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Buying A Lady's Time, But Not For Sex.

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Once in a while I visit a certain city on my own, for the afternoon only, but I get quite lonely wandering around and usually end up buying even more books in secondhand bookshops. I would love, instead, to meet a nice lady there, to maybe go for lunch or a coffee or a drink and then perhaps visit an art gallery or museum or a cinema or go for a walk in the park with her. I wouldn't expect any sex as I wouldn't be in private with her but would just like to hold her hand and maybe get a kiss and a cuddle with her now and then, just a little affection even though |I knew it was pure acting on her part.

I'm certainly not mean but it's my circumstances. I'm married and have lots of commitments and could only feel comfortable giving her about £40 to £50 for, say, a couple of hours of her company. Otherwise I'd feel terribly guilty about spending much on this. My wife, whom I love, is so economical and I'm retired, she'd go absolutely mad if she guessed I'd done this and blown a lot of 'our' money on it as well. (I don't keep any money at all as my private spending money. Any money is just 'our' money.)

So basically, I'd just like to buy a woman's company (a woman who's not my wife) and get some feminine warmth from her for the afternoon. I'd just like to be physically close to her, have her smile at me, feel her hand in mine, enjoy the sound of her voice, be able to enjoy looking at her close up and feeling attracted to her, a much younger woman. But the trouble is I think a WG would look with contempt at the small sum I feel able to to pay for her company and I don't blame her. I tried advertising and 'renting a friend', but no good at all.

 

Is this a ridiculous and laughable thing for me to want? I somehow feel ashamed of being so weak as to crave this kind of thing at my age, as well as knowing it's obviously cheating. I love sex and would love a hj at least, but I'd be quite happy to make do with what I've described and only that. It's just a woman's company and a little warmth from her for a couple of hours, a woman I'm attracted to, that I seem to want and need most of all.

I wonder if a WG or any other lady would ever consider doing this for such a small fee. 

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It's not ridiculous at all! It's absolutely normal that you want some love and affection don't ever think that it's weird it's totally not.

And I think you are well within your rights to go and get love affection.

Thing is, I don't think there are many (if any) escorts out there that would give you a hand job and some social time for £50. My half hour rate alone is £60 so I can only think that most girls will have a half hour rate around mine or above.

If you really want this kind of booking I would suggest you get a little bit more money to be able to do it. Because there are not many of us escorts who will negotiate so much or agree to a price much lower simply because there are so many timewasters around.

You are not a bad person for wanting this at all, when you are deprived from attention and love it's only normal and human to crave it. I hope you find someone who fits your requirements and you have a great time. X

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Many thanks for your understanding and reply. I wouldn't need a handjob at all, just her company for an hour and a half to two hours would be perfectly fine. Just a kind of GFE but without any sex other than a brief cuddle or two. But of course I know what you mean about the money! That's where I'm being ridiculous.

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Apologies in advance if this seems harsh but:

What you seek is incompatible with the MO of a working girl ( in the strictest sense ) the fee you offer, the scenario you describe and want, it's all a bit messy. Most girls take their time in getting ready, add in associated travel/time costs and all of a sudden the £40/£50 for ninety +mins (and lets face it a trip to a museum/walk in the park after lunch would end up being somewhat longer than the proposed time) would all but be extinguished by their own assosciated costs just to get to you

You mention it will be 'cheating' but in essence you've already done that by getting to the point you're at now?

The messy part is that you started out by looking for what seemed to be some female company to help you wile away a few hours when wandering the streets but then added in that well actually you wouldn't mind a quick handjob? One could be forgiven for thinking that what you're really looking for is a quick wank under a table in the likes of Starbucks ( other coffee shops do exist ) or while searching for a copy of Fly Fishing by JR Hartley in one if thise secondhand bookshops you made mention of.

Being blunt, if you are genuine in in what you seek as in just company by way of a working girl then be prepared to up your suggested fee somewhat and be very clear in what you actually want/expect when contacting them and you never know you may get lucky.

