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Okay

 

I have this guy who has been trying to get a booking with me. He can only come late after I have finished or very early before its possible for me to get to my working apartment

 

I have told him that I can do a late booking at the weekend or an early also at the weekend if he books in advance.

 

This weekend i am not working as i have personal stuff to deal with so I get a text from him asking if Im working. I very politely explain that I am not working this weekend. He then huffs at me that Im always busy, not so, so I politely explain to him why I am not working this weekend.

 

I then get huffy text saying "BYE" to which I respond "bye" then I get "timewaster"

 

I considered ingoring him but felt possibly he may need a dose of reality so I explained to him that I have a life and that other guys manage to get to see me so Im not a timewaster. I also banned him

 

Now my phone is texting off the hood with ridiculous "I'm going to fuck your twat" texts etc

 

This is from a guy who apparently wanted to meet me. He has now ensured that as far as is physically possible for me I will NEVER take a booking from him

 

So...why do some guys get twatty and rude to women that they actually want to meet one day? Do they not understand that their bad attitude will ensure they never do meet us or do they simply not have the foresight to understand this???

 

If I wanted to meet someone for some reason the last thing I would do is to be rude and insulting to them..its a bit of a self defeat surely

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Oh Chloe. that is simply disgraceful. The bloke in question must be an ignorant pig & I think that you should thank your lucky stars that you couldn't fit him in. I assume that he is now on your "no.no list"!!

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I don't think you even need to explain anything to him.

 

You are either working or you are not.

 

I decided a while back that if anyone said I was 'always busy' I would say "Yes I am".

 

For some reason it can be easy to be sucked into feeling bad because someone can't make a booking, and I'm not sure why - perhaps it's because as a sole provider it can feel as if you are at the sharp end.

 

I remember a couple of men I couldn't see due to being already booked telling me I must be a fake.

 

Oh ok.

 

Block and ignore really doesn't take away the harshness of words already said.

 

There are text blockers available in which you can save the messages for perusal at a later date. <_<

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What a twit. Some morons are of the mentality that we never turn down money, and they feel they re entitled to see us when it suits them, and they can't get their heads around that we do actually at times turn down money in favour of other things. There was one who was trying to meet me for a while, but I was never available when he wanted, and in the end he threw a strop saying "you're clearly all about the money and not cut out to be an escort" along with a load of abuse :confused: Sounds like you dodged a bullet with that prick. Makes me appreciate all the lovely gents even more when those sorts emerge.

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"Your loss" is also another good one.

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From reading your posts on here you sound like a nice person Chloe as do many other wg's on here. As Strawberry says it's his loss and if that's his usual attitude then he won't, hopefully, have much success in getting quality punts. I know you can block calls but I didn't realise you could block texts/save them to look at later. Learn something every day.

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From reading your posts on here you sound like a nice person Chloe as do many other wg's on here. As Strawberry says it's his loss and if that's his usual attitude then he won't, hopefully, have much success in getting quality punts. I know you can block calls but I didn't realise you could block texts/save them to look at later. Learn something every day.

I didn't say it was his loss.

 

I did quote a common text received after informing potential clients who have a particular approach, that you cannot accommodate their request for a booking.

 

It may often be accompanied by promises of performance prowess, good looks and offers of buckets champagne in an expensive hotel along with mention of the extra cash he was going to bung your way.

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Unfortunately once in a while an undesirable comes along via text or a phone call.  If I feel something is not quite right about the person I politely refuse or make an excuse not to see them  .....

 

Those who will not take no for an answer are like a dog with a bone sometimes..... and want the last word.

 

"you have just turned down the best sex you will ever get"  or similar is a nice farewell gesture from these guys.............

 

poor me..............   :unsure:

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At least you found out what he's like before you met! Sounds like he did you a favour...

No idea why anyone gets in such a state over a punt. I've been trying to arrange something with a wg i've not seen before but her working hours never seem to coincide with when I'm free to punt. Thought I had a chance a couple of weeks ago when 'available today' showed up on her profile and I was nearby. Until I discovered she was only available in the evening not the daytime so it didn't happen.

No biggie - our paths will cross one day, no point in getting into a dispute about it and spoiling a future opportunity.

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Sorry Strawberry I misunderstood. I do know, from what other wg's have told me in the past, about the unpleasant texts that some moronic punters have sent. It must hurt not least because you don't know when the next time will be and you've done nothing to cause it. Does he ring his local garage at short motice for a service and then send them unpleasant messages when they say they are already booked? I think not.

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Your prospective client was a dick head.  We can't just expect you escorts to drop every thing at the spur of the moment.  If you are going to have sex with someone why are you going to be rude?  I am only rude to civil servants!!! <_<     

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Guys like that piss me off, they want to call the shots and have you when it suits them.

