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A New Girl Wanting To Try It Out. Help Me With Advice Please

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Hi, I have decided to try out this trade, but have several worries. One of them is how discreet are the men who order such services? I really have big fear that if I meet someone I have met as a client, he can spread the info about me. I have an offer to work with someone, but would like to first try to work on my own with fewer people, which I choose. I put an advert, got more than 300 replies, but now am not sure how to choose from those people since very limited information is given. I decided that I will choose older men, as they hopefully are more mature and more likely to be discreet. Also married perhaps is better?

 

Another fear I have is that I say very clearly what I am eager and not eager to do, but what if the person decided to force me to do more ? Also is it possible that they do not pay? I have done one "work" which went completely without problems, and was very nice, the person was extremely respectful, both of us  were nervous. but now I am getting cold feet about potential risks.

 

The reason I prefer to work for myself instead of taking the offer and joining that "agency" is because of the money and also fear of dealing with many clients. I really prefer to have few and regular ones, but there it is very anonymous, someone else hires appartment, in a different town  even in a different town, which is great for me. 

 

I really want to try it out more like a hobby. 

 

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Noobgirl please see the 'Thinking of Becoming an Escort Thread' on here and also take the advice on there re going tothe Saafe website.

Also take care with the legalities - for example you mention working with another woman which can get you into issues with the law.

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Definately as bigjohn said, read the thread and get straight over to SAAFE. I started as an independant last year and could not have done it without the help of the ladies there. I think you are right in not bothering with an agency, but make sure you have your security in place. Never meet any body unless you tell some one. You can find a buddy if you have no one you trust.

I found by screening and listening to my gut instinct, which becomes honed very quickly, that most men are lovely. They all want discreetness also. Like you I saw older men first but I have found some younger guys are more paranoid about being found out, having young families. Good luck.

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Good for you for being so careful about it. One simple way of selecting clients is surely to withold your phone number and then get them to email you describing a bit about themselves and what they expect from a meeting with you. I think you might then be able to read between the lines of what kind of person they are, rather than meeting them completely blind. Like the others have said, you might also get more information from SAAFE.

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Also go to oldestprof.com and read their legal section. Very comprehensive.

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Good for you for being so careful about it. One simple way of selecting clients is surely to withold your phone number and then get them to email you describing a bit about themselves and what they expect from a meeting with you. I think you might then be able to read between the lines of what kind of person they are, rather than meeting them completely blind. Like the others have said, you might also get more information from SAAFE.

Yes and no. People can still be rude by email, and some expect to use it as a two way instant conversation, not all men want to use email, I find it works well for me but I am already established with non-email clients.

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Yes and no. People can still be rude by email, and some expect to use it as a two way instant conversation, not all men want to use email, I find it works well for me but I am already established with non-email clients.

I find I tend to ignore girls who do not put their phone number up. Its just too easy to go on to the next one and call her.

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I find I tend to ignore girls who do not put their phone number up. Its just too easy to go on to the next one and call her.

This is true but for someone who is tentatively sticking a toe into this industry perhaps its a better way to start off with.

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Yes and no. People can still be rude by email, and some expect to use it as a two way instant conversation, not all men want to use email, I find it works well for me but I am already established with non-email clients.

 

But that's partly my point ..... surely if someone is rude by email or expects a two way conversation, then they get deselected and you haven't even had to meet them .... granted that not all men want to use email but then the OP is saying she only wants to see a small, select group of clients.

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I find I tend to ignore girls who do not put their phone number up. Its just too easy to go on to the next one and call her.[/quote

Just shows how we're all different in the way we do things. I never rule a wg out on the basis she doesn't display a number. If I had I'd have missed out on some really excellent wg's.

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Noobgirl please see the 'Thinking of Becoming an Escort Thread' on here and also take the advice on there re going tothe Saafe website.

Also take care with the legalities - for example you mention working with another woman which can get you into issues with the law.

 

Great advice.  Also maybe she should consider increasing her fees if she got 300 responses despite being a newbie and only wanting to meet older men as a hobby as she puts it herself.

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This is true but for someone who is tentatively sticking a toe into this industry perhaps its a better way to start off with.

is sticking a toe in extra?

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Great advice.  Also maybe she should consider increasing her fees if she got 300 responses despite being a newbie and only wanting to meet older men as a hobby as she puts it herself.

 

That is a massive response, I wonder why? I hope that the advert did not mention that she is a newbie as there are punters who push their luck with those.

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But that's partly my point ..... surely if someone is rude by email or expects a two way conversation, then they get deselected and you haven't even had to meet them .... granted that not all men want to use email but then the OP is saying she only wants to see a small, select group of clients.

Same with the telephone enquiries.

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That is a massive response, I wonder why? I hope that the advert did not mention that she is a newbie as there are punters who push their luck with those.

 

We are mind in mind.  Obviously she only tells us certain things.  Anyway good luck to her.

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That is a massive response, I wonder why? I hope that the advert did not mention that she is a newbie as there are punters who push their luck with those.

A good part of the responses will be timewasters due to it being a new profile this is nearly always the case.

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That is a massive response, I wonder why? I hope that the advert did not mention that she is a newbie as there are punters who push their luck with those.

