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First impressions are so important. I unfortunately find that many girls telephone manners are appalling. Hello is that ??, Yes. My name is ?? And I saw your page on ?? And I thought you looked lovely and I would like to meet you some time. OK. May I ask you a couple of questions. Yes. Do you see older gentleman. Click.

But it isn't just that, if the voice on the other end is enticing and welcoming, you are much more likely to make a booking, which I presume is the objective. What are other members experiences and do the ladies see the telephone as a selling aid?

Yes I guess that a lot of callers are time wasters and phone for a cheap thrill, but if you want to meet someone it is necessary to make a few polite enquiries, if they are not mentioned on the web page.

What are your thoughts?

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Having a telephone conversation is very important for me and I would not even bother thinking about a guy who only organises everything via text (unless I know him well and met him before).  It tells me lots about the guy I might meet and whether he is stuck up or likes having a laugh when I make those little jokes designed to cheer him up.

 

If he proved to be a moody one, no way I will bother to even begin getting ready for him and welcoming him the way I like treating a person I am going to have fun with.  In my eyes, he is welcomed to go to somebody else who will not go to the same lengths I do.............

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Having a telephone conversation is very important for me and I would not even bother thinking about a guy who only organises everything via text (unless I know him well and met him before).  It tells me lots about the guy I might meet and whether he is stuck up or likes having a laugh when I make those little jokes designed to cheer him up.

 

If he proved to be a moody one, no way I will bother to even begin getting ready for him and welcoming him the way I like treating a person I am going to have fun with.  In my eyes, he is welcomed to go to somebody else who will not go to the same lengths I do.............

Text and email can also reveal quite a bit, a telephone call is simply another marketing plus screening tool. Context and vocal inflection are difficult to type and quite a few clues can be picked up from a conversation, for instance is the client drunk or high, is he alone or having a laugh with his mates. Even something as simple as can I and he understand each other, and hold a two-way conversation between us. All forms of communication are useful.

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I generally insist on a phone chat before making a booking, but failing to follow my own preferences has resulted in both wonderful and underwhelming meetings.

 

A phone chat will remain my preference since the participants in the chat can learn quite a lot about each other, partly through what remains unsaid!

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Enticing is not a good way to sound on the phone in this business. Friendly though is a very good way to sound, two totally different things. The first encourages those prone to wanting a sneaky wank by keeping you on the phone to answer this or that the second shows you are a friendly person and polite too. 

 

I much prefer to speak to someone before a booking but do take text bookings, even they can reveal a lot about someone

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First impressions are so important. I unfortunately find that many girls telephone manners are appalling. Hello is that ??, Yes. My name is ?? And I saw your page on ?? And I thought you looked lovely and I would like to meet you some time. OK. May I ask you a couple of questions. Yes. Do you see older gentleman. Click.

But it isn't just that, if the voice on the other end is enticing and welcoming, you are much more likely to make a booking, which I presume is the objective. What are other members experiences and do the ladies see the telephone as a selling aid?

Yes I guess that a lot of callers are time wasters and phone for a cheap thrill, but if you want to meet someone it is necessary to make a few polite enquiries, if they are not mentioned on the web page.

What are your thoughts?

 

I'd be mortified if someone hung up on me mid-conversation. Surely she could have said a simple 'No' instead of hanging up. So, so, soooooo rude. Makes me very angry when I read posts like this. Sorry this happened to you.

 

I wonder why you asked if she sees older gentlemen though. Did you have doubts from reading her website/profile?

 

My phone is generally switched off but I always make arrangements to speak on the phone prior to meeting a gentleman. It gives us both a chance to ask any questions we feel the need to ask. If the gent asks questions that are already covered on my website, I will simply ask him to refer back to the site again and contact me if he still thinks I am what he is looking for.

 

Forgot to add, they have to speak to me on the phone anyway. How else am I going to give directions!

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I'd be mortified if someone hung up on me mid-conversation. Surely she could have said a simple 'No' instead of hanging up. So, so, soooooo rude. Makes me very angry when I read posts like this. Sorry this happened to you.

 

I wonder why you asked if she sees older gentlemen though. Did you have doubts from reading her website/profile?

 

My phone is generally switched off but I always make arrangements to speak on the phone prior to meeting a gentleman. It gives us both a chance to ask any questions we feel the need to ask. If the gent asks questions that are already covered on my website, I will simply ask him to refer back to the site again and contact me if he still thinks I am what he is looking for.

 

Forgot to add, they have to speak to me on the phone anyway. How else am I going to give directions!

Some people provide them via text or email, but if you are giving them when they are in the area/on their way or it's not straight forward then yes speaking can be the only real and best way.

