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Has anyone else had this experience after meeting a WG?

 

I've been punting for 6 yrs and enjoy myself as much as the next man, aside from the occasional punt where things just don't click (rare as I generally research quite thoroughly)

 

I was working in Budapest recently and met up with a young lady and had the most incredible time ever.

 

Now, I'm old enough and ugly enough to see that having great sex with someone half my age is going to stick in the memory but I actually feel as if I'm in love.

 

I am also realistic enough to see that this feeling is firstly, not reciprocal (is it just ego telling me that she had a good time too?) and secondly much better described as infatuation. I also have to confess that I do have form - a similar thing happened after my first ever punt - a long stay with a Thai girl that I now know was pretty intense.

 

Whilst I sure that I will get over it with time, I just wanted to see if anyone else has had a similar experience?

 

Oh, and I promise that I won't walk past her flat on Google street view again, honest, that was bad of me........

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Oh, and I promise that I won't walk past her flat on Google street view again, honest, that was bad of me........

 

That was quite intense than.

 

There was a girl I really liked, she was 18, I only saw her twice, and yes this was infatuation, one of the most lovely WG I met, and I am still dreaming of her, Leah, when will you be back?

 

Also I remember I was infatuated with a WG in Hong Kong, I only slept with her once, but the next time I came to see her, they said she left, she married one of her clients, so love is possible between patrons and WG then?

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Dangerous emotion SUSD :)  but I guess inevitable at some point. I have always tried to keep a grip of myself even in relationships but I know at some point I might lose the plot with someone forgetting that it is a fantasy and not real life.

 

I would say run a mile if it is never going to be reciprocal before you get in too deep. As they say, there is no fool like an old fool. ;)

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I do t think you should be messing about with hookers if you get like that.

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It happens to us all. As long as we release what is happening and move on then no harm.

 

I had to stop seeing 1 Wg after 3 visits as i too started to get those feelings.

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I have had this happen with a few clients where I have had the "we could be more" "let me take you out and see where things go" messages.

And to be honest I instantly stop seeing them, you have to remember its just sex, nothing more nothing less. No matter how much you think a girl enjoyed it she is providing you with a fantasy only.

I do agree that if this is how you feel when you book escorts you shouldn't be doing it as it will be damaging.

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It's dangerous territory. Anyone starting to get infatuated with an escort needs to have a word with themselves and consider moving on. Either that or reeling in their feelings and realising that it will go nowhere beyond the paid-for experience which, after all, is not 'reality' anyway.

 

Anyone attempting to pursue a non-paid-for situation should probably consider attempting to get a real relationship in the real world. WGs have private lives too and asking to be a part of it is crossing a line.

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It happens to us all. As long as we release what is happening and move on then no harm.

 

I had to stop seeing 1 Wg after 3 visits as i too started to get those feelings.

 

Top tip SirP - perhaps it's just a well I'm not due to go back :unsure:

 

Thank you one and all for the bucket of cold water that is Tough Love

 

I am (all too) aware that the whole thing is not and could not be 'real'

 

That said, I was interested to see if feeling like this is unusual, if only on the odd occasion. Thank you all, I feel a bit more normal ;)

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I have had this happen with a few clients where I have had the "we could be more" "let me take you out and see where things go" messages.

And to be honest I instantly stop seeing them, you have to remember its just sex, nothing more nothing less. No matter how much you think a girl enjoyed it she is providing you with a fantasy only.

I do agree that if this is how you feel when you book escorts you shouldn't be doing it as it will be damaging.

TYE has this exactly right. These words should be printed on the wallet of every punter so he reads them as he takes out his cash!

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Yes had that feeling and couldn't stop thinking about her!  Luckily came to my senses, seen the odd one to a dozen other ladies and cured myself and luckily the only thing I am infatuated with now is my dog and the dog loves me back to that's great although still have to see the odd wg for a little pleasure now and again!!

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I am a bit of a softy and do get sort of emotionally involved but when I saw one of several girls outside the work environment - in their home, shopping etc - I was able to be perfectly like the older uncle I could easily have been with no sexual element at all, which was saved for normal bookings.

