IndianDelightJasmin

Unconscious In My Bed :(

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You always think it will never happen to you. Well tonight it happened to me...

 

A gentleman I met through adultwork some months ago and have seen him several times since, booked a couple of hours with me this afternoon. We'd been trying to sort out a meeting since last week and were able to finally sync out times.

 

"Phew. I'm tired" he said some 2 hours later. "I had better make a move. Got lots of calls to make"

Me: "Awww can't you stay half an hour longer?"

Him:  "No. I can't be late. You made me late for my meeting last time"

Him: "Phew! I'm pooped. You've worn me out"

 

... and those were his last words. He suddenly, like the flick of a switch, nodded off. It was so instant. One minute he's telling me he's worn out. The next he's snoring. Never seen anyone fall asleep so fast. It was 17:55

 

I'll let him sleep for 5 mins I thought to myself. So I slipped out of bed and got washed and dressed. Strange. I never get dressed until after the gent has left...

 

Anyway. I tried to wake him up. No response. Slapped him a few times. Nothing. Shouted in his ear. Nothing. Tried to get him to sit up. Couldn't. I've heard of deep sleepers, but something didn't seem right here. Finally got him to sit up. He opened one eye, mumbled something, then slid slowly to the floor where he continued to sleep. I got a pin and pricked him. Got a reaction for a split second, then nothing. I wondered whether he was diabetic so tried to give him some juice. He wouldn't open his mouth. I checked his bag for medication. Nothing. I'd done all I could think of. Time to call an ambulance. He'd been like this for 30mins

 

I somehow managed to dress him in his underpants, not an easy task I tell you, but his dignity had to be intact before I call the meds. I placed him in the recovery position and proceded to 999. It was 18.25. The lady on the other end stayed on the phone (how strange. I've just burst into tears writing that. Finally sunk in I guess).

She told me to go and put the door on the latch so paramedics can let themselves in. Checked with me that he was breathing every couple of minutes.

 

Paramedics arrived at 18.45. Both were female. They asked me what the gent was to me and his name etc. I'm just glad he had told me his real name. They also asked what had happened. I told them. They both chuckled when I explained he had passed out straight after complaining I had worn him out.

 

Anyway, I told them he was my boyfriend and that it was a new relationship so I didn't know much about his medical history. I also said he was married.

One of the girls said "Understanding the situation, I don't supposed he wants his wife to find out where he was when he collapsed so we need to come up with a story on where we picked him up". And between us, we did just that. Naturally I must be discreet so can't go into details. They tried to bring him round with smelling salts. Pinched him several times [which he did not like at all] and tried to wake him. They did manage to get a couple of words out of him but none of it made any sense. He slumped and nodded off again.

 

They looked through his stuff, found his work number, got through to a colleague (who refused to believe she was a paramedic when she asked for gent's wife's details so they could contact her and let her know what's going on). He finally called them back with the contact details. At 19:55 they carried him to the ambulance. He had still not come round. He had arrived on foot at 4pm and left in an ambulance at 8pm.

 

I couldn't go to the hospital with him as wife would be turning up. He's going to wake up really confused. Just hope he's not alone when he does come round. I cant call or email him. I just have to sit tight and hope he gets better and contacts me to let me know he's ok. I hate this part of escorting. The not knowing.

 

I'm just really grateful that the paramedics agreed to keep things discreet. It made the situation a little easier bear. Bad enough that he's collapsed. He doesn't need his marriage to collapse as well!

 

So, I have decided to ask all my regulars to tell me what they would prefer me to do if they found themselves in a similar situation. Call their friend? Call ambulance?

As I said at the start of the post, you just don't think about these things until it happens to you.

 

 

Yours

Very shaken and stirred Jasmin

 

 

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Does sound like a diabetic coma, doesn't it. Your quick and correct reaction probably saved his life. Hope you hear from him again, and that he sends you a huge bunch of flowers. Well done for keeping a cool head, Jasmin.

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Wow, you are so brave for being able to put him in a recovery position and come up with a story.

I don't know what I would do if a client collapsed whilst we were in a booking, I really don't know what else to say but I hope he gets better and I hope you're okay!

Xx

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Bloody hell.Nicely handled.espcially as thats a pretty horrific situation to find yourself in.Heres hoping mateys alright.Think he owes you a massive thank you

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Must have been terrible for you, well done for keeping so calm in the circumstances.

I hope he makes a full recovery and gets in contact so you know he's ok.

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Does sound like a diabetic coma, doesn't it. Your quick and correct reaction probably saved his life. Hope you hear from him again, and that he sends you a huge bunch of flowers. Well done for keeping a cool head, Jasmin.

