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Inviting A Lady Away With You?

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Just wondering what some of the ladies may feel about this.

 

I'm not a wealthy man, but scenario goes something like this.

 

Meet lady working at a parlour, get on really well, become regulars. Numbers exchanged for purpose of arranging outcall bookings as rapport has developed. Whilst still very much a professional arrangement, bookings begin to include meals, drinks etc.

 

Looking to go away for weekend to NY and being single (due to various reasons including work commitments), and as lady has said she is also unattached, would it be inappropriate, foolish or even rude to suggest she may come along if she would like? Whilst it would not be 96 hrs at £150 ph, she of course would be expected to pay for nothing. Also make it clear that twin room (2 single beds) could be booked if she preferred, and absolutely no expectation of sexy times, even though that would be wonderful if she offered..

 

I suppose I'm asking what her *true* thoughts may be should a client offer an all expenses paid trip, rather than a transactional booking? Also, if she seemed genuinely positive, would it be a nice surprise letting her think it's Dublin or Brussels or something and then spring the NY surprise?

 

Can't stress enough that I'm not a wealthy man, and I'm not an old man wanting a dirty weekend with a girl young enough to be my grand-daughter. I'm not trying to show off (I've had accusations of 'my wallet's bigger than your wallet' syndrome on here before), couldn't be further from the truth. There's a few things I want to see in NY and I've been away on my own before but being on your own on a trip can remind you of your own perceived inadequacies and flaws, and it's nice to take someone along. I work hard and this would be my holiday for the year. Anyway I don't see why I should justify myself in anticipation of the usual pedants and this isn't about me in any case, it's about what the thoughts and reaction of the lady may be.

 

Try to stay on topic if you do choose to comment. Thanks.

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Just wondering what some of the ladies may feel about this.

 

I'm not a wealthy man, but scenario goes something like this.

 

Meet lady working at a parlour, get on really well, become regulars. Numbers exchanged for purpose of arranging outcall bookings as rapport has developed. Whilst still very much a professional arrangement, bookings begin to include meals, drinks etc.

 

Looking to go away for weekend to NY and being single (due to various reasons including work commitments), and as lady has said she is also unattached, would it be inappropriate, foolish or even rude to suggest she may come along if she would like? Whilst it would not be 96 hrs at £150 ph, she of course would be expected to pay for nothing. Also make it clear that twin room (2 single beds) could be booked if she preferred, and absolutely no expectation of sexy times, even though that would be wonderful if she offered..

 

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I get the general drift of your post, but surely this is going too far? You would presumably expect to have a fuck somewhere along the way?

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Put it this way.

Why would she come away with you and not get paid for her time, when she can be taking bookings in that time and actually earn money?

Personally if my regulars asked me I would say no, because 1. I'm an escort, my clients pay for my time 2. I think it is a little too far to expect her to come away with you and not get paid, just because you're paying for her little holiday and food and drinks.

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I get the general drift of your post, but surely this is going too far? You would presumably expect to have a fuck somewhere along the way?

I got from the post that he wants to ask her to go away with him but not be paid for the time she's there.

But he will pay for all expenses, so that's probably why there would be "No sex".

Personally I don't get it.

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I get the general drift of your post, but surely this is going too far? You would presumably expect to have a fuck somewhere along the way?

 

No, it's just companionship I'd be hoping for, but if she initiated something, I'd be chuffed.

 

Put it this way.

Why would she come away with you and not get paid for her time, when she can be taking bookings in that time and actually earn money?

Personally if my regulars asked me I would say no, because 1. I'm an escort, my clients pay for my time 2. I think it is a little too far to expect her to come away with you and not get paid, just because you're paying for her little holiday and food and drinks.

 

So would you actually consider the offer insulting TYE? I appreciate your candour BTW.

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No, it's just companionship I'd be hoping for, but if she initiated something, I'd be chuffed.

So would you actually consider the offer insulting TYE? I appreciate your candour BTW.

Yes I would. Because as an escort regular or not, my clients pay for my time when they're with me. So I would be offended if a regular asked me to come away with him and not get paid for it, when it's my job.

To me, there would be no attraction to going away with a client for free, I could be making money so it's just wasted time.

Would you work for free? Regardless of expenses paid.

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I think I'm mostly with TYE on this one, though I know that some girls HAVE gone on to develop relationships outside of work with clients, so I guess I will add this: if you have already crossed the border from SP and client to two people dating, then I can see where it might be okay to ask. Buuuuut it sounds like it hasn't, and that you just have a good rapport, albeit professionally. You might have to use your best judgement on this one

 

If one of my regulars (and I have some regulars I get on very well with and have a good relationship with) came to me with the request I would probably be at least a little insulted. I would probably give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they were confused (as you are) but I would also say no. As TYE said, this is our job, and a free holiday isn't going to pay the bills. But I probably wouldn't stop seeing them. Just maybe be a little more wary?

