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I have recently had a distressing email from a gent who has a disability. I dont think I will divulge the nature of the disability at this time. Not sure if it would be relevant. The thing is it upset me quite a bit. He was such a gent and his message was polite and full of concern for my sensibilities. It took me a couple of enquiring emails to elicit the nature of his disability. The thing was he painted such a black picture of his problem that it left me worried as to whether I could go ahead with a booking and before I could make a decision he apologised for bothering me and said he wouldn't contact me again. I felt and feel awful about this. What limits, if any, do you have regard disabled clients? For the ladies of course.

I do know that there is a specialist site for escorts offering services for disabled clients. What are people's thoughts please?

I am still unsure what to do about this lovely man.

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I am not sure if you are referring to Para-doxies but if anyone wants a contact I will add Madam Becky's contact at the end.

 

This is an organisation specifically founded to give people with a disability the opportunity for sexual experiences and it is associated with highly qualified advisors principally based in London but the service and the service providers are not confined to London.

 

Becky and others launched the scheme in 2013 and she gave me permission to give her email:

 

madambecky@live.co.uk

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I am not sure if you are referring to Para-doxies but if anyone wants a contact I will add Madam Becky's contact at the end.

 

This is an organisation specifically founded to give people with a disability the opportunity for sexual experiences and it is associated with highly qualified advisors principally based in London but the service and the service providers are not confined to London.

 

Becky and others launched the scheme in 2013 and she gave me permission to give her email:

 

madambecky@live.co.uk

Thank you for that vivlusme, the site I was referring to is tlc-trust.org.

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Just a thought am I allowed to put other sites up. Sorry if not.

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I can't offer you practical advice, Carmel, and I guess you've got to decide whether you can handle the disability in a sexual environment, but there is a lot of info. in the information section of the SAAFE site on disabled clients. 

 

Also it's a service that Pru offers, and has a section of her web site devoted to it. http://www.blackandbusty.co.uk/sexual-escort-services-for-disabled-people.html . She doesn't appear to have posted here for a while, but she's a lovely lady and I'm sure would be happy to talk to you about it.

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Thank you for that vivlusme, the site I was referring to is tlc-trust.org.

I have read testimonies from guys here and there regarding their bookings with ladies via that website. Not read a bad one

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I think you have to go with what you feel comfortable with. I know we all want to be able to say we will see people with disabilities and wouldn't be prejudiced and we feel bad for men who find it hard to find an escort, but in reality some situations and people will makes some of us uncomfortable. 

 

You're much better saying no to a man who you don't think you can cope with and not making yourself feel rubbish for not handling it well in the booking or hurting his feelings. 

 

Personally, I can cope with physical disabilities (providing they can make it up the stairs!) but have had calls from a few men with learning difficulties who made me feel really uncomfortable. I'm not trained in such things, I would hate to do or say something that upsets someone or makes them aggressive as I found with one particular man I spoke with once who got really shouty on the phone then proceeded to ring and text me for weeks after demanding a booking. 

 

As mentioned there are women who do see men with a disability so maybe suggesting TLC is the best most honest thing to do. 

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The more providers on the TLC site the better. Please don't be put off by disability. Physical and sensory disability takes a number of forms. Often men who have become disabled, accident, injury, can be very self conscious, but still have sexual needs. Often SPs in various threads have commented on rude clients, aggressive clients. Much less likely for disabled people to act this way with an SP

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The more providers on the TLC site the better. Please don't be put off by disability. Physical and sensory disability takes a number of forms. Often men who have become disabled, accident, injury, can be very self conscious, but still have sexual needs. Often SPs in various threads have commented on rude clients, aggressive clients. Much less likely for disabled people to act this way with an SP

Physical disability doesnt put me off at all but if I cannot understand what someone is saying I find it a huge personal issue as it makes me feel very rude and eventually uncomfortable having to have them keep repeating something to me. I did take a booking from a carer once who said his guy was very nervous so could he make the arrangements then I would have a little chat with the guy on the phone before he hung up. This has happened several times with clients with carers, its fairly common. All was well and I took the booking but when the man came on the phone himself I literally couldnt understand a single word he said and he had to keep repeating and sounded like he was getting very frustrated so I asked to speak to he's carer again. I explained that I wouldnt be taking the booking after all and it was simply down to communication issues as once I was there the carer would not be there to explain what the guy meant and that was that. What then came was a number of very distressed, frustrated and downright bloody rude texts from the guy saying I was  prick teaser and a bitch and against the disabled and that he was going to report me (to whom Id love to know). Just because someone has a disability does not make the a nice person. Thankfully though this was the only time this happened

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I think you have to do what makes you feel comfortable. If someone isn't being clear on their condition. You're best off just swerving as you then can't establish wherether or not you will be comfortable. I feel if you're straight up with someone then it will hurt their feelings less then if you were to make a booking and struggle through it as he would probably be able to tell. Plus you can't do an appointment out of pity for someone, it will destroy you mentally. You need to find out exactly what disability he has and if you are still unsure, don't go ahead, maybe give him a few suggestions as to where to go instead. There are other girls out there, he will find someone, hope I've helped x

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Just because someone has a disability does not make the a nice person. Thankfully though this was the only time this happened

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It is a tricky one, and I think all you can do is ask for as much information as possible in order to make a decision.

