MinxyLydia

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Earlier this week I found my old journal with my first three months of escorting written up in,  Was really interesting to follow my first steps into this world including things I had forgotten, how naive I was and horrified about how much less security conscious I was and also how bloody busy I was (Not sure if because I was 'new', younger or that the recession hadn't really hit!).

 

In my diary, I was mainly shocked about how nice the men were, not desperate saddos and how often they wanted to please me! I also document my first walkout (he said my boobs weren't big enough!) and my discovery at how wonderful wet wipes were! 

 

So, think back, as an escort or a client what shocked or surprised you about this world and how much have you changed how you operate based on what you have learned from your first experiences?

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That's funny Lydia because I was thinking only the other day how much I have learnt as a punter over three years of punting and look back a little in horror at my early mistakes.

 

I kind of think I have earned my Punting Degree, downside: bait and switch, no chemistry, poor comms and so on but have been amazed at how easily I just dusted myself down and moved on.

 

I am still amazed at how I can compartmentalize this part of my life and really do enjoy having a secret life (not sure I am supposed to confess to that but its true).

 

I think I moved on from bad experiences because of some really great first punts which kind of blew my mind - lovely women, great sex, no complications, respectful and discrete and I know again we are not supposed to use this language but the ladies I have returned to there is a mutual (I get the boundaries always have) fondness and respect.

 

I also always chuckle at the stereotype of men who pay for sex and the ladies who provide it - as the reality is so outside the stereotype it isn't funny - plus I am amazed at how comfortable I am paying for sex - I find it refreshingly honest and straightforward.

 

Oh and I don't shake from nerves anymore - although I still get butterfly's in my tummy but love the build up to a punt even with ladies I have seen many times - I think if I lost this enthusiasm and excitement I would hang up my boots.

 

I came to punting relatively late I guess (early fifties) - if you told me in my thirties/fourties that I would enjoy paying for sex and have a fantastic time I would never have believed it - I would have thought punting would have ruined my life when in fact, and feel sure many would shoot me down in flames, that it enhances it! :)

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Happy Punter...well written covers all my sentiments....still haven't ridden myself of that few moments of nerves as the door is opening..she is standing there.

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I am constantly amazed how nice escorts are. Either I have been very lucky or researched well but I have not met anyone who I did not like. Even when the sex has been just about average, I still come away happy.

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Our company was first formed in the last century albeit under a different guise. I worked myself at that time, I think girls and clients were more friendly back then but perhaps I have a rose tinted sentimental view ?

 

Two things changed it massively on the agency scene, the internet and the opening of European borders. Girls and clients alike are now more informed, more demanding and more accountable. Some may argue these are good things?

 

Personally I find the industry now less 'romantic' not in the literal sense I hasten to add. Maybe agencies such as ours are responsible for this? Oh the irony. 

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Interesting Lydia.

I've been thinking back recently too. (Partly 'cause of few opportunities to punt recently)

I started paying for it, so to speak, in 2002. Only two of my punts have been less than satisfactory. I think I've been really fortunate. Normally my careful research has prevented disasters.

As to wet wipes let me say this. Back in 2002 Diane of Bushey extolled the benefits of wet wipes. However, my experience is that an ordinary dry tissues (or three or four) is much better at absorbing cum as a first step in post-orgasmic clean-up. Wet wipes are very good thereafter.

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Looking back over my 20 years of punting (on and off between relationships), a lot has changed. It doesn't feel as underground as it did then.

 

I remember feeling really sleazy as a horny young 20 something, jumping into those smelly Baker St/West end phone boxes in the evening on the way home from work and ringing up 0207 numbers off the cards. I'd try to use side street phone boxes, just so I wouldn't have loads of people stare at me when I came out. lol I also visited to a few soho walkups, which I hated, so quickly stopped that malarky. There was something special about punting in London back in the mid-late 90s, early noughties.

 

Other main methods of seeking WGs was through my local paper and then through dial up internet. I've used PN for years now as a review source, as well as a couple of other boards.

 

I did find a few great places back then, that I found via the phone box cards & paper ads. There was a wonderful 2 flat parlour just behind Warren St tube station, who always had great looking girls who did the best services. Some of my favourite girls where from there. Also there was another place in Barons Court too. Not sure if they're still running. Funny because they used to have a price list taped to the wall in the rooms, so you could chose your starters, main course & dessert. ha! Those were the days! Any other punters remember them?

 

Then I progressed (as I earned a lot more money during the early noughties) to using the "higher class" escort agencies both incalls and outcalls to my apartment when I was single and lived alone. That's when I noticed a lot of Russian & other EE types working - some of the most stunning women i've ever slept with for relatively little money.

 

AW always seemed seedy to me, but it's probably now the biggest database and i've gone to provide 95% of the girls I've seen in the last 7-8 years or more. I do find it less 'romanticised', but that could be down to punting being more easily achievable & readily available - more like getting a physio or chiropractor service, perhaps?