 

I can appreciate how you might be confused about this though!

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Yes I would. Because as an escort regular or not, my clients pay for my time when they're with me. So I would be offended if a regular asked me to come away with him and not get paid for it, when it's my job.

To me, there would be no attraction to going away with a client for free, I could be making money so it's just wasted time.

Would you work for free? Regardless of expenses paid.

 

Yes fair point TYE, but with the greatest of respect, I'm not sure she has the same, what's the word I'm after, outlook perhaps, as yourself. I may not have made clear, but she only works a couple of days at the parlour, works nowhere else (in this aspect) and only does outcalls for me as we have developed a rapport. As far as she's told me, anyway.

 

Of course I'd not work for free, but I'm not asking anyone to. I suppose the issue is that it's almost a friend with benefits I'm considering asking, it's just that we met through these channels. I'd love to do this with a GF, but I don't fit the bill where women are concerned.

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Yes fair point TYE, but with the greatest of respect, I'm not sure she has the same, what's the word I'm after, outlook perhaps, as yourself. I may not have made clear, but she only works a couple of days at the parlour, works nowhere else (in this aspect) and only does outcalls for me as we have developed a rapport. As far as she's told me, anyway.

Of course I'd not work for free, but I'm not asking anyone to. I suppose the issue is that it's almost a friend with benefits I'm considering asking, it's just that we met through these channels. I'd love to do this with a GF, but I don't fit the bill where women are concerned.

You are asking this girl to work for free though, you pay to sleep with her right? So when she's with you she's working.

Friends with benefits? Do you get the same response from her? Or is this just something you want and hope she wants to?

To me it seems you're thinking this whole business transaction thing as more than it is, I have built up a rapport with many of my clients, but I wouldn't have a friends with benefits arrangement with any of them. You have to ask her, speculating on here will get you opinions from different people and that's it.

She may be seeing other clients on an outcall basis as she is you, you don't know. The only way you are going to find out if this girl wants to sleep with you for free and go away on a holiday without being paid and have a friends with benefits type relationship is if you ask her, so do so and let's us know how she responds, I'm intrigued.

I would be insulted if a client asked me if we could have a FWB arrangement but that's just me.

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If one of my regulars (and I have some regulars I get on very well with and have a good relationship with) came to me with the request I would probably be at least a little insulted. I would probably give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they were confused (as you are) but I would also say no. As TYE said, this is our job, and a free holiday isn't going to pay the bills. But I probably wouldn't stop seeing them. Just maybe be a little more wary?

 

 

You are asking this girl to work for free though, you pay to sleep with her right? So when she's with you she's working.

Friends with benefits? Do you get the same response from her? Or is this just something you want and hope she wants to?

To me it seems you're thinking this whole business transaction thing as more than it is, I have built up a rapport with many of my clients, but I wouldn't have a friends with benefits arrangement with any of them. You have to ask her, speculating on here will get you opinions from different people and that's it.

She may be seeing other clients on an outcall basis as she is you, you don't know. The only way you are going to find out if this girl wants to sleep with you for free and go away on a holiday without being paid and have a friends with benefits type relationship is if you ask her, so do so and let's us know how she responds, I'm intrigued.

I would be insulted if a client asked me if we could have a FWB arrangement but that's just me.

 

No I'd not be asking her to sleep with me, I'd be asking for company and offering a nice weekend away, which I anticipated may be warmly welcomed.

 

Looks like we're two for two. Can I thank you ladies, for waking me up. I've made a fool of myself before, all with the best and most honourable of intentions, only to be taken in completely the wrong way. I'm glad I started this, and I very much enjoy the said ladies company and wouldn't want to do anything to jeopardise that.

 

Thanks. ;)

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No I'd not be asking her to sleep with me, I'd be asking for company and offering a nice weekend away, which I anticipated may be warmly welcomed.

 

Looks like we're two for two. Can I thank you ladies, for waking me up. I've made a fool of myself before, all with the best and most honourable of intentions, only to be taken in completely the wrong way. I'm glad I started this, and I very much enjoy the said ladies company and wouldn't want to do anything to jeopardise that.

 

Thanks. ;)

 

No problem! :) You did the right thing in asking on here first! Glad to help!

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On a side issue that's not going to get talked about that girl will be thrilled when your surprise trip to the U.S. Is cut short at checking in when you have not got a ESTA for her.

2nd important thing is that you really are not being honest with yourself as to why you are taking her. I'm not talking about having sex with her.