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I'd be mortified if someone hung up on me mid-conversation. 

It happens to me a lot. Always guys who couldnt be bothered to read my profile or I am not available when they want and rather than say "okay thankyou goodbye" I just find myself talking to myself. 

 

Just yesterday morning I turned my phone on and answered without thinking whilst still at home. I answered a few questions then he asked if I had a minute to discuss a booking and when I said "Im sorry, I can after 9am but not at the moment" he just hung up without a single word. For some reason he seemed to think I would answer when he called back after 9...I didnt. I just cannot be bothered with no manners people anymore especially ones who hang up WHILST I am still speaking.  

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one other irritant is WG's who talk quietly into their phone so I cant hear them.  Why?  OK my hearing is not the best and I may be somewhere with background noise.  But speak up, please.

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one other irritant is WG's who talk quietly into their phone so I cant hear them.  Why?  OK my hearing is not the best and I may be somewhere with background noise.  But speak up, please.

 

Maybe they don't want to be overheard i.e. they might be around family, friends, colleagues etc

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Maybe they don't want to be overheard i.e. they might be around family, friends, colleagues et

If I'm somewhere where I can't speak I'll either not be answering the phone, or asking to phone back later.

 

This also works both ways, sometimes the person making the enquiry is so quiet I cannot hear them, or they speak too quickly. I also don't like the use of poor quality speaker phones which echo your own voice back. I will usually ask the person to either slow down please, speak more clearly, or turn whatever gadgetty thing the have added off.

 

Some people are great and sort it out immediately, others do not and I will end a call if it's so bad that I cannot have a relaxed conversation.

 

Other off putting stuff are opening lines of 'ow much luv', grumpily "r y' workin'?".

 

A polite "Hi I've seen your details and wondered if you were available for a 1 hour incall at 2 or 3pm on Tuesday 27th of such a month, can you confirm you offer this and your fee is that", is always welcome, however I do understand nerves come into play (and they do indeed for me), so if someone seems shy or nervous I will reassure, request that he trusts me in guiding them and see what happens next.

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I prefer to talk to potential clients before meeting them. I naturally sound very chirpy and enthusiastic on the phone, I can't help that, it's just my voice lol!

I think its vital that you sound enthusiastic and interested on the phone as that's what most of these potential clients will go off and if you sound like a miserable person who couldn't be arsed they're less likely to book I would assume.

I have a very young and high pitched sounding voice, which naturally as a few clients have said just sounds "happy".

I know what you mean about phone manner, not just in escorting but when I've called the doctors or a dentist the women (usually is a female) always sound so miserable!

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What are other members experiences and do the ladies see the telephone as a selling aid?

Yes I guess that a lot of callers are time wasters and phone for a cheap thrill, but if you want to meet someone it is necessary to make a few polite enquiries, if they are not mentioned on the web page.

What are your thoughts?

I do not see the telephone as a selling aid, I see it as a way of arranging a meeting after my website has done the selling. I refuse to do husky chat and any form of selling over the phone, because unfortunately many out there seem to like using escorts as their wank chat - so someone who is unwilling to pay a premium rate phone line for this is highly unlikely to materialise into a client paying a few hundred to see me.

I request that my website is read before calling, but this often isn't done. If someone can't be arsed to take two minutes to do so then I have no intention of meeting them. All genuine clients manage to have read it before calling, and we are usually on the phone for only a minute or so. I keep all information clear and concise, so to avoid any misunderstandings. If I had to remember a spiel for every caller then is no doubt I'd miss something out, which could potentially put me in an awkward situation during a meet. I am aware that I come across curt on the phone, this is partly to do with how I speak anyway, but it is something I won't relax on due to the amount of phone wankers out there. I'm not going to give them anything to get off on! That's strictly for the paying clientele only.

I was chatting with an independent escort friend who is very similar in her thinking to me, and what irks us most is the callers who ask "how much". We both agreed that the response to this is to go back and check the website. We may be perceived as cynics, but what the caller wants is for us to go "£..." so that they can reply with "oh, I'd give you £...". It's the breed of man who begrudges paying for sex and by doing this he is making himself feel more powerful. Said power is removed from them if they aren't given what they wanted, and I for one do not entertain pond life like that. Come on, the rates are the most easiest thing to navigate on escorts pages!

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I do not see the telephone as a selling aid, I see it as a way of arranging a meeting after my website has done the selling. I refuse to do husky chat and any form of selling over the phone, because unfortunately many out there seem to like using escorts as their wank chat - so someone who is unwilling to pay a premium rate phone line for this is highly unlikely to materialise into a client paying a few hundred to see me.

