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Going For It "harder"

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Hi all i am quite new to all this having only met few girls, and had a question

If during a meeting you want to shag a girl abit harder/rougher do you ask first or just do it ? I dont mean any pain/throwing about just a bit more passion/vigour! Would a girl object?

Does this come under pse? I wouldnt have thought so?

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Not sure what you mean "abit harder/rougher". I always go as hard as I can (maybe not always), is it not the way it is supposed to be done? Maybe you mean "rough" then?

 

But to answer your questions, it is always a good idea to ask first, whatever you want to do, I guess. Rough, I would think some girls do not like too much, me I would only do "pretend"-rough anyway. Too rough could be a turn-off?

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This has all of the ingredients of a classic.......

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It's usually her who says something along the lines of "Faster, deeper, harder" which I find a bit discouraging, as I'm already going as fast, deep and hard as my little chap will allow me to.  :(

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It's usually her who says something along the lines of "Faster, deeper, harder" which I find a bit discouraging, as I'm already going as fast, deep and hard as my little chap will allow me to.  :(

 

Haha - we're caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. I only say that if I feel the client is being tentative, though I am often tempted.

 

I would recommend going at the pace you feel comfortable with (so long as it's not going to be physically painful): we would always ask you to take it a bit easier if necessary. 

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Hi all i am quite new to all this having only met few girls, and had a question

If during a meeting you want to shag a girl abit harder/rougher do you ask first or just do it ? I dont mean any pain/throwing about just a bit more passion/vigour! Would a girl object?

Does this come under pse? I wouldnt have thought so?

Thanks

 

All girls are different.  Probably a more experienced girl will tell you straight away that you are rough, whereas a less experienced might not....... so communicate.

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I guess it depends on how lubricated she is and if she is on song and fancies it?  If she on top she may ask you anyway?

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Plenty of guys like to fuck hard especially when they feel themselves "getting there" so its probably not that big a deal if it really is just a more passionate bonk you are after. Definitely a PSE would cover this but then so would a GFE with the right lady as it comes under the heading of passion I would think. If you are going in knowing what you want then its advisable to let the lady you are booking know. If you mean you want to ram her as hard as possible for an hour or have her on top of you banging away for an hour then definitely check first. Better to ask than to have to pissed off people, her because she got a sore fanny and you because she stopped you for fucking her too hard. Make sure she knows you just like to fuck a bit hard and a bit fast and that she wont be ragged around the room though

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Slow and steady wins the race... and try approaching from different angles.  :)

 

Sadly porn has many blokes going at it like a traction engine. Alright if you like rough sex but not my first choice and position wise I think many women prefer mish done well rather than the camera angle crap they watch in videos.

 

Old school maybe, but............. ;)

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It's usually her who says something along the lines of "Faster, deeper, harder" which I find a bit discouraging, as I'm already going as fast, deep and hard as my little chap will allow me to. :(

Thanks for the replies, yes i mean more of a gfe type of thing in terms of more passion!! I have never had a girl encourage me like you said, i have just realised having visited an independent last week, that the few girls i visited at the big mk parlours actually wasted alot of my time (at the time i thought they were being friendly) and one girl even ended my 1hr appointment 20min early, as i am not demanding enough and didnt say owt.

I think chloe has made a good point (biting my tongue!), being faster is maybe normal and just looks aggressive/painful for the girl but probably isnt. i just dont know how/what most guys do with girls having obviously not seen any real life action!

I will put it to the test on friday and report!

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Slow and steady wins the race... and try approaching from different angles.  :)

 

Sadly porn has many blokes going at it like a traction engine. Alright if you like rough sex but not my first choice and position wise I think many women prefer mish done well rather than the camera angle crap they watch in videos.

 

Old school maybe, but............. ;)

This is true but some guys NEED hard fast action to get then to cum, Ive seen guys wanking, my god, some of them look like they are going to rip the skin off their own cocks...stands to reason if they are going to cum whilst having sex they are going to be having to hammer it home near the end. Others actually have to slow down to cum. Everyone is different. The OP specifically said NOT rough though, just harder and faster x

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This is true but some guys NEED hard fast action to get then to cum, Ive seen guys wanking, my god, some of them look like they are going to rip the skin off their own cocks...stands to reason if they are going to cum whilst having sex they are going to be having to hammer it home near the end. Others actually have to slow down to cum. Everyone is different. The OP specifically said NOT rough though, just harder and faster x

 

I bow to your superior knowledge on this one Chloe.  :)

 

I may be unusual but my brain tells me when to cum. Nice to hang on until your partner is there as well.... but sometimes ;)

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I bow to your superior knowledge on this one Chloe.  :)

 

I may be unusual but my brain tells me when to cum. Nice to hang on until your partner is there as well.... but sometimes ;)

I think some guys just have a few issues getting to the goal. Im sure if they had the choice they wouldn't chose to have it so hard x

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Thanks for the replies, yes i mean more of a gfe type of thing in terms of more passion!! I have never had a girl encourage me like you said, i have just realised having visited an independent last week, that the few girls i visited at the big mk parlours actually wasted alot of my time (at the time i thought they were being friendly) and one girl even ended my 1hr appointment 20min early, as i am not demanding enough and didnt say owt.