In the meantime have you considered looking past the working girl and maybe consider a dating company where your individual needs may just hit the spot with somone else seeking a little light entertainment for a few hours and like you without the commitment.

Good luck in what you seek and wherever that may take you.

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Once in a while I visit a certain city on my own, for the afternoon only, but I get quite lonely wandering around and usually end up buying even more books in secondhand bookshops. I would love, instead, to meet a nice lady there, to maybe go for lunch or a coffee or a drink and then perhaps visit an art gallery or museum or a cinema or go for a walk in the park with her. I wouldn't expect any sex as I wouldn't be in private with her but would just like to hold her hand and maybe get a kiss and a cuddle with her now and then, just a little affection even though |I knew it was pure acting on her part.

I'm certainly not mean but it's my circumstances. I'm married and have lots of commitments and could only feel comfortable giving her about £40 to £50 for, say, a couple of hours of her company. Otherwise I'd feel terribly guilty about spending much on this. My wife, whom I love, is so economical and I'm retired, she'd go absolutely mad if she guessed I'd done this and blown a lot of 'our' money on it as well. (I don't keep any money at all as my private spending money. Any money is just 'our' money.)

So basically, I'd just like to buy a woman's company (a woman who's not my wife) and get some feminine warmth from her for the afternoon. I'd just like to be physically close to her, have her smile at me, feel her hand in mine, enjoy the sound of her voice, be able to enjoy looking at her close up and feeling attracted to her, a much younger woman. But the trouble is I think a WG would look with contempt at the small sum I feel able to to pay for her company and I don't blame her. I tried advertising and 'renting a friend', but no good at all.

 

Is this a ridiculous and laughable thing for me to want? I somehow feel ashamed of being so weak as to crave this kind of thing at my age, as well as knowing it's obviously cheating. I love sex and would love a hj at least, but I'd be quite happy to make do with what I've described and only that. It's just a woman's company and a little warmth from her for a couple of hours, a woman I'm attracted to, that I seem to want and need most of all.

I wonder if a WG or any other lady would ever consider doing this for such a small fee.

I see no reason why some wg's wouldn't consider what you're after but in all honesty I think you're going to need to at least double the rate you're offering.

A couple of wg's I've seen offer a lower hourly rate for social time but even then that's usually on the understanding there'll be an hour or two's worth of full rate booking at the beginning / end of the social time.

Another problem I could foresee is what if a wg agreed but then received a request for a 2 hour booking at her normal rate at the same time she was due to see you? There's a good possibility you'd end up disappointed...

You could always try something like a reverse booking on AW, explaining exactly what you're after and see what responses you get.

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I can't help thinking that you're confused, Alwayshoping. You want companionship (female) but no sex. Your wife would go 'absolutely mad' and she's very careful with your money. You want some warmth from a woman, for her to 'smile' at you. It sounds like you don't get this from your wife, who also sounds controlling (going mad at you, careful with money) - do you really mean controlling with money and controlling you? First of all, try to find out what your true motives are and what your underlying feelings are for your wife - then maybe talk to her about it. If you don't get anywhere with her because her behaviour is so engrained, go ahead, but I agree with the above posts - it'll be more expensive than you think. Try a dating site for older people - you'll find many ladies of a similar age who are lonely and want what you want. You sound lonely to me - lonely in a marriage.

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A dating site could be a good idea for you. You will get an afternoons company with a lady for the price of a round of drinks and no time limits.

However there is zero chance of any intimacy, the lady may well be looking for a relationship (which i presume you aren't) so it depends how you feel about the dishonesty of your intentions.

You will have to spend a bit of time getting to know her online before she agrees to a date which again is likely to lead to more dishonesty in your conversations - you wont get very far by admitting you're married!

There is also virtually no chance of meeting up with a hot looking model half your age.