 

It is quite the norm for new girls to be inundated with messages. Gentlemen are always looking out for fresh talent. Some are very much into the 'untouched by this world as yet' type of girls. I'm sure I have read such posts on here over the years where the gents want to 'get in there' before she gets 'spoilt'

 

I remember being overwhelmed and switching my phone of when I first started. It can be a bit much for a newbie to handle.

 

I would advise the lady to get herself a website if she hasn't already, and make it VERY clear what she offers and what she expects in return. Once she has tweaked it to exactly the way she wants it, it will start attracting the type of clientèle she wishes to meet with.

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My advice, don't rush, think everything through twice, especially if offers sound too good to be true.

 

Discretion sounds as if it is important, so don't make basic errors like using your normal phone, email, twitter etc. for this work.  Also make sure that any profiles etc. for this work do not automatically sync or link to your private/everyday profiles.  These mistakes are easily made, normally they shouldn't matter, but such mistakes can be exploited by the few unpleasant punters that get off on such things, far better not to leave yourself vulnerable.

 

If using a website, again make sure your domain registration is kept anonymous.  If you get someone to create your website make sure that you retain control of it, passwords etc. and be sure that you can trust whoever it is that you choose to help you create it.  Many WGs manage to do their own which cuts out that risk.

 

As Jasmin mentions above, advertising as a newbie can particularly attract some unsavoury sorts eager to exploit your lack of knowledge etc.

 

If you decide to continue then good luck, and certainly visit the Saafe website.

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That is a massive response, I wonder why? I hope that the advert did not mention that she is a newbie as there are punters who push their luck with those.

 

It does seem like a very high number of the responses, even for somebody who is a new to this "business". It could be because her fees are very competitive, with combination of great photos and very appealing written profile.  Still we don't know at what time scale those enquirers were accumulated. Few days, weeks, month? I would have thought after the first 50 or so you would stop counting, lol.

 

Saying that, new profiles on Adultwork do have a vast number of enquirers at the beginning. Bibi and Jasmin are right: majority will be from the various photographers, website designers, "male escorts" who want to work together as a couple (but in reality after the free shag), divers, so called "landlords" who offer to rent accommodation on daily basis with a charge more then a price of the decent hotel room, fantasists, (who copy and paste the same email to every WG with a new profile) wannabee pimps, and of course just bog standard timewasters, etc...the list are endless. It can be very overwhelming at the beginning for any new girl who to entered this industry to filter the "riff from the raff.  (or all riff-raff, lol). It does slow down.... eventually!

 

I am probably wrong, but something does not seem right about "her" first post. I can't really point the finger or give a clear reason why. I have been wrong before, (not often though :P ). I do hope, that I made a mistake on this occasion also.

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Noobgirl please see the 'Thinking of Becoming an Escort Thread' on here and also take the advice on there re going tothe Saafe website.

Also take care with the legalities - for example you mention working with another woman which can get you into issues with the law.

I must have missed that . Where did she say about working with another woman ?

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Hi thank you all very much for all your answers!

SAAFE- I am reading and intend to read the whole website.

Phone:

there is no way i can give my phone number, because if i do not like it i have to then change my phone number...and i feel it is too early to register another one on something i am just trying out.

Ad:

My ad states clearly I am non professional, it does not state anything about older guys, the age range is from 24 to 65, mostly in their late 30ties-40ties. Young guys i am not considering at all, because it is just weird and i do not trust their maturity levels.

 

My advertisement states that I  (of course attractive, intelligent very sexual :D) am looking to have regular meetings with a nice respectful attractive man for monetary compensation ...and then when they write to me I state the monetary compensation and send them pictures (with blurred face). It also states my general info - height, age , body type. So far I chose 3 people who seemed the most nice, all married (ok i am sorry i know it is horrible towards their wives and all, but i feel they would have more insentives to be discreet), and we will meet first and then decide whether or not it works. They also ask me for tabus and what i like what i do not like. so that is another point of filtering- the sexual preferences.

Fees:

the money a guy (who initially offered me to meet with him from time to time for money) told me what is the typical price for such a "favor" by non-professional. So i use that as a guideline, but may also increase it out of curiosity.

 

 

Where I live prostitution is legal, but i must register as a worker for tax reasons ...which is also complex. I need to think about how to proceed so that it is both legal yet "my name is protected". it turns out to be more way complicated than it seems. Having sex is such a spontaneous and random thing nowadays, but asking money for it turns into such a huge deal. I

 

 do not have any photos on my profile, just send them to the people who write.

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Xenia these adverts have accumulated since less than a week for 5 days. I have no idea why. I do not count there is a message counter in the mailbox. Some are indeed "fantasists", because they write some crazy sum of money then ask for photos and then disappear when a real meeting is to happen.

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You don't have to have a phone number on your adverts but you will need a phone to be able to confirm bookings or for the client to ring for directions.Seperate work phones can be bought for a tenner.If you decide the work is not for you throw it away or leave it switched off or throw the sim card away and get a new one.

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I must have missed that . Where did she say about working with another woman ?

I got an offer from a woman/girl to work with her and help her out with her big clientelle, where everything is arranged by her boyfriend (I assume pimp).

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Its not really the norm to not have any photos on an advert and to be sending them out instead.You will get timewasters just trying to get free pics without any intention of booking.Have you had a look at other ladies in your area and what they put on their adverts?Clear rates,photos and a clear and honest service list is what the genuine guys go for.

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