 

I saw a client with a physical disability that he hadn't mentioned before turning up, but it actually didn't bother me at all. Worse was the fact that he had a severe sweating problem, and he'd had a lot of relationship issues; it felt like two years' worth of problems was being dealt with in our booking, and he became frustrated. I had to refuse a second booking.

 

I've seen a couple of men on the lighter end of the Asperger's scale, and although it makes chit-chat trying, they've been fine.

 

The worst was a man in his early 20s who sounded fine on the phone, but when he arrived I soon realised he had pretty severe learning difficulties. It was a really awful experience. He was with me for almost two hours, mostly having sexual contact, and he would thrash around on the bed whenever I touched him, saying he loved me. Then at the end, he jumped up, started getting dressed, and saying he'd wasted his money, he shouldn't have paid me for so long etc. etc. Even after saying goodbye, outside my front door, he was ranting. I'm so relieved I haven't heard from him since, and would never, ever have accepted the booking or his money had I known beforehand.

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I think you have to do what makes you feel comfortable. If someone isn't being clear on their condition. You're best off just swerving as you then can't establish wherether or not you will be comfortable. I feel if you're straight up with someone then it will hurt their feelings less then if you were to make a booking and struggle through it as he would probably be able to tell. Plus you can't do an appointment out of pity for someone, it will destroy you mentally. You need to find out exactly what disability he has and if you are still unsure, don't go ahead, maybe give him a few suggestions as to where to go instead. There are other girls out there, he will find someone, hope I've helped x

Was that to me?

His carer was asking him questions then coming back with the answer whilst on the phone to me so I assumed he could communicate easily. I already knew what the physical issues were..most of them.

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. Then at the end, he jumped up, started getting dressed, and saying he'd wasted his money, he shouldn't have paid me for so long etc. etc. Even after saying goodbye, outside my front door, he was ranting. I'm so relieved I haven't heard from him since, and would never, ever have accepted the booking or his money had I known beforehand.

For some reason this puts into my mind a member who used to post here a lot. Always complaining about the money, saying he was ripped off, made a girl cry on an outcall. 

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I think you have to do what makes you feel comfortable. If someone isn't being clear on their condition. You're best off just swerving as you then can't establish wherether or not you will be comfortable. I feel if you're straight up with someone then it will hurt their feelings less then if you were to make a booking and struggle through it as he would probably be able to tell. Plus you can't do an appointment out of pity for someone, it will destroy you mentally. You need to find out exactly what disability he has and if you are still unsure, don't go ahead, maybe give him a few suggestions as to where to go instead. There are other girls out there, he will find someone, hope I've helped x

 

 

Was that to me?

His carer was asking him questions then coming back with the answer whilst on the phone to me so I assumed he could communicate easily. I already knew what the physical issues were..most of them.

 

I am sure that it was not to you Chloe but that Daisy was offering helpful advice to the OP.

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I don't wish to derail this thread as it is addressed to the ladies on the board. This thread and other similar threads have all dealt with disabled males and at times the views have been expressed that some sort of service should be available through the NHS. I would like to ask the ladies whether they feel similar services to the ones mentioned in this thread should be available to disabled females? Girls like nookie too, don't they? 

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I don't think it should be offered on the NHS.

 

I do have disabled clients and am happy to do so. Disabled people also individuals who are equally as likely to be pleasant or unpleasant as anyone else, and who may or may not have differing needs.

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No Chloe,it was to the lady who started the thread x

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No Chloe,it was to the lady who started the thread x

Okay x

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Looking happily at a person with a disability, on a couple of visits to Blair Street whilst Edinburgh fringe going, there has been a blind man who visits and is a very pleasant man.

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If the AA can claim to be the 4th emergency service behind the police e, fire brigade, and ambulance, then WGs can claim to be 4th service, behind physio, occupational therapists and masseuse.

But don't put on NHS.

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The more providers on the TLC site the better. Please don't be put off by disability. Physical and sensory disability takes a number of forms. Often men who have become disabled, accident, injury, can be very self conscious, but still have sexual needs. Often SPs in various threads have commented on rude clients, aggressive clients. Much less likely for disabled people to act this way with an SP

It's almost impossible to join the site.  I have met plenty of disabled clients now and tried to join as I feel confident and comfortable in this area, but you can't get on the directory.  I spoke to a couple of others on the forum having the same problems and no one ever contacts you back to explain why your submission doesn't include you on the directory.

 

For me it's frustrating, as it actually took me a lot of confidence builidng and soul searching to put myself forward for the directory, so to get no help or contact on why I was not able to get on the directory is very demoralising.  It also makes you wonder how out of date the directory is.

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Disabled clients you have to be honest with girls and tell them pre booking. Girls aren't being horrid not seeing you some cannot cope with the stress of that i and other girls have actually cried afterwards. It takes a certain type of escort that can deal with that like Dr's can after a while, some girl's cant.

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It's almost impossible to join the site.  I have met plenty of disabled clients now and tried to join as I feel confident and comfortable in this area, but you can't get on the directory.  I spoke to a couple of others on the forum having the same problems and no one ever contacts you back to explain why your submission doesn't include you on the directory.

 

For me it's frustrating, as it actually took me a lot of confidence builidng and soul searching to put myself forward for the directory, so to get no help or contact on why I was not able to get on the directory is very demoralising.  It also makes you wonder how out of date the directory is.

Yes, I applied but didn't ever hear back from them now I think about it- but was years ago now. 

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