Would make more sense to just get an escort in the U.S. As and when you need, and it would be cheaper or the same cost anyway.

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No I'd not be asking her to sleep with me, I'd be asking for company and offering a nice weekend away, which I anticipated may be warmly welcomed.

Looks like we're two for two. Can I thank you ladies, for waking me up. I've made a fool of myself before, all with the best and most honourable of intentions, only to be taken in completely the wrong way. I'm glad I started this, and I very much enjoy the said ladies company and wouldn't want to do anything to jeopardise that.

Thanks. ;)

No problemo :)

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On a side issue that's not going to get talked about that girl will be thrilled when your surprise trip to the U.S. Is cut short at checking in when you have not got a ESTA for her.

2nd important thing is that you really are not being honest with yourself as to why you are taking her. I'm not talking about having sex with her.

Would make more sense to just get an escort in the U.S. As and when you need, and it would be cheaper or the same cost anyway.

 

Yes old boy, you're spot on, on both points. I know I'm after a wife or GF, but ones not been forthcoming in over a decade and I'm sick at having to do things on my own. And indeed I'm, as usual, missing a trick; with the extra money I'd not be spending, I could have an enjoyable time every night I'm there with NY's equivalent of Hamilton's or Max's.

 

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Last year I saw a client a couple of times and got on well with him.......

he then emailed me asking if I would go with him for a long weekend break.... it was to be somewhere I had not visited and a very nice out of the way place....

 

... we would be in a rented cottage..... and he offered me "all you can eat and drink" but no payment.

 

Anyone guess my reply?

 

I was polite in my response by the way :rolleyes:

 

A man who has sex with us then wants to take us away for a little holiday.........

 

WILL WANT SEX

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Before going too far down this path I would make sure that she has a valid passport, has a visa for entry into the good ole US of A and that she is prepared to tell you her real ID etc.

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Last year I saw a client a couple of times and got on well with him.......

he then emailed me asking if I would go with him for a long weekend break.... it was to be somewhere I had not visited and a very nice out of the way place....

 

... we would be in a rented cottage..... and he offered me "all you can eat and drink" but no payment.

 

Anyone guess my reply?

 

I was polite in my response by the way :rolleyes:

 

A man who has sex with us then wants to take us away for a little holiday.........

 

WILL WANT SEX

 

You're  dead right.....,Bastards, all of 'em !

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Before going too far down this path I would make sure that she has a valid passport, has a visa for entry into the good ole US of A and that she is prepared to tell you her real ID etc.

 

Better go to Paris instead !!

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Better go to Paris instead !!

or Butlins

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Last year I saw a client a couple of times and got on well with him.......

he then emailed me asking if I would go with him for a long weekend break.... it was to be somewhere I had not visited and a very nice out of the way place....

 

... we would be in a rented cottage..... and he offered me "all you can eat and drink" but no payment.

 

Anyone guess my reply?

 

I was polite in my response by the way :rolleyes:

 

A man who has sex with us then wants to take us away for a little holiday.........

 

WILL WANT SEX

 

I can assure you, I'm not like that. I'm also thinking the client who made the offer to you was with best of intentions, as was mine. I'm glad the ladies have pointed out how such a suggestion can be perceived, and I've reconsidered. Don't be too harsh on us, we can become quite enamoured sometimes. 

 

I just hope that somewhere down the line it doesn't turn out that she would have liked to come along.

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Put it this way.

Why would she come away with you and not get paid for her time, when she can be taking bookings in that time and actually earn money?

Personally if my regulars asked me I would say no, because 1. I'm an escort, my clients pay for my time 2. I think it is a little too far to expect her to come away with you and not get paid, just because you're paying for her little holiday and food and drinks.

Not everyone is like you, i became friends with an escort and we went on holiday together x2 as she WANTED to get away and i wanted a travel buddy

We were travelling for 3 weeks, i paid for her flight but after that everything was 50-50 there was no fee involved and i would not have gone under those conditions as i have other friends if desperate.

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Last year I saw a client a couple of times and got on well with him.......

he then emailed me asking if I would go with him for a long weekend break.... it was to be somewhere I had not visited and a very nice out of the way place....

 

... we would be in a rented cottage..... and he offered me "all you can eat and drink" but no payment.

 

Anyone guess my reply?

 

I was polite in my response by the way :rolleyes:

 

A man who has sex with us then wants to take us away for a little holiday.........

 

WILL WANT SEX

Not true, travelled with an escort for 3wks (non paid) and did not want or expect sex

In fact at the end i could not stand her lol

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Last year I saw a client a couple of times and got on well with him.......

he then emailed me asking if I would go with him for a long weekend break.... it was to be somewhere I had not visited and a very nice out of the way place....