 

That worked for me - I had the private time as friends (one off and on for 20 years) and while I couldn't deny I was over-enamoured sometimes, I didn't let it make me behave stupidly.

 

What was nice was the complete lack of timidity if sexual subjects came up or flesh was flashed - seen that, been there, no embarrassment.

 

Losing them for whatever reason is just like a fave SP leaving her job or moving away; it just has to be dealt with, which is easier when there are so many fantastic SPs to see.

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I think we all do it from time to time - we fall in LUST with a WG, rather than LOVE.  As a punter you have to be careful not to confuse the two emotions.

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It's so easy to read a lot more into a punt than is there, the women are paid to make you feel good and if you leave feeling like you've fallen in love then you've gone in with a desire for affection, and she has provided handsomely.

 

For me, it's why I tend not to punt the same girl more than once as it's too easy to believe there is more to it than there is.  It's a cash transaction, and whilst she may like you (and it could possibly lead to something) 99.9% of the time it's all in your head and she's already thinking of the next punter as you leave the room.

 

It is a common story though, and at least you realise the feelings aren't reciprocated.  Better to get your feelings in check before turning into another sad sod with a sponsored girlfriend the other side of the world who's "given up work as she's in love with me".

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Twelve years ago I enjoyed my first 'paid for' sex with a young woman who to this day, despite her retirement some seven years ago, I still yearn for and remember with true affection and, yes, lust. It was a commercial transaction always. But it never stopped being a joyful and satisfying relationship for me.

I think of her often.

That's infatuation

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Twelve years ago I enjoyed my first 'paid for' sex with a young woman who to this day, despite her retirement some seven years ago, I still yearn for and remember with true affection and, yes, lust. It was a commercial transaction always. But it never stopped being a joyful and satisfying relationship for me.

I think of her often.

That's infatuation

 

I don't think 'I think of her often' amounts to most people's understanding of infatuation.

 

Some unhappy ladies would gratefully swap that for the obsessive behaviour they have had to put up with.

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Twelve years ago I enjoyed my first 'paid for' sex with a young woman who to this day, despite her retirement some seven years ago, I still yearn for and remember with true affection and, yes, lust. It was a commercial transaction always. But it never stopped being a joyful and satisfying relationship for me.I think of her often.That's infatuation

Uncle P, you're telling my story almost to the letter

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Well, this topic will probably just go to show how complicated us humans are - one person's poison is another's ....? Please fill this in someone, I've forgotten  :o Some time ago, I sort of fell into the thai WG scene. I think, but I don't know, that they were quite new here then and there were lots of 'flats' with them in London as well. I met their friends and often their friends' boyfriends. I had a couple of good relationships actually. Having been to Thailand, it was probably an extension of what often happens there - boyfriend, marriage. One or two did get married to their former customers, had children, settled down and all that. I didn't, although it was definitely on the cards at the time. I don't know if this still happens or not.

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See all the trouble you ladies cause? :D

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In my experience, infatuation requires a longer, slower and more varied incubation than is possible in hourly or two-hourly visits to a working girl now and then. Fortunately. 

It's seeing the person again and again and again in different contexts and doing different things, noticing again those gestures and facial expressions that pleased us before and now come to possess our imaginations and our dreams...

Never happened to me with a working girl.

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Yes had that feeling and couldn't stop thinking about her!  Luckily came to my senses, seen the odd one to a dozen other ladies and cured myself and luckily the only thing I am infatuated with now is my dog and the dog loves me back to that's great although still have to see the odd wg for a little pleasure now and again!!

 

But my dog, faithful friend and companion, gets on so well with her dog when they both come to visit me  :)

Cause enough, in itself, for me to be as infatuated with her as I am.

 

I am a bit of a softy and do get sort of emotionally involved.

 

What was nice was the complete lack of timidity if sexual subjects came up or flesh was flashed - seen that, been there, no embarrassment.

 

It is nice having such a complete lack of timidity, isn't it ?

