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Guessing What A Client's Wants.

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I'm an experienced WG and I truly like my Client's to have a 'good time' and go away feeling they've enjoyed the visit, fulfilled their  wishes/fantasies and will return. That's the ultimate aim.

 

Unfortunately quite a few Client's feel that WG's are clairvoyants/mind readers. Either they are too shy to let us know what they would like to do or feel we're going to laugh or look down on them. Indeed it took a Client of mine a few visits before he brought along his cross dressing clothes. I kind of felt maybe I was unapproachable but he told me later that his wife had called him all the maggots under the sun when he tentatively broached it with her. He now leaves a suit case at mine with his clothes in for when he visits.

 

Whilst I set out my shop window of do's and dont's (not many!) when a proposed Client phones or e-mails, any request can be made during a visit and if I don't wish to participate then I can say no.

 

If I feel a Client is having difficulty in expressing themselves then I very politely point out that there only us two in the room and I'm not going to tell anyone.

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Whereas some guys dont care who knows. I remember in the days when I shared a flat with another girl I went into the bathroom with my guy for a shared shower and tripped over a suitcase full of cross dressing stuff plus there were wigs, shoes, stockings and his frillies covering the entire bathroom floor. 

 

Ho hum, cross dressers are always fun but please guys...keep that stuff neat if your lady is a sharer  ^_^

 

I have my own apartment at the moment, they could hang their stuff from the light fittings if the mood took them  :lol:

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I managed to get over the embarrassment a few years ago as my taste in kinkier services developed in order to avoid disappointing punts and ensure that I receive the services that I want.

 

I now ask over the phone and confirm at the start of the appointment so that we are both clear what I am looking for.

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Gracie

Call me wierd but after the brass has changed hands then its two people having fun. The girls desires are as important as mine.

So when I ask them, for instance, how they would like to shag, I often get a look of incomprehension.

So it works both ways

Gonna suggest to one of my regs we role play she has paid me amd see how that works.

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I do understand what hou are saying Gracie but the idea of me having planned out exactly what I want and asking for it and then exactly what I requested sounds such a turn off. I don't want to preplan, I would much rather maintain an element of surprise. I do realise though that this sometimes creates a more difficult situation to read for the woman but I am more often than not happy with the end result.

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I always specify what I want either via email if it's an independent girl on AW or over the phone if it's the agency, 'before' booking a meet.  If they can do everything I desire then great!  If they can't, then I book another girl who can!

 

I know if I went ahead with booking a girl and did not confirm all the services I required prior to meeting, I would get a mix of 'yes' and 'no' for my main services during a meet.  My favourite service in particular would be a 'no' most of the time I would say at a guess.

 

I used to think that a girl I wanted to see would do a particular service because she does another 'open minded' service or sometimes when I read a review, I would see she offered the 'specific' service I required to someone else so she would be fine with It.  I found out it doesn't work (at least for me anyway lol) like that!  I had these girls say 'no' to me when I contacted them.  So getting all my wants confirmed 'before' booking works very well for me. 

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Extraordinary I was about to post on this type of topic yesterday.

 

I am reasonably assertive whilst on a booking but I do think that I am too conscious of how the escorting is reacting to me and what I am doing and this acts as a hindrance to me . You see, you can ask an escort to do this or that but if she found it weird or unusual then I couldn't do it or continue to do it. Another poster said that he agrees everything on the phone beforehand ( presumably when his bargaining power is at its height ) as he knows if he waits until he arrives, then much will be denied him. I wouldn't enjoy those services in that scenario, knowing that they are being provided under the sufferance of a prior 'deal'.

 

I'd probably like to 'perve 'more than I do, for example I would like to sit back and enjoy seeing the escort pose or exhibit herself. I'd like her to take up certain positions where I could perform oral on her etc but I'm too embarrassed as I think she will just say yes but think its weird. I remember once I was staying in a swanky West End hotel and in the luxury of the suite , I asked this escort to luxuriate on a queen ann chair and perform WS . Whilst she felt obliged to give it a go and couldn't say NO as she performs this service generally and it was my outcall, she was disgusted that it was not being done in the bathroom. The punt ended reasonably quickly after that.