Thank you Uschi

 

Wow, you are so brave for being able to put him in a recovery position and come up with a story.

I don't know what I would do if a client collapsed whilst we were in a booking, I really don't know what else to say but I hope he gets better and I hope you're okay!

Xx

 

Thank you TYE. This is why I chose to share my experience with everyone. I hope it never happens to you, but if it does, I hope my post comes to mind and helps you.

 

Bloody hell.Nicely handled.espcially as thats a pretty horrific situation to find yourself in.Heres hoping mateys alright.Think he owes you a massive thank you

Thanks Mark. I'm still shaking. I'm normally fast asleep by now. Doubt I'll get much tonight.

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Must have been terrible for you, well done for keeping so calm in the circumstances.

I hope he makes a full recovery and gets in contact so you know he's ok.

 

I still can't believe it happened. The paramedics did tell me I could ring the hospital to see how he's doing but I'm worried the nurses might say something while the wife is around, so best not. All I can do is sit tight and wait. I'll be checking my emails all night!

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Blimey. Firstly well done for doing all the right stuf. At least it doesn't sound like a coronary. If he was diabetic he should have had some dextrose tablets, or at least e.g. some biscuits with him, but obviously not everyone does. It might possibly have been a TMI (a mini-stroke), given the previous exertion. Anyway, fingers crossed he's OK, and also isn't facing being found out.

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I still can't believe it happened. The paramedics did tell me I could ring the hospital to see how he's doing but I'm worried the nurses might say something while the wife is around, so best not. All I can do is sit tight and wait. I'll be checking my emails all night!

They can get cagey about giving any details out but if you explain you don't want any details of whats wrong with them and just that they're ok theyre normally ok.They won't speak to anyone,ie go to them and ask if its ok to speak to you,or say so and so was asking.I've had to do those sorts of calls a lot as my punter base was predominantly older so we liked to keep an eye and make sure they were ok if not seen for a while

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I can't see anyway the guy could be in a position to email you tonight Jas - so i think all you can do is try to relax content that he is in good hands and try and get some sleep (however hard that may be).

I think the other thing for you to remember is that however much you feel in a state of shock now at the time you did the right things and he was very lucky you were there.

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They can get cagey about giving any details out but if you explain you don't want any details of whats wrong with them and just that they're ok theyre normally ok.They won't speak to anyone,ie go to them and ask if its ok to speak to you,or say so and so was asking.

Hmm.. Perhaps I'll give the hospital a ring in the morning. Thank you

 

I can't see anyway the guy could be in a position to email you tonight Jas - so i think all you can do is try to relax content that he is in good hands and try and get some sleep (however hard that may be).

I think the other thing for you to remember is that however much you feel in a state of shock now at the time you did the right things and he was very lucky you were there.

Hi John x

 

God yes. You're right! Just imagine if it had happened on the train back to work :eek:

Thank you for pointing that out. I'm so glad I was there to take care of him before the medics arrived. He won't thank me for the 8 pin pricks on this thigh when he wakes up though

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Sorry to hear this Jasmine and well done for retaining presence of mind. I had a shaky situation a few months ago where a guy turned blue. Slapped him, didnt work, threw ice water in his face, it worked, massive intake of breath and then he came around. I was panicking though as he had been standing in front of the bedroom door and he slumped down against it, thought for a min i wasnt going to be able to get the door open to get to the water or my phone. Thankfully didnt need my phone but I understand the crying bit. I burst out crying telling him "how dare you" (dont know why, wasnt his fault) then he burst out crying saying "I'm so sorry chloe" then we hugged, then we stared at the floor for a bit in shock, then he got dressed and went home. Its scary as hell x

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Just to say that my heart goes out to the poor fella but was so pleased that he was in such kind and caring hands - both before he succumbed to unconsciousness and afterwards.

 

Sometimes I think nursing and being a lovely lady are kind of sister vocations - so it comes as no surprise to me that Jasmine was so quick thinking (recovery position) and discrete.

 

I wish Jasmine a good nights sleep sure in the knowledge that she did her absolute best for this poor chap and I hope all turns out OK for the fella both physical and with everything else.

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I wish Jasmine a good nights sleep sure in the knowledge that she did her absolute best for this poor chap and I hope all turns out OK for the fella both physical and with everything else.

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Sorry to hear this Jasmine and well done for retaining presence of mind.

Thanks Chloe. Something just came over me when it happened. I just went into a sort survival mode.

 

 

Just to say that my heart goes out to the poor fella but was so pleased that he was in such kind and caring hands - both before he succumbed to unconsciousness and afterwards.

 

Sometimes I think nursing and being a lovely lady are kind of sister vocations - so it comes as no surprise to me that Jasmine was so quick thinking (recovery position) and discrete.