I had one today texted me wanting a booking there and then to which I wasn't free and so he called me a timewasting ho lol! I told him have a nice day and have received about 23 messages of threats ranging from "Your personal information is easy to find" "See you sooner than you think" "If you met me you'd piss your pants naive ho" "sleep with one eye open ho"

And there's more, it's actually hilarious how they think sending a threat will suddleney make them desirable and we will meet them or something! It's sickens me that men like this are so happy to dish out such threats to women who refuse to see them, makes me think what they would be like in a club if a girl refused to give them her number.

I think it's because they're behind a "punting phone" they think they can say what they want and get away with it, joke is few months later they are usually back apologising or trying to call for a booking.

Men like that don't even deserve a reply, should simply be blocked and blacklisted! If their attitude is so appalling before you've even met imagine how it would be in person! Awful

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one wanted to do it but not negotiate

one wanted to negotiate but not do it..............................

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I then get huffy text saying "BYE" to which I respond "bye" then I get "timewaster"

 

I considered ingoring him but felt possibly he may need a dose of reality so I explained to him that I have a life and that other guys manage to get to see me so Im not a timewaster. I also banned him

 

You should have ignored him.  I wouldn't have replied to his "BYE" either.

 

A proverb from my native country says "Washing the head of a donkey will make you waste all the time, the water and the soap".

 

Next time, please don't give leeway to stupid people.  And you can never tell what stupid acts a stupid person could be capable of.

 

Take care.

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Makes me wonder when huffy and rude becomes rude and threatening :

 

there's plenty of this kind of mysogynistic crap on the ukp site, which is one of the reasons I prefer to contribute here.

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Okay

 

I have this guy who has been trying to get a booking with me. He can only come late after I have finished or very early before its possible for me to get to my working apartment

 

I have told him that I can do a late booking at the weekend or an early also at the weekend if he books in advance.

 

This weekend i am not working as i have personal stuff to deal with so I get a text from him asking if Im working. I very politely explain that I am not working this weekend. He then huffs at me that Im always busy, not so, so I politely explain to him why I am not working this weekend.

 

I then get huffy text saying "BYE" to which I respond "bye" then I get "timewaster"

 

I considered ingoring him but felt possibly he may need a dose of reality so I explained to him that I have a life and that other guys manage to get to see me so Im not a timewaster. I also banned him

 

Now my phone is texting off the hood with ridiculous "I'm going to fuck your twat" texts etc

 

This is from a guy who apparently wanted to meet me. He has now ensured that as far as is physically possible for me I will NEVER take a booking from him

 

So...why do some guys get twatty and rude to women that they actually want to meet one day? Do they not understand that their bad attitude will ensure they never do meet us or do they simply not have the foresight to understand this???

 

If I wanted to meet someone for some reason the last thing I would do is to be rude and insulting to them..its a bit of a self defeat surely

 

 

Now, don't eat the face off me, I am merely trying to answer the question you pose.

 

Escorts can be very off-hand in the way they communicate in text/email. Very often, its not what you say but how you say something that can wrankle with the caller.Could it be that your replies were a tad cryptic and over businesslike ?

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Now, don't eat the face off me, I am merely trying to answer the question you pose.

 

Escorts can be very off-hand in the way they communicate in text/email. Very often, its not what you say but how you say something that can wrankle with the caller.Could it be that your replies were a tad cryptic and over businesslike ?

AAAAh  so all this time I have been receiving emails and text messages despite asking for a call............... and have replied

 

"fone me or fuck off"

 

I have been misinterpreted then.....................

 

must mend my ways............   :D

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Now, don't eat the face off me, I am merely trying to answer the question you pose.

Escorts can be very off-hand in the way they communicate in text/email. Very often, its not what you say but how you say something that can wrankle with the caller.Could it be that your replies were a tad cryptic and over businesslike ?

Cryptic or businesslike texts shouldn't make someone become rude and slightly abusive.

It IS a business so there shouldn't be anything wrong with a businesslike text back unless he wants more than what's she's offering in her business....

I give very polite replies, even to the tw*ts and you know what's funny? The more polite you are to them the more abusive they seem to get. So that's not the issue.

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I dont really see how you can go wrong with "sorry I'm not working today x"  and "sorry but Im moving house this weekend so not available but back on monday x" hardly cryptic or overly business like, I could have just said "no" and been done with it.

Last time I did that a guy told me he didn't mind coming around if I was surrounded by packing boxes and was in my scruff. I find a simple "not working today, I am working on x day/call me in the future" leaves less opportunity for persuasion attempts.