I request that my website is read before calling, but this often isn't done. If someone can't be arsed to take two minutes to do so then I have no intention of meeting them. All genuine clients manage to have read it before calling, and we are usually on the phone for only a minute or so. I keep all information clear and concise, so to avoid any misunderstandings. If I had to remember a spiel for every caller then is no doubt I'd miss something out, which could potentially put me in an awkward situation during a meet. I am aware that I come across curt on the phone, this is partly to do with how I speak anyway, but it is something I won't relax on due to the amount of phone wankers out there. I'm not going to give them anything to get off on! That's strictly for the paying clientele only.

I was chatting with an independent escort friend who is very similar in her thinking to me, and what irks us most is the callers who ask "how much". We both agreed that the response to this is to go back and check the website. We may be perceived as cynics, but what the caller wants is for us to go "£..." so that they can reply with "oh, I'd give you £...". It's the breed of man who begrudges paying for sex and by doing this he is making himself feel more powerful. Said power is removed from them if they aren't given what they wanted, and I for one do not entertain pond life like that. Come on, the rates are the most easiest thing to navigate on escorts pages!

Ive found that most guys who ask "how much" tend to reply "okay' when told. I agree though it is irksome to spend such a lot of time wording your profiles and website only for someone to not read any of the details. I get

 

How old

how much

what dress size

what hair colour

what tit size

how tall

any face pix

what services...add at will

any special offers

any pictures online??????

do you have a website?????????????

do you do actual sex

do you do massage (meaning actual sex)

do you do bareback ___errr fuck right off

do you have an aw profile

do you have any reviews online???????????

 

you name it, anything and everything that is covered on my website and or aw profile has been asked of me  :ph34r:

 

Its the pictures one that cracks me up though..I dot have a single profile online where I DONT have pictures right there next to the text and phone number...gobsmackeroony

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From the opposite side of the fence I like to have spoken to someone prior to making the booking for two primary reasons:

 

1) Verification that an escort is english (or at least has lived here long enough to be fluent) - I didn't proceed after an initial enquiry regarding a dinner date followed by some private time after speaking with the escort on the phone and it becoming clear that english wasn't her first language and her comamnd of english was such that dinner conversation would have been limited.

 

2) It gives a known method of contacting the person you are meeting once I'm away from my pc - the one time I made a booking without doing this I had a confirmed booking via AW but come the day was unable to reach her even via the mobile number on her profile. Come 15 minutes after the scheduled time I recieved a mail via AW saying she had forgotten to update her diary.

 

With regards to asking the cost I may well end up asking that as there seem to be far too many who have either limited grasp of maths or have gotten confused when setting up their profile on AW - the number of times I have seen where if you were wanting to see someone for two hours you would actually find it significantly cheaper to book two one hour sessions back to back than a single two hour session is surprising. I suspect its an artifact of how the pricing is setup on AW where you have the 1 hour, 1 1/2 hour, 2 hours, 3 hours points - if you assumed the 1 1/2 hour point was actually 2 hours and adjust accordingly the pricing often then makes perfect sense.

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I've no problem if a wg wants to chat on the phone before meeting although I'll admit to being happier texting or emailing at least initially. Reason being I'm a bit deaf, when I call it's usually while outside or in the car so there is background noise and if the wg is quietly spoken it can be a little difficult to hear. It bothers me that in itself can leave a wg with the wrong impression about my attitude / personality if she is doing some screening of her own!

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Maybe they don't want to be overheard i.e. they might be around family, friends, colleagues etc

In that case don't take the call! Better that than create a poor impression.

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I can think of a lot of people whose job involves answering the phone to the public whose manner is dreadful - including one I work near - and so I don't think SPs should be especially berated - they have probably never had any training and some will not be lucky enough to be confident and fluent speakers on the phone - and many will not even have English as their first language.

 

Great if the phonecall gives you more confidence about the likely success of a meeting but as siad above they also get a little of hassle and drivel from us hunks.

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In that case don't take the call! Better that than create a poor impression.

 

Well that's pretty obvious to the likes of you and I, but...

 

Maybe their circumstances don't allow them the luxury of switching their phones off. Maybe their pimp won't let them. I'm sure there are many more reasons why such girls will answer calls rather than ignore until they are able to talk freely.

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In that case don't take the call! Better that than create a poor impression.

To be fair,then we'd be reading a thread about why don't wg's ever answer their phones.

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one other irritant is WG's who talk quietly into their phone so I cant hear them.  Why?  OK my hearing is not the best and I may be somewhere with background noise.  But speak up, please.