 

I wish Jasmine a good nights sleep sure in the knowledge that she did her absolute best for this poor chap and I hope all turns out OK for the fella both physical and with everything else.

Thank you THP for your very kind words.

 

I would encourage all the working ladies to get some first aid training. It wouldn't hurt the gents to do the same. You just dont know when it comes in handy.

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Amazing presence of mind, Jasmin, you are a star, but what a shock for you! He is one very very lucky guy to have found himself in such good hands when that happened, expect /hope he will be very appreciative when he is back on his feet. If you phone the hospital and let them know it was you who called the paramedics, they should at least let you know whether he is OK, and you can leave a discreetly worded message for him. Doubt they will give you much more info than that because of all the usual legal stuff. Do hope you can get some sleep after such a shock, you deserve to sleep the deep sleep of the righteous tonight.

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In the nicest sense of the word Jasmin, you are a tart with a heart!

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Fingers crossed for him Jasmin, as others have said, it's possible your actions have saved his life and after that his marriage.

I'm surprised (in a good way) the paramedics were prepared to go along with an alibi story, obviously don't expect you to embellish it but great thinking.

Perhaps all of us punters should have an ICE (in case of emergency) number on our punting phones too. I have several on my main phone but never thought about a discrete friend ICE on the punting phone.

Also, not wishing any ladies ill, this isn't a punter specific scenario. Could just as easily be a lady takes ill and the punter has to deal with her!!

Anyway, really hope you get some sleep and your gent makes a full recovery.

DG x

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Sorry to hear about this situation, but well done for the way you handled it. It would've been of great comfort to him that he was being looked after so well, and he will be relieved that you did your best to cover his tracks for him. If I were you I'd want to speak to him to put his mind at rest about how he was found, what details were given etc, so if you do want to call him do it early before visiting time starts on the wards, but not too early that they say he's asleep! Most wards don't start visiting until 8/9am, so try calling at 7ish. Plus it'll be the night nurses on at 7, so they won't bump into wifey at 10 and mention any phone call!

Hope you sleep well tonight x

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pat yourself on the back

 

If that ever happened to me i just hope that the WG will be half as caring, thoughtful and professional as your good self!

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Again, like the prevailing sentiment on here, well done Jasmine. Its one thing planning for emergencies, and we'd all like to think we can be calm and remember things like recovery position etc..but its another thing being in the heat of the moment in normal circumstances (eg OAP has fallen in Tesco), let alone the added pressure of being in the WG-punting zone and dealing with this with your mind and heart racing 100mph!

Not everyone would keep their head, and thats not a criticism or weakness just how we react. So good on you. Always good to know what to do in emergencies, but this is the exception, dont let it play on your mind too much

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I managed to fall asleep early hours this morning and called A&E the minute I woke up. They put me through to ICU. My heart just sank.

He's in intensive care and they have no idea what's wrong with him. He's still not come round. They are running various tests. :(

Can't believe I was slapping and spraying water on a very sick man :eek:

 

Thank you for your support everyone. At the time I wasn't sure I was doing the right thing or that he'd thank me for calling an ambulance, but I really had no choice.

 

@ DG. His phone was locked so we couldn't access the numbers for his wife or work. Thankfully he had his business cards in his briefcase [which wasn't locked]. So even if you do have an emergency number in your phone, we wont have access to it unless we have the passcode.

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I managed to fall asleep early hours this morning and called A&E the minute I woke up. They put me through to ICU. My heart just sank.

He's in intensive care and they have no idea what's wrong with him. He's still not come round. They are running various tests. :(

Can't believe I was slapping and spraying water on a very sick man :eek:

 

Thank you for your support everyone. At the time I wasn't sure I was doing the right thing or that he'd thank me for calling an ambulance, but I really had no choice.

 

@ DG. His phone was locked so we couldn't access the numbers for his wife or work. Thankfully he had his business cards in his briefcase [which wasn't locked]. So even if you do have an emergency number in your phone, we wont have access to it unless we have the passcode.

Jasmine throwing water on the guy who passed out at my place brought him round and ensured that he didnt have to be carted off to hospital. Don't feel bad that you did it, you were not to know he was so ill. He may have just fainted. You did your very best and because of your actions he is currently alive. Feel good about yourself this morning. 

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Jasmin, thanks for telling us what happened to you, it's very useful to share such a story. As everybody's already told you, you've done your best. You've acted very bravely, as a human being, and this man's life is now in the medics hands, there is nothing more you can do. It's not easy for you to rest and empty your mind of course... who could ? Try and take some time for yourself, you deserve it Jasmin.

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All I can say is what a star you are.

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