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Relationships between an escort and partner...can they work

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I am sure this subject has been covered before on this website, but as I am new on here I thought I would raise the question.

I have recently met a working lady and we have after several meeting as appointment and scocially

realised that we are both very much in love with each other. It has been spoken about at great length how we should proceed. For the lady it is not possible to stop working as a escort owing to financial comitments and though I too work I do not earn enough to keep us both going.

Are there other members of this forum who do have relationships, marraige or as partners, and if so what is the trick to keeping it together. I am thinking of the whole scenario of wife/girlfriend escorting while boyfriend/husband goes to work. Can this style of relationship last and is it healthy. I do need some positve advice as I am very mixed up over this.

Does love conquer all.

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Hi I've been escorting for 4 and half years. I've been with my partner many more years than that.

When I first started in this industry we had various teething troubles - I didn't know what to say and not to say and it was kind of the same for him.

We have had a great relationship in spite of the job I do and a lot of the time because of it. We are now much more liberated sexually and have experimented far more than we would have done.

As it is my relationship is floundering after 23 years but this is in no way due to my occupation.

Go for it, take time to talk to one another about how you feel - find ways to make it work for you x

Holly

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Yes,

But like most relationships you start, there is a high chance they will fail.

How many people end up with their 1st love? If you are to start a relationship tomorrow with a girl you met in pub/work, it too will probably fail. Doesn't mean you don't have fun along the way.

There are extra difficulties (possible jealousy you know about each others past), there are benefits (probably that you both like sex for instance, the girl can probably give a good bj, and that you know about each others past, the punter/wg, may in other relationships keep this secret)

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Couldn't have put it better myself Cantona.

The guy I'm "floundering" with is in fact my first love - we had an 8 year break and got back together. After a pretty blissful 10 years I felt nothing could break us up. Sadly I could be wrong but as you have said have some fun along the way.

It's hard in this day and age not to over analyse things - everyone's a psychologist aren't they!! Sometimes it's best to take each day as it comes and try your hardest to enjoy as much of life, love and lust as you possibly can.

xxx

Holly

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Does love conquer all.

that is the question you are going to have to ask & answer yourself Mr Willows. I'm of the view that in the situation as you outline it, its your mental and emotional stability that will be under assault, you are going to have to detach from what goes on in your proposed partners life, not an easy trick.

I'm a romantic, I believe in chance meetings, i believe in love at first sight, eyes meeting across a crowded room, so I wish you & your love well.

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On a very basic level I think as long as you are aware and recognise that there is a difference between love and sex then I don't really see that there should be any problems. Especially if you were aware of your partner's choice of job before you fell in love with her. Just keep your feet on the ground and never let the line get blurred & the old green monster get a foot in the door and you'll be fine.

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Sometimes it's best to take each day as it comes and try your hardest to enjoy as much of life, love and lust as you possibly can.

xxx

Holly

Thats why we all love being part of this forum, and you of course Holly.

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I'm a romantic, I believe in chance meetings, i believe in love at first sight, eyes meeting across a crowded room, so I wish you & your love well.

So do I.

If your love is being reciprocated WiW, then I wish you both every happiness.

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It seems like I'm the only one here who thinks this wouldn't work at all. I always found this to be intriguing. I've been thinking about situation quite often. Tried to imagined several scenarios and it never worked out for me. The whole idea of having a girlfriend being shaged by diversity of male population, does not feel appealing to me. This no fine ... huh

Even if she would give up prostituting it doesn't really solve anything. In my opinion it just doesn't add up. Besides there are plenty of honest women around. For me punting is just for fun and not for love. Pretty sure when I find the right one, I will retire from punting ... well probably Never say never right ...

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I am sure this subject has been covered before on this website, but as I am new on here I thought I would raise the question.

I have recently met a working lady and we have after several meeting as appointment and scocially

realised that we are both very much in love with each other. It has been spoken about at great length how we should proceed. For the lady it is not possible to stop working as a escort owing to financial comitments and though I too work I do not earn enough to keep us both going.

Are there other members of this forum who do have relationships, marraige or as partners, and if so what is the trick to keeping it together. I am thinking of the whole scenario of wife/girlfriend escorting while boyfriend/husband goes to work. Can this style of relationship last and is it healthy. I do need some positve advice as I am very mixed up over this.

Does love conquer all.