Not all women on singles sites are looking for a relationship straight away though, many use them as a way to get used to dating after the end of a long term relationship do see it as a "try before you buy" arrangement.

This is just a possibility for you but in fact i think your solution lies much closer to home. If its just friendly female company you're after then i think you need to look at rebuilding your relationship with your wife, its never too late and you're never too old.

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Many thanks again for all your replies. I posted my problem late last night... in the bright light of morning now when one feels stronger somehow I probably wouldn't have!

 

I probably am confused. Though I love my wife I just seem to want another woman's company for a little while, but I'm afraid I'm not at all attracted to women anywhere near my age, late 70s now. (Nor would I expect most younger women to be attracted to an old man!) Though I'm very fit and slim I'm under average height, something which I've hated being all my life. This is a huge disadvantage when it comes to women.

My wife is very nice to me and I believe she loves me, but she has never been physically warm enough for me, has never initiated anything except a peck on the lips when going out the door; never lays a finger on me even though we're passing each other closely and constantly, as you do, in the home. Our sex life is pretty hopeless. Sex therapy didn't work for us. Otherwise, we honestly do live happily together and I'm very fond of her. It's just the way she is, not cold but not physical either, so I'm not criticising her. It seems a bit strange, I suppose, but maybe this situation is common. 

 

Anyway, I don't claim to be rational, but because of what I've described, my instincts drive me towards seeking a little companionship and warmth once in a while from another woman, one who's completely different from my wife, a more 'physical' type of person and a good bit younger than me. I feel the only way I'd get this, a  lady perhaps in her 30s, 40s or 50s is by paying her to give me some company for an afternoon. It's not going to happen any other way because I'm totally unable to get chatting to a stranger, and definitely never a woman. It has never happened and I'm incapable of making it happen. So I just wander around alone. I may just have to be realistic and do without!

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At least you are honest and know what you want.  Some guys use dating sites to mess around with a woman's time knowing they do not live in that city and will never see her again.  Even if you go to AW to put in a request, some girls might be put off by the low price you set but I guess at least you are giving it a try and somebody might want to meet you on this basis.

 

Another option would be a newspaper with crazy requests but I guess you might meet crazy people before finding a decent woman who needs the little money you are offering.

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With gentle respect, he is saying what he wants and the least he could expect is realistic assessments of his needs and a fair price. If all he wants is company with a few bells and whistles then surely some of the women here could give him a reasonable expectation of price.."for a hour wandering throught bookshops and the odd snog with not a lot of make up and prep, that'll cost you in the region of £ X....."?

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I think it's fairly common for older men to crave the company of a woman and sex not be the main point of the session. I have many older (70+ years) clients who book me and it seems to be that the cuddles, chat and affection is the thing they seem to want the most. Whilst nakedness and some form of sexual intimacy does usually happen I think that just being with a women is what they want the most. 

 

I am now wondering, because of the nature of the industry whether men do book escorts just to get the time with a woman and only go for the naked stuff because they feel that is the done thing or the only option. 

 

Don't feel ashamed about wanting this, I expect it's fairly common and it makes sense that for people married to the same person for years would want the company of someone different once in a while.

 

It would be interesting to know whether someone enterprising has set up this kind of service. There must be women out there who would happily do this, preferring not to actually offer sexual services and be the kind of women who enjoy bookshops, museums and so on. In reality (as opposed to the punting world) £50 for 2 hours is a very good rate! 

 

Have you tried googling companion services? There must be something! 

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I think it's fairly common for older men to crave the company of a woman and sex not be the main point of the session. I have many older (70+ years) clients who book me and it seems to be that the cuddles, chat and affection is the thing they seem to want the most. Whilst nakedness and some form of sexual intimacy does usually happen I think that just being with a women is what they want the most. 

 

I am now wondering, because of the nature of the industry whether men do book escorts just to get the time with a woman and only go for the naked stuff because they feel that is the done thing or the only option. 

