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First Punt: Bit Disappointed... What Could I Have Done Differently?

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I had my first full on punt with a WG recently (only had a couple of happy endings before). Good looking lady, about £160, nice place.

 

Turns out I broke one of the first rules and had a wank before i went, which meant we only had one "ending" in the encounter.

 

The first 15 mins were great, some oral to finish. Then i wanted to play with her while i recharged and she pretty much resisted the idea (i obviously didn't come out and say this, but suggested switching sides so i could use my dominant hand, and she said "i'll stay over here"). She wanted to talk about being a WG in between (I had said it was my first time in fairness). She kept her pants on for the whole encounter and I left wishing i'd got some sex, or least a chance to finger her maybe hone my technique etc.

 

Guys, do you take a more instructive tone in your encounters? Should I have said "and now i'd like to play with you" in a more customer asking for a service way, or with good WGs are the more 'normal' body language/directive signs enough to get what you want? I think it sounds like it will be a bit rubbish if i'm there saying "and now for the sex, please assume position A!"

 

 

 

It was a 'gentle' first encounter, so i don't entirely regret it, but i definitely want sex out of the second one and i'm unlikely to go back to this WG because I didn't get i the first time.

 

 

Ramblings of a newbie, any experiences or thoughts on how to make sure you get the best out of your encounter are welcome. I guess it can't all be discussed on the phone before hand and sitting down in the room and saying "here's the plan for the evening" feels a bit weird

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It may have been nearly 25 years ago but I remember my first visit to a women in a flat, she was Irish and seemed OK, I must have seemed a complete beginner, the encounter was not at all what I wanted and after perfunctory sex she jerked me off and collected the money.  Everything seemed so unresolved that I booked to see her a week later, took charge, fucked her every way i wanted, came just how I wanted and this time she earned her money.  Altogether a better relationship and the start of a long period of punting.  Don't get me wrong, sometimes I have enjoyed a dominatrix expexperience, the point is: you pay, you choose and you are the one empowered by the experience.

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It may have been nearly 25 years ago but I remember my first visit to a women in a flat, she was Irish and seemed OK, I must have seemed a complete beginner, the encounter was not at all what I wanted and after perfunctory sex she jerked me off and collected the money.  Everything seemed so unresolved that I booked to see her a week later, took charge, fucked her every way i wanted, came just how I wanted and this time she earned her money.  Altogether a better relationship and the start of a long period of punting.  Don't get me wrong, sometimes I have enjoyed a dominatrix expexperience, the point is: you pay, you choose and you are the one empowered by the experience.

I took more than two punts to realise I needed to be more in charge. I still tend to be a bit laid back, it's in my nature, but means I risk not getting all I want from the booking.

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First punts are usually dismal (I know mine was) so you did pretty well.

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You could have actually fucked her for a start. I was nervous the first few times I went as well, but I still sheepishly asked for a shag. That is kind of the whole point. You paid £160 and didn't get any sex whatsoever, which is absolute robbery. You should not have put down that much money just to dip your elbow in the water so to speak. 

 

I mean, I spend less than half that and get far more.

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You could have actually fucked her for a start. I was nervous the first few times I went as well, but I still sheepishly asked for a shag. That is kind of the whole point. You paid £160 and didn't get any sex whatsoever, which is absolute robbery. You should not have put down that much money just to dip your elbow in the water so to speak. 

 

I mean, I spend less than half that and get far more.

Yes, around here £70 gets you an hour of seriously good shagging with a good looking 20 something, putting it crudely. Well it would if I could last that long!

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I am sorry to say £160 is way over the top for what you got but put it down to experience and move on.

 

As a beginner, look for places that offer 1/2 hour for £60-£70. Always make sure you meet the girl agree with her what service(s) you will get before you part with your money. If you arrive and the girl is not as described, or you don't fancy her, or she is not friendly towards you then apologise and leave without paying and find somewhere else. If you really fancy the girl and you are sure you will get good service from her then you could pay for a longer stay.

 

Not all punts go well, but most do so you were very unlucky with your first one.

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I've just read my post above and can't believe I wrote that!  :wacko:

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As others have said - be the boss.