IMO love can conquer all and this scenario has worked before as i know from other forum members.

Ultimately you have to decide can you live with the thought of your partner shagging other guys, in this case for money. I wish you luck.

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I am sure this subject has been covered before on this website, but as I am new on here I thought I would raise the question.

I have recently met a working lady and we have after several meeting as appointment and scocially

realised that we are both very much in love with each other. It has been spoken about at great length how we should proceed. For the lady it is not possible to stop working as a escort owing to financial comitments and though I too work I do not earn enough to keep us both going.

Are there other members of this forum who do have relationships, marraige or as partners, and if so what is the trick to keeping it together. I am thinking of the whole scenario of wife/girlfriend escorting while boyfriend/husband goes to work. Can this style of relationship last and is it healthy. I do need some positve advice as I am very mixed up over this.

Does love conquer all.

This has to be another wind-up right? No? Okay then, here's my take on one aspect of it.

You must also think about your circle of friends, family and colleagues and the way they will deal with it. If they are all okay with it then fine. But I'm sure will agree that they will all have to be very understanding and accepting of you both or this could put a strain on your relationship. If most of them are from within this industry, then it should be okay but you say that you will continue with your normal job so probably not so easy. Alternatively, you will need to be secretive and this could present its own problems.

As long as you both fully understand the implications and agree on how you will proceed, I think it could work but it won't be without difficulties. Good luck anyway.

One more thing though. Consider this; what if all of the sudden you could support her. Would you expect her to stop her work and what would you do if she would not?

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It seems like I'm the only one here who thinks this wouldn't work at all. I always found this to be intriguing. I've been thinking about situation quite often. Tried to imagined several scenarios and it never worked out for me. The whole idea of having a girlfriend being shaged by diversity of male population, does not feel appealing to me. This no fine ... huh

Even if she would give up prostituting it doesn't really solve anything. In my opinion it just doesn't add up. Besides there are plenty of honest women around. For me punting is just for fun and not for love. Pretty sure when I find the right one, I will retire from punting ... well probably Never say never right ...

I dont understand your comment; "Besides there are plenty of honest women around". Can you clarify what you mean by that?:D

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..... Besides there are plenty of honest women around. ...

Which makes escorts and WGs what, exactly?

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Thank you for your forthright and honest replys to my post. I guess I am asking if a couple can have a good loving life together even though the female of the couple does have sex with other men. I suppose only I will know if I could cope with the scenario. I obviosly knew what she did for a living when we met but things just moved on at huge pace over a few months that before we knew where we were we found ourselves completly in love. I do find that I can put to one side the thought of her having sex with other men, and as she says it is me that she makes love to and me that she misses whn we are apart. So I suppose I can only give it a try at complete comitment and see what happens

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Even if she would give up prostituting it doesn't really solve anything. In my opinion it just doesn't add up. Besides there are plenty of honest women around.

You might want to get ready to explain this remark, Mr Bird , as the ladies will be along shortly, i have no doubt !

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I don't need to explain this remark you know exactly what I mean ...

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I don't need to explain this remark you know exactly what I mean ...

If i knew exactly what you meant i wouldnt of asked for you to clarify it. I suspect what you mean but would like to hear your explanation first.

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Bird,i find your comment regarding "honest women" rather ridiculous. I doubt very much if you are a very honest man and therefor unfit for the normal population of women.Lets face it,dont even try to tell us on here that every time you tag yourself a new girlfriend you give her the full breakdown of your sexual history ie;you visit prostitutes,quite probably because you think she may run a mile and then you will be back to square one! She may feel its something that she has the right to know.I know none of the guys on here would tell their wives and girlfriends,that at the end of the day is their choice,but they are not coming on here and calling the ladies who they enjoy visiting "dishonest".

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Well by honest obviously I meant a woman who isn't a prostitute I thought this might be obvious. Plus there is an old saying never fell in love with prostitute. There's always wisdom in old sayings, otherwise they wouldn't last this long.

Some of there girl I know are into this business because they like sex and money. Imagine you are with your so called girlfriend, I just don't see the way how could I ever trust woman like this. Who can guarantee me she won't screw a first stud that comes by. You will say there are women who are not prostitutes and are having different guys every day. Even worse, these are the exactly the kind of girls I avoid and it has served good so far.

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This has to be another wind-up right? No? Okay then, here's my take on one aspect of it.