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I know exactly what Gracie means. 

 

We are not mind readers and also we do not the terrific memories you think we all have either! Maybe some women know exactly what they did with every client but I don't. Nothing more annoying than being asked to do 'what we did last time' when you haven't seen this man in 6 months. It's hard work to keep up the illusion we remember every minute of the last booking when the client so often does! 

 

Part of the issue of a man asking what we like- I know it's really well meaning and sweet, but very hard to answer when you don't know a client *that* well- for example if you ask this and she says I'd love to fuck you with a strap on or piss all over you and you personally find those things horrific then it kinda makes things awkward! Equally as difficult, by not being suggestive or coming up with more kinkier things we then get dismissed as lacking initiative or imagination! 

 

Can't win! 

 

And to be fair, whatever anyone says about despite money changing hands it isn't just about two people having fun- yes it can be, but a lot of the time a (good) escort will be thinking about what he wants, what to do next and so on because we do genuinely want the man to have a good time'/get his moneys' worth and also to come back. 

 

It's far easier if you just TELL US what you want! 

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I prefer to be told what they want aswell, or I'll feel a little stupid in a booking asking what they'd like or doing things in hope they're enjoying it.

I've had some out of the ordinary requests and If I feel uncomfortable doing it I'll say so, if it's something I've never done but want to try I'll mention it.

I think most clients are quite easy going when it comes to a booking but you'll get a few who know exactly what they want there and then and want it done "this way" which seems all a bit mechanical to me, although the I'm happy to work the way a client wants me to within reason! :)

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Sorry I don't drink tea or coffee :)

 

On a more serious side what about those who have basically no experience thus don't know what to ask for?

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what about punters who just want to go with the flow? 

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what about punters who just want to go with the flow?

Then you "go with the flow" that's easy.

Going with the follow is simply GFE most of the time

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I always ask on the initial phone call what thier requests or requirments are if any. Some say, this that or the other, some say lets just go with the flow. That is then what they get. Smiles all round.

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For example if you ask this and she says I'd love to fuck you with a strap on or piss all over you and you personally find those things horrific then it kinda makes things awkward! 

 

That made me laugh, thanks  :)

 

I also have quite a few clients who will admit to something that they want halfway through a booking. It's frustrating as it's our job to provide a service but if we aren't told what sort of service a client wants, we can't provide it.

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I do understand what hou are saying Gracie but the idea of me having planned out exactly what I want and asking for it and then exactly what I requested sounds such a turn off. I don't want to preplan, I would much rather maintain an element of surprise. I do realise though that this sometimes creates a more difficult situation to read for the woman but I am more often than not happy with the end result.

 

I don't think it about pre-planning, more about having certain kinks or secret desires that a client may feel embarrassed by, and take time to admit to. 

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Being new to this world I'm guilty of being reticent about voicing my desires but I am getting better.

 

I see that it's probably better to be upfront and to an extent be in control of the liason, but that does conflict with my desire for an illusion of it not being a paid for experience.

 

I think though, that maybe I will forget about the illusion in the end and just enjoy myself.

 

With a girl I mean. :)

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I'm an experienced WG and I truly like my Client's to have a 'good time' and go away feeling they've enjoyed the visit, fulfilled their  wishes/fantasies and will return. That's the ultimate aim.

 

Unfortunately quite a few Client's feel that WG's are clairvoyants/mind readers. Either they are too shy to let us know what they would like to do or feel we're going to laugh or look down on them. Indeed it took a Client of mine a few visits before he brought along his cross dressing clothes. I kind of felt maybe I was unapproachable but he told me later that his wife had called him all the maggots under the sun when he tentatively broached it with her. He now leaves a suit case at mine with his clothes in for when he visits.

 

 

Cant blame the poor woman. To have your husband ask can he wear women's clothes must be a real shocker.

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I'm an experienced WG and I truly like my Client's to have a 'good time' and go away feeling they've enjoyed the visit, fulfilled their  wishes/fantasies and will return. That's the ultimate aim.

 

Ok , here is my view.

