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I am curious after a conversation with one of my regulars. Do you have any moral issues with punting/ escorting and if you do how do you deal with them?

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Absolutely none whatsoever...

I can only speak for myself but it is indeed just a lifestyle choice and fits in perfectly with whatever goes on in my life...

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The folk who don't punt probably regard us all as "doomed to spend our afterlives in Hell!". That's fine with me.If I had serious moral scruples about punting I wouldn't be here. Nor, I bet, would any of us.

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I'm sure that anyone having moral doubts regarding accepting money for sex would simply cease working as an escort. As for any client having 'moral' doubts...I think you left any 'morals' behind as soon as you started looking at the websites, looking for potential liaisons or sourcing escort contact details. Morality is always a very flexible and personal concept anyway. I tend to use 'consenting adults' as my own benchmark and try not to judge others.

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Probably not.

I don't think my punting harms Mrs. Bloom, or anyone else. However, duplicity is not a good thing, and to have a whole side of your experience locked away from your partner is not good either. I'm not sure this is a moral problem, though it is probably psychologically bad for the person.

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As long as all parties involved are consenting and above the age of 18 I have no problem with punting.

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None at all. If I did I wouldn't do this job!

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I have plenty! So much so I don't know why I bother sometimes...

I'm not moralising about or judging others here by the way...

My fav wg & I ended up discussing this during an overnight booking of all things! We were having a frank question and answer session about a few different things and the subject of why I punt came up. I did warn her the full story wasn't pleasant but she said she wanted to hear it, so I told her what happened and why my partner and I no longer have sex. Also the ongoing battle I have with myself about punting...not least during an overnight with a girl half my age! She actually had tears in her eyes when I told her what had happened, nearly started me off! She did day a few things that made me think of it from a different perspective - plus the fact I could actually talk to someone about something I'd kept to myself for years did no end of good.

My issues have always been with the cheating aspect - until I started punting I'd never cheated while in a relationship - that's just how I am. Although I'm better than I was I'm still at odds with the fact the only time I've ever cheated is on the one person I want to be with for the rest of my life.

Funny old world isn't it - fact is my desire to have a fling at having a sex life again is overriding all other feelings at the moment...

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I like the Christian principle 'do unto others as you would have them do unto you'. Actually this more reportedly came from asia over 500 years before Jesus existed, but I still like it.  

Now I would very much like someone to pay me for a naughty time and to make them feel sexy special for an hour ( yeah, that will never happen ), but doing this paying for sex thing with WGs is a moral act if ever there was one at least in Christian philosophy. 

 

It would be immoral to haggle over the price of course!

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Thank you for sharing your feelings with us Burty. I am sure that you are not alone on here, although not surprisingly those who do not have any such dilemma have been able jump in and make the majority of posts on here. It is easy for me as a widower to say that I have no problems. I was extremely lucky to have had a long and mutually satisfying sex life with my wife. Where would I have been had I been in your shoes? 

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Burty, I hadn't considered another person's situation like that. Punting + adultery is a slightly different morality question.

 

I have looked at it in a different way as I am unmarried and have not punted while in a serious relationship. I've never felt guilt regarding punting in that sense.

 

My personal feeling is that if I am using punting as an escape from an unsatisfactory marriage, then I would stop punting. Why? Not for moral reasons. Because I don't think punting would be able to satisfy me or fill that emotional void. My unhappiness would continue, complete with added guilt. Something would have to break, whether it was my marriage or the use of escorts. That's my personal feeling. I wouldn't be able to carry on like that, but we are all different. 

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Burty, I hadn't considered another person's situation like that. Punting + adultery is a slightly different morality question.

 

I have looked at it in a different way as I am unmarried and have not punted while in a serious relationship. I've never felt guilt regarding punting in that sense.

 

My personal feeling is that if I am using punting as an escape from an unsatisfactory marriage, then I would stop punting. Why? Not for moral reasons. Because I don't think punting would be able to satisfy me or fill that emotional void. My unhappiness would continue, complete with added guilt. Something would have to break, whether it was my marriage or the use of escorts. That's my personal feeling. I wouldn't be able to carry on like that, but we are all different.

Reading my post back it seems a bit doom and gloom and I didn't really intend it that way. I'm not married, but unsatisfactory is one thing I'd never call my relationship with my partner. We have a really good relationship in every way, apart from circumstances which led to this lack of a sex life. I dealt with that perfectly well until my slightly belated mid life crisis ;)

Mr Bloom put it far more succinctly than I ever could.

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Morality is only a temporary feeling until you make your mind up and make a decision.

