French Belle

What Is A Courtesan ?

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I’ve been asked this question many times and thought it was the right moment to share my views and conclusions on it. Please note that the following is only my personal opinions and feelings about how I’m doing my « job ». Any other views are welcome obviously, and posters (ladies and gents) are encouraged to share theirs.

 

For the records : I’m not here for five minutes. I’m escorting for 7 years now, both in France and England, and my opinions reflect my work in both countries.

 

So what is a courtesan ? Let’s skip the boring historical part, where courtesans were women attending the Royal court, being mistresses of the King and Lords. A courtesan in the XXIth century is a bit different.  She may not be born with a silver spoon in her mouth, but she’s learnt enough about life to cope with any situation.

 

You can forget about the ladies who define them as such, practising outrageously high rates and delivering no good service. Some people talk the talk but can't walk the walk. Some of you will define a courtesan as an ultimate GFE, I don't know, definitions vary but facts remain the same.

 

Being a courtesan is definitely not welcoming you in a patio surrounded by venetian statues, red velvet curtains and grapes to nibble while having a chat. And a string quartet.

 

She is educated, even if she has no degree and learnt all what she knows from personal experience and sane curiosity. She can discuss a huge range of subjects, from arts to sciences, to politics. She’s open minded and encourages you to talk about your hobbies and interests in order to make the time you spend together more interesting.

 

She’s a genuine entertainer. Oh yes, she may offer sexual services, but it’s not the main part of what she has to offer. You can take her to any party, restaurant or show in town, she is a people person and will make contact easily with everybody from various backgrounds. She will behave because she has good manners. And you will certainly have a good time out of the bedroom too.

 

She is a good listener and truly enjoys getting to know you better. You will meet her for her company as well as her services. Just be aware that, if you’re looking for a quick shag, she’s not the one you’re looking for. She expects more from her meetings.

 

Finally, perhaps a courtesan is just a prostitute like any other : she’s paid for sex. But she brings more into what she’s doing. She may be in a relationship, married or with a partner. She truly and genuinly enjoys what she’s doing, because what job is better than making people happy ?

 

There are some genuine courtesans on the board (yes ladies, you know who you are !). I salute each of them and hope they won’t take offense for being brought under the spotlight !

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I think the term courtesan is very subjective.

 

To me, a real courtesan allows a man to be a man, discreetly fulfilling his desires, in confidence, without being held to account for anything, except her fee.

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Wow..who knew, we are all courtesans yeee  ^_^ Its just that from what I know of the ladies on this site we all pretty much offer exactly what the OP described. How wonderful

 

Earlgrey, could you explain what you mean about being held accountable for fees?

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to me its a synonym for escort.

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to me its a synonym for escort.

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Well it is really isnt it. An escort that knows how to hold a decent conversation and was brought up or learnt good manners. I think an escort with bad manners would soon get a bad reputation for it tbh

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Wow..who knew, we are all courtesans yeee  ^_^ Its just that from what I know of the ladies on this site we all pretty much offer exactly what the OP described. How wonderful

 

Earlgrey, could you explain what you mean about being held accountable for fees?

I guess getting down to nitty gritty a courtesan in modern day terms is an escort. A woman paid for companionship and her time. I think if you want to romanticise it, to my mind the epitome of a courtesan is the Japanese Geisha girl - traditionally a young girl trained to become a woman and learns how to deal with wealthy men and their needs in the hope for a regular retainer - including learning etiquette, how to bathe, serve food, converse and of course satisfy a man. Quite formal.

 

Chloe what I mean is: In a normal (traditional) relationship, a man becomes accountable for everything; supporting a wife, children, house, belongings, etc. When he's with a courtesan, only thing he's accountable for with her is her fee. Everything else is transactional and transitional. She is at his service, she's a form of escapism from his daily responsibilities.

 

These days, the true meaning of the term is really quite dated. Everything is so informal and cynical. :)

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I am often booked for social dates. Sometimes I have a week or two of dinner/social dates without any private time [sexually frustrating and takes an enormous amount of self control].

