Lucie

Why I Don't Like Clients Asking 'what Do You Like?' Or 'what Turns You On'?

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This might have been touched upon in another topic, but this is something that really bothers me so I'll try to explain it as best I can.

 

I know that when a client says this, it's well intentioned because my enjoyment is important to them. But my honest reaction would be 'well, not sex with you!' There are lots of things that I like to do in the bedroom and lots of fantasies I have, but clients need to understand that this is personal to me and is something I explore in my private life. It's not my job to get sexual satisfaction out of my bookings. Having sexual desires, preferences and fantasies doesn't mean you want to do them with just anyone, and a client really is just some bloke off the street.

 

That's not to say I don't enjoy some of the sex I have at work - I do. But it's unusual. If anything, I just enjoy the experience, and I enjoy giving a client what they desire. It really does give me satisfaction when I know a client has enjoyed himself.

 

Plus, as I think someone else mentioned, it really puts us on the spot. How are we supposed to answer? If I say 'I love to be eaten out', will they think that's selfish? If I say, 'I just love to suck cock' will they think I'm boring? If I say 'I love to be pissed on and called a filthy slut' will they be freaked out? It's something that's so difficult to gauge with a stranger.

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It's not something I ask - not because I don't want the lady to have fun, but simply because even if she gave step by step instructions along with a Powerpoint presentation I'd still be unlikely to succeed. So what's the point?? :wacko:

But yeah "not having sex with you" is unlikely to go down well!

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This might have been touched upon in another topic, but this is something that really bothers me so I'll try to explain it as best I can.

 

I know that when a client says this, it's well intentioned because my enjoyment is important to them. But my honest reaction would be 'well, not sex with you!' There are lots of things that I like to do in the bedroom and lots of fantasies I have, but clients need to understand that this is personal to me and is something I explore in my private life. It's not my job to get sexual satisfaction out of my bookings. Having sexual desires, preferences and fantasies doesn't mean you want to do them with just anyone, and a client really is just some bloke off the street.

 

That's not to say I don't enjoy some of the sex I have at work - I do. But it's unusual. If anything, I just enjoy the experience, and I enjoy giving a client what they desire. It really does give me satisfaction when I know a client has enjoyed himself.

 

Plus, as I think someone else mentioned, it really puts us on the spot. How are we supposed to answer? If I say 'I love to be eaten out', will they think that's selfish? If I say, 'I just love to suck cock' will they think I'm boring? If I say 'I love to be pissed on and called a filthy slut' will they be freaked out? It's something that's so difficult to gauge with a stranger.

Well one of my regs has agreed to pretend she has paid me for a session.  Now that could be interesting!

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And how much are you charging Coventrypunter?

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Personally for me the best bookings have involved open communication and improvisation. If a particular position or technique doesn't work for the lady I'd be happy for her to say so and then we try something else, because I'm all about economy of effort ;)

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Well one of my regs has agreed to pretend she has paid me for a session.  Now that could be interesting!

Yep, I've tried the role reversal thing. It's fun!

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Personally for me the best bookings have involved open communication and improvisation. If a particular position or technique doesn't work for the lady I'd be happy for her to say so and then we try something else, because I'm all about economy of effort ;)

Definitely, and I guess this rule applies to sex in general.

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And how much are you charging Coventrypunter?

If it was me then I would want at least a fictitious tenner an hour otherwise my heart wouldn't be in it.

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Trying to remember, but I don't think I've even inadvertently asked this question. Your views are a good reality check Lucie.

 

I get this service by looking in on the Saafe forum and reading girls views on us pathetic punters.

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I tell clients who ask quite honestly. I can't worry about whether they like what they hear or not. If I'm lucky, we have similar interests, yay!

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I don't honestly think that any punters really want to know your innermost, deepest and most private personal fantasy or turn-on.

 

It's not something to be bothered by. They're just trying to enhance their own experience, and hopefully get you to be as responsive to them as possible.