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Morality is only a temporary feeling until you make your mind up and make a decision.

 

You mean you've never asked yourself, "Did I do the right thing?" Really?

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You mean you've never asked yourself, "Did I do the right thing?" Really?

its too late then, and you don't have to make a decision.

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its too late then, and you don't have to make a decision.

 

I agree it can be felt most keenly when you have to make a decision, but the questions don't simply go away afterwards. Otherwise our relation to the past could simply be like tearing last week's page out of our diaries - gone!

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Thank you for sharing your feelings with us Burty. I am sure that you are not alone on here, although not surprisingly those who do not have any such dilemma have been able jump in and make the majority of posts on here. It is easy for me as a widower to say that I have no problems. I was extremely lucky to have had a long and mutually satisfying sex life with my wife. Where would I have been had I been in your shoes?

Thanks Moonraker - as I said above I didn't mean it to sound a glum as it maybe came across - in some ways what happened may have made our partnership stronger, we'll never really know.

I don't actually feel guilt about having sex with wg's as I'm not having sex with my partner, so I'm quite happy with the business arrangement side of it all - as Mr Bloom said, it's the duplicity I have a problem with. My most enjoyable punts are always the ones where I don't have to tell porkies to set them up...

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Thanks Moonraker - as I said above I didn't mean it to sound a glum as it maybe came across - in some ways what happened may have made our partnership stronger, we'll never really know.

I don't actually feel guilt about having sex with wg's as I'm not having sex with my partner, so I'm quite happy with the business arrangement side of it all - as Mr Bloom said, it's the duplicity I have a problem with. My most enjoyable punts are always the ones where I don't have to tell porkies to set them up...

 

I agree, although I have no wife or partner to deceive, I do hate 'bending the truth' where my daughter is concerned.

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I'd never ask my clients about why they punt, though some do volunteer the reason fairly early on, and I'm always happy to discuss it. But as to morality, before I became an escort I had quite a few dalliances with men in relationships, and heard some quite astonishing and sad tales...

  • One man's wife had to have a full hysterectomy due to complications during the birth of their first child, sending her into an immediate menopause
  • Another hadn't had sex for two years at her choice
  • Another really adored his wife, but she was ashamed of her body and would never let him even see him naked
  • In one case there were obviously psychological/religious issues involved on both sides, and despite being together for 10+ years, they had never consummated their relationship (which he said was great in all other ways)
  • Other men have married women they loved, but the sex was crap to start with and got worse

So, I never judge. Everyone is entitled to a satisfying sex life, however it may come about.

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I agree it can be felt most keenly when you have to make a decision, but the questions don't simply go away afterwards. Otherwise our relation to the past could simply be like tearing last week's page out of our diaries - gone!

is that guilt, regret, missed opportunities?

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Every time I meet a woman whose heart is not really in it and just wants the money and for the punt to be over I question the morality of what I am doing and how the women can be so heartless. That kind of sex where both parties only view each other as objects is soul destroying.

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is that guilt, regret, missed opportunities?

 

All of those are possible, of course. But one can also simply continue to be genuinely perplexed about whether one did the right thing or not.

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I'd never ask my clients about why they punt, though some do volunteer the reason fairly early on, and I'm always happy to discuss it. But as to morality, before I became an escort I had quite a few dalliances with men in relationships, and heard some quite astonishing and sad tales...

  • One man's wife had to have a full hysterectomy due to complications during the birth of their first child, sending her into an immediate menopause
  • Another hadn't had sex for two years at her choice
  • Another really adored his wife, but she was ashamed of her body and would never let him even see him naked
  • In one case there were obviously psychological/religious issues involved on both sides, and despite being together for 10+ years, they had never consummated their relationship (which he said was great in all other ways)
  • Other men have married women they loved, but the sex was crap to start with and got worse

So, I never judge. Everyone is entitled to a satisfying sex life, however it may come about.

 

Some of these are rather common tales - and I've met quite a few widowers too. 

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I did have a bit of a morality wobble when I accidentally found out that a WG I'd been regularly seeing had a partner.

 

She was in the bathroom freshening up, with my watch and phone in there along with my clothes, and I wanted to see how long we had left, and stupidly tapped the home button on her phone to see the time and saw a man's face.

 

I had very strong feelings of guilt afterwards and questioned whether I should see her again, did he know what she does, was I complicit in her deceit?

 

Eventually after talking this through with a confidant I realised that I can't be responsible for other people's decisions, and hoped that he was aware of what she does and is supportive of her, but if not that's not my problem as a customer purchasing fantasy experience services.

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