oldjack

Help Please, I Cannot Cum

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Any advice please. I am in my 70's and have a fantastic regular Escort who does all that she can do to assist. She provides all the usual services including OWO. However, despite all that she does to assist, I cannot seem to cum although I see her for appointments of an hour at least. She is very kind and patient but of course I find this very frustrating both for me and my lovely escort. Has anyone any advice to give, i.e. tablets or anything else. Getting an erection is no problem although I do take Viagra.
Thanks. Jack

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Have you had a prostrate examination recently?Or indeed spoken to your g.p?

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I feel your pain Jack, having suffered myself occasionally. Last year I had about 3 punts on the run with my favourite where it wouldn't happen - and it nearly drove me crazy!

As Bibi says probably the first step is to check if there's a medical issue - which there wasn't in my case. It can become a self perpetuating problem, the more it doesn't happen, the more it plays on your mind, the more frustrated you become, and so it goes on.

According to reports, viagra etc., can cause issues as regards delaying orgasm so that may not be helping. What was suggested to me was to put a very small amount of warming lube inside the condom, which can help increase sensitivity. I had mixed results with that, ultimately I found the best method is to try and relax and not worry about actually coming. Once it started happening again for me, so the worry subsided and everything returned to normal.

Sounds like your regular is understanding and willing to help, good luck.

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are you properly hydrated.  Make sure you drink enough water every day. no point in binge drinking water on punt day.

 

also get your GP to check your testosterone levels.  simple non fasting blood test.  Then he can prescribe replacement if necessary.  implants, injections or gel.  Low testosterone can cause other health implications

 

also get an ECG.  Heart issues can cause impotence issues.

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Guys frequently mention that Viagra makes it more difficult to achieve orgasm. Since your favourite escort provides OWO, how about having a session without taking Viagra, and focusing simply on the sensation without necessarily having "full wood". Unless you particularly need the penetrative stuff, you may find you can have an orgasm just fine without the little blue ones.

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Yes I've come across a few blokes that struggle to pop on viagra.

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Any advice please. I am in my 70's and have a fantastic regular Escort who does all that she can do to assist. She provides all the usual services including OWO. However, despite all that she does to assist, I cannot seem to cum although I see her for appointments of an hour at least. She is very kind and patient but of course I find this very frustrating both for me and my lovely escort. Has anyone any advice to give, i.e. tablets or anything else. Getting an erection is no problem although I do take Viagra.

Thanks. Jack

did you try Chinese herbal treatment?. wide range of tablets. Sprays are availble and mostly effective. :)

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Have you tried a little anal stimulation Jack. Either internally via your prostate or sometime externally just having a buzzy thing held under your balls or even on and around your anus can add that little bit of extra stimultion required xx

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Have you tried a little anal stimulation Jack. Either internally via your prostate or sometime externally just having a buzzy thing held under your balls or even on and around your anus can add that little bit of extra stimultion required xx

Sounds great Chloe. If I pay you a visit could you give me a demonstration please?

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Can you cum when you wank?

If not, definitely see a doctor.

If you do try seeing your girl without taking Viagra

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Self masturbation falls into this same category. Stop masturbating. Was booze involved? May be you were really drunk and could not finish.

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Jack, there's probably something that turns you on particularly and perhaps that could be incorporated in the final sprint. But if you say she's a regular, then presumably she will know all about your little ways.

For me it's a certain kind of dirty talk - just certain combinations of words whispered in my ear will instantly bring me up to the final sploosh.

Otherwise, as others have said, those little pills we take often create problems here. And then there's the condom issue. What about her wanking you off without a condom while you kiss, or something like that?

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What Colonel Bonkers says makes sense as regards a trigger that turns you on.

I seemed to be having trouble getting there on my first escort booking which hasn't happened with girls I've been in relationships with. If anything it's been the opposite. It was starting to play on my mind that my first punt would be an epic fail, which wouldn't have been good for the confidence for next time . Suddenly while in missionary the girl buried her head in the small of my neck and started kissing there and bingo! Problem solved. Luckily she chose to do something that really gets me going, which I'll bear in mind for the future if I'm having problems again.

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I've had times when i've had trouble finishing - definitely agree it could be a mind/word trigger or over sensitivity to the same type of stimulation - and yep if you can't cum at all, even through self love, I would run to Dr's for a prostate checkup.

 

I tend to get this sort of problem with ladies who are a bit rough, where they suck/wank/fuck you vigorously at the same speed, trying to make you/themselves cum quicker. Sometimes I just get over excited or even nervous if I've had a dry spell. Same goes for intercourse. Too much of the same thing can lead to numbness of sorts.

 

I find, when things start slow, sensual kissing and or slow deep BJ or fuck works nicely, then build up to a finish - sometimes it's just one word she'll say in my ear that'll tip me over. But of course everyone has their trigger point. :)

 

Good to have a easy going, open minded lady, who puts you at ease to begin with, then normally things go firing off in no time at all :)

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Sounds great Chloe. If I pay you a visit could you give me a demonstration please?

Most definatley...I have quite a selection now...one of them might buzz you right across the bed ;)

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As well as the "blue pills" and blood pressure meds, antidepressants and drugs to treat epilepsy can make it difficult to come. The latter two suppress nerve impulses from the brain so however much you want to orgasm you may not. It's well worth discussing with your doctor if you are finding it hard to orgasm. If you don't have a doctor you can trust then going private really isn't that expensive these days - and usually much cheaper than a punt - if one doctors appointment cost = a cure for your problem then ultimately it's well worth it. I am speaking as a former employee of three well respected London Hospitals ... the NHS just doesn't have the capacity to deal with much else than chronic problems these days. PM me for a recommendation if you like.

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