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This is a sort of side issue to the thread about punters saying i love you to WG's

 

i was out today in a shopping centre (ugh) and there were quite a few young couples doing the holding hands and all the lovey dovey stuff.

 

so clearly some people think very deep affection and sex are inextricably linked.

 

but as we know here there are another set of people who have detached sex from relationships.  these people may be hookers, or punters or people who just shag around a lot.

 

so is the lovey thing a phase we go through or are some people wired to attach sex to relationships and others dont?

 

 

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I don't think it is as cut and dried as that. My self and my husband always hold hands, we are in our 50s so being young has nothing to do with it. We hold hands all the time even watching TV and in bed. It is something we do automatically, our hands seek each other's out. Yet I am an escort. I start to get an odd feeling when a client starts doing intimate stuff like caressing my hair after sex when we are lying there or stroking my arm or back. I don't mind my hair being caressed or grabbed during sex but the caressing it after makes me alert. So I don't think there are two types of people. Some if us can do both. Have intimate relationships and detached ones.

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Agree with the above post.I can have sex with clients and I can be affectionate within that,I do offer a gfe afterall but I make love with my bf and the affection there is meant and genuine.I think its more of a question of 'Can you compartmentalise or not?'Some people can some cannot quite simply and it is nothing to do with age or gender.

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There is the third sort. The sort that have deep affection but do not have sex. They still exist, those "wait till we are married" or "wait till the right time" people

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There is the third sort. The sort that have deep affection but do not have sex. They still exist, those "wait till we are married" or "wait till the right time" people

And / or those who have a deep affection but for whatever reason don't and probably never will have a sex life. It doesn't mean they love or care for each other any less..

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I hate being referred to as a hooker by a man... I find it offensive, but anyway...

 

Surely most people have had sex with people they have both loved and not loved at some point? I don't think the world is split into two types that easily. 

 

I don't quite understand why seeing  couples doing the holding hands and all the lovey dovey stuff made you think very deep affection and sex are inextricably linked.

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I hate being referred to as a hooker by a man... I find it offensive, but anyway...

 

Surely most people have had sex with people they have both loved and not loved at some point? I don't think the world is split into two types that easily. 

 

I don't quite understand why seeing  couples doing the holding hands and all the lovey dovey stuff made you think very deep affection and sex are inextricably linked.

didnt mean to offend. 

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I don't think it is as cut and dried as that. My self and my husband always hold hands, we are in our 50s so being young has nothing to do with it. We hold hands all the time even watching TV and in bed. It is something we do automatically, our hands seek each other's out. Yet I am an escort. I start to get an odd feeling when a client starts doing intimate stuff like caressing my hair after sex when we are lying there or stroking my arm or back. I don't mind my hair being caressed or grabbed during sex but the caressing it after makes me alert. So I don't think there are two types of people. Some if us can do both. Have intimate relationships and detached ones.

Agree with the above post.I can have sex with clients and I can be affectionate within that,I do offer a gfe afterall but I make love with my bf and the affection there is meant and genuine.I think its more of a question of 'Can you compartmentalise or not?'Some people can some cannot quite simply and it is nothing to do with age or gender.

So you are both saying you can be affectionate (with a client) but not intimate? Carmel admits to feeling uneasy when she receives post-coital caresses from a client and I’m not sure whether or not you, Bibi, agree with that. I’ve said elsewhere that I’ve known a married WG who successfully compartmentalised her domestic and working life but showed great intimacy with the latter. She happily received intimate caresses whilst chatting after sex and herself returned them. I remember, for example, her stroking the inside of my thigh in what can only be described as an intimate way and not just designed, at that time, to be arousing. I'll admit that such encounters with WGs are rare, but I have known several. 

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For me, in terms of what physically happens, sex with clients and partners can be very similar. The difference is mental: with a partner you can be more selfish, or uninhibited, you 100% want to see them, and know you'll want to do things with them that you might not want to do with some clients. It's just a completely different mood. Also, personally, having sex with clients doesn't negatively impact any sex I might have with a partner; they're two separate things.

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Thats it really sex is different with a partner and so it should be.