 

As I've gotten older, I punt a lot less. Also I'm a lot more wary of wasting money as I've found the type of girls I liked visually (EE girls) really lacked personality, communication skills and level of service. I do have a penchant for Indian girls, but found a lot of them didn't really do the services I liked (OWO/CIM). So hence why I'd go for darker skinned Romanians, who 9/10 times in my experience, would give me a shoddy service. Maybe I'm just getting too choosy, industry lacking in quality or just simply unlucky! lol There have been some great moments though and do still enjoy the occasional punt when I'm flush and extra horny!

 

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Interesting Lydia.

I've been thinking back recently too. (Partly 'cause of few opportunities to punt recently)

I started paying for it, so to speak, in 2002. Only two of my punts have been less than satisfactory. I think I've been really fortunate. Normally my careful research has prevented disasters.

As to wet wipes let me say this. Back in 2002 Diane of Bushey extolled the benefits of wet wipes. However, my experience is that an ordinary dry tissues (or three or four) is much better at absorbing cum as a first step in post-orgasmic clean-up. Wet wipes are very good thereafter.

yes but then we have to spend 5 minute picking bits of tissue off your ballooned and apologising for it

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I just remember being completely thrown by how "normal" the woman who owned the brothel acted about the entire thing in general. As if we were sitting in an office or a shop lol

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Probably for me it was how nervous I was knocking on the door

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Probably for me it was how nervous I was knocking on the door

 

Absolutely.  I'd thought about visiting a parlour for ages and kept putting it off.  Eventually I decided to take the plunge though I was very naïve in terms of what to expect, it was pre-internet :P   I walked past the entrance the first time, bottling it, but carried on walking for a bit, decided I'd got this close it wasn't time to give up, turned round and went in.  It was a surreal and smoke filled scene.  I ended up with a very friendly WG who realised immediately it was my first time.  It was good, I walked home as if riding a magic carpet :cool:

 

Unlike others, subsequent visits haven't always been so good.  I'd say maybe 10% are truly outstanding in every way, the next 20 to 30% good or very good, around 40 to 50% okay to indifferent, and the rest best forgotten :eek:  Overall money well spent :)

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" There was something special about punting in London back in the mid-late 90s, early noughties. "

 

Yeah agreed... the buzz in the west end was amazing...

 

"I did find a few great places back then, that I found via the phone box cards & paper ads. There was a wonderful 2 flat parlour just behind Warren St tube station, who always had great looking girls who did the best services."

 

That whole area between oxford street and marylebone road road was rampant... brothels and shag houses in what seemed like just about every building...

 

its really shocking now to think back about how much was going on in soho, shepherd market and the rest of the west end and it was pretty much tolerated... also kings cross, sussex gardens, paddington...

 

"So, think back, as an escort or a client what shocked or surprised you about this world and how much have you changed how you operate based on what you have learned from your first experiences?"

 

I must admit I too was surprised at how normal people in the sex industry are when you get to know them or happen to see them or meet them away from the industry...

 

But also Ive been amazed at how awful some people can be to each other...

 

I think it has made me much more open minded and tolerant and my dickensian adventures around the west end in the late 90's have definitely shaped who I am today...

 

so many funny experiences and met so many interesting girls, made so many friends... much better than sitting in some bloody pub with a bunch wankers talking about football...

 

i think actually because of the variation and volume of sexual partners, punting has made me much more tolerant towards women and considerate of their feelings than i might be if i had just a few girlfriends...

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Hm, my first time was very different to all the subsequent ones, in that it was in Amsterdam in the mid-noughties at a red light district window. Looking back it wasn't anywhere near as good as it seemed at the time, just a furtivite afternoon visit to a chunky black girl's window, picked more or less at random because I had horrible self-consciousness and was convinced everyone was watching me (in the Amsterdam RDL of all places :lol: ).

 

The thing was though it was all out in the open and just sort of available. Back home it was rape-murder-drugs stories in the papers and strung out looking street ladies coming up to you late at night. Amsterdam made me realise it could just be kind of normal and sort of fun. Plus I was fed up with student girls stupid games and had just broken up again with my insane girlfriend of the time for cheating on me. Honestly a decade on I look back and what I notice has changed is my 'civilian' experiences have improved a lot. Punting itself has been great, bad and in between. I've never had the nightmare scenarios happen but whenever I have felt ripped off I have simply not gone back again. Now I am getting older there is the pressure to choose between the two lifestyles though. We'll see.

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Also (as somebody else hinted) there is a kind of honesty with punting that is not possible in other sexual relationships... its hard to express... you kind of make friends but the boundaries are totally skewed... you are intimate but on the condition of payment and anonymity... it is a very strange situation but can be much more healthy than other relationships... i think everyone should try it, even if its just once... you learn so much about yourself.

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As a punter I am not looking back at it. It is what it is history.  Looking back at how your kids are growing up, how well you have done at work, whether you have managed to maintain your health and wealth (struggle with wealth and punting to be honest).  Look back at the simple things.  Sitting in the beer garden in my local pub with that great summer we had.   Although I have to say how very  normal and quite shy some of the ladies are and how nice some  are.  Perhaps that's why I am not looking back as it feels normal.  Sex is a normal activity and I just don't understand why some ladies put up so many barriers.  Perhaps its me or us blokes not going about things the right way.  I will just keep learning!

