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Declarations Of Love And Other Such Nonsense

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I seem to have had a week of devotees. One even proclaiming his love!!!! I Do like a nice easy meet with someone I feel comfortable with but these are begining to feel a bit OTT. I want regulars but should I curb these?

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Depends how serious the declaration of love was towards you.. Clearly not what you want/wanted... Only trouble is if he was seriously in love with you then I would suggest you should have a conversation with him and let him down gently and not see him again.. He could turn into a stalker.. However if you like him then go with what you feel is right.. Just be careful!

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I have stopped seeing one client who sent me a text late at night declaring his love.  

 

Whether drunk or in any other befuddled state makes no difference to me... it is a large NO.

 

Had I done the same to a client my reputation would have taken a large knock if he decided to share with others what I had done.

 

my advice?

 

if you think you love me then don't tell me!

if you think you are starting to have "feelings" for me then don't under any circumstances let me find out

 

If I begin to suspect it is happening then I will stop the visits.

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I have stopped seeing one client who sent me a text late at night declaring his love.  

 

Whether drunk or in any other befuddled state makes no difference to me... it is a large NO.

 

Had I done the same to a client my reputation would have taken a large knock if he decided to share with others what I had done.

 

my advice?

 

if you think you love me then don't tell me!

if you think you are starting to have "feelings" for me then don't under any circumstances let me find out

 

If I begin to suspect it is happening then I will stop the visits.

What if he was good at scrabble AND crosswords ?

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I've had three clients do this exactly. And I stopped seeing them instantly and explained to them that it was blurring the lines and if I continue to see them it's not good for both of us as I dont feel the same.

I personally wouldn't be able to carry on seeing someone who said they love me I would feel incredibly awkard! X

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What if he was good at scrabble AND crosswords ?

 

............  I would have to think carefully about that one........

 

If he was better than me at both then he would be binned pronto!     :D

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LOL  Declaring love to an escort you can't be serious.  Why??? Actually one lady I perhaps did fall in love with but I would never tell her because its nonsense she will never date a client and in reality it got me thinking I wouldn't date a working girl working  anyway.  A working girl not working fine by me.   The one I know and fancied I would rather have her as a long standing friend if possible!

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LOL Declaring love to an escort you can't be serious. Why??? Actually one lady I perhaps did fall in love with but I would never tell her because its nonsense she will never date a client and in reality it got me thinking I wouldn't date a working girl working anyway. A working girl not working fine by me. The one I know and fancied I would rather have her as a long standing friend if possible!

When you say a working girl working, you mean a working girl still seeing paying clients right?

Would you still punt?

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I've three 'regulars two of which are married or in a long-term relationship. The third is, on the face of it, 'available' to be 'courted'. Were I not myself married I'd be proud to be seen with No. 3.Were I not married I'd welcome 'No 3' to my home.

 

I saw No. 3 the other day and told her I loved her hugely (which I do).

She quietly whispered in my ear words to the effect: "I actually fancy you too but you're not available to transport me to heaven on a daily basis which I need mightily"

 

Life goes on

UP

 

 

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When you say a working girl working, you mean a working girl still seeing paying clients right?

Would you still punt?

 

Yes that's right.  As long as she isn't working.  I could turn a blind eye perhaps and try to live with it but if you really love someone it doesn't work for me!  No if  I was in love and getting the sufficient amount of love making time  then no I wouldn't punt.  

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I've three 'regulars two of which are married or in a long-term relationship. The third is, on the face of it, 'available' to be 'courted'. Were I not myself married I'd be proud to be seen with No. 3.Were I not married I'd welcome 'No 3' to my home.

I saw No. 3 the other day and told her I loved her hugely (which I do).

She quietly whispered in my ear words to the effect: "I actually fancy you too but you're not available to transport me to heaven on a daily basis which I need mightily"

Life goes on

UP

It's not really wise to be telling WGs you love them. It's a business transaction you pay her for sex and she gives you what you want. I don't think the lines should be blurred as that's when it gets complicated, it did with an ex regular of mine who started to develop feelings and then thought he could dictate who I see and when I see them.

Tried forcing me to stay longer at his, texting me out of working hours and calling. Where I worked at the time he would turn up unannounced. So now if I have a client who even gets as close to that I cut them off instantly

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I think ths Bove about boundaries is bang on

But there is a big bit of the north of england where luv is a general name for someone of the opposite sex. But I think its obvious.

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.....I told one of my regular ladies the other day that I 'love' her feet...I honestly do they are the most delicious feet I have ever seen...I also 'love' coming to see her in her lovely flat (she always makes me feel so welcome), in fact I 'love' many things about meeting her.....

 

I am of course very fond of her, think she is truly lovely, but I also 'love' the boundaries and find in them a kind of freedom to enjoy my time with her (and other ladies I see)  - oh and I 'love' being able to walk away when my time is up.

 

I know its a business transaction in the cold light of day but that doesn't mean that the process doesn't in some way mirror or capture some rather heady emotions - keeping them in check for me is the key to enjoying this rather delicious hobby.