 

Don't feel ashamed about wanting this, I expect it's fairly common and it makes sense that for people married to the same person for years would want the company of someone different once in a while.

 

It would be interesting to know whether someone enterprising has set up this kind of service. There must be women out there who would happily do this, preferring not to actually offer sexual services and be the kind of women who enjoy bookshops, museums and so on. In reality (as opposed to the punting world) £50 for 2 hours is a very good rate! 

 

Have you tried googling companion services? There must be something! 

Many thanks, Lydia. Don't get me wrong, I do pay for sex once in a while - like every few months, usually just a half hour or an hour at most. I've always loved sex and would like far more of it.

But I would love to have this friendly, almost innocent companionship with a woman as well when I visit the city, with no need for any of her clothes to come off! We'd be in public places anyway. I'd just like to chat to her and be nice to her. You know what it's like - you're walking around in an art gallery - nearly every man  seems to have a woman with him... You see couples holding hands... I get so envious, but only if the woman is attractive and looks as if she's fond of him!

 

If there were any women with a spare afternoon it would be such an easy way for her to earn £40 or £50 for just walking around with me, I'm easy to talk to, and letting me hold her hand and maybe a little kiss, maybe not.

It seems half reasonable to me but maybe most women would look at it quite differently... the fact that I'm married and all that, a good bit older than them, and that they're not attracted to me in any way...! I can't begin to imagine what a woman's attitude to this would be. I'm no good at reading their minds.

 

But I'll try googling companion services or something similar, as you suggest.

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As you do punt occasionally what about arranging something tagged onto an hour's booking? I'm sure it would be easier to arrange something like that as at least the wg is making her normal rate for part of the booking, and might be more open to the idea of a little social time for a reduced rate. As mentioned above some wg's openly advertise this.

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As you do punt occasionally what about arranging something tagged onto an hour's booking? I'm sure it would be easier to arrange something like that as at least the wg is making her normal rate for part of the booking, and might be more open to the idea of a little social time for a reduced rate. As mentioned above some wg's openly advertise this.

Thanks, Burty. I hadn't really thought of that.

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Hi Alwayshoping.

I recognised my own situation in your OP except that my wife and I are very tactile: always kissing, cuddling and we enjoy spending time together.  Even so I'm a naughty boy and if I get the chance I enjoy the company of other women. You may have read my accounts of this sort of thing, the most recent being in "Why do you punt?" Post No. #692488.  This was about my last 'date' with a wg I've got to know over the years and who meets me socially without me paying for her time.  Have you got a regular you could ask out occasionally?  Other men do this.  

There was also my saga entitled Spare Ticket which I think was in the Off Topic section.  One lady member advised me to put a reverse booking on AW which generated some bids worth considering but my regular contacted me just in time.  For another concert one lady from AW only charged me £50. 

Why don't you try this?

Good luck!

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Hi Alwayshoping.

I recognised my own situation in your OP except that my wife and I are very tactile: always kissing, cuddling and we enjoy spending time together.  Even so I'm a naughty boy and if I get the chance I enjoy the company of other women. You may have read my accounts of this sort of thing, the most recent being in "Why do you punt?" Post No. #692488.  This was about my last 'date' with a wg I've got to know over the years and who meets me socially without me paying for her time.  Have you got a regular you could ask out occasionally?  Other men do this.  

There was also my saga entitled Spare Ticket which I think was in the Off Topic section.  One lady member advised me to put a reverse booking on AW which generated some bids worth considering but my regular contacted me just in time.  For another concert one lady from AW only charged me £50. 

Why don't you try this?

Good luck!

Many thanks, Softee. No, I don't have a regular near home. In fact it would be almost impossible near where I am located because they seem to only stay for a week or so, then move on to somewhere else. And often you never hear of them again. But it would be good to have a regular - except that I don't go very often. Months can pass. But thank you, anyway. I've been given a few useful ideas by posters.

