DirtyGit

Is There Something Wrong With Me? (Not Interested In Oral)

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Hi all,

 

I was wondering if anyone could help me out here...

 

The thought of getting a blow-job doesn't do anything for me... I get far more turned on by spooning (maybe cause I'm an ass man lol), yet I hear everyone else (both on here and in real life) go on about how great they are.  It may sound strange to some people but I don't think it would bother me if I never got another one in my life. IT's the same with Cumming on a girls face... I would rather come on her tits or her ass.

 

I feel a bit bad about it, as I can tell a girl is working very hard to get me off on one, but TBH, I'm just going through the motions... This is even the case when I'm really attracted to a girl. I'm just thinking I can't wait to get in her pussy / ass and I can feel guilty about it. In saying that, I do love going down on a girl (especially giving her a good rimming)

 

I wish I could love them as much as everyone else seems to, as it does feel like I'm missing out on something.

 

If anyone has any thoughts / suggestions, I'll be happy to hear them :)

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Nothing is wrong with you lol! I have a regular who isn't really a fan of blow jobs, he says he just doesn't enjoy them and finds his mind travelling elsewhere when getting one. Nothing wrong with that, we all have turn ons and turn offs it doesn't make you weird at all, we've heard worse trust me!

If you don't want a WG to give you a blow job as you don't like it or you'll feel guilty maybe it's best to mention in your opening email or your conversation that you'd prefer to skip oral on you and give oral to her instead?

Everyone is different, a lot of men do enjoy blow jobs yes but I can guarantee you aren't the first or the last to say it does nothing for you so don't worry about it! I'm sure some girls will be thankful for you not enjoying them, saves their jaws being exercised lol! :D x

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There's nothing wrong with your approach in my eyes DirtyGit. A lot of the 'expectations' on Boards are based on what's usually seen in porn films, and what's often not on offer at home. If you get what you want out of the meeting then all's well.

 

Very rarely there are times when I come on a companion's  body - usually when all's feeling right in a long hug and it just happens - unplanned. I don't look for it, nor coming on the face or in the mouth. Hell's teeth, if you get to the age when you are likely to have only one climax during a meeting why waste it waggling your willy about in the air? There are far better places....

 

Neither do I mind whether an escort offers covered or uncovered oral although many blokes seem to.  Good thin condoms and (my) advanced age mean that I get as near as damn it the same sensation covered or not....if the lady's good.  If she isn't, or if she doesn't really like giving oral but feels that it has to be on the menu, I'd rather forget it and concentrate on other things. Like reverse oral.

 

A lot of the stuff you read in reviews and Boards sounds to me like blokes trying to fit in with a perception of what Real Men do. As far as I'm concerned I think I am real and I feel better doing what I like rather than trying to live up to someone else's view of what is important.

 

Keep on licking and hugging, sir!

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I actually prefer giving and receiving oral to shagging these days so now who's weird? :)

The answer is no-one - do what works for you, enjoy it and have fun. It's about you not what others think or do.

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To me oral when done well is nice. But I enjoy giving oral far far more. And cuddling exploring with my hands- yum.

And cumming on a ladies body offers no pleasure to me. Dont see the point. Seeing it in porn I actually find mildly revolting.

But there again as said above, we are all different and that is good.

Each to their own.

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To me oral when done well is nice. But I enjoy giving oral far far more. And cuddling exploring with my hands- yum.

And cumming on a ladies body offers no pleasure to me. Dont see the point. Seeing it in porn I actually find mildly revolting.

But there again as said above, we are all different and that is good.

Each to their own.

Same here.

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There's nothing wrong with your approach in my eyes DirtyGit. A lot of the 'expectations' on Boards are based on what's usually seen in porn films, and what's often not on offer at home. If you get what you want out of the meeting then all's well. ...............

 

A lot of the stuff you read in reviews and Boards sounds to me like blokes trying to fit in with a perception of what Real Men do. As far as I'm concerned I think I am real and I feel better doing what I like rather than trying to live up to someone else's view of what is important...........

 

 

What Pabs has said here is basically at the heart of the matter. Sex is really about the conjunction of the male's penis and the female's vagina depositing his sperm in there (and very enjoyable that is too! :) ). All the rest of it has come largely from porn and each has its devotees on here. Oral is currently the 'in' thing but I have no doubt that other things will take its place in due course - maybe spanking or maybe something else.It is not possible yet to see where porn is leading people.