 

I have travelled extensively overseas with clients. I was supposed to be away overseas this week but had a charity event to organise and figured I would be too tired to entertain, so had to turn down the offer. I feel like a mistress most days. Never considered myself to be a courtesan though, and I've never ever advertised myself as one. I do have a couple of regulars who refer to me as one. I find that quite amusing as some consider a courtesan to be above escorts/prostitutes

 

A courtesan, escort or prostitute all mean the same in the modern day. There are no 2 ways about it. Yes, we may have some affluent or famous clients who mix in very different circles, but we also have some very 'average Joe' type of clients too. It all boils down to the same thing if at any stage you have sex with them.

 

Not sure a street worker would call herself a courtesan though!

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At the end of the day you can fluff it  up all you want  with fancy names we are all the same ! dirty horny minxs!

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I guess getting down to nitty gritty a courtesan in modern day terms is an escort. A woman paid for companionship and her time. I think if you want to romanticise it, to my mind the epitome of a courtesan is the Japanese Geisha girl - traditionally a young girl trained to become a woman and learns how to deal with wealthy men and their needs in the hope for a regular retainer - including learning etiquette, how to bathe, serve food, converse and of course satisfy a man. Quite formal.

 

Chloe what I mean is: In a normal (traditional) relationship, a man becomes accountable for everything; supporting a wife, children, house, belongings, etc. When he's with a courtesan, only thing he's accountable for with her is her fee. Everything else is transactional and transitional. She is at his service, she's a form of escapism from his daily responsibilities.

 

These days, the true meaning of the term is really quite dated. Everything is so informal and cynical. :)

Well to be honest the Geishas are probably the only real courtesans in the traditional sense to my mind also. 

 

What I meant was exactly what I said, all the ladies that are on this forum that I have spoken to do actually offer exactly what the OP described, so according to the OPs description modern day courtesan we are. Except that we are not, we are simply escorts who are good at communicating, can converse on a wide range of topics, which honestly is expected as we are adults, and ensure to the best of our abilities that our guys get an all round experience. We know how to conduct ourselves in public, in many different social arenas etc. We also know how to treat and behave with the clients who want more from their time than just the sex.

 

I haven't spoken to all the ladies on this forum but I do read their posts so they too are included in the OPs description. 

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At the end of the day you can fluff it  up all you want  with fancy names we are all the same ! dirty horny minxs!

Exactly..perfectly put 

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I suspect most of the real courtesans don't advertise themselves as such, and the ones who do advertise as courtesans are escorts who overcharge. Not true in every case, but a good general guide.

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In a normal (traditional) relationship, a man becomes accountable for everything; supporting a wife, children, house, belongings, etc. When he's with a courtesan, only thing he's accountable for with her is her fee. Everything else is transactional and transitional. She is at his service, she's a form of escapism from his daily responsibilities.

 

Indeed this is also my thinking. Now if the ladys who have replied to the thread qualify themselves as dirty horny minxes, everyone on their own. There is no hierarchy as long as you're paid for sex isn't it ?

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I wonder if one distinction is that in the traditional sense a courtesan would have no need of advertising. Just a blokes point of view.

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A courtesan is a prostitute/whore/sex worker or whatever name you chose to call them or they themselves. Is alleged that all have rich/wealthy clients/punters... Not really the true picture in modern times!

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No offence to Belle, but as far as I can see it is a marketing term. In the same way women describe themselves as 'exclusive' or claim they only see discerning gentlemen. It's just the same as women who go down the 'I'm a filthy cum slut whore' line or 'girl next door'  it's how they wish to market themselves and gain the kind of clients they want or have figured out how to make the kind of money they want. less but longer or more expensive rates versus more, shorter (non date) cheaper bookings

 

I don't believe there are many women who are (what I consider) genuine courtesans, if such a thing even really exists in modern day UK. It's a term like Demimonde, and it's true meaning just isn't relevant for today's society. 

 

I could never pull off courtesan, it's just not me and I'd be exhausted having to be all ladylike and having high brow conversations all the time, although am very capable of it! Apart from anything I have so many regular and lovely blokey bloke clients who would never dream of discussing politics or the arts with me and prefer to chat about the football or something on telly who never would have booked me if I decided to portray myself as a courtesan. 

 

But as I say horses for courses- we all have different ways and that's fine because there are oodles of different 'types' of women punters want. 

