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Was Just Rejected By A Wg For Being Black - Is This Normal?

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So I just tried to book Megan from London. (expert rimmer). I had heard that some WG's don't like black guys so I thought I just check with her (by text).  I am mixed race (black and white) so I asked her if this was ok. She said it's fine as long as I am polite. She also said it's the first time she had been asked that. So I ask if she is free tomorrow etc etc and she suddenly says "mixed what?" I said "Caribbean and English" her response was "Sorry no."

 

As I hadn't been with a WG before I asked her what the problem was and she replied "I have had bad experiences with caribbean guys".

 

I explained that I'd never booked a WG and if she could just tell me honestly if this was normal or if I shouldn't check if they are ok with black guys in future.

 

She replied "This conversation is making me extremely uncomfortable!"

I replied "No it is me who now feels uncomfortable as you have turned me down because of the colour of my skin"

 

"Thanks"

 

So I just wanted to know what is the protocol!

 

Thanks

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So I just tried to book Megan from London. (expert rimmer). I had heard that some WG's don't like black guys so I thought I just check with her (by text).  I am mixed race (black and white) so I asked her if this was ok. She said it's fine as long as I am polite. She also said it's the first time she had been asked that. So I ask if she is free tomorrow etc etc and she suddenly says "mixed what?" I said "Caribbean and English" her response was "Sorry no."

 

As I hadn't been with a WG before I asked her what the problem was and she replied "I have had bad experiences with caribbean guys".

 

I explained that I'd never booked a WG and if she could just tell me honestly if this was normal or if I shouldn't check if they are ok with black guys in future.

 

She replied "This conversation is making me extremely uncomfortable!"

I replied "No it is me who now feels uncomfortable as you have turned me down because of the colour of my skin"

 

"Thanks"

 

So I just wanted to know what is the protocol!

 

Thanks

 

 

tough one

 

but its her body and its up to her who she has sex with.  Just move on to another one.

 

You have no idea of her history, so that may be why she has declined to see you.  Or maybe she doesnt fancy black giys.

 

put the boot on another foot and think how you would like it being forced to have sex with someone you dont fancy.

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As CP said its her body and her choice who she sees, I personally don't see black men myself and it's not down to bad experiences just I've never slept with one!

Just take your money elsewhere someone else will appreciate it! :)

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CP is right, I think, especially that it is a tough question.

 

It would be neat to be able to say it is true of every type of person - colour of skin, nationality, religion, length/girth of dick etc

 

But it seems to come up most about Caribbean men, Justified or not? How can I know if that is the case and if it is at all justified. 

 

I too would go to the SP's right to be able to say who she sees and who she doesn't see.

 

Some will have had bad experiences with certain types and no one can expect her to prove it or to demand to be seen.

 

But it is a tough subject as it sounds like one is approving of racism.

 

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I have just thought about it and I have to say that if any SP turned me down on any grounds, I would accept it. I may be disappointed not to see her if I fancied her but it would not be a great session under duress, would it, and that would be worse because it it would be a paid-for failure.

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Don't worry mate , is Megan from London from AW or an agency...?

On AW the WG would stipulate she doesn't see black guys. The nature of this business is 'black market', excuse the pun or underground.

It therefore doesn't come under any anti-discriminatory laws.

You can see plenty of WG through an agency or AW who do rimming and don't turn away black guys.

Agencies like Bijoux, Agency Allure, Hamiltons even the much maligned Maxes Angels.

I know black guys who have had a good service on AW and through agencies.

I wouldn't worry about it mate, maybe you could PM me her details.

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I've been turned down based on age before booking and youthful looks on arrival so it's a similar situation. I think there based on my race is feel worse though.

I hope she's turning black guys away based on a bad experience rather than prejudice (although it's still prejudice anyway).

She can't help the way she feels but hopefully she has a decent justification for it.

If you're after a good rimming I can give you details of other ladies.