 

I had one try to dictate to me once ( lie down on the bed hun and I'll give you a massage)

 

i said no I want this and that - she smiled and said - good - I like a man who knows what he wants.

 

But yours - as a first time - believe me - could have been much worse - you might have booked 2 hours for £300

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Hahaha, thanks for all the feedback. On pricing I should have said i'm in London and like a hot bod - although i think i'm learning to compromise as I browse AW more.

 

I haven't gone for the second encounter yet, but i'll definitely try to take charge - TBH at this point i've not had a shag for about 4 years for all kinds of reasons, so i need to put an end to the dry spell soon but i'm mighty out of practice!

 

So you guys wouldn't talk to her before the session and be like "first i'd like this owo and then to move into some doggy at the end"? You'd just check FS was OK and hint at what you want by body language etc rather than talking about it?

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Hahaha, thanks for all the feedback. On pricing I should have said i'm in London and like a hot bod - although i think i'm learning to compromise as I browse AW more.

 

I haven't gone for the second encounter yet, but i'll definitely try to take charge - TBH at this point i've not had a shag for about 4 years for all kinds of reasons, so i need to put an end to the dry spell soon but i'm mighty out of practice!

 

So you guys wouldn't talk to her before the session and be like "first i'd like this owo and then to move into some doggy at the end"? You'd just check FS was OK and hint at what you want by body language etc rather than talking about it?

It's a bit like riding a bike though isn't it. (Not intended as a crudity.)  That's not to say skill levels can't be improved, I know mine need it.

 

I would say get her naked before any real "stimulation" begins.  I've learned it's best to tell her, no need to hint, what you want to happen as you go (make it a request to be polite but be insistent if need be), otherwise it's a bit like a shopping list.  It's easy to end up letting the girl dictate the punt and while that might well make it a great experience, remember these are experienced professionals and might just want to make it easy for themselves. I'm sure most girls are not like that but there are some.

 

I don't mean to make it sound like a battle of wits but you are paying them and if it's on their list of services go for it.

 

I make myself sound like a seasoned campaigner, but I've had a steep learning curve in only the last four months.

 

Oh, and it pays to be ambidextrous.  ;) 

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Hahaha, thanks for all the feedback. On pricing I should have said i'm in London and like a hot bod - although i think i'm learning to compromise as I browse AW more.

 

I haven't gone for the second encounter yet, but i'll definitely try to take charge - TBH at this point i've not had a shag for about 4 years for all kinds of reasons, so i need to put an end to the dry spell soon but i'm mighty out of practice!

 

So you guys wouldn't talk to her before the session and be like "first i'd like this owo and then to move into some doggy at the end"? You'd just check FS was OK and hint at what you want by body language etc rather than talking about it?

I don't give the wg a list at the beginning, and just make suggestions as we go. If it's a wg new to me, we've already confirmed whats available, so I'll start off with a brief introductory chat, hand over the cash and if it's an incall I'll ask to take a shower. So you're stripped ready for action, you've said your hellos so now move in and kiss her - and away you go.

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I still make this mistake! Most girls will chat or offer a massage to waste time but u have to just get to it, I find not getting too pally is best cos I end up just talking and forget why I'm there!

A girl I met this weekend was a bit like that and even admitted she loves clients who come quick as she hates too much shagging!

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I still make this mistake! Most girls will chat or offer a massage to waste time but u have to just get to it, I find not getting too pally is best cos I end up just talking and forget why I'm there!

A girl I met this weekend was a bit like that and even admitted she loves clients who come quick as she hates too much shagging!

This is what it's like. I suppose everyone is going to look after their own interests.  It's not how I wanted it to be when I started but there we go.

 

I guess if I keep going like this I'll have to join that other forum.

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Find a good one. Then go back.

A reg is always good. You both know that each other likes and you know she is a goodun.

Several regs is more fun though!

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I think the problem is all clients want different things and whilst an experienced escort does get better at gauging what a client wants (or indeed asking outright!) if he is hesitant to say so it's not always possible. Remember many many clients don't actually want full sex so it may not be that the escort avoided full sex, just assumed that wasn't what you wanted. Though on rereading your OP I think maybe this escort was actually avoiding some services. 

 

Maybe next time you ask on here for recommendations or have a look at the reviews on women in your local area as well as be a bit more forthright in saying what you want. 

