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Wgs' Opinions Of Married Clients

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"When you are an escort you can see a disgusting side of married men."

 

This is a quote from a member of Mumsnet.  She was contributing to a thread started by a woman who had discovered that her husband had been searching for escorts on Adultwork. The escort was joining in with the general opprobrium of the husband's behaviour.  I found her position rather hypocritical but, as yet, no one has called her out. I suppose she knew her audience and  she made it clear she is only working as an escort for a finite financial goal.

  

I have not punted for a long time because I'm trying to work on my marital love life but this remark came as a shock to me. During my time spent with WGs I never felt that I was being judged in this way. But I suppose for a WG, hiding one's true feelings and making the client feel good about himself is all part of the job.

It maybe unrealistic of me to expect an honest answer, but do any ladies here share, either wholly or partly, this view of married punters?

 

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Why would any WG with half a brain cell tell you she agrees with that woman on MumsNet on a Punting Forum? Would be a bit stupid wouldn't it?

Honestly I couldn't care less if a client is married, single, married and having affairs, in a relationship with three women and so on. It's none of my business and I would never ask, it may be bought up in a conversation by him but I would never ask as I think it's rude. What happens in a clients personal life is of no business of mine, all that is important is he has a good time for the time he has booked with me.

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It all depends on the man. Yes we do see a disgusting side of men but that doesnt change wether they are married or single. Its not all men either, just certain ones who feel that they can use us as the butt of their jokes, their insecurities, their secret distaste for all things female that they are to cowardly to show in their real life to the women who actually know them, the ones who try to offset their own self loathing or self disgust at not being able to find a female in real life who will put up with their obnoxious self or one who wont up and leave or tell them straight what they think of them the minute their misogynistic tendencies ooze to the surface so they feel they are forced to pay for something they believe is their god given right to have for free and in any abusive way they chose or simply pissed off at their wives for not laying it on a plate whenever they want it so they take it out on us

 

Apart from those ones though men are rather nice creatures and thankfully there are ways to cut down on the number of times you encounter the above. I tend to prefer to believe that the majority of men dont wish to treat us badly nor do they really look down on us like the ones described above do.

 

This escort is a twat, she is fucking their husbands happily yet for some reason desperately craving the acceptance of the wives too. You cant have it both ways even nowadays. Even women who are of the belief that there is nothing wrong with being an escort and that its womens fault for not keeping their men happy in the sack would soon change that tune if they discovered it was THEIR man who was visiting us. 

 

A guys marital status is neither here nor there to me, I assume most are married or in a relationship anyway tbh

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I don't really like judging based on things I don't know everything about. I do know that in many of the cases of my clients, they are in either loveless or sexless marriages, and are in rather desperate need of intimacy. I like to think I am sending them home lighter and happier, and maybe they'll make their wives happier as a result. Who knows? As Chloe said, I don't really think it's my place to judge. 

 

At least they are going to the right place, seeing escorts instead of just trolling dating sites expecting random lays for free!

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Not sure how escorts feel but I would have thought that they wouldn't give a monkeys on whether we are married!!!  A lot of escorts also have partners as well and we will still see the lady in question!  Who cares!  I don't! 

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I am in no position whatsoever to judge a man for seeing me... when he has a wife or partner at home.  Without the married guys we would see a disturbing drop in bookings!

 

The old cop out "if he wasn't seeing me he would be seeing someone else" really does apply because therein lies the truth... a man will do the deed come what may.

 

Yes it is cheating.  IT IS CHEATING.  Some clients claim they do not see it as cheating but cheating it is... it does not have to be an affair or have emotional strings to make it cheating. 

 

Many (but by no means all!) clients are great company and lovely people... at least they are when with me... but I am under no illusion that this side to them is not necessarily the one others see..... they could be the biggest shit whoever walked.... but if they are nice with me and treat me with the respect I give to them (the cheating bastards :) ) then that is all I expect from them.

 

Being aware that any one of my clients can tell me he is single... when he is not..... it really matters not a bit to me but they feel they need to say it.... to lessen their guilt a little. However when I see one in the local high street the following week .... someone who has visited me several times.....and his companions are obviously his other half and children ...... it makes things a little awkward and I know  he will not return to me. 

 

Oh and I do not read mumsnet so can not comment on the thread on there.... only the question asked here.

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In some ways, I think I experienced worse behaviour from men I met via online dating. Can't say I've get had a client I felt any "disgust" over.

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I judge clients by how they are with me, it is that simple.

 

What I do and feel in my private life, about people in my private life is a completely different matter

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I do sometimes wonder if escorts can ever really have the same view of men as the rest of the female world as they see that side of them. But there is a definite hypocrisy going in. I am sure many escorts I have been with are married too. In fact I find the possibility a bit of a turn on. But like someone said you cannot have it both ways i.e. fuck married men for money and then give out about them to their wives!

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Quite a few escorts are either married or in LTR's and that makes no difference to me. If an escort is pleasant to me and fun to be with than that's all I have any right to expect.

 

On her side she can expect me to be fun to be with, clean, ready with the cash and not outstay my welcome!

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I do sometimes wonder if escorts can ever really have the same view of men as the rest of the female world as they see that side of them. But there is a definite hypocrisy going in. I am sure many escorts I have been with are married too. In fact I find the possibility a bit of a turn on. But like someone said you cannot have it both ways i.e. fuck married men for money and then give out about them to their wives!

Why is it hyprocrisy for an Escort to have a partner?I don't understand?

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I do sometimes wonder if escorts can ever really have the same view of men as the rest of the female world as they see that side of them. But there is a definite hypocrisy going in. I am sure many escorts I have been with are married too. In fact I find the possibility a bit of a turn on. But like someone said you cannot have it both ways i.e. fuck married men for money and then give out about them to their wives!