I think chloe has made a good point (biting my tongue!), being faster is maybe normal and just looks aggressive/painful for the girl but probably isnt. i just dont know how/what most guys do with girls having obviously not seen any real life action!

I will put it to the test on friday and report!

Good luck with it.  Make sure you get your monies worth and speak up if you want the action to start asap in the bedroom!

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Thanks for the replies, yes i mean more of a gfe type of thing in terms of more passion!! I have never had a girl encourage me like you said, i have just realised having visited an independent last week, that the few girls i visited at the big mk parlours actually wasted alot of my time (at the time i thought they were being friendly) and one girl even ended my 1hr appointment 20min early, as i am not demanding enough and didnt say owt.

I think chloe has made a good point (biting my tongue!), being faster is maybe normal and just looks aggressive/painful for the girl but probably isnt. i just dont know how/what most guys do with girls having obviously not seen any real life action!

I will put it to the test on friday and report!

 

Feeling able to say this earns you a 'like' nervousnewbie. :)

 

We've all been there and I hope you have a great time.

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Good luck with it.  Make sure you get your monies worth and speak up if you want the action to start asap in the bedroom!

well for some reason he sent me a pornhub link of exactly how he is going to fuck her. Whilst Im eternally grateful for this special treatment I am left wondering why on earth he thinks I give a toss enough to watch a pornhub video of it ??? ^_^

 

So did everyone on here get the link or am I speshul??

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well for some reason he sent me a pornhub link of exactly how he is going to fuck her. Whilst Im eternally grateful for this special treatment I am left wondering why on earth he thinks I give a toss enough to watch a pornhub video of it ??? ^_^

 

So did everyone on here get the link or am I speshul??

No one else did don't worry u are special

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Good luck with it.  Make sure you get your monies worth and speak up if you want the action to start asap in the bedroom!

Thanks will do, need to be more direct with em.

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well for some reason he sent me a pornhub link of exactly how he is going to fuck her. Whilst Im eternally grateful for this special treatment I am left wondering why on earth he thinks I give a toss enough to watch a pornhub video of it ??? ^_^

 

So did everyone on here get the link or am I speshul??

 

Errr... I think you're speshul Chloe.  :D   Poor you.

 

Man there's some strange folk out there.

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Personally I like it quite rough, even the whole hair pulling, hand round neck thing I love all that.

But generally it's best to ask before drilling her! Hahaha

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Personally I like it quite rough, even the whole hair pulling, hand round neck thing I love all that.

But generally it's best to ask before drilling her! Hahaha

 

Now I'm scared of you ETYEB.... :o

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Errr... I think you're speshul Chloe.  :D   Poor you.

 

Man there's some strange folk out there.

 

lol xx

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Variation is important. I would say that I am past my best now but a slow start with a build -up is going to work most times. I have reported a few times over the years in FR's going as hard as I was able to and that would be hard by anyones standards, and never ever been told to slow down or go easy, but that was because I got there in stages and with plentiful foreplay. Going slowly at the start can result in the girl feeling teased a bit and can often elicit a request to go harder...lol

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This is true but some guys NEED hard fast action to get then to cum, Ive seen guys wanking, my god, some of them look like they are going to rip the skin off their own cocks...stands to reason if they are going to cum whilst having sex they are going to be having to hammer it home near the end. Others actually have to slow down to cum. Everyone is different. The OP specifically said NOT rough though, just harder and faster x

Are these guys circumcised by any chance because it does lead to (as in my case) reduced sensation. As for the OP if the escort does agree remember ask her to lube. For some reason the last few ladies I've seen don't seem to lube and in my case I appear to dry out lube.

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Are these guys circumcised by any chance because it does lead to (as in my case) reduced sensation. As for the OP if the escort does agree remember ask her to lube. For some reason the last few ladies I've seen don't seem to lube and in my case I appear to dry out lube.

 

Well I'm circumcised and do suffer a bit from the old 'insensitivity' issue down there. Quite often oral is like dropping my knob in a bowl of custard... but then again maybe I've never had a really good one. :(

 

With penetration however it's a plus because I can go on for over 5 minutes sometimes before I cum so it does have it's advantages.

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