 

If you say "oh I love it when I have my pussy eaten", it doesn't even have to be true. The bloke can get down to business and then go away with a smile on his face believing he gave you a special oral treat. Oh, and blokes will love your first two suggested comments. They're not bothered if you're sexually 'selfish' or not, and a girl who will suck their cock is definitely not boring.

 

The third may freak them out.

 

Plus, as I think someone else mentioned, it really puts us on the spot. How are we supposed to answer? If I say 'I love to be eaten out', will they think that's selfish? If I say, 'I just love to suck cock' will they think I'm boring? If I say 'I love to be pissed on and called a filthy slut' will they be freaked out? It's something that's so difficult to gauge with a stranger.

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In fact, on second thought

 

 If I say 'I love to be pissed on and called a filthy slut' will they be freaked out? It's something that's so difficult to gauge with a stranger.

 

were you being serious with that last comment, or was it tongue-in-cheek? Either you're not for real and that was a little dig at us here on this forum, or perhaps that's just your sense of humour.

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Most of the time I just draw a blank because most of the time nothing is going to turn me on in that situation. But also part of my job is having good intuition so I can usually figure out some way for it to seem natural. I do understand that it's a fantasy sort of experience and my (apparent) enjoyment is what gives them their enjoyment, and so it's part of my service.

 

In fact, on second thought

 

 

were you being serious with that last comment, or was it tongue-in-cheek? Either you're not for real and that was a little dig at us here on this forum, or perhaps that's just your sense of humour.

 

I'm messin. But being dominated like that is one of those things that I really really like but I would never feel comfortable doing with a client, or at least a client I know well enough.

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It's not something I ask - not because I don't want the lady to have fun, but simply because even if she gave step by step instructions along with a Powerpoint presentation I'd still be unlikely to succeed. So what's the point?? :wacko:

But yeah "not having sex with you" is unlikely to go down well!

 

:unsure:   do they just plug into a normal wall socket in the bedroom then?  I have never used one yet but hey................  

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I've been pursuing this 'hobby' or whatever it is, for over 25 years now and one thing I've learnt is to try to keep it separate from my personal and emotional life. I've learnt this my making mistakes, not because I knew it already. If I think an escort likes me and there might be something in this, I'm heading for a fall. If I start to have some kind of relationship, emotional attachment and then think the sex will be like it is during a booking, I'm heading for a fall. If I'm in an outside relationship and start to think the sex will be like it is with an escort, I'm heading for a fall. I have 'fallen' quite a few times!! So, I keep them separate now or try to, anyway, but there's no avoiding nature. Sex has an emotional element to it, whether we like it or not, whether we think so or not. Asking an escort what she likes is one of the first signs that I want to have an emotional attachment. Maybe she will enjoy something, but that's a by-product, not the purpose of her being there. It's more useful to ask her what she doesn't like and keep in mind that it's business, for her, anyway.

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I tell clients who ask quite honestly. I can't worry about whether they like what they hear or not. If I'm lucky, we have similar interests, yay!

Same here. It soon whittles the men from the boys. The ones who are honestly interested in me enjoying myself do it, those who were just asking in the hope of hearing me say it to turn THEM on dont do it..it also really doesnt turn them on as to those guys my answer is fairly boring. It is quite amusing seeing their faces sometimes, the ones who have to grapple with "how boring, can I really be bothered" when they know there is no sexual satisfaction in it for them lol

 

I just love my legs being kissed and nibbled, and my bum cheeks and back. Nothing vastly erotic there for a guy who isnt interested in my pleasure.  ^_^

 

Ive come to the conclusion that when SOME guys ask all they really want IS the fake bog standard wg answer of "OOOO I love to suck cock" or "oooo I love to be fucked with you huge cock" or "ooooooo it really turns me on to teabag your hairy balls"   <_<

 

Super kudos to the guys who DO do it or at least have a go, at least they are putting their mouth where their mouth is and doing their best to make me as happy as I am trying to make them. Bless those guys, I love them just for having a go although they usually do hit the spot pretty well . :D

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This might have been touched upon in another topic, but this is something that really bothers me so I'll try to explain it as best I can.