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Listen, we all like what we like, you are not the only guy who doesnt think a blow job and jizzing in her face is the be all and end all. Just do your thing and dont worry about what anyone else other than the girl you are with at the time likes too. Thats it. Remember, there are people rolling around in shit in pop up tents all over the world because they love shit...I dont think that compared to that spooning and wanking over a girls tits is something to be embarassed about ;) Just go with your own flow

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They say one's mans junk is another man's treasure.

 

Everyone is different.

I like oral but also Love Tantric/teasing - no doubt a lot of guys will find that boring

 

Each to their own.

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Gonna throw in my lot and say to hell with anyone telling you what sex shouldn't and shouldn't be! Sex is personal and unique and whatever feels best to you! Anyone telling you that you're 'crazy' or 'weird' for liking or not liking a thing can basically go to hell. :) 

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Im exactly the same but for me its more due to premature ejac id rather save it for main event. I can count the number of bjs iv had in 3 yrs on one hand

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Regardless, you're all dirty bastards, the lot of ya! :D lol

 

*ahem* obvious conclusions aside, I agree that the OP should not feel weird about his own preferences, be concerned about being 'normal' - or feeling pressured into wanting to like it.

 

Sexual predilections are so varied and complex. That's what makes us human. (or dirty beasts!!) ;)

 

I've been with ladies who aren't into receiving oral, swallowing cum or getting a spunky face, others simply love it! Some like it up the arse, others think it abhorrent.

 

I personally love getting a good BJ - it can be like a great appetiser or the main meal (for her) too :P

 

What's for pudding? :D

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If anyone has any thoughts / suggestions, I'll be happy to hear them :)

 

All I can think of is the time you're wasting on your punt if you haven't first told the girl that 'look, bj ain't my thang! , could we just skip the foreplay and go straight to the action'     

 

Suggestion:  Crack on with what you want straight from the dropping of the clothes rather than 'going through the motions'   I'm sure most girls would be happy to provide.   

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Its a visual thing for me, I like watching it happen especially when a girl has been seduced rather than paid. I would rather have it than not have available  but I was only able to complete with just Oral 2x in my life, none with WG's. Not that thrilling overall.

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Hi all,

 

I was wondering if anyone could help me out here...

 

The thought of getting a blow-job doesn't do anything for me... I get far more turned on by spooning (maybe cause I'm an ass man lol), yet I hear everyone else (both on here and in real life) go on about how great they are.  It may sound strange to some people but I don't think it would bother me if I never got another one in my life. IT's the same with Cumming on a girls face... I would rather come on her tits or her ass.

 

I feel a bit bad about it, as I can tell a girl is working very hard to get me off on one, but TBH, I'm just going through the motions... This is even the case when I'm really attracted to a girl. I'm just thinking I can't wait to get in her pussy / ass and I can feel guilty about it. In saying that, I do love going down on a girl (especially giving her a good rimming)

 

I wish I could love them as much as everyone else seems to, as it does feel like I'm missing out on something.

 

If anyone has any thoughts / suggestions, I'll be happy to hear them :)

I think it 'might' be very helpful to you if you tell the girl @ the time of email or phone enquiry that you have 'no' interest in oral on you, and to tell her what you do like (oral and rimming on her), and if she sounds up for it, then super!  Plenty of girls out there will enjoy what you like ;)

 

I 'always' let a girl know what I don't like.  If I dislike something it's because it doesn't do anything for me.

 

I love it when the girls smell, kiss, lick and suck my cock and balls.  I also love them (on top) fucking me, and me (on top or from behind) fucking them.  The most important thing to me during a meet is the girl licking me head to toe, this is the ultimate pleasure for me!  I see all of this as the girls 'acceptance' of my body during our time together.

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All I can think of is the time you're wasting on your punt if you haven't first told the girl that 'look, bj ain't my thang! , could we just skip the foreplay and go straight to the action'     

 

Suggestion:  Crack on with what you want straight from the dropping of the clothes rather than 'going through the motions'   I'm sure most girls would be happy to provide.   

who said they liked scat? :)

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To me oral when done well is nice. But I enjoy giving oral far far more. And cuddling exploring with my hands- yum.

And cumming on a ladies body offers no pleasure to me. Dont see the point. Seeing it in porn I actually find mildly revolting.

But there again as said above, we are all different and that is good.

Each to their own.

I do like to cum on the girls face sometimes, but cumming on the rest of her body doesn't do anything for me either.