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So you are both saying you can be affectionate (with a client) but not intimate? Carmel admits to feeling uneasy when she receives post-coital caresses from a client and I’m not sure whether or not you, Bibi, agree with that. I’ve said elsewhere that I’ve known a married WG who successfully compartmentalised her domestic and working life but showed great intimacy with the latter. She happily received intimate caresses whilst chatting after sex and herself returned them. I remember, for example, her stroking the inside of my thigh in what can only be described as an intimate way and not just designed, at that time, to be arousing. I'll admit that such encounters with WGs are rare, but I have known several. 

I don't think anything about my post suggests I am uneasy in the slightest.I am paid to offer a girlfriend experience so an approximation of intimacy and affection.So I am happy to cuddle and kiss and stroke and caress and chat within the booking and I would say I am fairly well known by my clients for doing just that as well as the nookie.However true intimacy is not just the actions of it now is it?True intimacy is about the emotions we feel while doing the actions and shock horror no matter how good an escort any lady is she is just giving the experience of affection and intimacy.Thus for me I compartmentalise and feel happy with both my escorting life and my private life.
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This is a sort of side issue to the thread about punters saying i love you to WG's

 

i was out today in a shopping centre (ugh) and there were quite a few young couples doing the holding hands and all the lovey dovey stuff.

 

so clearly some people think very deep affection and sex are inextricably linked.

 

but as we know here there are another set of people who have detached sex from relationships.  these people may be hookers, or punters or people who just shag around a lot.

 

so is the lovey thing a phase we go through or are some people wired to attach sex to relationships and others dont?

I don't think you can categorise people like that, everyone is different and people change over time.

I'm certainly a lot different to the young man I was, hormones freshly coursing through the bloodstream. Girls no longer an irritant but interesting in a new and exciting way. A young man who wanted to shag anything in a skirt, whoops sorry jock, my mistake. Then I matured and found I wanted more out of an encounter than a one night stand.

Now, I find you can have sex, a bit of affection and not make a song and dance about it, depends on you and the girl.

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I don't think anything about my post suggests I am uneasy in the slightest.I am paid to offer a girlfriend experience so an approximation of intimacy and affection.So I am happy to cuddle and kiss and stroke and caress and chat within the booking and I would say I am fairly well known by my clients for doing just that as well as the nookie.However true intimacy is not just the actions of it now is it?True intimacy is about the emotions we feel while doing the actions and shock horror no matter how good an escort any lady is she is just giving the experience of affection and intimacy.Thus for me I compartmentalise and feel happy with both my escorting life and my private life.

Exactly this. When they show that intimacy I don't show my unease. I show intimacy back, I may not feel it but they are there for that experience and so that is part of my contract with them. I suppose this is where the danger of them perhaps becoming a little emotionally involved is. Of course there are those who can themselves tell the difference between true emotional involvement and the paid for kind. That's all well and good. I suppose I worry about the ones who think it might be real. But mostly when the time is up, it's up and dressed and back to normal conversation.

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I don't think it is as cut and dried as that. My self and my husband always hold hands, we are in our 50s so being young has nothing to do with it. We hold hands all the time even watching TV and in bed. It is something we do automatically, our hands seek each other's out. Yet I am an escort. I start to get an odd feeling when a client starts doing intimate stuff like caressing my hair after sex when we are lying there or stroking my arm or back. I don't mind my hair being caressed or grabbed during sex but the caressing it after makes me alert. So I don't think there are two types of people. Some if us can do both. Have intimate relationships and detached ones.

 

I really love it when older people hold hands and they seem to be so calm and in peace with eachother...... or the way they eat their ice cream sitting on a bench in small seaside cities where not much happens.  They stick together through thick and thin............ that is a true relationship.

 

One ex used to tell me all the time how much he loved me and always asked me to answer back how much I loved him.  Another, did not tell me even once that he loved me saying: 'you know the answer to that'.  I then got used not to ask any questions....... we are all different.

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..for me paid for sex is a unique category of sex for this reason, it involves consideration and is a form of contract, a sexual contract, and like all contracts it has terms and conditions and attached (boundaries) and I have found that this kind of sex can be,  just fantastic, almost like no other, completely free of all manner of commitment, domestic financial, emotional - in my view, and call me an old 'romantic' this is what makes it so fantastic and why I enjoy it so much.

 

Now of course in the cold light of day many in our society consider this kind of sex: sleazy, shallow, even disgusting (I think its the payment that disgusts not the sex) and I am not sure I could begin or would want to defend it - it is what it is - but I have had some incredible, earth moving sex, which has made me conclude that paid for sex, as opposed to many other forms, can be the best, because its the only kind of sex that two consenting adults can walk away from with no strings attached but that doesn't mean without genuine affection and regard.  