Enough for me, at least, to feel that my current favourite regular ( for almost two years now  :wacko: ) is very much of a friend as much as an escort  :wub:

I'm fully aware that the feelings I have for her can never be fully reciprocated ( she is so very much younger than I am, and would be "out of my league" in civvie street ), but I like to believe that she is "fond" of me in return, and shares a lot of her personal life with me. Quite enough to keep me addicted to her for the time being  :)

 

See all the trouble you ladies cause? :D

 

You know who I'm talking to / about, don't you ?

 

In my experience, infatuation requires a longer, slower and more varied incubation than is possible in hourly or two-hourly visits to a working girl now and then. Fortunately. 

It's seeing the person again and again and again in different contexts and doing different things, noticing again those gestures and facial expressions that pleased us before and now come to possess our imaginations and our dreams...

 

Several overnights, and even double overnights with a day of the pleasure of her company in between ( usually with only a couple of sessions of sex involved in the daytime, but always available at my request  :D ) has allowed the "longer, slower and more varied incubation" of infatuation that you speak of Mr B.

 

OK, so I'm a silly, deluded, Sad Old Man to believe that she has any genuine feelings for me, but I'm happy to think that way, so leave me alone to enjoy my delusions ?

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I have an idea KM and if that is the case I don't blame you at all.  :)

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But my dog, faithful friend and companion, gets on so well with her dog when they both come to visit me :)

Cause enough, in itself, for me to be as infatuated with her as I am.

It is nice having such a complete lack of timidity, isn't it ?

Enough for me, at least, to feel that my current favourite regular ( for almost two years now :wacko: ) is very much of a friend as much as an escort :wub:

I'm fully aware that the feelings I have for her can never be fully reciprocated ( she is so very much younger than I am, and would be "out of my league" in civvie street ), but I like to believe that she is "fond" of me in return, and shares a lot of her personal life with me. Quite enough to keep me addicted to her for the time being :)

You know who I'm talking to / about, don't you ?

Several overnights, and even double overnights with a day of the pleasure of her company in between ( usually with only a couple of sessions of sex involved in the daytime, but always available at my request :D ) has allowed the "longer, slower and more varied incubation" of infatuation that you speak of Mr B.

OK, so I'm a silly, deluded, Sad Old Man to believe that she has any genuine feelings for me, but I'm happy to think that way, so leave me alone to enjoy my delusions ?

In reality the reason why she sees you is because you pay her, that is it.

I'm just being honest here and more people should. She probably is "fond" if you as a person because you pay her for her time, there won't be nothing at all to it.

I had a client who really believed there was more to it than just him paying me to sleep with him, he was more than double my age and admitted he started to fall for me and thats when I stopped seeing him because it no longer is a business transaction then.

You just have to remind yourself, she is a girl who is ONLY seeing you because you pay her, take the money away and she wouldn't be there.

Brutal but truth!

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In reality the reason why she sees you is because you pay her, that is it. You just have to remind yourself, she is a girl who is ONLY seeing you because you pay her, take the money away and she wouldn't be there. Brutal but truth!

Not all the time, in all situations and for everyone. In 'truth', this is an anglo-centric, perhaps euro-centric perspective. I know because, I know. I've experienced and seen another way, a different perspective. Not everyone, everywhere, all the time, is the same, acts and behaves in the same way.

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Not all the time, in all situations and for everyone. In 'truth', this is an anglo-centric, perhaps euro-centric perspective. I know because, I know. I've experienced and seen another way, a different perspective. Not everyone, everywhere, all the time, is the same, acts and behaves in the same way.

I'm not on about "anyone and everyone" I'm on about escorts specifically.

Come on.. Do you think some of these girls see you because you're they're type, good in bed, and she can't keep away?

It's a business, I see the men I do because they are respectable nice genuine men and most of all because they pay me.

As I said if you take away the money you'll soon see what I mean.

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I think my No.1 'regular' likes me as a person and seems to enjoy the sex but as you say ETYEB... I'm sure no money no visit!  Drop dead gorgeous and half my age I'm just happy that she seems pleased to see me... but of course even that could be an illusion.

 

Not really relaxed about it at all in truth and I have a suspicion I won't be doing it for much longer. Maybe a change of tack so I just see 'special' girls less often might be the answer and perhaps then I could 'buy' the situation better and get into it more.

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