 

But as for declaring my undying love, or getting all daft and silly - well that would so spoil the mood for both of us...that much I know.

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I have had a few clients "fall for me" its a shame in a way as im in a relationship and when i tell them this i seem to lose them as clients even after alot of meets.

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Sometimes people say that kind of thing in the heat of the moment. I don't mind at all. But I would object if someone tried to change the nature of our relationship. That's a different thing. 

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.....the ladies I have seen are always great about 'heat of the moment' ejaculations (so to speak) and often is a source of laugher or mickey take in the post coital sojourn' (as it were) and in a way is all part of the fun....and I find ladies take that kind of thing in their stride.....it is harmless and sometimes raging hormones and raging hard on make us fellas say the daftest things (speaking only for myself).

 

I think it must take a lot of skill or experience to handle a punter though who tries to change the nature of the relationship - this moves into more scary territory I reckon - a man scorned can be as scary as a woman scorned....

 

But I would hope that the vast majority of punters get the rules and the boundaries but clearly some do not....

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Oh I have known a lovely lady for nearly 4 years and we know a huge amount about each other including very private stuff and talk and swap ideas about our attitudes, problems and hopes.

 

We go for walks and snacks in cafes when we feel like it. I visit her house with no mention of anything sexual there.

 

We also tell each other we love each other on a regular basis.

 

We have sex on a normal paid basis and it is not a sexual love we mean when we speak or text that way.

 

We love being friends with each other and the word love slips readily from our lips and reassures each other we are there if and when problems arise.

 

The 30+ year age gap just doesn't come into it.

 

We know one of us will likely suddenly disappear from the other's life - we have both done that for 2-month periods - and we took up our friendship and use of 'love' as soon as we met up again.

 

It works for us like this, I think, and we love it.

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Love? I'm sure cupid can strike when we least expect but when a punter tells a bit WG he loves them it's slightly skewed. Let me caveat this statement I'm referring when a guy purely engages in paid for pleasure with the WG, ie the relationship is purely client WG in dynamics and thwrwy has been no real life time spent together, no socialising with pals, long convos outside working hours, dates etc. Far be it for me to say if someone's love is not genuine but in the pure WG punter relationship what are these guys falling in love with? Its not necessarily the full person as theyve not engaged outside in the real world. People are falling for the vision, the sexualized character, the escapism of the house long visit in a nice flat with a gorgeous woman in who's wonderful company. Although the WG may be entirely genuine in her approach and is not necessarily performing she knows that the guy declaring his love doesnt know her....properly so it's little wonder the declaration is not taken seriously

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Whilst I'll admit to saying the L word to a wg it was only in the context that I said I loved seeing her. We're quite friendly and still keep in touch even though she's no longer working. If she returned I'd be first in the (rather long) queue to see her, but that's as far as it goes for either of us.

Being a regular and even being friendly is one thing but if you think he was in any way serious he's best avoided IMO...

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Oh I've had a client say it whilst my legs are in the air and I've laughed it off, that's totally different though!

I think if you're telling a WG you love her you really need to look at what you want, is it dating or are you happy paying for sex. I have clients much much older than me as friends, but that's as far as it goes I would never use the word love. I'm fond of them yes, and enjoy their company but love? Nope. Too far.

As someone said "What are they in love with" it's usually the fantasy the GFE can be a bit too realistic sometimes and make a man feel as though "she really wants me".

I can imagine a client falling for a WG doesn't happen so often if she offers domination or PSE though! :D

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I did once jokingly proclaim "f*** it let's get on the next plane to Vegas!" while experiencing a particularly pleasurable act, the WGs response of "be careful what you wish for" was perfectly timed.

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In 30 years of punting I've only seen 2 hookers who I would be willing to be seen in public with. The rest just looked like tanned, tattooed skanks with enhanced tits.

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I like your approach, Vivlusme. There are very significant differences for me between loving someone and being in love with a person. As a heterosexual I can still feel love a few good male friends, and also female friends. A few of the latter happen to be escorts. In these cases I would be (and am) happy to be with them without any sexual action, as people. Retired or working they are folk who are special.

 

And there's no need to look for reciprocity of feelings - I'm only responsible for what I feel. There's not even any need to put it in words.

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Human beings are messy and to pretend that we can control our emotions is a hopeful lie. At our best we muddle through. I am sure that lots of regulars are dancing on the slopes of love but never put a name to it or refer to it.

I am a hopeless romantic and if I had a regular would probably fall madly in love with her. Hence why I don't have a regular

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This does happen, it might be a business arrangement but as humans we are in relationship.

 

For me it depends on the person and the context, which can be all very different. If I think it is causing distress for the person, then I will be concerned for their well-being and communicate this to them, if it's causing problems for me I'll consider not accepting any further bookings from that person. I've only once had to stop seeing someone because of his attachment, and he came back later having gotten his feelings resolved.

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