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I'd say as well as being intelligent, educated and living in some level of comfort, a courtesan would never have more than 2-3 clients on the go at any particular time, either. However you slice and dice it, I wouldn't call a woman who had sex with several different men a week a courtesan.

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No offense to Belle, but as far as I can see it is a marketing term. In the same way women describe themselves as 'exclusive' or claim they only see discerning gentlemen. It's just the same as women who go down the 'I'm a filthy cum slut whore' line or 'girl next door'  it's how they wish to market themselves and gain the kind of clients they want or have figured out how to make the kind of money they want. less but longer or more expensive rates versus more, shorter (non date) cheaper bookings

 

I don't believe there are many women who are (what I consider) genuine courtesans, if such a thing even really exists in modern day UK. It's a term like Demimonde, and it's true meaning just isn't relevant for today's society. 

 

I could never pull off courtesan, it's just not me and I'd be exhausted having to be all ladylike and having high brow conversations all the time, although am very capable of it! Apart from anything I have so many regular and lovely blokey bloke clients who would never dream of discussing politics or the arts with me and prefer to chat about the football or something on telly who never would have booked me if I decided to portray myself as a courtesan. 

 

But as I say horses for courses- we all have different ways and that's fine because there are oodles of different 'types' of women punters want. 

Unfortunatley football is the one thing I can't discuss..I can ask then lay back and look interested as they chat about their favourite team though  ^_^

 

I agree, it is just a marketing term

 

I still think those Geishas who train for years are the nearest thing to it nowadays though...they actually have training in art, dance, the playing of musical instruments , tea ceremonies, singing, entertaining etc and I believe from reading one or two books the sex is meant simply to be the happy at the end of much entertaining

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I'm not sure about the geisha analogy. A very few perhaps are/were trained to be what I believe a courtesan could be - the power behind the throne. Most, as I understand it, provide/d a professional but essentially subservient service, being trained to please in many different ways but not to take on a more equal or dominant rôle..

 

I still go for the historical usage of the word 'courtesan'.

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There you go, a true modern courtesan is a woman who can fit into most roles, social circles, events and of course service the needs of......us horny as fuck, blokes. :)

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Unfortunatley football is the one thing I can't discuss..I can ask then lay back and look interested as they chat about their favourite team though  ^_^

 

I agree, it is just a marketing term

 

I still think those Geishas who train for years are the nearest thing to it nowadays though...they actually have training in art, dance, the playing of musical instruments , tea ceremonies, singing, entertaining etc and I believe from reading one or two books the sex is meant simply to be the happy at the end of much entertaining

 

Let's face it, many men ramble on about any old shit and we lay back pretending to look interested! ;) 

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Now that's a real GFE.   :P

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I'm not sure about the geisha analogy. A very few perhaps are/were trained to be what I believe a courtesan could be - the power behind the throne. Most, as I understand it, provide/d a professional but essentially subservient service, being trained to please in many different ways but not to take on a more equal or dominant rôle..

 

I still go for the historical usage of the word 'courtesan'.

I guess it has slightly different connotations depending on which country you are thinking about historically. 

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Now that's a real GFE.   :P

I think thats all most guys want, a nice bit of chat, a lot of snogging and some genuine horny fun...the good old GFE. I know others want less and others want more but on the whole it doesnt matter how fancy your dress or well spoken or well versed, its how you make him feel in bed that will make his day

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I think thats all most guys want, a nice bit of chat, a lot of snogging and some genuine horny fun...the good old GFE. I know others want less and others want more but on the whole it doesnt matter how fancy your dress or well spoken or well versed, its how you make him feel in bed that will make his day

Yeah, in my experience they don't want meaningful, in depth intelligent conversations, they want easy stuff, maybe a giggle and a good seeing to! 

 

Of course men who want such a thing are more likely to choose to do dinner dates or social bookings.  I personally don't choose to promote these because I get more business being West London's anal fisting queen and I don't have to remember how to use a snail fork correctly or who performed at Glyndbourne this year. 

 

Edit: Because I also forgot how to construct sentences! 

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my view of a courtesan is a lady that offers her company for money not just sex

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