 

... we would be in a rented cottage..... and he offered me "all you can eat and drink" but no payment.

 

Anyone guess my reply?

 

I was polite in my response by the way :rolleyes:

 

A man who has sex with us then wants to take us away for a little holiday.........

 

WILL WANT SEX

 Of course he would want sex, that's goes without saying.

 

However one not need to provide it, if she did not felt like it or not obliged to do so, because she is not paid for it.

 

Its always on this forums assumed, that because she is an escort and can earn at something between £40-£3000,  during 4-5 days, "free" holiday its a loss of potential earning.

 

Also: why anybody would like to go away with a client for free, even without spending any time with him (sitting on the plane in adjacent seat its more then enough), just because he is paying for a tickets and hotel. I would  have thought that any escort would pay fair chunk of money for not seeing any male species around during holiday, if that could be ever possible. 

 

In a way you really only pay at around £350/400 for her ticket to travel in NY. Price of the twin room for both of you does not add to you expenses, as he would book double room anyway for himself. Cost of meals it irrelevant.

 

Ok: Realistically now: Ask her. Not just ask, talk to her. Its so so facking easy to talk!

 

Some girls would happy to join you on the trip, especially if they know that they get on with you. But then some hard working girls would calculate how much they would loose every day, while gallivanting across the pond with you. Also so many who have family commitments, jobs, kids, etc. to take in account too.

 

I still think, that you should offer some amount of money, (not just expenses, FFS!) and its up to you both to come to agreement. Excuse: "I am  not a wealthy man",  just a lame cope out. If you truly and honestly can't afford it,  please don't share it with her, and don't make her to suggest her a fee. Its not going to be fair.

 

P.S: I once gone to Hawaii with a client, and on the 4th day we had an argument because I could not get nice ripe flavorsome tomatoes...anywhere in Maui island!  He could not put up with my "demands" (what demands..I only wanted a red flavorsome tomato, that's all.  Not much to ask). Thats was the end of my trip with a client.  Eventually I did found that you could not get tomato I wanted even if I sold my soul to the devil..not just on Maui, on a whole Hawaii islands.  It was an tomato  "apple of discord".

 

Make sure, it does not happen with you...and when horrible tomatoes was not only an excuse to run away.

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Just wondering what some of the ladies may feel about this.

I'm not a wealthy man, but scenario goes something like this.

Meet lady working at a parlour, get on really well, become regulars. Numbers exchanged for purpose of arranging outcall bookings as rapport has developed. Whilst still very much a professional arrangement, bookings begin to include meals, drinks etc.

Looking to go away for weekend to NY and being single (due to various reasons including work commitments), and as lady has said she is also unattached, would it be inappropriate, foolish or even rude to suggest she may come along if she would like? Whilst it would not be 96 hrs at £150 ph, she of course would be expected to pay for nothing. Also make it clear that twin room (2 single beds) could be booked if she preferred, and absolutely no expectation of sexy times, even though that would be wonderful if she offered..

I suppose I'm asking what her *true* thoughts may be should a client offer an all expenses paid trip, rather than a transactional booking? Also, if she seemed genuinely positive, would it be a nice surprise letting her think it's Dublin or Brussels or something and then spring the NY surprise?

Can't stress enough that I'm not a wealthy man, and I'm not an old man wanting a dirty weekend with a girl young enough to be my grand-daughter. I'm not trying to show off (I've had accusations of 'my wallet's bigger than your wallet' syndrome on here before), couldn't be further from the truth. There's a few things I want to see in NY and I've been away on my own before but being on your own on a trip can remind you of your own perceived inadequacies and flaws, and it's nice to take someone along. I work hard and this would be my holiday for the year. Anyway I don't see why I should justify myself in anticipation of the usual pedants and this isn't about me in any case, it's about what the thoughts and reaction of the lady may be.

Try to stay on topic if you do choose to comment. Thanks.

Kodiak, your holiday, your money, your time. Do what you want with it.

Sure ask her but don't take it to heart if it's a refusal. Also be honest about the destination x

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Just tolevel the playing field of opinion here there are one or two of my extremely regular regulars I would go away with on this offer because it's quite easy for us to nattter the time away after the naughtiest. I find them very interesting and they are educated men with manners. It would be nice getting away as just adults for a bit. It won't happen though, they won't offer and I can't accept, still the concept is not as bad as some are making out so long as the not pushing for sex, not even little cheeky jokes is adhered too. Tbh they have visited me so many times I probably would throw in a one off bit of nookie for the trip as a thank you as its not free is it, flights hotels and food cost s lot of money especially to New York

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