 

Overall, I don't think the lady sees the hour booking necessarily  as frenetic work for that period. The work is more on the social side making sure that there is a pleasantness between the two and then to deliver a few services and leave the client satisfied.

 

Now I often thought that I'd like to have the lady model five different outfits during the booking whereupon I could seeing her figure and enjoy some of the services during each 'presentation'. Now I have the feeling a WG might find that level of effort a pain in the bum. Would I be right ?

 

p.s - I would like everyone's take on this question.

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Ok , here is my view.

 

Overall, I don't think the lady sees the hour booking necessarily  as frenetic work for that period. The work is more on the social side making sure that there is a pleasantness between the two and then to deliver a few services and leave the client satisfied.

 

Now I often thought that I'd like to have the lady model five different outfits during the booking whereupon I could seeing her figure and enjoy some of the services during each 'presentation'. Now I have the feeling a WG might find that level of effort a pain in the bum. Would I be right ?

 

p.s - I would like everyone's take on this question.

 

Honestly, I'd be cautious about a man requesting this on the basis that it's exactly the kind of thing a timewaster/pisstaker would ask for and then not show up. However, if the client was a known customer or approached it in the right way (and with a bit of notice) then it might make for quite a fun booking actually!

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Ok , here is my view.

 

Overall, I don't think the lady sees the hour booking necessarily  as frenetic work for that period. The work is more on the social side making sure that there is a pleasantness between the two and then to deliver a few services and leave the client satisfied.

 

Now I often thought that I'd like to have the lady model five different outfits during the booking whereupon I could seeing her figure and enjoy some of the services during each 'presentation'. Now I have the feeling a WG might find that level of effort a pain in the bum. Would I be right ?

 

p.s - I would like everyone's take on this question.

Some men do like this, I don't, same as I feel daft when someone tells me to 'do a little dance for me'. Most of my clients want to see me for the service I provide, straight-forward GFE, some may have dress preferences, and I get to know regular preferences. Most clients leave it to me because they know I have a lot of very nice lingerie, dresses, skirts/whatever. Some might like bare-legs instead of stockings all no problem at all.

 

I don't feel right being dressed and redressed, it feels really false and the client telling me this at point of enquiry would get an honest response.

 

Five outfits would also make quite a bit of clearing up and rehanging afterwards.

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...mind reading....always an interesting topic....of course no WG is literally a mind reader but then again neither is a punter....there is an assumption that the process of revealing what is on one's mind is weighted on the punter's shoulders but I find that often its a two way street - the lady might not be a mind reader but I find ladies who are empathetic, sympathetic and intuitive often can draw this out and even help the punter express themselves.

 

I mean some things are hard to express and sex and our desires is definitely up there under the category of 'quite how to I say this' or ask for this.

 

It isn't a cold forensic process - and some ladies are better at mind reading than others - to be honest, I walk away from some punts thinking that lady completely read my mind -  which makes me think contrary to popular opinion some are indeed mind readers! :)

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Honestly, I'd be cautious about a man requesting this on the basis that it's exactly the kind of thing a timewaster/pisstaker would ask for and then not show up. However, if the client was a known customer or approached it in the right way (and with a bit of notice) then it might make for quite a fun booking actually!

 

What about if he is a new customer but his requests on come after he has handed over the hour fee ? 

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Some men do like this, I don't, same as I feel daft when someone tells me to 'do a little dance for me'. Most of my clients want to see me for the service I provide, straight-forward GFE, some may have dress preferences, and I get to know regular preferences. Most clients leave it to me because they know I have a lot of very nice lingerie, dresses, skirts/whatever. Some might like bare-legs instead of stockings all no problem at all.

 

I don't feel right being dressed and redressed, it feels really false and the client telling me this at point of enquiry would get an honest response.

 

Five outfits would also make quite a bit of clearing up and rehanging afterwards.

 

 

Yes, and my guess is this would be the majority view.

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What about if he is a new customer but his requests on come after he has handed over the hour fee ? 

That's a lot to fit into the hour, he's going to be wasting a lot of time with the changes, and many ladies might not have five different outfits with them.

 

Is the customer going to accept that asking this at the last minute may not be able to be met?

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