 

You don't have to be crude in your initial conversation or email to an escort, it's quite useful for us if you outline roughly what you actually want from a session. If you explain you'd like to come twice in a session its OK to say (or write in advance)  this and add you'd really really like to spend time pleasuring her with your fingers and that you'd definitely like to finish with full sex. 

 

This kind of broad outline really is helpful and as long as you don't lay out a minute by minute agenda or get obscene in your language you'll find a good escort will genuinely be pleased and actually want to give you the encounter you want. 

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I still make this mistake! Most girls will chat or offer a massage to waste time but u have to just get to it, I find not getting too pally is best cos I end up just talking and forget why I'm there!

A girl I met this weekend was a bit like that and even admitted she loves clients who come quick as she hates too much shagging!

This is where reports come in handy. I'd make a mention of something like that in a report because if I knew the wg felt that way beforehand I wouldn't have booked her in the first place, and I certainly wouldn't see her again. Mainly because I don't come quickly! Not that I want to shag continuously for an hour either, but it leaves the impression she just wants you in and out pronto. 'Scuse the pun.

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I still make this mistake! Most girls will chat or offer a massage to waste time but u have to just get to it, I find not getting too pally is best cos I end up just talking and forget why I'm there!

A girl I met this weekend was a bit like that and even admitted she loves clients who come quick as she hates too much shagging!

I used to experience this in the early days - when I probably looked like I didnt know what to do. But if you go into the room and get your kit off quickly it's a good sign to her that you are not a rookie and hence a backrub is not why you're there.

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Luckily I havent a wg offer me a massage. Don't know why, perhaps I've been fortunate enough to pick the right ones but even so if I was offered, i would decline.

I can get a message from any other place. Not going to waste the hour getting one here.

Always look for girls that have reviews or ask here, mate. You'll be surprised by which ones to avoid.

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I had my first full on punt with a WG recently (only had a couple of happy endings before). Good looking lady, about £160, nice place.

 

Turns out I broke one of the first rules and had a wank before i went, which meant we only had one "ending" in the encounter.

 

The first 15 mins were great, some oral to finish. Then i wanted to play with her while i recharged and she pretty much resisted the idea (i obviously didn't come out and say this, but suggested switching sides so i could use my dominant hand, and she said "i'll stay over here"). She wanted to talk about being a WG in between (I had said it was my first time in fairness). She kept her pants on for the whole encounter and I left wishing i'd got some sex, or least a chance to finger her maybe hone my technique etc.

 

Guys, do you take a more instructive tone in your encounters? Should I have said "and now i'd like to play with you" in a more customer asking for a service way, or with good WGs are the more 'normal' body language/directive signs enough to get what you want? I think it sounds like it will be a bit rubbish if i'm there saying "and now for the sex, please assume position A!"

 

 

 

It was a 'gentle' first encounter, so i don't entirely regret it, but i definitely want sex out of the second one and i'm unlikely to go back to this WG because I didn't get i the first time.

 

 

Ramblings of a newbie, any experiences or thoughts on how to make sure you get the best out of your encounter are welcome. I guess it can't all be discussed on the phone before hand and sitting down in the room and saying "here's the plan for the evening" feels a bit weird

 

I wouldn't beat yourself up too much (although maybe just a little given the amount you spent to be dissappointed )

 

but maybe keep things more simple in what you want, 

 

Assertive without arrogance whilst remaining polite throughout should draw the required result of you being left happy,

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This is where reports come in handy. I'd make a mention of something like that in a report because if I knew the wg felt that way beforehand I wouldn't have booked her in the first place, and I certainly wouldn't see her again. Mainly because I don't come quickly! Not that I want to shag continuously for an hour either, but it leaves the impression she just wants you in and out pronto. 'Scuse the pun.

Yeh most girls will try it on from experience but to be fair to this one she had a good attitude when saying no to a massage/moving it along- i guess we all try taking shortcuts in our work where we can!

Luckily i am a 10second man round 1 and 4/5min round 2, she only made this comment as i said she can take the extended pleasure condoms i had bought + she replied she doesnt want prolonged shagging haha. I doubt most girls would complain if u take longer eg 10-20min long as they r lubed.

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