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Asking For What You Want

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Are you 'confident' enough to ask for 'everything' you really want during a meet with her? 

 

Do you 'hold' back on some requests because you're too embarrassed to ask?  Or maybe because you think it's 'pushing' limits too much?

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Good question and quite relevant to me ......  a client I have seen many times over the years but only very infrequently.... recently emailed me to ask would it be possible to do x/y/z services.... extreme for him but things which I do on a regular basis and don't bat an eye at with others.

 

He added that he felt extremely embarrassed just emailing me the request.

 

My reply was to say no I would not be doing those things with him.... if he felt so shamed in even writing it down then in my opinion it would not work.

 

That is my way of dealing with this.... don't know about others.

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I would encourage guys to ask for what they want in a polite and respectful way; we would much rather you ask than just try it without asking, or not get what you want because you were afraid to ask. Most WG won't have a problem saying no if it's something we don't offer, and won't be bothered by the question. I've always found asking shows respect for the WG and a level of communication that is preferred!

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Lynn, have you thought that the guy finally met someone he liked and he has always wanted to try these things with..? If you cant ask someone you feel comfortable with then who can you ask?   Especially surprising if you are already happy to offer these services to others.  Poor fella will probably have vanilla sex for ever more :(

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I don't always know, and like to let things flow. In that respect, I do like it when the lady sets her boundaries before the fun starts. You know where you stand then, rather than being told not to do something mid-flow, which can be irritating. 

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I'd have e-mailed my requests first to check. I also respect that ALL services are at discretion, even if it says a service is liked!

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I always ask first at the phone chat point what they would like and again at the booking. If they can't tell me what they want when they have been pointedly asked then there is not much hope.

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Good question and quite relevant to me ......  a client I have seen many times over the years but only very infrequently.... recently emailed me to ask would it be possible to do x/y/z services.... extreme for him but things which I do on a regular basis and don't bat an eye at with others.

 

He added that he felt extremely embarrassed just emailing me the request.

 

My reply was to say no I would not be doing those things with him.... if he felt so shamed in even writing it down then in my opinion it would not work.

 

That is my way of dealing with this.... don't know about others.

 

 

Jeez, if Carlsberg did unreasonable rejections ............... !   For a professional escort, that response is bananas. I hope he didn't/ doesnt book you again. 

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I usually put my likes in my first e-mail and then when we get to talking on the phone I check that she has read and understood what I have said. I am rarely let down, thankfully.

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I usually put my likes in my first e-mail and then when we get to talking on the phone I check that she has read and understood what I have said. I am rarely let down, thankfully.

 

Hence why I like email. I dislike discussing kinky stuff over the phone.

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I don't always know, and like to let things flow. In that respect, I do like it when the lady sets her boundaries before the fun starts. You know where you stand then, rather than being told not to do something mid-flow, which can be irritating. 

Don't you think the onus is on you to ask before doing anything unusual rather than for us to say what we don't want? There's tons I like and tons I don't but I can't remember everything I won't do off the top of my head! Applies to any sex really.

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Jeez, if Carlsberg did unreasonable rejections ............... !   For a professional escort, that response is bananas. I hope he didn't/ doesnt book you again. 

 

I think what Lynn is driving at is if you put someone in the ring who clearly in her opinion isn't cut out to be a boxer its only gonna end badly........

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Good question and quite relevant to me ......  a client I have seen many times over the years but only very infrequently.... recently emailed me to ask would it be possible to do x/y/z services.... extreme for him but things which I do on a regular basis and don't bat an eye at with others.

 

He added that he felt extremely embarrassed just emailing me the request.

 

My reply was to say no I would not be doing those things with him.... if he felt so shamed in even writing it down then in my opinion it would not work.

 

That is my way of dealing with this.... don't know about others.

 

 

I think what Lynn is driving at is if you put someone in the ring who clearly in her opinion isn't cut out to be a boxer its only gonna end badly........

 

 

I didn't pick it up like that. Indeed , Lynn was saying that whatever  he was requesting was regular stuff for her. The client  wanted to push the boat out, push his boundaries and see how he might get on, with a girl he obviously felt  trusted and was comfortable with.

 

If  a WG were to decided for me  that I , unlike others, would not  enjoy/be up for what many of her other clients partake in, I'd be fairly pissed off. If I want to risk a crash and burn then surely that's my decision.

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I didn't pick it up like that. Indeed , Lynn was saying that whatever he was requesting was regular stuff for her. The client wanted to push the boat out, push his boundaries and see how he might get on, with a girl he obviously felt trusted and was comfortable with.

If a WG were to decided for me that I , unlike others, would not enjoy/be up for what many of her other clients partake in, I'd be fairly pissed off. If I want to risk a crash and burn then surely that's my decision.

I think the point is. He asked for services which to him are "extreme" but to Lynn are the norm.

So it could be a recipe for disaster if he thinks such services are extreme, hence why Lynn probably said no. If she has seen him multiple times before she probably has come to the conclusion he probably isn't cut out for such services and she's well within her rights to refuse any kind of booking for any reason to be honest.