You must also think about your circle of friends, family and colleagues and the way they will deal with it. If they are all okay with it then fine. But I'm sure will agree that they will all have to be very understanding and accepting of you both or this could put a strain on your relationship. If most of them are from within this industry, then it should be okay but you say that you will continue with your normal job so probably not so easy. Alternatively, you will need to be secretive and this could present its own problems.

As long as you both fully understand the implications and agree on how you will proceed, I think it could work but it won't be without difficulties. Good luck anyway.

One more thing though. Consider this; what if all of the sudden you could support her. Would you expect her to stop her work and what would you do if she would not?

Both my lady friends circle off friends and family and mine have no clue as her real job. we hardly talk of her work. we just do things that evry day people do when they go out on dates etc. I suppose this isa help in that regard. I would not want to change her, I have fallen for her as a person not for her day job. I earn a decent salary and between us we could bef fairly comftorble. I know that she will not be an scort forever, so time is my side eventually.

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It seems like I'm the only one here who thinks this wouldn't work at all. I always found this to be intriguing. I've been thinking about situation quite often. Tried to imagined several scenarios and it never worked out for me. The whole idea of having a girlfriend being shaged by diversity of male population, does not feel appealing to me. This no fine ... huh

Even if she would give up prostituting it doesn't really solve anything. In my opinion it just doesn't add up. Besides there are plenty of honest women around. For me punting is just for fun and not for love. Pretty sure when I find the right one, I will retire from punting ... well probably Never say never right ...

well Bird you may not be on your own. I must say, that I would have some very serious thinking to do if I wanted a longterm relationship with a WG. but thats probably as a result of my own selfish and perhaps possessive views , I might not have the strenght to carry it thru' but you never know until you have been in the situation. some of the lady posters here have and I think the majority of them would say it doesnt work.

However, like some others I would like you to clarify how you view the honesty or otherwise of the WG. personally, thru punting I have not been able to detect any difference in honesty between WGS and non-WGS.

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Well by honest obviously I meant a woman who isn't a prostitute I thought this might be obvious. Plus there is an old saying never fell in love with prostitute. There's always wisdom in old sayings, otherwise they wouldn't last this long.

Some of there girl I know are into this business because they like sex and money. Imagine you are with your so called girlfriend, I just don't see the way how could I ever trust woman like this. Who can guarantee me she won't screw a first stud that comes by. You will say there are women who are not prostitutes and are having different guys every day. Even worse, these are the exactly the kind of girls I avoid and it has served good so far.

So to you all WGs are dishonest automatically because they are WGs, this is not the case in my experience of shagging WGs for 25 years, i have had non WG partners who were more dishonest. I look at the individual personally and take them on their merits rather than condemn one sector of people as all being dishonest because they are WGs.

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Well by honest obviously I meant a woman who isn't a prostitute I thought this might be obvious. Plus there is an old saying never fell in love with prostitute. There's always wisdom in old sayings, otherwise they wouldn't last this long.

Some of there girl I know are into this business because they like sex and money. Imagine you are with your so called girlfriend, I just don't see the way how could I ever trust woman like this. Who can guarantee me she won't screw a first stud that comes by. You will say there are women who are not prostitutes and are having different guys every day. Even worse, these are the exactly the kind of girls I avoid and it has served good so far.

So we may take it you consider yourself an honest man? By which you mean you visit WGs but you don't tell these other paragons of virtue you also go out with and presumably shag. Glad we've got that clear :D

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Ja Ja I figured you might. I'm here to make a statement, I was expecting a full frontal atack like this and I'm not moved not a bit. Most of the guys will not what I'm talking about. If you fell debating about it go ahead. Let me just remind you that majority of working girls have exactly the same rule as I do ... Don't get involved with a client.

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Eh, bird,

There is something refreshingly Honest about prostitutes.

It is a "deal", an agreement. (cue remark from JRC?)

To me, the deal includes "not to intrude into one anothers life"

That is why a some of the really good Ladies on here have my utmost respect.

And to the OP:

It can work, but do realize that it will not be easy.

go very slowly, and be prepared to be hit on the nose.

by her, or by others.

but I will not stop you from trying. nothing risked, nothing gained.

Hell, I know some of the Women I met via this biz would make very good partners. But life, society, or human nature may interfere, so be careful.

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