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I really love it when older people hold hands and they seem to be so calm and in peace with eachother...... or the way they eat their ice cream sitting on a bench in small seaside cities where not much happens.  They stick together through thick and thin............ that is a true relationship.

 

One ex used to tell me all the time how much he loved me and always asked me to answer back how much I loved him.  Another, did not tell me even once that he loved me saying: 'you know the answer to that'.  I then got used not to ask any questions....... we are all different.

..but you will never know if the gentleman holding hands with his dear wife is very grateful to the WG's he sees because his dear wife can no longer give him the kind of sex he craves and he is grateful to the ladies he sees because he knows they would never destroy the domestic bliss and happiness he enjoys because of this....and indeed the dear wife may no he sees ladies but turns a blind eye because they are otherwise very happy together .......life is always more complicated and layered than we imagine but I agree sticking together through thick and thin is a beautiful thing! :)

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..but you will never know if the gentleman holding hands with his dear wife is very grateful to the WG's he sees because his dear wife can no longer give him the kind of sex he craves and he is grateful to the ladies he sees because he knows they would never destroy the domestic bliss and happiness he enjoys because of this....and indeed the dear wife may no he sees ladies but turns a blind eye because they are otherwise very happy together .......life is always more complicated and layered than we imagine but I agree sticking together through thick and thin is a beautiful thing! :)

Or like when the gentleman got out of his seat in a cafe in the garden centre to tell us how lovely it was to see a couple holding hands, that not many people do it these days, without realising that the woman was a hooker

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...After reading the heading I was expecting a discussion on lovers and fighters...lol

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..but you will never know if the gentleman holding hands with his dear wife is very grateful to the WG's he sees because his dear wife can no longer give him the kind of sex he craves and he is grateful to the ladies he sees because he knows they would never destroy the domestic bliss and happiness he enjoys because of this....and indeed the dear wife may no he sees ladies but turns a blind eye because they are otherwise very happy together .......life is always more complicated and layered than we imagine but I agree sticking together through thick and thin is a beautiful thing! :)

 

Ha ha, come on, don't destroy my dream about 2 loving older people holding hands and licking ice cream in a peaceful seaside town....  :D

 

Indeed what you mentioned is possible, but then what do you expect: all older people to divorce their wives hoping they will eternally be adored and shagged senselessly by some younger, horny women?  'I am having the shag of my life' he says, looking at his watch and forgetting he was doing the same thing himself when he was 20 years old....

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Ha ha, come on, don't destroy my dream about 2 loving older people holding hands and licking ice cream in a peaceful seaside town....  :D

 

Indeed what you mentioned is possible, but then what do you expect: all older people to divorce their wives hoping they will eternally be adored and shagged senselessly by some younger, horny women?  'I am having the shag of my life' he says, looking at his watch and forgetting he was doing the same thing himself when he was 20 years old....

..ha ha ha I am sorry, I agree that was a bit cynical of me.....and indeed what could be more romantic that two loving older people holding hands and licking ice cream....

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..ha ha ha I am sorry, I agree that was a bit cynical of me.....and indeed what could be more romantic that two loving older people holding hands and licking ice cream....

Depends what they're licking the ice cream off surely? :D

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I hate being referred to as a hooker by a man... I find it offensive, but anyway...

 

Surely most people have had sex with people they have both loved and not loved at some point? I don't think the world is split into two types that easily. 

 

I don't quite understand why seeing  couples doing the holding hands and all the lovey dovey stuff made you think very deep affection and sex are inextricably linked.

 

Is hooker an American term.  It always seems to be in most US movies.  Seems to work with an American accent for some reason!

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...After reading the heading I was expecting a discussion on lovers and fighters...lol

Correction -

In the tongue-in-cheek movie "Team America" it is referenced that there are indeed 3 types of people...dicks, pussies and arseholes (you can say assholes in an American accent if you like)...

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Depends what they're licking the ice cream off surely? :D

 

Shame on you for having a dig at old people.......  :D

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Shame on you for having a dig at old people.......  :D

 

Who are you calling old? :)  Certainly not Carmel, she is a mere babe as far as I am concerned.

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