 

I know that when a client says this, it's well intentioned because my enjoyment is important to them. But my honest reaction would be 'well, not sex with you!' There are lots of things that I like to do in the bedroom and lots of fantasies I have, but clients need to understand that this is personal to me and is something I explore in my private life. It's not my job to get sexual satisfaction out of my bookings. Having sexual desires, preferences and fantasies doesn't mean you want to do them with just anyone, and a client really is just some bloke off the street.

 

That's not to say I don't enjoy some of the sex I have at work - I do. But it's unusual. If anything, I just enjoy the experience, and I enjoy giving a client what they desire. It really does give me satisfaction when I know a client has enjoyed himself.

 

Plus, as I think someone else mentioned, it really puts us on the spot. How are we supposed to answer? If I say 'I love to be eaten out', will they think that's selfish? If I say, 'I just love to suck cock' will they think I'm boring? If I say 'I love to be pissed on and called a filthy slut' will they be freaked out? It's something that's so difficult to gauge with a stranger.

 

 

That's fair enough, but what if we put a slight twist on this...

 

Suppose the client asks what you would like to do to him?

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That's fair enough, but what if we put a slight twist on this...

 

Suppose the client asks what you would like to do to him?

 

Indeed.  Am I the only one to find this strange?

 

If I decide to meet a guy, is not to worry about his questions but to use his body for sex, fantasies etc.  I would rather meet a guy in this environment rather than be picked up in a bar etc.  

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I don't honestly think that any punters really want to know your innermost, deepest and most private personal fantasy or turn-on.

 

It's not something to be bothered by. They're just trying to enhance their own experience, and hopefully get you to be as responsive to them as possible.

 

If you say "oh I love it when I have my pussy eaten", it doesn't even have to be true. The bloke can get down to business and then go away with a smile on his face believing he gave you a special oral treat. Oh, and blokes will love your first two suggested comments. They're not bothered if you're sexually 'selfish' or not, and a girl who will suck their cock is definitely not boring.

 

The third may freak them out.

Very true! 

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Alright, I figured out what I can say in these situations. If they seem more dominant, then a little bit of spanking on my ass and hard fucking from behind. If they seem sweet, then eating my pussy. 

 

I mean, I've never been offended by a client asking what I want. It's sweet. It's just a bit disarming, that's all.

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I don't honestly think that any punters really want to know your innermost, deepest and most private personal fantasy or turn-on.

 

It's not something to be bothered by. They're just trying to enhance their own experience, and hopefully get you to be as responsive to them as possible.

 

If you say "oh I love it when I have my pussy eaten", it doesn't even have to be true. The bloke can get down to business and then go away with a smile on his face believing he gave you a special oral treat. Oh, and blokes will love your first two suggested comments. They're not bothered if you're sexually 'selfish' or not, and a girl who will suck their cock is definitely not boring.

 

The third may freak them out.

Sorry, if a guy asks me what turns ME on then I tell him the truth. Guys shouldnt assume we will lie and give them a fake answer. 

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If a gent asks me what turns me on, I show him. The question does not bother me one iota. If anything, I welcome it.

I don't have a lover in my private life so I try and get as much satisfaction as I can from my escorting life.

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Im a funny bugger

Once the money has changed hands then its 2 people going to spend an hour having fun.  Her enjoyment is as important as mine. 

which is why I ask sometimes.

or, when appropriate, 'Madam, how would you like to be fucked today?'

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 The question does not bother me one iota. If anything, I welcome it.

I don't have a lover in my private life so I try and get as much satisfaction as I can from my escorting life.

Ditto  ;)

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Im a funny bugger

Once the money has changed hands then its 2 people going to spend an hour having fun.  Her enjoyment is as important as mine. 

which is why I ask sometimes.

or, when appropriate, 'Madam, how would you like to be fucked today?'

Seems like a reasonable question to me x

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