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Also (as somebody else hinted) there is a kind of honesty with punting that is not possible in other sexual relationships... its hard to express... you kind of make friends but the boundaries are totally skewed... you are intimate but on the condition of payment and anonymity... it is a very strange situation but can be much more healthy than other relationships... i think everyone should try it, even if its just once... you learn so much about yourself.

 

Some wg will be your friends for the right price! You can have any friend for the right money!!!  Yes you learn that you love sex and want to shag some lovelies but then you learn you have a big hole in your pocket as well.  

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I wouldn't say there is much honesty.  Chances are you won't even know her name I think in reality its built on dishonesty us guys with partners defo dishonesty. 

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I find it a bit sad and disturbing when people keep diaries on the paid for sexual encounters, be they punter or sex worker!

 

For me I go with most of what The Vicar stated but not the money well spent part!

 

If my 1st experience had been terrible, it wasn't and after 28 years of punting it is still in the 10% better punts.. I would not have done it again! My take for me is that I have wasted a hell of a lot of money on crap punts! Not my fault, just rubbish sex workers, was like fucking a corpse in some cases.

 

What have I learned from my first punt? Nothing really... as I still punt to suit me and did so back then, even if I was naive then! Not now, but that is from my experiences!

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I find it a bit sad and disturbing when people keep diaries on the paid for sexual encounters, be they punter or sex worker!

 

I'm intrigued- why?

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It amazes me how I went from shy and socially awkward inexperienced girl at 18, to starting escorting at 18 and being a nymph with a hell of a lot of confidence at 20 now!

I've only been doing it two years but it's crazy how naive I was back then and how cautious and 100% right your gut can be!

I've never thought to keep a journal but for those who have I think it's interesting! Like keeping a diary of any other hobby nothing wrong with it at all.

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Some wg will be your friends for the right price! You can have any friend for the right money!!! Yes you learn that you love sex and want to shag some lovelies but then you learn you have a big hole in your pocket as well.

But that big hole in your pocket is money well spent if you have the ability to research properly when it comes to good WGs!

A few of my clients have been doing this probably years before I was born and I can only imagine how much they've spent on Punting. But hey, it's just a hobby like any other. Just more pleasurable haha!

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Yes I'm not quite sure why it's sad to keep a diary of one's sexual encounters .... but then I would think that as I've always kept a diary about lots of things and I have a separate punting one ( well, on about the third now), which is just a book where I write what happened, where, when and with whom (not every single encounter, although I always jot down a  couple of things even if it wasn't particularly memorable) . Not quite sure why I do it, but it definitely makes for a good read and now all those encounters are etched in my memory which I would otherwise have forgotten. Well it will keep me entertained when I'm sat on the rocking chair on the verandah in my old age (mind you, judging by a few of the venerable contributors on here, l'll probably still be making entries, so to speak). 

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I find it a bit sad and disturbing when people keep diaries on the paid for sexual encounters, be they punter or sex worker!

 

For me I go with most of what The Vicar stated but not the money well spent part!

 

If my 1st experience had been terrible, it wasn't and after 28 years of punting it is still in the 10% better punts.. I would not have done it again! My take for me is that I have wasted a hell of a lot of money on crap punts! Not my fault, just rubbish sex workers, was like fucking a corpse in some cases.

 

What have I learned from my first punt? Nothing really... as I still punt to suit me and did so back then, even if I was naive then! Not now, but that is from my experiences!

Just had thought, that what you actually say here is exactly what reviewers do on PN - reviews are a sort of diary of their punting exploits. I don't think it's sad per se, it's just that some people like to be able to look back on memories. It's amazing how quickly the memories fade, yet when you look at a diary entry, that memory comes flooding back clear as day.

 

Like ML I'm intrigued as to why you think it is sad? Sad that they can't remember every living, waking moment, or that they would actually want to remember these things?

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Our company was first formed in the last century albeit under a different guise. I worked myself at that time, I think girls and clients were more friendly back then but perhaps I have a rose tinted sentimental view ?

Two things changed it massively on the agency scene, the internet and the opening of European borders. Girls and clients alike are now more informed, more demanding and more accountable. Some may argue these are good things?

Personally I find the industry now less 'romantic' not in the literal sense I hasten to add. Maybe agencies such as ours are responsible for this? Oh the irony.

It certainly seemed that people were a lot more friendlier back in the good old days...or maybe i am wearing a pair of those rose tinted glasses too!!!!

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It certainly seemed that people were a lot more friendlier back in the good old days...or maybe i am wearing a pair of those rose tinted glasses too!!!!

 I think you must be - my perception is exactly the opposite.

 

 

Just had thought, that what you actually say here is exactly what reviewers do on PN - reviews are a sort of diary of their punting exploits. 

 

Like ML I'm intrigued as to why you think it is sad? Sad that they can't remember every living, waking moment, or that they would actually want to remember these things?

One of the joys of putting reviews on PN is the ability to read and look back on ALL those reviews and not just the live ones. As you say a sort of punting diary.

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