el Duderino

0 For 2 Newbie :(

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I'm already thinking so early in to this experience that I may not not be cut out for this 'hobby'...

I'd been looking around for a few weeks on AW to see what/who was available which was rather a turn on, not really having _fully_ considered it before.

Last week decided to take the plunge and make initial contact. Found a nice lass close to the area.

Nerves were racing but she had good contact, directed me well and after getting there was very bubbly and tried hard to set me at ease.

Without getting in to the nitty gritty I was having a very good time. However the time aspect is something I'd totally overlooked - not leaving enough to get ready, get to hers, do the deed (in a 30min booking) and leave enough to still get to where I needed and make a train. I had assumed I'd be so excited I'd pop quite soon and therefore not need a lengthy stay.

Because of all this and a poor nights sleep I could not get an erection... She still managed to get me off (just) and I still left happy regardless.

I tried to put it to inexperience and move on.

Today arranged another meet. This time with someone who'd normally be what I'm attracted to (a BBW, instead of the petit blonde I'd previously seen) and for an hour this time too.

What can I say, it was even worse than before!

My little guy decided to shrink down even more and there was no life out of the little bugger at all...

Further in to the session, the more she tried the more pressure I felt to perform. By the end she seemed disappointed and during my time after I left I actually felt pretty down about the whole thing and has knocked my confidence greatly.

There have been times with girlfriends past where I may have hit a low point in my libido due to tiredness or stresses but at those points I wouldn't try to have sex - start something I couldn't finish.

But I didn't feel that here. Looking around was very much a turn on and who wouldn't want to get in to bed naked with some very attractive girls?

I suppose I've written this more for my own consolidation as much as I have looking for input or experiences from others.

Oh well, what to do next - cut my losses and accept this isn't for me or dust myself off and get back on the horse?

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If you try again keep in mind that there can be nerves and dissappointment on both sides. It may also help to have a chat with the lady beforehand explaining things.

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I've just had a different kind of mini crisis and have come out the other side a little stronger. :)

 

My first meeting was so awkward I decided to pack it in there and then but with the support I got on here I went back to the original girl and it worked out fine. It's a massive leap moving from 'normal' relationship sex to visiting an escort, but remember that they are women just the same and are there by choice to give you pleasure. Lucky old us eh?

 

Keep at it mate and don't let it get to you. Many of us have been there before you and survived ;)

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Thanks guys. I didn't want to give up quite yet as there are a couple nice lassies on my faves list I'd quite like to try. Its a veritable smörgåsbord out there....

Since I'm new to this lark I do have another question about general etiquette (and don't laugh) - is it acceptable to get under the covers?

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Keep trying ED  :)

 

I nearly gave up many moons ago, but I'm glad I persevered as I have met and enjoyed many lovely ladies since my first qualms.

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You have to make sure you book a girl you are very attracted to, and there is no bullshit going on like bad reviews. Do not forget to do your homework. Take it easy but watch the clock once is a while. 

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I would try not to build the event up into a mega punt in your head. Just treat it like a date when you KNOW you will get lucky at the end of the evening!

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I don't think looks are really a problem - there's lots of different features I can find attractive, but too hot could be an issue as I might find it too artificial as deep down I'd know she'd be well out of my league...

First time round I don't believe I built anything up in my head, just thought of it as getting to have sex with an attractive lass.

I tried to explain to the girl today it wasn't going to be easy but she said that I just have to 'let go'. Kinda difficult when you're a shy, self conscious guy where its part of who you are. She was right though that I was over thinking things.

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You have to make sure you book a girl you are very attracted to, and there is no bullshit going on like bad reviews. Do not forget to do your homework. Take it easy but watch the clock once is a while. 

a girl with a small amount of bad reviews compared to her good ones doesnt mean anything. You can't keep everyone happy no matter how hard you try x

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You have to make sure you book a girl you are very attracted to, and there is no bullshit going on like bad reviews. Do not forget to do your homework. Take it easy but watch the clock once is a while. 

None of which would help in this case.Its not a problem with the ladies,it seems more matey stressing himself out.

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a girl with a small amount of bad reviews compared to her good ones doesnt mean anything. You can't keep everyone happy no matter how hard you try x

 

Yes I know I shop at amazon as well.

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What eased me into this was massage and hand relief and it took a year or two before I did anything else.  I would suggest the same.

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Yikes.

My first time she had her tounge down my throat within 10 minutes and me shooting my load in her mouth not too long afterwards :)

TBH good advice about not getting too stressed about the actual sex. Many others ways to leave a smile in your face

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Grrr, delayed responses due to approval...

I think I'll continue to persevere and see what happens. As suggested, just take it slow. Don't know whether to go back to the same girl again for familiarity though which could make it easier.

I accept the fact its in my head but I don't understand why. I may not a socially confident guy but sexually confident enough with girlfriends and feel I can be quite receptive to their likes in a very short space of time.

I like the idea of being able to please the WG as it would please me too (such a considerate guy lol).

I suppose I don't want to come across as inept if I do something wrong and whether the girl would say anything if I do something that doesn't do anything for her where she'd just lie back and take it just because I've paid for her time and accept it to make me happy.

Due to my earlier replies added to the thread after the fact I'll ask again for some clarity:

"Since I'm new to this lark I do have another question about general etiquette (and don't laugh) - is it acceptable to get under the covers?"

By which I mean if at hers for an incall. It may seem stupid but I see that as kind of a personal thing. I'm probably way off base on this one... lol

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I don't mind if someone wants to get under the covers, but it's not usually necessary in terms of warmth, and it can be a bit of an impediment to action. But by all means ask!

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I don't mind if someone wants to get under the covers, but it's not usually necessary in terms of warmth, and it can be a bit of an impediment to action. But by all means ask!

 

I think I need to bring some bed sheets next time I go for a punt.

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