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You are not the first nor the last. It likely smarts at the moment but just consider this. If she hadn't called you back and you had turned up she may have a) slammed there door in your face :cool: not even answered the door c) gone through the motions but been distant and on her guard because of her prejudices experiences or jump out of her skin overtime you moved your cock in her direction in case it robbed her therefore it would have been a shite experience for you and a total waste of your money. 

 

It is her body, there is nothing you can do about it, yes it stinks and yes there are plenty of other fish in the sea, get stuck in. Unfortunately though to save yourself hassle it would be better for you to ask if girls mind. Many a time I have been asked if I mind seeing someone because they are black/indian/pakistani and once even an eastern european guy asked because apparently a lot of girls assume that because he is eastern european he will be visiting to try to get them on a pimp wagon..go figure. 

 

Hedge your bets by double checking and believe me, there are plenty out there who dont care what colour someone is x

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I've been turned down based on age before booking and youthful looks on arrival so it's a similar situation. I think there based on my race is feel worse though.

I hope she's turning black guys away based on a bad experience rather than prejudice (although it's still prejudice anyway).

She can't help the way she feels but hopefully she has a decent justification for it.

If you're after a good rimming I can give you details of other ladies.

 

This is certainly an awkward subject, and one I feel bad about re. my own criteria for clients, but one thing I do want to stress is that for me personally, it's not about prejudice - it's about not being sexually attracted to certain types. As such, I know I wouldn't provide them with a good service, and so couldn't take their money in good faith. 

 

There is a difference between how you feel about people on a day-to-day level, and in a sexual way. Escorts don't have the luxury of seeing photos of potential clients, or having a coffee with them in a neutral location first, so we have to come up with very broad guidelines. I find it embarrassing to turn someone down on the phone (though it wouldn't happen if they actually read my profile...), but I'd rather that than reject them at my door or go through with a meet feeling awkward/uncomfortable.

 

To the OP, all I can say is don't take it personally.

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Thanks for the great replies. I know I cannot do anything about it and I would not want to see her if she was uncomfortable. 

Next time if some one asks me what mix I am I will just say White and African because that's the bit that I didn't like most. I understand some people have a colour preference.

 

Next time maybe I will just say I am Latino as I am brown lol. 

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Thanks for the great replies. I know I cannot do anything about it and I would not want to see her if she was uncomfortable.

Next time if some one asks me what mix I am I will just say White and African because that's the bit that I didn't like most. I understand some people have a colour preference.

Next time maybe I will just say I am Latino as I am brown lol.

It's best not to lie because if a WG finds out you did she could easily post a warning about you or something.

I've had clients try lie about their race or age before and they instantly get blacklisted.

So probably best to tell the truth if they aren't interested their loss someone will be :)

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It is a bit of a minefield but as everyone else says I guess you did the right thing to ask before getting to the door. Not nice but it is a very intimate thing having sex with someone and it has to be her choice ultimately.

 

There's plenty more fish in the sea as they say and black/mixed race guys don't do so badly with the ladies as a rule. :)

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Hmm, interesting topic. I have mixed views about this. It is absolutely our perogative to decide who we meet and what we will do in a session but at the risk of raising a hornets nest are our 'don't see lists" plain and simple racism?

 

I was molested by an Indian when I was young, for years I had a "don't come closer than..." zone around me when it came to Indian men. Then I started this work and I thought about saying that I won't see Indian men as I didn't want to open the door and freeze but I decided to play it by ear.

 

Last year I had a long chat over the phone with an Irish gentleman and a booking was arranged, and I opened the door to a short brown Indian looking man...with an Irish accent. We had a great session, apart from insisting on calling me Delores ;) he was clean, polite and fun.

 

Are our experiences really a good enough reason to say no? I have had bad sessions with two middle class white men. Do I say no to all of a similar type?

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tough one

but its her body and its up to her who she has sex with. Just move on to another one.

You have no idea of her history, so that may be why she has declined to see you. Or maybe she doesnt fancy black giys.

put the boot on another foot and think how you would like it being forced to have sex with someone you dont fancy.