 

Ha ha, that is hilarious.  I speak quietly but making sure I am always understood.  If you have a hearing problem, my advice would be to inform the girl.  You might moan so hard, you will disturb her neighbours and she might want to refuse you because of this.  :D

 

Recently a guy wanted to move from emails to having a telephone conversation.  At some point we got cut off and he asked me to call him back.  Even when I did so, he proved to be so moody and putting the phone down, then asking to be called again......WTF?  I was thinking.  He had some good reviews though from girls on AW, I was wondering: 'how come?'  Proof that we all perceive our environment differently.  If a person is so difficult to start with, imagine how he is going to be later.

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W@nk chat phone calls might be an occupational hazard for an escort, but surely every caller should initially be given the benefit of the doubt?

 

As a customer, you've no idea if the person answering the call is the person you're going to see, has created their own site/profile, or anything is now out of date. 

 

It's no good assuming that the site/profile is accurate. For example, I drove a long way to see someone who said they did A Level as part of their PSE, no extra. When I arrived, she said what would you like to do today, I said A Level she said oh I don't enjoy that any more. And this is someone with +200 positive feedbacks and manages their own profile. 

 

Punters quite often take days off and drive several miles to see someone, it's a bigger hazard than having to hang up on someone trying to have a sneaky w@nk. 

 

Past experiences mean you have to confirm stuff, even if it has been listed. 

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If anyone starts asking to confirm things I inform them that all information on my website is correct and written by myself. If they are jaded and think that I'm trying to pull a fast one on them before they've even arrived then they are probably going to be a grump anyway. AW feedback is useless and on the whole unreliable, hence why I provide links to my reviews on here and TER. If that doesn't confirm that I'm real then it's really not my job to persuade someone to come and see me. The call is simply to there to arrange a time and date to meet, not to offer a sales pitch and beg for custom. I know it sounds harsh, but it saves me going on broken record mode several times a day, therefore saving my sanity! I haven't written my website for fun, it really is meant to serve a purpose.

I completely understand that clients can be inconvenienced too, but I don't see how any kind of confirmation beforehand about who wrote their website etc would've avoided such a situation? If they work like that then they'll say whatever it takes to get you there. All a client can do is tell them that they've lied on their website and walk. It's poor form, but subsequent feedback or reviews provided by mr.inconvenienced should highlight the escorts who operate like that and help others avoid them in future.

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If anyone starts asking to confirm things I inform them that all information on my website is correct and written by myself. If they are jaded and think that I'm trying to pull a fast one on them before they've even arrived then they are probably going to be a grump anyway. AW feedback is useless and on the whole unreliable, hence why I provide links to my reviews on here and TER. If that doesn't confirm that I'm real then it's really not my job to persuade someone to come and see me. The call is simply to there to arrange a time and date to meet, not to offer a sales pitch and beg for custom. I know it sounds harsh, but it saves me going on broken record mode several times a day, therefore saving my sanity! I haven't written my website for fun, it really is meant to serve a purpose.

I completely understand that clients can be inconvenienced too, but I don't see how any kind of confirmation beforehand about who wrote their website etc would've avoided such a situation? If they work like that then they'll say whatever it takes to get you there. All a client can do is tell them that they've lied on their website and walk. It's poor form, but subsequent feedback or reviews provided by mr.inconvenienced should highlight the escorts who operate like that and help others avoid them in future.

I'd agree confirmation that a profile / website info is accurate without going into specifics would be sufficient. As you say if the wg is already lying about her profile she can lie during a phone call!

I don't agree about AW feedback being useless though. Granted some of it is, but I've used it to good effect. It doesn't take too much research to seek out genuine punters, especially when they've seen the same wg's I have and have a similar opinion. I've picked out several in my area and when I've gone on to see a wg they have but I haven't, I'm rarely disappointed.

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If anyone starts asking to confirm things I inform them that all information on my website is correct and written by myself. If they are jaded and think that I'm trying to pull a fast one on them before they've even arrived then they are probably going to be a grump anyway. AW feedback is useless and on the whole unreliable, hence why I provide links to my reviews on here and TER. If that doesn't confirm that I'm real then it's really not my job to persuade someone to come and see me. The call is simply to there to arrange a time and date to meet, not to offer a sales pitch and beg for custom. I know it sounds harsh, but it saves me going on broken record mode several times a day, therefore saving my sanity! I haven't written my website for fun, it really is meant to serve a purpose.

I completely understand that clients can be inconvenienced too, but I don't see how any kind of confirmation beforehand about who wrote their website etc would've avoided such a situation? If they work like that then they'll say whatever it takes to get you there. All a client can do is tell them that they've lied on their website and walk. It's poor form, but subsequent feedback or reviews provided by mr.inconvenienced should highlight the escorts who operate like that and help others avoid them in future.

Simple confirm questions, yes. Progressive questioning however is a big turn-off for me!

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