Just because you are paying that doesn't mean an escort has to accept your booking and say yes just because you are a paying customer. If she doesn't feel comfortable or doesn't feel the booking will run smoothly she can say no.

Evidently it is her choice. I don't really see what's wrong with what she said.

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Jeez, if Carlsberg did unreasonable rejections ............... !   For a professional escort, that response is bananas. I hope he didn't/ doesnt book you again. 

You do not know this man.... he has been booking me for a few years and I have got to understand him .... he is always shy and a little uncomfortable .... is not the type of client who can just let himself go..... he is a lovely man and we get on very well but believe me I know that accepting his requests would have been quite risky.  His email stated clearly how embarrassed he felt... if he felt that way just mailing... I am not going to take the chance of  it all going pear shaped am I?  I  could easily have said yes and taken his money...

 

So you hope he doesn't book me again.  Thank you. :rolleyes:

 

 

oh and............ it is precisely because I am a professional escort that I responded in that way!

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Good question and quite relevant to me ......  a client I have seen many times over the years but only very infrequently.... recently emailed me to ask would it be possible to do x/y/z services.... extreme for him but things which I do on a regular basis and don't bat an eye at with others.

 

He added that he felt extremely embarrassed just emailing me the request.

 

My reply was to say no I would not be doing those things with him.... if he felt so shamed in even writing it down then in my opinion it would not work.

 

That is my way of dealing with this.... don't know about others.

There is a difference between embarrassed and shame.  If he gets that easily embarrassed I would imagine he won't book you again now.

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There is a difference between embarrassed and shame. If he gets that easily embarrassed I would imagine he won't book you again now.

But if he is getting embarrassed just emailing her can you imagine how embarrassed he would be in the booking? I can imagine it would be incredibly awkward and not a lot of fun for both parties.

The fact is she isn't just after the money, if that was he case she would've took the booking regardless.

I really can't see what's wrong with what Lynn said.

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But if he is getting embarrassed just emailing her can you imagine how embarrassed he would be in the booking? I can imagine it would be incredibly awkward and not a lot of fun for both parties.

The fact is she isn't just after the money, if that was he case she would've took the booking regardless.

I really can't see what's wrong with what Lynn said.

Of course Lynn knows the man and we don't so we can't really judge.  I just know some people get more embarrassed articulating their desires that acting on them.

 

Speaking thoughts, feelings and desires can be intimidating for some,  just think how many men struggle with "I love you"

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Of course Lynn knows the man and we don't so we can't really judge. I just know some people get more embarrassed articulating their desires that acting on them.

Speaking thoughts, feelings and desires can be intimidating for some, just think how many men struggle with "I love you"

I just think, if he feels so embarrassed to email her about these "extreme" services then he isn't really cut out for it, and it would most likely end in disaster.

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I can understand the various opinions on Lynn's post but the bottom line is she knows this client well and so she's best placed to decide how to respond to him.  I admire her professional attitude.  

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You do not know this man.... he has been booking me for a few years and I have got to understand him .... he is always shy and a little uncomfortable .... is not the type of client who can just let himself go..... he is a lovely man and we get on very well but believe me I know that accepting his requests would have been quite risky.  His email stated clearly how embarrassed he felt... if he felt that way just mailing... I am not going to take the chance of  it all going pear shaped am I?  I  could easily have said yes and taken his money...

 

So you hope he doesn't book me again.  Thank you. :rolleyes:

 

 

oh and............ it is precisely because I am a professional escort that I responded in that way!

 

But in what way was it different from dealing with a shy virgin (which many of you have no problems with)? We don't know the details, obviously, but he was a virgin in that particular act, and it was something that intrigued him enough to want to try it with someone he trusted. It might not have worked, and he might have realised it was not for him. OR he might have found hiself entering an undreamt-of world of new pleasures.

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Sometimes clients do ask for things that you do know just wouldn't work for them. It all depends on the person whether I do it or not, I also only offer mainly vanillaish services which suit majority of my clients, so I'm not often placed in that position.

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Don't worry Lynn, the mens here all know how you should run your business better than you. Aren't you a lucky poppet. 

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Yes Lydia I am indeed blessed.

 

Performing certain services at discretion not only means actions I am comfortable with carrying out... but doing them with the right clients.

 

This is not the first time I have refused certain alternative practices with clients.  Call it a sixth sense... call it anything you like.

 

Put that in your pipe Mr C&Go

 

nb:  nor have I lost those clients

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Yes Lydia I am indeed blessed.

 

Performing certain services at discretion not only means actions I am comfortable with carrying out... but doing them with the right clients.

 

This is not the first time I have refused certain alternative practices with clients.  Call it a sixth sense... call it anything you like.

 

Put that in your pipe Mr C&Go

 

Quite Lynn, I know exactly what you mean, but maybe that's because I don't think escorts should do anything any old man wants of them. radical huh?!

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