I'm sure she must fancy every white guy who's ever paid to fuck her

(Silly excuse really)

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I'm sure she must fancy every white guy who's ever paid to fuck her

(Silly excuse really)

It's about preference not "fancying"

Like I have only slept with white men so that's who I choose to see, as everyone has said it is her body and she can choose who enters and touches it, if it offends people then so be it. It's not much different to having an age limit.

I'm sure punters have a preference of some sort in women so I think WGs should have the choice too.

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It's best not to lie because if a WG finds out you did she could easily post a warning about you or something.

I've had clients try lie about their race or age before and they instantly get blacklisted.

So probably best to tell the truth if they aren't interested their loss someone will be :)

Exactly, just as likely to have someone say "african, oh, sorry, no". 

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I am black and I always ask a SP if she is ok with black guys if it is not written on her profile. If she says no, I am not bothered as I just take my custom elsewhere. Why would you want to be intimate with someone who despises you? Move on mate!

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Hmm, interesting topic. I have mixed views about this. It is absolutely our perogative to decide who we meet and what we will do in a session but at the risk of raising a hornets nest are our 'don't see lists" plain and simple racism?

 

I was molested by an Indian when I was young, for years I had a "don't come closer than..." zone around me when it came to Indian men. Then I started this work and I thought about saying that I won't see Indian men as I didn't want to open the door and freeze but I decided to play it by ear.

 

Last year I had a long chat over the phone with an Irish gentleman and a booking was arranged, and I opened the door to a short brown Indian looking man...with an Irish accent. We had a great session, apart from insisting on calling me Delores ;) he was clean, polite and fun.

 

Are our experiences really a good enough reason to say no? I have had bad sessions with two middle class white men. Do I say no to all of a similar type?

 

 

Ha ha, something similar happened to me in the past.  We laughed so much about this later and he said it happens to him a lot.  He was a great guy.

 

I guess is a girl's prerogative to meet whoever she wants: her life, her body, her rules.

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It's about preference not "fancying"

Like I have only slept with white men so that's who I choose to see, as everyone has said it is her body and she can choose who enters and touches it, if it offends people then so be it. It's not much different to having an age limit.

I'm sure punters have a preference of some sort in women so I think WGs should have the choice too.

I was replying to CoventryPunter who said 'fancy' not 'preference'

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I was replying to CoventryPunter who said 'fancy' not 'preference'

Yes I know that, but I don't think he initially meant "fancy" because escorting isn't about that.

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Yes I know that, but I don't think he initially meant "fancy" because escorting isn't about that.

 

to me 'fancy' means wanting to have sex with someone.  When i look for a WG i iook for ones I fancy.

preference means that I have a set type of women i want to see,  Thats not true for me. I like a broad spectrum of women.

hope that clarifies why I used the words I did.

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By saying a broad spectrum of women rather than all spectrum of women, does that suggest you actually still do have a preference of the set type of women you want to see?

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By saying a broad spectrum of women rather than all spectrum of women, does that suggest you actually still do have a preference of the set type of women you want to see?

 

not really.

just some you look at their profile and think - I fancy an hour with her.  The filters on AW dont help, I have to trawl through.

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to me 'fancy' means wanting to have sex with someone. When i look for a WG i iook for ones I fancy.

preference means that I have a set type of women i want to see, Thats not true for me. I like a broad spectrum of women.

hope that clarifies why I used the words I did.

Yes I know what you mean.

But to use the word fancy when referring to who an escort chooses to sleep with is the wrong word as we don't necessariy get to see pics of our clients before hand!

Having a preference now is different, like my preference for white men so thats who I book. If a WG had to fancy every man who paid her she wouldn't last long at all.

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Yes I know what you mean.

But to use the word fancy when referring to who an escort chooses to sleep with is the wrong word as we don't necessariy get to see pics of our clients before hand!

Having a preference now is different, like my preference for white men so thats who I book. If a WG had to fancy every man who paid her she wouldn't last long at all.

 

mebbe fancy has a slightly different meaning in t'grim north where I were drug up...

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mebbe fancy has a slightly different meaning in t'grim north where I were drug up...

Yeah maybe haha

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