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There is an interesting point in this thread. I know when I visit a wg that I am going to have a sexual experience but I always go in thinking that the money I pay gets me into a private room with a scantily clad girl. Whatever happens beyond that is a function of how good and at ease the participants feel. I think the best sex happens when you are feeling comfortable and secure. I therefore am very uncomfortable with how adversarial people can be. One doesn't achieve much by being huffy or pushy.

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This post isn't directed towards any of our estimable posters but the thread did bring this old chestnut back to my mind.  :) 

 

 

"You think you're hot shit or so I've heard

"But you ain't nothing but a cold turd"

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Escorts can be very off-hand in the way they communicate in text/email. Very often, its not what you say but how you say something ?

Slightly away from the original point but valid although not in many cases as regards myself. Only on a handful of occasions can I say that the way an escort has spoken to me prior to the punt or in an e-mail has been inappropriate.

My first couple of punts were a disaster and when I rang to arrange my third punt I waffled and got my words the wrong way round and it wasn't surprising that she initially thought I was a timewaster. Anyway we did manage to arrange a time and date and it turned out to be one of the best two hours I ever spent. I learned a lot about punting from her and I returned to see her several times. But misunderstanding for whatever reason is entirely different from reacting in an abusive manner.

If I had taken offence to her words and attitude or she to mine then I would have missed out on something really good. Incidentally (although I won't name her) she is a regular contributor to Pnet.

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What a twit. Some morons are of the mentality that we never turn down money, and they feel they re entitled to see us when it suits them, and they can't get their heads around that we do actually at times turn down money in favour of other things. There was one who was trying to meet me for a while, but I was never available when he wanted, and in the end he threw a strop saying "you're clearly all about the money and not cut out to be an escort" along with a load of abuse :confused: Sounds like you dodged a bullet with that prick. Makes me appreciate all the lovely gents even more when those sorts emerge.

Their seems to be a great feeling of entitlement attatched to this business at times.Because someone parting with a few quid then the wg should make herself available whenever and for whatever.When that isnt the case they take it very personally.If you say,call a plumber and he's busy,you don't spit the dummy like this or demand he drop everything to get to you.You see when he's available and book him in or call someone else.

Strangely it seems that those who harp on the most about this being purely business/financial seem to be those who take things like being unavailable personally.

 

Cryptic or businesslike texts shouldn't make someone become rude and slightly abusive.

It IS a business so there shouldn't be anything wrong with a businesslike text back unless he wants more than what's she's offering in her business....

I give very polite replies, even to the tw*ts and you know what's funny? The more polite you are to them the more abusive they seem to get. So that's not the issue.

Exactly this.Makes you wonder if theyd think it was ok if someone called a resteraunt to make a booking and on being told they were closed started to shout abuse down the phone for not being open when they wanted them to be.

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"Strangely it seems that those who harp on the most about this being purely business/financial seem to be those who take things like being unavailable personally."  Spot on ... and lo and behold they are also the ones who go on about any guy being 'fluffy', the moment one says that one likes a girl for more than just the sex. I personally don't like their attitude, I think it's really disrespectful (not to mention stupid, because you're bound to have a better time if you get on well together).

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Their seems to be a great feeling of entitlement attatched to this business at times.Because someone parting with a few quid then the wg should make herself available whenever and for whatever.When that isnt the case they take it very personally.If you say,call a plumber and he's busy,you don't spit the dummy like this or demand he drop everything to get to you.You see when he's available and book him in or call someone else.

Strangely it seems that those who harp on the most about this being purely business/financial seem to be those who take things like being unavailable personally.

 

Exactly this.Makes you wonder if theyd think it was ok if someone called a resteraunt to make a booking and on being told they were closed started to shout abuse down the phone for not being open when they wanted them to be.

I have wondered this sometimes.

 

Having worked on the sharp end of a public service sometimes people do get very angry, even when they are traceable, and could be liable to lose an essential service if they become abusive.

 

Since becoming self-employed I have become much more aware of manners towards other people who are not just businesses, they are people too.

 

I have however found it really interesting to observe some really rude behaviour to then find out the client are themselves self-employed in their own business. Until that point I had assumed that other self-employed would also have had that same revelation, but no. It's even more interesting when I see them complain about the behaviour of other businesses towards them. I've even seen it on social media, gobsmacking!

 

So I think some people are just rude.

 

In the sex services my opinion is that because of a perception that it is not legal, that the people in it probably won't have any redress, stigma, prejudice, and some men not understanding how many ladies operate (including not seeing us as individuals and only as a commodity), then yes it is likely that there is a higher experience of sheer rudity.

 

I have sometimes politely answered emails, texts and phone calls on days when I'm not working to then get moans (and surprise) that I cannot see the person. If I was contacting anyone else at short notice I'd not whinge and moan, or even at notice and they told me they weren't working, I'd accept that they were not working.

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