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You could try 'Besuggled':

http://www.besnuggled.co.uk/

Just explored what you suggested - Kitty looks lovely! So very cuddly! That would be great! I'd really love that. But I don't live anywhere near her - wish I did. No idea if any other women do this.

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Just explored what you suggested - Kitty looks lovely! So very cuddly! That would be great! I'd really love that. But I don't live anywhere near her - wish I did. No idea if any other women do this.

are there not girls who do the companionship but no sex thing? Perhaps you are looking in the wrong place.

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Offering this sort of thing wouldn't make sense to me. I have in the past offered a lower social only rate, however I found that with plenty of other clients wanting the same time at a higher price, and also the demands on my time in other areas of my life being higher, that I was not making the most efficient use of the time available. That's not to say I've not created packages for regulars, but it all depends on exactly how it works out.

 

Although it's often assumed a female past-time, I personally dislike shopping and given the free time and choice would far rather be doing something completely different. When I go on a city break, or have a day off shops are way down the priority list, or often not on there at all.

 

You may find some women who will do this. My advice would be to ask, but not expect. That means if the woman says "No thank you" don't try tempting her with how easy it will be, or how much she'll enjoy being paid for shopping. If she wants it she'll do it.

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Just explored what you suggested - Kitty looks lovely! So very cuddly! That would be great! I'd really love that. But I don't live anywhere near her - wish I did. No idea if any other women do this.

 

AS,

 

I do not know where you are - and don't want you to say. So, instead have a look at the directory below:

http://www.cuddle-professionals.co.uk/#!find-a-professional-cuddler/clv9

&

http://www.cuddle-professionals.co.uk/#!uk-and-europe-cuddle-professionals/cfhs

 

P.

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AS,

 

I do not know where you are - and don't want you to say. So, instead have a look at the directory below:

http://www.cuddle-professionals.co.uk/#!find-a-professional-cuddler/clv9

&

http://www.cuddle-professionals.co.uk/#!uk-and-europe-cuddle-professionals/cfhs

 

P.

Many thanks again, but I can't  find anything in the area where I am but will explore it further. Mind you, maybe tension would build up sitting close... just to get to touch her breasts.... just for a minute... :D

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Many thanks again, but I can't  find anything in the area where I am but will explore it further. Mind you, maybe tension would build up sitting close... just to get to touch her breasts.... just for a minute... :D

This is not sitting properly with me....... you don't want to pay more than £50 for an hour or more of a lady's time... and you do not want to get naked in private...... but you want to take advantage of this as yet faceless woman by snatching a kiss or a grope of her breasts.  You are sounding a touch pervy to me. 

 

Kitty the cuddle lady has been around a few years.... I saw her site a long time ago so it would seem there is a market for what she offers.  Her service sounds lovely but your insistence that a public appearance is what you are after  ....while harmless.... leads me to think you just want to be seen with a younger woman on your arm.

 

There will be woman who can give you what you seek.... but to expect a kiss and/or grope for a very small fee is just damn cheeky Mr !

 

Behave yourself.

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This is not sitting properly with me....... you don't want to pay more than £50 for an hour or more of a lady's time... and you do not want to get naked in private...... but you want to take advantage of this as yet faceless woman by snatching a kiss or a grope of her breasts.  You are sounding a touch pervy to me. 

 

Kitty the cuddle lady has been around a few years.... I saw her site a long time ago so it would seem there is a market for what she offers.  Her service sounds lovely but your insistence that a public appearance is what you are after  ....while harmless.... leads me to think you just want to be seen with a younger woman on your arm.

 

There will be woman who can give you what you seek.... but to expect a kiss and/or grope for a very small fee is just damn cheeky Mr !

 

Behave yourself.

Don't take a flippant remark so seriously! It was just a silly little joke to Pickle.

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Don't take a flippant remark so seriously! It was just a silly little joke to Pickle.

At 2:18 am, a gentleman of your advanced years (late 70's) should be tucked - up in bed.

Got to look after yourself at your age you know!

P.

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