 

I'm with Strawberry on this one. I've yet to meet a punter who told his wife that he saw escorts and she was okay with it....my partner on the other hand knew I was an escort from the start and is totally okay with it. 

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Why is it hyprocrisy for an Escort to have a partner?I don't understand?

 

 

No hypocrisy in having a partner. The hyprocisy is in expecting standards from married men that they (escorts) do not apply to themselves i.e. maintaining only one sexual partner.

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No hypocrisy in having a partner. The hyprocisy is in expecting standards from married men that they (escorts) do not apply to themselves i.e. maintaining only one sexual partner.

 

I could be mistaken, but I imagine that the judging doesn't come from having more than one sexual partner, but the not being honest/open with said main partner about having more than one sexual partner.

 

*shrug* Everyone is different though. I do imagine there are WGs out there who don't tell their partners either. I guess it would be hypocritical for them if they were judgemental, but I think a lot of WGs are forthcoming with their partners!

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I could be mistaken, but I imagine that the judging doesn't come from having more than one sexual partner, but the not being honest/open with said main partner about having more than one sexual partner.

*shrug* Everyone is different though. I do imagine there are WGs out there who don't tell their partners either. I guess it would be hypocritical for them if they were judgemental, but I think a lot of WGs are forthcoming with their partners!

+1 on that.

I can't see it being hypocritical if these WGs partners know what they do!

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I don't expect anyone to do anything. I do expect my own personal relationships to be based upon total honesty and whatever is agreed between the people in them. That is my standard for my out of paid-for relationships.

 

Is that hypocrisy?

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I could be mistaken, but I imagine that the judging doesn't come from having more than one sexual partner, but the not being honest/open with said main partner about having more than one sexual partner.

 

*shrug* Everyone is different though. I do imagine there are WGs out there who don't tell their partners either. I guess it would be hypocritical for them if they were judgemental, but I think a lot of WGs are forthcoming with their partners!

 

 

Maybe, but who knows what anyone´s relationship with the partner is? What qualifies anyone to judge that? 

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Maybe, but who knows what anyone´s relationship with the partner is? What qualifies anyone to judge that? 

 

A lot of punters are oddly vocal about their situation, being very upfront about saying that they have a wife at home who doesn't know...

 

Of course, I am merely speculating on a lot of this, because frankly, I don't judge and don't really care what the guy's home situation is. What goes on between us stays between us, and all that.

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I'm not currently seeing anyone which is why I've started punting. Can't see why it would make any difference to an escort either way.

Not that I'm in any way judgemental of others but if I was in a relationship I doubt I'd punt as well for fear of getting found out.

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A lot of punters are oddly vocal about their situation, being very upfront about saying that they have a wife at home who doesn't know...

Of course, I am merely speculating on a lot of this, because frankly, I don't judge and don't really care what the guy's home situation is. What goes on between us stays between us, and all that.

I agree.

I actually don't like how vocal punters are about their personal life though it's almost as though they want to get a reaction. Of course I don't judge and I couldn't care less if they had a wife at home who didn't know as it isn't my business.

I remember having a newbie client last year who went as far as to show me pictures of his wife and kids! And he kept mentioning how plain boring and unattractive his wife was and that he hates her company, I couldn't believe he would speak so negatively of her to someone he's just met, I was shocked.

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It doesn't really seem like an appropriate topic of conversation to me, from either party.

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Some guys tell me they are married others tell me they are single it really makes no difference to me which of these situations they are in. I dont see any men with a disgusting side or if I do I don't see them twice. Most married men have a valid reason to visit a WG and their wives will hold a portion of responsibility for that reasoning. Whether intentional or not. I don't judge I also don't expect to be judged, by them or their spouse, though I am sure I would be. We all have our moral values some looser than others.

I too have been shown a picture of a guys fiancé soon to be bride, in her underwear I might add, she was stunning I could not believe what he was doing paying me!!! But it wasn't for me to judge.

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I've been asked by some WGs if I am married (I'm not and when I've been in a relationship have not visited), which seemed usually to me just to be small talk.  As to the cheating bit, the only conversation I can recall is one WG saying that it's not as bad as having an affair, because you just visit for sex.  A few have discussed their relationships, usually in little detail and again just small talk in most cases.

 

In any case the detail of such conversations and with whom should be kept to the room.

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I do sometimes wonder if escorts can ever really have the same view of men as the rest of the female world as they see that side of them. But there is a definite hypocrisy going in. I am sure many escorts I have been with are married too. In fact I find the possibility a bit of a turn on. But like someone said you cannot have it both ways i.e. fuck married men for money and then give out about them to their wives!

Just a 'short' while ago, I presumed all the escorts I slept with were single.  It was pointed out to me that @ 'least' some of them may have boyfriends or husbands.  Now @ the 'moment' I'm choosing to be single for the time being, so I would 'prefer' to see escorts that are single.  With that said, as long as any of the girls that 'have' partners don't hold back in the bedroom when with 'me', then I don't see any major problems.

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Just a 'short' while ago, I presumed all the escorts I slept with were single. It was pointed out to me that @ 'least' some of them may have boyfriends or husbands. Now @ the 'moment' I'm choosing to be single for the time being, so I would 'prefer' to see escorts that are single. With that said, as long as any of the girls that 'have' partners don't hold back in the bedroom when with 'me', then I don't see any major problems.

Yep.

You'd be surprised how many are in relationships! I'm the only single one out of the WGs I know, not that I'm complaining!

And the escorts I know have stated their partners know what they do.

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