boring but I have never found OWO, RO, rimming, full sex (missionary, doggie, reverse etc), FK, DFK boring in the slightest.

 

So it made me think where the term vanilla came from - has it been around a long time -  and what does it truly really mean verses I guess its opposite end of the spectrum sister - kink/fetish.

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I wouldn't count rimming as Vanilla :o

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This thread got me thinking about the definition of vanilla - there is an undercurrent as the OP suggests that vanilla is boring but I have never found OWO, RO, rimming, full sex (missionary, doggie, reverse etc), FK, DFK boring in the slightest.

 

So it made me think where the term vanilla came from - has it been around a long time -  and what does it truly really mean verses I guess its opposite end of the spectrum sister - kink/fetish.

 

I assumed vanilla equaled 'bland' or 'plain'... as in ice cream flavours. Never heard it before until an escort recently said she preferred it with a very sweet smile.

 

The mind boggles what rum and raisin would involve! :)

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I assumed vanilla equaled 'bland' or 'plain'... as in ice cream flavours.

There's vanilla...and then there's gourmet Madagascan Vanilla LOL

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There's vanilla...and then there's gourmet Madagascan Vanilla LOL

 

Does that one include rimming then.... or is that only chocolate? :unsure:

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....thing is I love vanilla ice-cream - just the best with bread and butter pudding, or a little dollop in with a rice pudding - don't get me started - food and sex - easily my two favourite subjects....

 

.....I am rather similar with sex I think which is why I like a GFE with just a little bit of kink thrown in (to much spice and the meal is spoilt) to continue the food analogy.

 

To be honest I sometimes wish I was a bit kinkier but you just have to accept your limitations - one of the things I enjoy about punting is how non judgemental the ladies are - the ladies I see don't really care if I just have vanilla or a little bit of a kinkiness they always go with the flow and kind of deliver what I fancy etc - as they say a little bit of what you fancy never does any harm.

 

To be further honest I don't get or really understand a lot of terms banded around this hobby of ours - sometimes I feel like being dommed, other times I like to be a little dominate, other times I just want a shag - and I swear to you I hardly ever depart from a kind of on my knees missionary position - and sometimes I think 'I know its boring' but I just love it!!

 

Maybe the bottom line is we enjoy what we enjoy - its not a race or a league table and whose comparing anyway.....

 

Oh and another thing the ladies I see are way better at sex than I am and tend to lead and guide me anyway - such fun! :)

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Nothing wrong with Vanilla, you're paying to enjoy yourself, so why pay for somthing that you're not going to enjoy, it's just stupid.

 

Personally it's a mood thing, and sometimes I want the Chilli, Mint Strawberry flavour sometimes it's just good old Walls "vanila ice cream". I also find that whilst I might think I want a PSE, within the first 5 minutes I've realised it just isn't me and actually what I want is a GFE, so I tell the girl and the booking changes to what I really want it to be. (Who said men were inconsistent and impossible ot understand!)

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