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What Pabs has said here is basically at the heart of the matter. Sex is really about the conjunction of the male's penis and the female's vagina depositing his sperm in there (and very enjoyable that is too! :) ). All the rest of it has come largely from porn and each has its devotees on here. Oral is currently the 'in' thing but I have no doubt that other things will take its place in due course - maybe spanking or maybe something else.It is not possible yet to see where porn is leading people.

That sounds like an extreme catholic position to me!

I certainly don't think the desire to perform other activities has just come from porn (certainly not if you mean contemporary porn - there are artistic representations of fellatio that are nearly as old as humanity). I'd like to know more about how sexual practices vary geographically and also historically. It may be that oral sex has only been popular in the relatively few times and places where people have decent hygiene - like the ancient Romans, for example. Whereas in the unhygienic Middle Ages it seemed obvious to Chaucer (see climax of The Miller's Tale) that intimate contact between the male tongue and female nether orifices was just Yuk.

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Hi all,

 

I was wondering if anyone could help me out here...

 

The thought of getting a blow-job doesn't do anything for me... I get far more turned on by spooning (maybe cause I'm an ass man lol), yet I hear everyone else (both on here and in real life) go on about how great they are.  It may sound strange to some people but I don't think it would bother me if I never got another one in my life. IT's the same with Cumming on a girls face... I would rather come on her tits or her ass.

 

I feel a bit bad about it, as I can tell a girl is working very hard to get me off on one, but TBH, I'm just going through the motions... This is even the case when I'm really attracted to a girl. I'm just thinking I can't wait to get in her pussy / ass and I can feel guilty about it. In saying that, I do love going down on a girl (especially giving her a good rimming)

 

I wish I could love them as much as everyone else seems to, as it does feel like I'm missing out on something.

 

If anyone has any thoughts / suggestions, I'll be happy to hear them :)

With this game it always comes down to whatever floats your boat, as long as it doesn't involve children, people who are forced to do the job or animals just do what you enjoy.

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I wouldn't say its my favourite thing and has has been said it has to be done in such away for it turn  one on.  If it's mechanical with no speed variation or tongue action then its not so good!  The best O I have had may actual be with a condom since the girl in question had  a tight grip with her mouth and sucked  as good as a dyson vacuum cleaner.

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I have some punters at work (punters means customers)and to be fair,when you hear what theyre into you just think why and wtf.
to ask if theres something wrong as youre not into oral is kind of like asking if theres something wrong as you don't like picasso or action movies.In sex,like everything in life we all have things we like/dislike/prefer.If we were all the same what a boring world this would be.

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Thanks for you replies, I appreciate your kind words :)

 

For the record, I don't dislike blowjobs per se... it's just I've never properly enjoyed one (they've only ever been OK at best)  and TBH, it feels like I'm missing out on sex's best kept secret.

 

I suppose it's because they're so mainstream (unlike other things like a foot fetish or  golden showers, which are more specialist) is why it feels a bit weird. It even led to a massive argument with an ex GF who was upset that she couldn't get me off on a blow job... and I'm like "But darling, your ass is amazing" lol

 

Actually thinking about it more, what makes blow a blow job different from sex, spooning etc.is is the absence of the female body pressed against me... based on that, I think maybe a 69 might be the best chance of properly getting into it. When I've had that, I'll let you know.

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Thanks for you replies, I appreciate your kind words :)

For the record, I don't dislike blowjobs per se... it's just I've never properly enjoyed one (they've only ever been OK at best) and TBH, it feels like I'm missing out on sex's best kept secret.

I suppose it's because they're so mainstream (unlike other things like a foot fetish or golden showers, which are more specialist) is why it feels a bit weird. It even led to a massive argument with an ex GF who was upset that she couldn't get me off on a blow job... and I'm like "But darling, your ass is amazing" lol

Actually thinking about it more, what makes blow a blow job different from sex, spooning etc.is is the absence of the female body pressed against me... based on that, I think maybe a 69 might be the best chance of properly getting into it. When I've had that, I'll let you know.

I wonder if and when you get a mind blowing, leg trembling blow job will your mind change? Haha! :D

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I wonder if and when you get a mind blowing, leg trembling blow job will your mind change? Haha! :D

 

 

Well, that's the dream ;)

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Well, that's the dream ;)

 

No, it's what you get from TYE...that was the message.

 

And I've no doubt it's true (I'm trying to jump queue to jump her, you see; nearly into the top 200 so making rapid progress).

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